An Osun State indigene, Rahman Hammed, tells OPEYEMI ADEFEMI how his mother ‘disappeared’ with his siblings about 13 years ago following the death of his aged father

Tell us a bit about yourself.

My name is Rahman Hammed. I am from Osogbo. I am into building construction. I am married and have a child.

In a recent social media post, you said your mum and siblings disappeared some years ago, leaving you behind after the death of your dad. What exactly happened?

The story started in 2009 when I lost my dad. I am from a polygamous family. As I was told, my dad had a small house before he married my mum. After they got married, he built a bigger house that we all call our family house now. When my dad died on June 15, 2009, my mum went to the family house to do her rites as a wife. The first son of the family insisted that my mum wouldn’t be allowed to enter the house. People around defended my mum and asked if the firstborn was doing all of that because his mother, who was the first wife, had died. That night it was a lot of trouble. They begged him before he eventually let my mum in.

Then my mum started her mourning period — the 90 days of staying at home without going anywhere. I was in SS1 and the whole thing happened during our holidays. My mum gave me her phone to play with so that I would not be brooding over my dad’s death. She then gave me money to go to her sister’s place in Ikeji Arakeji to spend my holidays. Around July 8 or 10, I got a call from my maternal grandmother, telling me that my mum and my two siblings, Morenikeji and Ismail, were missing. I was really confused because after the 40th day prayer for my dad was done at the family house, my mum went back to her mum’s house at Okinni to continue the mourning period. Grandma told me that she (grandma) went to the market, leaving my mum and siblings at home. She said while she was at the market, my younger sister came to meet her, saying my mum told her to collect N1,500 from her (grandma). Grandma said she gave my little sister the money and she went back home. However, when grandma got back home from the market, she didn’t see my mum and my siblings, Morenikeji and Ismail. She waited for them to return but they never did.

All efforts to locate them proved abortive and it was since that day that we have been searching for them. My mum was 39 years old at the time of the incident.

What is your mum’s name?

Her name is Modinat Tijani from Akinode Compound in Okinni, Osun State. My two siblings are Idayat and Ismail. Their surnames could be Lamidi or Hammed, depending on which name they decided to use. Lamidi is our grandfather’s name while Hammed is my dad’s name. My grandma is popularly known as Iya Eleja at Okinni while my mom’s younger brother is popularly known as Owonikoko.

What efforts were made to search for your mum and siblings then?

My mum is her parents’ first child and she has four sisters. They have spent a fortune on trying to find her. Everything possible has been done. We consulted alfas, pastors and even went on TV stations many times. We even went to traditionalists. We were told by our spiritual fathers that she is still alive. I made the social media post out of frustration. I even thought of making a movie with the story. I met Lateef Adedimeji but I couldn’t afford the bill. I know that the whole event is spiritual.

In 2015, someone who didn’t know we were looking for my mum came to Osogbo and said he saw my mum at a party. He wanted to take her phone number but she said she was very busy. Before he could look for her again, she had left. If he had known we were searching for her, he would have done everything to get her contact or to even know where she lives. That gave us some relief and encouragement that she is still alive.

What happened to your dad; how did he die?

My dad was sick; he was 75 years old when he passed away.

Did you get any inheritance from your dad’s properties?

No, I didn’t get any. What happened made me distance myself from the family.

Does your dad’s family know that your mum is missing?

To the best of my knowledge, they don’t knows she is missing. I have never given them the impression that I am looking for my mum. Whenever they get in touch and ask about her, I just tell them that she doing alright. Who will I tell? The person I should have told is the one allegedly behind it.

https://supers.ng/mum-ran-away-13-years-ago-abandoned-me-sister-osun-man/

Hmmmmm......women

I pray she is found in one piece. With the advance of social Media, someone might known someone that will lead to her bring found.

An adage says a child dead is better than a child lost.

The best is to thank God she's alive somewhere. I know one day all of una go jam.

I just hope your step brother doesn't have a hand in their disappearance.

Woman

Story not clear ....did she run? Abandon her family or was kidnapped?it is well..all the same, women go through alot raising children and all that

Maybe, they turned her away from her family.

Spiritual way of removing her senses.

The story is very touchy. I hope the first son is not behind it.

No wonder most urchins are bitter.them no get mama them no get Papa.

Zeezenho:
No wonder most urchins are bitter.them no get mama them no get Papa.

How is the guy an urchin? We OBIDIENTS reject some of you.

His paternal family might have a hand in it

beautyhd:
Maybe, they turned her away from her family.

Spiritual way of removing her senses.

Omo this one strong

From the story, the headline should be "Mum missing " and not " mum ran away"

deeway200:
From the story, the headline should be "Mum missing " and not " mum ran away"

The headline is quite correct.

She ran away to another man, her side-piece obviously. 39 versus 75..she must have been dating the dude before the husband died. Left this older son with her people because he was old enough to survive by himself (with a little bit of help from them)

This story na wa o.

Issokay!!!

I hope she's not been murdered sha

I think they said it's only man that normally abandoned child or refused to take care of children.

BlueDuck:


The headline is quite correct.

She ran away to another man, her side-piece obviously. 39 versus 75..she must have been dating the dude before the husband died. Left this older son with her people because he was old enough to survive by himself (with a little bit of help from them)

She may have ran away to another man, but I still believe it is more spiritual than just ordinarily running away, the first son never wanted her in the house, secondly, would she run away for over 13 years without even trying to locate her own son.

i just pray they find each other safe and sound

Jibsy203:

Truth 70% of yarubas dont have father,they’re bastards impregnated at under bridge

imagine! From someone frm a known useless tribe very laughable

Jibsy203:

Truth 70% of yarubas dont have father,they’re bastards impregnated at under bridge

Can you prove that?

Unfit mother!

An example of deadbeat parent.

That's not a "mum" more like a mere surrogate

Jibsy203:

Truth 70% of yarubas dont have father,they’re bastards impregnated at under bridge

It's just a matter of time before you reveal your real hatred for the Yorubas. Well, i don't blame you sha, na the bastard Yorubas shouting obidients upandan i blame.

But he said someone saw his mum at a party in 2015. She most like is okay.I guess she absconded with another man.