dawnomike:
Well, this shouldn't be a debate considering the fact that you're 38!!! That makes no much sense to me.
By no problem all the same, it is no bug deal for her to do fertility test but just know that you have strained the relationship even before marriage and i wonder how you'll convince her that your parents won't control you in your marriage when you're 40!!!

Must he tell her it was his fathers decision? What is wrong with going for that fertility test. How can you get married to someone without such an important test. I don't just understand people these day. That test us a prerequisite QED

lebron7:

Lmao
This logic makes a lot more sense

if you carry am come. Send am to nursing school plus nack am belle she go focus. The ones here want luxury life, 4 holidays a year, latest car , luxury apartment and other expensive things. If he carry this babe come , house of 1000k dols a month rent she no go mind, the ones here na house of 2500 to 3000k wey get all the amenities una go dey o. Many guys no fit meet up or cope o. 😂😂😂

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

Your dad is a medical doctor n also professional I guess so , I think he want the best for you so you won't be avn issue in future.
He has seen a lot cases as a professional in his field, so don't feel bad or question him too

Secondly Yu re far from this gal not knowing much about her or her past so it is in your best interest to secure was You re about to do so you regret marrying her.
Even some churches advised couples to do test before engaging or embark on mission.

beekind:

Let me explain, he says he is not forcing her but if she does not take the fertility test he will not attend the wedding, and he is very likely to prohibit my mom from also attending the wedding and maybe other family members too.

That puts me in a very difficult spot, very difficult spot.

Ova stop being a dumb and go straight to carry out that all important task. How can you marry a person you don't know about her fertility status.

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

listen to any women advise here is like buying a coffins to prepare your burial

38yrs for godsake and you no get sense! Which kind mumu man you be so!
I'm sure your papa dey regret why he born this dull child as his own

Don't you know that port Harcourt (harlots) is the home of ashawo or the headquarter of ashawo?

Your papa get your interest but you on the other hand, don take yansh cover your eye

He better make person born theif than to born mumu like you.

Shall na mumu like you dey father another person's child as your own.

Even if you want to do farming, it is good to do soil testing before you plant the seeds in order not to labour in vain.

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

guy, considering your dad's profession and the things he has very likely seen as far as some Naija gehs are concerned, I'd say take his advice and get it done asap. Some gehs don go far I tell you, best to err on the side of caution. If he can ask you wey be him pikin to do it, why not her?

Raspberri:
If she refuses to carry out the test, I'm available o..very available for a relationship 😁

see green light abeg
Sharp Shooter.... I like your way, babe👍

This is the girl you want to marry and you see before marriage you have to undergo so tests even HIV and Genotype or you will not do that too
to so all the test most be run on her so your Dad is right Mr man you have to put on your thinking cup before you make a lots of mistakes in life.
Obey your father and your days will be long. Call the girl tell her she has to do that test don't tell that your Dad said just be man enough to tell her she if your wife and you are the one to hit the ground running thanks.

Entanglement:
listen to any women advise here is like buying a coffins to prepare your burial

38yrs for godsake and you no get sense! Which kind mumu man you be so!
I'm sure your papa dey regret why he born this dull child as his own

Don't you know that port Harcourt (harlots) is the home of ashawo or the headquarter of ashawo?

Your papa get your interest but you on the other hand, don take yansh cover your eye

He better make person born theif than to born mumu like you.

Shall na mumu like you dey father another person's child as your own.

Ọmọ, your finger mouth baaaaad🤣🤣🤣👍

beekind:

Guy please don't address my dad like that.

Tell her to do the test. If she truly loves you and respects your parents she will do the test. Your dad knows more than you as a lot has changed now back home. All the best.

You should listen to your Father. He is a med doctor, he obviously knows why he requests for a test. As the adage goes what an older man sees from the ground, a child wont see from a high place. I think you should tell her about it definitely,Its for you alls good

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

I find it quite surprising that you are finding it difficult having a conversation around fertility tests with a woman you are planning to wed.

Speak to your woman, and ask her to go for the tests. It is even more important considering it's a long distance relationship.

No topic or requests should be taboo at this point for the both of you as long as it is done with a clear conscience.

There is no good reason why you would want to fight it apart from your ego.

dawnomike:
Well, this shouldn't be a debate considering the fact that you're 38!!! That makes no much sense to me.
By no problem all the same, it is no bug deal for her to do fertility test but just know that you have strained the relationship even before marriage and i wonder how you'll convince her that your parents won't control you in your marriage when you're 40!!!

When he is 40?
He is 38 years old,that is 40..

Cos your dad knows most Nigerian girls are useless...

beekind:
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout

PH of all places

Do what he said, it's obvious your Dad knows the street more than you do.

Be happy that your Dad is enlightened.

Honour thy father.

ednut1:
well if this your story is true. Your dad’s request is unreasonable, stand yourself ground. By the way have you met this girl before in real life 😬

There is absolutely nothing wrong with his Dad's request..
He has done his own tests,asking the girl to do hers is no big deal, unless she has something to hide..

Let him take the fertility test. E get why

Going by the level of deceit these days, every couple should engage in all those tests to avoid stories that touches the 💜❤️

ednut1:
red flag. How can you be planning marriage with someone you have never met or even know if you guys are compatible 🤣🤣. Even if you decide to marry her all you need is court marriage your parents are not required to be there

Your comments smacks of a disconnect with reality..
So he should start malice with his family,all because they asked him to have his fiancee do a fertility test?
Ogbeni,stop your ramblings.

beekind:

Standing my ground will mean my dad, mom and other members of my own family will not attend the wedding cos my dad said he will not attend the wedding if she does not do a fertility test.
No I haven't met her physically yet, we have only been dating online for 10 months now and haven't had a chance to visit Naija but I am visiting naija and will spend 4 months in naija when I visit later this month.

Oga would be happy after marriage and you realize you guys can't have babies

Just dey play

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.

I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.

I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.

I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.

My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

No BIG deal in your babe taking the fertility test. Your doctor father has a point.

Fertility tests when taken pre and post-marriage would enable men and women to detect potential fertility challenges that may arise.
Low sperm counts, high content of toxic metals in the body, tubal blockages, and fibroids cause major fertility issues.

There are existing solutions for almost all the medical or infertility problems here as long as they are detected and treated by medical specialists.

ExpressBooking:
Well I'd like to ask if you are the one marrying or your dad?

Your dad's role in your marriage at 38, should me advisory.

Does your dad want you to get married for the purpose of happiness and companionship or for the purpose of reproduction?

What do you want for yourself?.

Forcing or coercing the prospective wife to do a fertility test, might send the wrong reasons about the marriage to her. And trust me she will discuss it with people who will put such thoughts in her head, even if she wasn't that kind of person.

Equally be assured that if you choose to go ahead with ur marriage plans, and encounter fertility issues tomorrow, you won't dare speak to your family about it, it's your cross alone.

It all boils down to taking your decision for or against it, and standing by your decision. That's what makes you a man

But why would a man at 38 not know that he ought to go for fertility test before the real commitment?

beekind:

Standing my ground will mean my dad, mom and other members of my own family will not attend the wedding cos my dad said he will not attend the wedding if she does not do a fertility test.
No I haven't met her physically yet, we have only been dating online for 10 months now and haven't had a chance to visit Naija but I am visiting naija and will spend 4 months in naija when I visit later this month.

Dont talk about marriage now.Take your vacation as a time to study your fiancee.What if you are about to wife a prostitute?

Many young girls in Nigeria are into hook up now.Let her go for fertility test, tell her it is part of the family's traditional on intending couple,if she refuses then there is a skeleton in her cupboard.

Let your mum find you a befitting girl to marry.Facebook love could be fatal sometimes.

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

I support ur dad only because u met a girl on Facebook just few months ago and u already talking about marriage.

I can bet she knows ure in the US and that is her major motivation.

3rdly From the way u are acting like there are things u can't discuss or question her about I'm sure u plan to SIMPly and hurriedly take her to the US with u where she will now grow her wings and show u pepper.

I warn u guys to find genuine love don't give out all ur information or best materialistic info to the person ure interested in cos it will skew their true judgement and cause them to present their false self or best self even if they are truly trash or worse.

beekind I hope ure girl is equally kind as ur handle says.

I wish u luck in ur adventure.

Samantha124:
Sounds like your father wants to get your girlfriend pregnant on your behalf.

Don't be surprised next time he asks you how many times you guys have sex in a week and and kind of sex positions you guys do..

Anyway, I don't have any respect for a guy who claims to be ready for marriage but still lives under his parents shadow... How will you be able to make your own decisions in your house if you're still daddy's pet

Ladies bullshit

Honestly, this is a caring father that has the interest of his son at heart and also knows how manipulative our Nigerian woman can be. If you ask me if the woman is sure of herself she will do this without hesitation and also ask the husband to be to do the same. If you know the number of dudes (mostly, rich dudes) that has suffered from the hands of Nigerian women( the gold diggers ones ooo) you will know why the dude's dad is insisting on this and probably the dad also is a player and knows what he has seen in the hands of this women. My guy pls listen to your dad because na him dey this hell of country so him eyez don see things wey you no see for the last decade of your life.

I hope you have a prenup? Written by a divorce attorney, signed in the presence of both families, the event recorded on video?
If you don't, well, your dad hasn't even gotten to the necessary parts. Let us just say that you are about to place your entire life's work at risk.
If she refuses, leave and don't look back.
Your dad is an experienced man, for some reason I don't know, we forget how experienced our parents are. Talk to the man, ask him his reasons, the real ones and listen to them carefully.

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

When I wanted to get married in my church I was subjected to series of test except fertility. I did genotype, hepatitis, HIV, even pregnancy test for my wife to be then. I really believe and supported fertility test to would be couple before marriage.

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

Listen to ur dad. Tell ur babe to do the test u don’t need to let her know is from ur dad

Guy that met a GODLY lady on Facebook. Please be sensible. Your dad is watching out for your best interest.

I did part of my internship in a medical
lab for just 6 weeks and what I discovered is that the most popular test
in Nigeria is malaria/typhoid, followed by PT (pregnancy test).Even young girlswere coming in for PT. I ywas shocked.

The ubiquity of sex makes abortion a very common thing too, that a large percentage of our ladies have done, even more than once.

Your dad is a doctor and has seen the rot first hand.

Don't break your family ties because of a lady who you don't even know, especially when your family is using their foresight to make you avoid sorrow in future.

You had better cooperated, tell her it's a routine test and have it done.

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

Godly person in Nigeria Wow, guy you're about to be taken for a Mugu.

If you insist on doing this, PLEASE GET A PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENT, hire a USA lawyer for her, they can consult via Zoom. This is one of the most pivotal decisions you can make.

Take good advice, listen to reason. Then again, you might be lucky. Lots of MEN & WOMEN in the USA have married spouses from Nigeria and they're happy.

Anyway this may all be a joke or a lark.

Good Luck.