NamelessOGBENI:

One thing sure me, that man (his dad) will see through thick and thin to pay the next rent. He's a man after all, we can't stomach disrespect from others.

DamianDd:
From a man your age this is totally wrong, I'm asking for corrections because what I did was wrong. Are mistakes a sin as well or is corrections not accepted in African traditions. If you think I was prideful and evil the way you have portrayed me in your prayers now would I ever come here to ask for opinions. Regardless of your age what you've done is wrong in all levels, I'm not a devil neither did I kill anybody

Drone95:
Op u no add say u drank satchet action bitters?

franchasofficia:
Sorry if I sounded harsh, maybe because of how you narrated the story.


But please and please go back to your dad and apologize to him sincerely from the depth of your heart and ask him to forgive you that you promise not to act in such manner again.



As children we must respect our parents because they are our second God here on earth.


Obedient to your father will prolong your life here on earth and it also helps a child to prosper.


Respect and obedience to your father is a must not optional whether he is rich, poor or average you must respect and obey your father because it is God that placed him in the position of being your father and you can never get or have another father.



Once again, I am sorry if my words caused you pains, I sincerely apologize.

DamianDd:


I'd do that, my dad's my main man. Love him too much to put him down that way, he treats me like a man and is happy how I've grown at my age. His happiness is my top priority as well my family. People in this thread think I'm like the rest boys these days.... Young, silly, childish, smokers, druggists and irresponsible.

Truth is I don't like these things, I guide my mind and my heart from the vices of the current world because I'm fully aware it's a evil time to live in. My focus are my goals, becoming the best version of myself, growing mentally, spiritually, physically as a person. Becoming a true man is what I'm after so that's why I'm open to advises.

I will apologize, thanks alot 🏆

BinamRex:


The poster is a bombastic element. He should keep on keeping late nights until SARS arrests him at night and falsely accuse him of being a kidnapper, then kill him and harvest his organs.

ChybuzzDD:


For coming back late, and challenging the father?

An 18yr old in Nigeria is different from an 18yr old in the West.

If you believe that's what it takes to be a real man, then you're a mad man

descarado:

Are you afraid of death?
Why will he apologise?
Cos he is the father.
We keep on allowing parents box us into corners and see that as acceptable.
It is not.
Parents ought to know their limit.
Heck, my parents never boxed me into corners neither will I do that to my kids.
He came late and apologised.
This man will push him into the hands of what he was afraid of.
He the father should apologise.
Oh, we live in a country where parents never apologise.
Mine always apologise cos nobody is above mistake.
I apologise to my kids.

In fact, I don't hesitate to apologise for the littlest thing.
That is how it should be.
Parents act like mini God in Nigeria. So entitled.

SangoOlukosoOba:
I must commend your dad for his patience. He is a real man!

If I was your dad, you will be on a wheelchair with no arms and legs. I will report myself to the police station when I am done with you!

You have a great dad.

DamianDd:
What pissed me off asides from things he said was the fact that he was putting himself down and the family down with his words all because of what other people will think. God! I hate it so much because he's been doing that for years always comparing us to other people, wanting us to behave in a way that won't upset people, to be seen as perfect and likable by everybody and when I realized this fact I start working on myself till this day, i still get that feeling of timidity but I always push through because really who gives a Bleep what people think of me that's why I was so timid when younger that I hated myself. Coming home late was wrong and I told him that yes it's true but those things he was saying is where we had the issue.

DamianDd:


I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs and don't eat cola

These are rules my dad instilled me when I was young and I would do the same for kins and make it a generational rule in our lineage.

My generations high IQ is my top priority to make the most compitent seeds and raise compitent men. If I smoke and drink it will reduce that IQ and I don't want to think like majority of Nigerians

DamianDd:
My dad is a really good guy, I love him so much and he's gentle most times. Though he gets angry sometimes but he's reasonable about everything he does.

I came home 11:30 which is very late and I knew that and I even hated it too that I came home this late so I was trying to avoid him even when he asked to come to his room because I had a gut feeling that things won't gi right.

But I ended up going to get my charger that was with him, then for the first 5 minutes in he was making sense about why I came home late and I was agreeing to it that it's true

Then all of a sudden he starts saying "what will people think?" "Neighbors are watching" "they'll start saying god forbid, like father like son" "I nor fit let my pikin be like this boy" "which kind family be this, see when their son dey come house?" "People are watching, people are judging" and even more words and it started getting annoying to me, then he said they will say "see when this small pikin dey come house"

It was at that moment that I shut it down, I've never been that way to him but it was so infuriating, I told him I'm not a child I'm 18 which is legal age, I work for my money, I make 50k to 300k a month on my own; no neighbors give me food when I'm hungry, the landlord doesn't clean my eyes when they hurt from viewing my phone too much so I don't give a Bleep what they think of me. I told him to not put all those orientations in my head because it affected me alot when I was younger and it made me timid and shy and scared of being myself or having different opinions and that's what I'm trying to fix in myself and my mindset now.

What I do feel bad about is last year I paid for the house rent and packing when I had alot of money, I brought it up when I was talking to him and said "I paid for this house with my own money so who is landlord or the neighbors for me to be sacred to come in and out of my own home, I know what I did is wrong and I'm sorry but don't put those bad thoughts in my head" I shouldn't have said that though by bringing up what I did for family. He only called me back and said "don't worry I won't talk to you anymore until I use my own money to pay for the house next time" I didn't say anything because i know I was wrong and nothing good would come out of talking back, I just left his room.



What's your thoughts on the matter?