Darlingme:
Inspiring. Thanks for sharing.
I pray she have the strength to hold on till her man get revived. And I pray she don't cheat

Darlingme:
Honestly things are really getting crazy with the nature of story that spring forth everyday. I was in counseling session with a woman days ago and I lack what to adviced.

What can you advise in a situation where the husband refused to go out to get a job nor engage in any form of business or do anything to provide for his home? He always complain and turn down any job suggestion from his wife, thereby watching her do all the struggles all alone?
He stays back at home and wait for what his wife's beings?
What kind of situation is this?
Are they men out there who really practice this kind of lifestyle?
What would you advise such a wife?
Is this enough reason for a woman to cheat?

Darlingme:
Honestly things are really getting crazy with the nature of story that spring forth everyday. I was in counseling session with a woman days ago and I lack what to adviced.

What can you advise in a situation where the husband refused to go out to get a job nor engage in any form of business or do anything to provide for his home? He always complain and turn down any job suggestion from his wife, thereby watching her do all the struggles all alone?
He stays back at home and wait for what his wife's beings?
What kind of situation is this?
Are they men out there who really practice this kind of lifestyle?
What would you advise such a wife?

Is this enough reason for a woman to cheat?

Darlingme:
Honestly things are really getting crazy with the nature of story that spring forth everyday. I was in counseling session with a woman days ago and I lack what to adviced.

What can you advise in a situation where the husband refused to go out to get a job nor engage in any form of business or do anything to provide for his home? He always complain and turn down any job suggestion from his wife, thereby watching her do all the struggles all alone?
He stays back at home and wait for what his wife's beings?
What kind of situation is this?
Are they men out there who really practice this kind of lifestyle?
What would you advise such a wife?
Is this enough reason for a woman to cheat?

Taylor90:
Women do it too

Men should reciprocate
………………………………………………………………………………….
All these ones quoting me and crying

Do you know it’s very easy for a woman to make it in this life than a man?

If women put so much efforts men put the ratio of women making it to men should be 90:10

A woman would be so relaxed and cool being a house wife of a billionaire

But few men shouldn’t relax and be a husband of a rich woman

Make una dey play the table is gradually turning

Everything is men, pay for sex, find hotel or apartment for sex, financial provision, etc

Kings lemme burst your brain

Do you know that it’s the responsibility of the brides family to pay for wedding expenses?

They’re just scamming us

Pojomojo:
Are you sick that you can't work?
Or incapacitated in anyway?
Your wife is too tired for knacks after going above and beyond to provide for the family, and still run the affairs of the home.
She is physically tired, and is also irritated that all you think of is to jump on her again at night.
What efforts are you actively making to do something about providing for your home? Is she seeing you make the effort?

Darlingme:
Honestly things are really getting crazy with the nature of story that spring forth everyday. I was in counseling session with a woman days ago and I lack what to adviced.

What can you advise in a situation where the husband refused to go out to get a job nor engage in any form of business or do anything to provide for his home? He always complain and turn down any job suggestion from his wife, thereby watching her do all the struggles all alone?
He stays back at home and wait for what his wife's beings?
What kind of situation is this?
Are they men out there who really practice this kind of lifestyle?
What would you advise such a wife?
Is this enough reason for a woman to cheat?

SalamRushdie:


Please go and cheat lets rest , any small things y'all start threatening with cheating, is your Vagina a transaction?

Darlingme:
Honestly things are really getting crazy with the nature of story that spring forth everyday. I was in counseling session with a woman days ago and I lack what to adviced.

What can you advise in a situation where the husband refused to go out to get a job nor engage in any form of business or do anything to provide for his home? He always complain and turn down any job suggestion from his wife, thereby watching her do all the struggles all alone?
He stays back at home and wait for what his wife's beings?
What kind of situation is this?
Are they men out there who really practice this kind of lifestyle?
What would you advise such a wife?
Is this enough reason for a woman to cheat?

Darlingme:
Honestly things are really getting crazy with the nature of story that spring forth everyday. I was in counseling session with a woman days ago and I lack what to adviced.

What can you advise in a situation where the husband refused to go out to get a job nor engage in any form of business or do anything to provide for his home? He always complain and turn down any job suggestion from his wife, thereby watching her do all the struggles all alone?
He stays back at home and wait for what his wife's beings?
What kind of situation is this?
Are they men out there who really practice this kind of lifestyle?
What would you advise such a wife?
Is this enough reason for a woman to cheat?

Darlingme:
Pls, it's a serious issue here. Men are wired to be in charge. That's how God made it. When you reverse it, it's against God's original plan and it doesn't always go well.

ExudeLoveToAll:


This scenario you painted has sent a lot of guys to the department of high blood pressure and depression.

I can't fathom spouse wi can't generate income, for me if you want to live a baby girl life stay single.

Partnership in marriage makes things easier, no one should leave the finance stress solely for one person unless that one person can foot the bills without hurting him

Oyerinde16:


I pity this situation o... But I remember when I left a good job, I became jobless yet had to provide... The available jobs were hotel, 25k teaching 25k driving Keke 35k marketing 45k I got one job as a loan marketer 60k, I resumed n left after 2weeks, I was to walk corner to corner giving and retrieving loans with interest as at when due... I heard stories of co workers not earning full salaries due to deductions, incomplete money bla bla bla... I looked at the outfit n dressing of co workers, those I was to work with, faded cloths, stiched cloths, I just left the job... I spent all my savings within 6 months no good job, I started doing bolt/Uber, this was pretty lucrative cos it was my car, I was my own boss, I worked whenever I wanted, but it wasn't really for me, it began to tell on my car, I knew what I wanted... I wanted to create a good job for myself n employ people I would pay well... But where was the capital, I kept on waiting while my wife was saying I should just take any job, all she was concerned about was just provide not minding the mental state of the man... Just provide... She wasn't working, I provided all just that it wasn't as much as when I was working ... I told her to get a job to support, she said I knew she wasnt working before I married her, so I should work n provide, she said it was the job of the husband to provide... I even became weaker...

I support what someone said up there, give the man a job with a good pay, if he refuses, then flog him, but if you can't assist him with a good job, not minding what he is going through, just shut up... Men are people's children as well someone's daughter (liability) should not come n use marriage to kill him in the name of men are wired to provide...

Darlingme:
Honestly things are really getting crazy with the nature of story that spring forth everyday. I was in counseling session with a woman days ago and I lack what to adviced.

What can you advise in a situation where the husband refused to go out to get a job nor engage in any form of business or do anything to provide for his home? He always complain and turn down any job suggestion from his wife, thereby watching her do all the struggles all alone?
He stays back at home and wait for what his wife's beings?
What kind of situation is this?
Are they men out there who really practice this kind of lifestyle?
What would you advise such a wife?
Is this enough reason for a woman to cheat?

IyaTola:
I can't blame any woman for her actions because she's the one wearing the shoes and knows where it pinches. It is natural for one to feel cheated in a relationship where she's the only one carrying all the burden and all the man does is knack, eat and sleep. Monkey dey work, baboon dey chop. No naau.. she'll get fed up one day.
Now, this is the point I was trying to make in a post sometimes last week where I said a man should appreciate the wife with cash gifts from time to time and not just be there to always knack until her bolt and knots fall off but many came attacking my comment and calling me all sorts of names. Now the same thing is happening here.

Look, whether we like it or not, most of the things I cite here about marriages are actually the reality of many marriages. Forget people coming here to act like they are angels and would handle it any differently. Lies!

We are human beings and it's only natural for us to react somewhat "irrational" (according to people) when the situation is not palatable or conducive.

Why will an able bodied man be parambulating year in year out and not looking for ways to get a job to take care of his family? Even if you can't get your dream job at the moment, look for any available one and be doing first pending when the dream job comes. This is not the time to be forming "a whole me" look for Keke maruwa and drive and feed your family. Its not about being posh it's about survival nowadays.

There are warehouse jobs in town where they need people every now and then. And recently they needed a driver with 120k pay but some guys will say over their dead body will they do driving job... Shooo.. no be to put food for table? We tried to link a man (who sent his family to the village for over 10 years now due to lack of sustainable job and not being able to pay rent again.) to the job, he said he doesnt have a driving license. Quite understandable though but I asked my sister, why can't he go there and beg the white man whether dem go at least give him money to do one cos I really wanted the man to get that job... That's by the way though. This place I'm talking about, jobs come out every now and then. It's at Munshin. Just walk in there and tell them you need a job. The least they pay is 65k and you choose how you want to be paid. Either weekly or monthly.

My advice to every young and married man out there, go and learn a skill especially driving. If white collar job no enter, use your skills in the meantime and don't sit and be complaining how your wife starved you and refused to pay your childrens school fees.

Me wey be woman gan. Wen I no see my dream job, I worked as a tea girl just to survive till ground level. How much more a man. The same men that will say they can't marry a liability that will not bring anything to the table are now looking for pity party everyday on this same nairaland wey dem dey sing am like national anthem. Na wa o!

Men go and work and take care of your family

Ikennaford:
You Nigerian women and complaining, come to the states and see black women begging men to come live with them with maximum respect from the womanoooh, you form councilor you not, you should've ask the woman if her husband ain't working and providing when she married her,,

Flame77:

Oh we now believe in God, agree that men are to be incharge and we even now agree it's God's plan for the man to be in charge? Ok this is good news.

Bluffly:

Be in charge does not mean the only financial provider. He is just the overseer

HussenAdul:
Where is the man's location & profession let's help him with any available job.

ogmask:


I know say na you dey in the middle of the storm...
my advise be say look back where you dey come from and look front if you can see what lies ahead.

Taylor90:
Women do it too

Men should reciprocate
………………………………………………………………………………….
All these ones quoting me and crying

Do you know it’s very easy for a woman to make it in this life than a man?

If women put so much efforts men put the ratio of women making it to men should be 90:10

A woman would be so relaxed and cool being a house wife of a billionaire

But few men shouldn’t relax and be a husband of a rich woman

Make una dey play the table is gradually turning

Everything is men, pay for sex, find hotel or apartment for sex, financial provision, etc

Kings lemme burst your brain

Do you know that it’s the responsibility of the brides family to pay for wedding expenses?

They’re just scamming us

ExudeLoveToAll:


This scenario you painted has sent a lot of guys to the department of high blood pressure and depression.

I can't fathom spouse wi can't generate income, for me if you want to live a baby girl life stay single.

Partnership in marriage makes things easier, no one should leave the finance stress solely for one person unless that one person can foot the bills without hurting him

Ashawoman82:
we are talking of young women not middle age women.. I agree when it comes to middle age women, they are mostly the bread winners since their old hubby cant work and doesn't have any investment.

Beverlyjean:


This is part of the reason y I don't support the feminist ideology... it will male some men lazy

Darlingme:
Pls, it's a serious issue here. Men are wired to be in charge. That's how God made it. When you reverse it, it's against God's original plan and it doesn't always go well.

crackhaus:

If it's okay for women to sit back and wait for what their husbands will bring home, then I guess it's okay for men to do it too.
Let's keep things fair, shall we?

She can cheat if she wants to cheat. Is it not only to collect prick outside?

Taylor90:
Women do it too

Men should reciprocate
………………………………………………………………………………….
All these ones quoting me and crying

Do you know it’s very easy for a woman to make it in this life than a man?

If women put so much efforts men put the ratio of women making it to men should be 90:10

A woman would be so relaxed and cool being a house wife of a billionaire

But few men shouldn’t relax and be a husband of a rich woman

Make una dey play the table is gradually turning

Everything is men, pay for sex, find hotel or apartment for sex, financial provision, etc

Kings lemme burst your brain

Do you know that it’s the responsibility of the brides family to pay for wedding expenses?

They’re just scamming us

oliverwrites:
This is how GOD wired it now because it is convenient. But when it is not you all want equal right.

Considering my own experience, I no longer pity any woman.