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|White Woman Married To Nigerian Man by AlminaMia: 8:14pm On Oct 23, 2011|
I'm a White woman married to a Nigerian man, we have kids together. I found out a few months ago that my husband has cheated on me with an Ibo girl in her late 40S (she's single, no kids). She stayed at mine while I was away on holidays with my kids for several weeks. She left loads of "symbolisms" cruxes like shapes in a "clear, almost invisible type of oil greasy liquid" on all my Walls, furniture, etc and also some ready made meals in my fridge. I felt I was going to die, I passed out for a moment and went through hell. I was completely devastated and heartbroken. I'm not very familiar with the Ibo culture. Can anybody tell me what those symbols mean and why were there for? My husband told her he doesn't want to hear from her anymore, yet she kept trying. I just hope her evil witchcraft doesn't cause us any harm.
Thank you very much for your time and thanks in advance.
|Re: White Woman Married To Nigerian Man by emofine(f): 8:33pm On Oct 23, 2011|
First of all how did you know you husband's mistress was I[b]g[/b]bo
Secondly, how do you refer to a 40 year old woman as a "girl"
Lastly it might serve you well to watch a couple of Nollywood movies if you're looking for a half-decent believable synopsis
|Re: White Woman Married To Nigerian Man by High_Chief(m): 9:25pm On Oct 23, 2011|
^^^Why bother yourself when we all know that the poster is Ileke-Idi with one of her numerous IDs trying to bash Ndigbo
|Re: White Woman Married To Nigerian Man by AlminaMia: 6:11am On Oct 24, 2011|
I know her full name, according to a Nigerian friend she is an Ibo woman. ( for obvious reasons I can't post her full name here) And for what I understand they cannot get married to a yoruba man right? Still, she traveled all the way to northern Europe to do her evil things or "ju ju" like you guys would say. I'm genuine and I'm not trying to "bash" no one here. Now, what film should I watch? And would that give me an idea of what those things on my Walls mean? I've watched Nigerian movies, but thought it was just not real, until it happen to me. These things are very dangerous indeed.
|Re: White Woman Married To Nigerian Man by obowunmi(m): 7:59am On Oct 24, 2011|
The woman is sick. Those symbols have no reason than to create fear and make you worry.
|Re: White Woman Married To Nigerian Man by chaircover: 8:07am On Oct 24, 2011|
I think that you should be speaking to your husband as he will be in a better position to give you the answers that you are looking for.
For a start, you need to find out if they have been seeing each other long before you went on holiday with your children. You say that she is single but you can never know and you need to explore all angles. For all you know, your husband and this woman may have been husband and wife long before you came on the scene. Just a thought.
Also your friend who told you that Yoruba's don't marry Ibo's is being economical with the truth or is misguided.
I don't know what the greasy almost transparent stuff is. It could be something nasty or something as simple as olive oil. The fact that she is rubbing it in your home is beyond me though.
Also the fact that your husband brought her home, and she had leeway to cook for them both in your kitchen and your husband couldn't be bothered to hide the evidence speaks volumes about the level of their relationship and the level of disrespect he has shown you should get you thinking about this further afield than just the "juju".
In a nutshell, sit your husband down and have a deep chat with him because he has a lot of explaining to do IMO. Who knows he could have rubbed the thing on the chairs himself just to scare you out of his life so that he can get on with the other madam.
Sorry to be a bearer of bad news but a lot of things just don't stack up and at least you can prepare yourself for worst case scenario.
|Re: White Woman Married To Nigerian Man by AlminaMia: 9:48am On Oct 24, 2011|
Thank you very much for your replies. I understand they were going to get married many years ago but they didn't as her parents wouldn't allow him in their family because he was from a different tribe. About the curry she left behind, he said he cooked it himself for us. Later when I found out what he's done and when we "both" found those things on Walls he asked me to chuck it all in the bin which I did. He contacted her and told her he was happy with his family and wasn't looking for someone else, after sometime she got the message. He was very surprised himself, he didn't think bad of her at all. Indeed I know he was very serious with her, nobody would risk his family for nothing. When he knew who she really is & done he was put off immediately. He speculate about her going to his church-pastor and got wrong advice. Nothing is bigger than God, it looks like everything backfired on her. All I wanted to know here is if my kids would get any harm by this, that's all.
Thank you anyway
|Re: White Woman Married To Nigerian Man by chaircover: 2:58pm On Oct 24, 2011|
there is a possibility that your husband has been seeing this woman throughhout your marriage.
You still need to sit your hubby down and ask him for the truth. Its rarther convenient that you were out of the way when this woman came back into your husbands life and into your home. its also quite a coincidence that this lady remained single. could it mean that she is actually "married" to your husband too?
|Re: White Woman Married To Nigerian Man by ATLgal(f): 12:36pm On Oct 25, 2011|
Who calls themselves a white woman? Is that what defines u? Are we supposed to feel sympathy for u for that? U didn't say I'm a brit or american. Newsflash not even close to all nigerians do juju so we don't have an answer for u. Why r u so concerned about this woman instead of ur husband? Pls don't sow seeds of discord here by claiming yorubas can't marry igbos. No such thing. If ur husband could marry u he can marry anyone.
|Re: White Woman Married To Nigerian Man by AlminaMia: 6:51am On Oct 26, 2011|
I'm not British nor American, I'm from a different white background. And no, I don't expect you to feel sympathy for that reason. All this Yoruba-Igbo thing didn't come from me but from a Nigerian friend, a lady just like you, wheter she's right or wrong you will judge as I don't have much knowledge about it, I never intent to cause fight here as you put it.
Anyway thank you to all who gave me a good advice. I'm leaving this forum.
|Re: White Woman Married To Nigerian Man by ATLgal(f): 8:03am On Oct 26, 2011|
Goodluck with ur marriage. I'm sure u have nothing to worry about especially since it was her fam that had a problem with him.
|Re: White Woman Married To Nigerian Man by coogar: 10:36am On Oct 26, 2011|
you should be safe. . . .
when you start getting regular mares at nights, then travel to new orleans, buy a rooster and consult a good voodoo woman.
happy married life.
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