chaircover:

Dont shoot me o!

But is it fair that this guy’s picture is splashed on this page. We only ever heard one side of the story.

I am not the discounting the posters story or her immense hurt & pain at the time but you know what they say about a woman scorned.

The incident happened 3 years ago and the poster has moved on with her life.

Please moderators bring this guys picture down.

I dont know him o!, Just a voice of reason.

oops i didnt see this, ok now someone take those pics off, its just too childish posting pples pics on the net like seriously we dont need the pics for identification do we?

arrrrrrggg stephanie i hope u r not considering posting pics of you lot in bed someday?

maybe i will like to see that one

Instead of this girl to sort her life out, she's posting pictures on the internet.

I dont know what will happen after the new guy leaves. . .

Maybe another pic

I have sorted out my life - wow people can be so jealous - if you cant say something nice then dont say anything at all. HA people funny as if i force em to read this

For all your info that picture is NOT of my ex hubby !!!!1

spikedcylinder:

There's sure a pristine difference between an intelligent woman and err. . . the direct opposite of that. Both posts say the same thing in very very different ways.
While one woman offers constructive criticism, the other yaps off like a crazed chihuahua

GBAM
Solid point

stephanie7:

I have sorted out my life - wow people can be so jealous - if you cant say something nice then dont say anything at all. HA people funny as if i force em to read this

Did I read you say jealous

Jealous of what? your fat body or the fact that you are incapable of keeping any man happy?

i think you have a long way to go another Nigeria hubby are they the only one you can get?

I am not prejudice so to me i cant say all Nigerian men are the same. I met my Finance and he is lovely and happened to be nigerian, It is not all i can get but i judge people individually.

JustGood:

Did I read you say jealous

Jealous of what? your fat body or the fact that you are incapable of keeping any man happy?

As to the abuse from this poster - all i can say is THANK YOU

benincitys:

i think you have a long way to go another Nigeria hubby are they the only one you can get?

they are mostly buy one get one free are they not? i always wonder why people waste so much time on mostly lying and scheming nigerians.

they are not all the same. Ive been with my man now over 2.5 yrs and he has never done wrong to me and is a very honest man. Hard to find but they are not all the same.

u and Nigerian men, lol well nothing do u oh. all the best.

Thank you

JustGood:

Did I read you say jealous

Jealous of what? your fat body or the fact that you are incapable of keeping any man happy?

Stephenie,
I really feel your pains. I know your husband has really hurt you but still find time to pray to God and ask Him to take total control of your Marriage. And, I will say don't think of divorce now if at all it's going to happen. Have a long talk with your husband and let him come to realize that he has disappointed you and he has broken the trust you have in him and the covenant of marriage has been broken by him sleeping with another woman and having a child outside wedlock. Hopefully he comes back to his senses early enough.
Cheers.

JustGood:

Did I read you say jealous

Jealous of what? your fat body or the fact that you are incapable of keeping any man happy?

My brother, that was uncalled for, not good at all.
You're a mature Nairalander, and I expect better from you.

Siena:


My brother, that was uncalled for, not good at all.
You're a mature Nairalander, and I expect better from you.

Thank you for your support here. i thought it was uncalled for but didnt want to fight back cause it didnt deserve a nasty response, i wouldnt lower myself to that standard.

At Temilola, i did try and forgive but now he has more than one child and the divorce is done but i am happy. God does things to test us and i thank god i have come out the other side strong and a better woman.

If the woman is happy, wetin be una palava?
- d person wey get pic no complain
- poster no say make una come marry am or find am husband
monkey no fine, im mama like am like dat.
abi una wan carry anoda person thin put for head?
NLers and their 'pharisee attitude'

;d

I am happy there still seems to be good people on Nairaland - i was worrid there for a while

pls lets try not to be abusive, i believe we are matured, if someone ask's an advice by all means if u've got nothing to say then dont say nothing instead of resorting to being abusive haba

eh Stephanie, be very careful. don't get pregnant again, at least until he has an irish passport.

Sorry to hear what happened to you Stephanie, its nothing new unfortunately,

My husband is igbo here in Dublin, have been together five years now. Thank God I have not found cheating so far. I was brought to Nigeria, you should also be brought down to meet his family.

i have never been pregnant so i think ur mistaken. Thanks again for support on the abuse i received. To the girl in dublin, im happy ur man is good. Proves my point that not all nigerians r the same. Bless x

Stephanie7 girl b strong i know it's not that easy.

i know although 'm younger & not married that it's not easy and i'm here to listen to you and to give you support.

i hope all go well with this you are facing,

wow this thread has gone on 4 over 3yrs,with updates very interesting.Goodluck anyway s7.

My sister the lord is your strength.

I really didn't want to comment on this, but i would have a go.
@Stephanie7, am staying in belfast here, and sincerely i would like to commiserate with you, but would beg to differ.
You guys here don't know what love is. You guys look at relationship/marriage/love, as an unspoken contract which is guided by rules which include: happiness at all times, no affairs and some other rules, wherein if any rule is broken, then we quit the relationship.
YOUR EX WAS CLEARLY WRONG COMMITTING ADULTERY
but please , who would want to save her marriage, while sleeping with another while she has not been DIVORCED??

The next thing we hear is a yoruba guy on the scene, and now another Nigerian.

steph, Relationship is WORK, and if you want to hold this particular one down, then you need to look for chaircover and her posts, cos i think you have a lot to learn, and its scattered all over nairaland in her replies.

I wish you the best

yee want an update

Ok i got married 14 months ago and am now pregnant and very very very very happy been with my guy now 4 yrs!!!! and yes he is yoruba

Thanks for support and comments on here some hit me hard some gave me strength but hope this whole thread proves life goes on and your happiness will come.

^^^ Good for you!

So @ last the pain and loneliness is no more! Maam, 'm happy 4 u!

Congrats.

[s]Proof that jungle fever isn't so bad afterall.[/s]

Hi all,
       Life , Life, Life, oooohhhh Life the more you know, the little it appears you really know about life

So learning point,
  Dont ever assume or take extreme position on issues. Sometimes the reason why we(human beings) cheat we cannot really pin point 'cause one mans meat will always be another mans poison.

Read the following confession,  perhaps you will get my drift better.

I am a woman in the tenth year of her relationship. I love my partner and would be devastated if we broke up but I have cheated on him from day one with numerous partners a couple of these partners are long term - 5yrs and 12yrs. I am insecure and crave the attention of someone finding me attractive, someone wanting me, someone saying they love me even if it might not be genuine it makes me more confident and I feel better about myself. I know it seems shallow but I often feel depressed about myself. My partner doesn't make me feel wanted as these men do and they have time for me whereas my relationship has become so monotonous I work non stop and come home to him nagging. I want to stop and have tried but I cant. I practice safe sex and my conquests are all in steady relationship where sex is an issue. We even go as far as helping each other out with relationship advice and I think most of us would be single if it was not for these affairs. Sometimes I wonder what is wrong with me and I think I now will never change.