The person that said "fear woman" was right. Fear that gender and trust them at your own risk.

Let me share my story anonymously. Although I have accepted my fate and moved on but will want others to learn from my experience.


I started dating this delta Igbo girl since 2018.
She was just preparing for her NYSC back then while I was working in the power sector.

We had a very good relationship and bonded well. Late 2022 (four yrs into the relationship), I decided it was time to take the relationship serious and meet with her people.

She happily accepted and told me to reach out to her mom, which I did.

To cut the long story short, I met with some of her family members and made my intention known to them. They welcomed me well and told me they will get back to me with their feedback.

Since October 2022 that I made my intention know to the family, they were delaying the whole arrangement while giving me silly excuses.

I kept my cool because during this period, the girl was not giving me any cause for alarm. I believe her story that her family members didn't want her good (her dad is late).

Last year June,, she took in for me which I accepted and was glad about the whole thing...so I started putting pressure on her about the wedding, so that the wedding can be done before the pregnancy become very obvious , I never suspecting any foul play from her.

To my greatest shock and surprise. On the 11th of February, I just had a strong urge to go visit her family. Getting there I saw them having a party. I inquired of her what was happening. She said her aunt was doing hosting. I will abit relax but still disturbed within me. They gave me food and drinks which I accepted. I was just not comfortable within me. I called some of the persons that were present at the party and inquired of them. Lol and Behold another guy has come to do introduction for my girl

To be continued...

Irreplaceable01:
■ To my greatest shock and surprise. On the 11th of February, I just had a strong urge to go visit her family. Getting there I saw them having a party. I inquired of her what was happening. She said her aunt was doing hosting. I will abit relax but still disturbed within me. They gave me food and drinks which I accepted. I was just not comfortable within me. I called some of the persons that were present at the party and inquired of them. Lol and Behold another guy has come to do introduction for my girl To be continued...

Congratulate her on her love and marriage and move on abeg!

Kobojunkie:
Congratulate her on her love and marriage and move on abeg!

That's the spirit, but did you read the part where I said she took in?

So you work in power sector? Hope say no be people swear catch you so?🤷‍♂️

phorget:
So you work in power sector? Hope say no be people swear catch you so?🤷‍♂️

Lol..You prefer make I jobless

They gave me food and drinks which I accepted

You chop and drink for your babe introduction?

I lack words to describe you.

Irreplaceable01:
That's the spirit, but did you read the part when I said she took in?

I did but the gal and her parents probably got tired of waiting while you dragged your feet on making a final decision and decided it best to move on. You got her pregnant before marrying her. Did you think that meant she could not move on or what?

If I had a daughter or son, I would not advise her or him to wait around on anyone when it comes to realizing a personal dream or desire.

Irreplaceable01:
Lol..You prefer make I jobless

Make you dey manage am bros but no follow dem if light o abeg.

Kobojunkie:
I did but the gal and her parents probably got tired of waiting while you dragged your feet on making a final decision and decided it best to move on. You got her pregnant before marrying her. Did you think that meant she could not move on or what?

If I had a daughter or son, I would not advise her or him to wait around on anyone when it comes to realizing a personal dream or desire.

Are you sure you read the writeup? It was written with English language. I already visited the family since 2022 to make my intention know to them long before the pregnancy came into play. They were the one dragging their feet. Pls read again. Slowly and comprehend.

Irreplaceable01:
■ Are you sure you read the writeup? It was written with English language. I already visited the family since 2022 to make my intention know to them long before the pregnancy came into play. They were the one dragging their feet. Pls read again. Slowly and comprehend.

I guess you were not clear that they were the ones dragging their feet. The way I see it, if a man and woman are truly in love, and both ready to become one, nothing stops them from registering their marriage in the courts and moving forward. You said the parents were dragging their feet but that didn't stop you from impregnating the gal without first seeking their consent, so?

Zonefree:

Your chop and drink for your babe introduction?

I lack words to describe you.

maybe I did not construct the story well. Imagine paying a random visit to your fiance's family house and met a party. You inquired what was going on and was told they are doing hosting. They offered you food and drink. Will you reject.

She told me it was hosting, her aunty hosted some people. Pls read and comprehend

Irreplaceable01:
maybe I did not construct the story well. Imagine paying a random visit to your fiance's family house and met a party. You inquired what was going on and was told they are doing hosting. They offered you food and drink. Will you reject.

She told me it was hosting, her aunty hosted some people. Pls read and comprehend

You were not invited prior to the hosting, yet you sat down to eat and drink?

You must be SIMPly amazing, the reason they dribbled you.

Kobojunkie:
I guess you were not clear that they were the ones dragging their feet. The way I see it, if a man and woman are truly in love, and both ready to become one, nothing stops them from registering their marriage in the courts and moving forward. You said the parents were dragging their feet but that didn't stop you from impregnating the gal without first seeking their consent, so?

I did seek their consent. Carried drink to the family and visited the mother also. Nobody told me they are not in support of our union. They were just giving one silly excuses or the other. Delaying the whole process without a definite Yes or No. Try to understand.

Zonefree:

You were not invited prior to the hosting, yet you sat down to eat and drink?

You must be SIMPly amazing, the reason they dribbled you.

Everyone is tough online. Your supposed inlaw will offer you drink and you will reject it. C'on man. I'm not hungry o.

Irreplaceable01:
■ I did seek their consent. Carried drink to the family and visited the mother also. Nobody told me they are not in support of our union. They were just giving one silly excuses or the other. Delaying the whole process without a definite Yes or No. Try to understand.

I do understand what you are saying. But, you didn't wait for consent before impregnating her. Then you went back to waiting for consent afterward. If my child was in a similar situation, I wouldn't hold it against her if she decided moving on was best.

I think it is best you accept what has happened and look for a way to move on instead.

I plaster

Irreplaceable01:
maybe I did not construct the story well. Imagine paying a random visit to your fiance's family house and met a party. You inquired what was going on and was told they are doing hosting. They offered you food and drink. Will you reject.

She told me it was hosting, her aunty hosted some people. Pls read and comprehend

Good that you have stated that it's a "story" and that you ''constructed" it. Super story for that matter!

Irreplaceable01:
Everyone is tough online. Your supposed inlaw will offer you drink and you will reject it. C'on man. I'm not hungry o.

You were not invited prior to the event is enough reason for you to leave immediately.

But, as a hungry man, they offered you seat, food and drink, you accepted not knowing it's your beloved pregnant babe's introduction.

You're a disgrace to humanity. It's more noble to have a bandit as a son than to have you as a son. Tueh!

Let me continue the story; many persons seems to be getting the narrative wrong. Although I'm not a story teller, so try to read slowly, comprehend before replying.


To continue...I was now speaking with the uncle she stays with (He was the first person I went to visit with drink and declared my intention to marry her last two yrs) I asked what was going on, I need clarification as I don't understand. He replied that he was shocked to have seen me that he thought me and her were no longer together. Saying that he told her to tell me that family did not accept me because of my ethnicity (I'm Edo). This girl didn't tell me anything, totally kept me in the dark and none of her family members told me anything like that. I became furious and the Uncle reacted aggressively, telling me to leave his house.

The next day 12th February, I matched back to the house with my soldier friend to ask her about the welfare of the unborn child,this girl replied that she thought she was pregnant but she's not. Omoh, how can someone be thinking she's pregnant for 7months? I spent money to Register her for antenatal, do send money for provisions,buy fruits and all that. It was obvious she had aborted the pregnancy.

I wanted to take it up with her but family advise I let go of everything and move on. People can be wicked sha. Her reason for all these was that family did not want their daughter to marry from Edo

Jman06:
Good that you have stated that it's a "story" and that you ''constructed" it. Super story for that matter!

Oga, believe whatever you want to believe.

Zonefree:

You were not invited prior to the hosting, yet you sat down to eat and drink?

You must be SIMPly amazing, the reason they dribbled you.

Can you please learn to STFU and stop displaying your stupidity all over the forum. The guy's story is clear and easy to understand.

There is no greater simp than a man who does nothing for a living except to run his mouth waaaa on a public forum, always rushing to comment foolishly and asking if he can send or drop aza for hand outs. That simp is no other person but you.

Unlike you the OP has a job in the power sector and does something worthwhile for a living. What exactly do you do for a living besides being foolish on NL.

And when they gave birth to you some people probably gathered round to celebrate and give thanks. They didn't know what a complete waste of sperm and egg you would turn out to be.

Zonefree:

You were not invited prior to the event is enough reason for you to leave immediately.

But, as a hungry man, they offered you seat, food and drink, you accepted not knowing it's your beloved pregnant babe's introduction.

You're a disgrace to humanity. It's more noble to have a bandit as a son than to have you as a son. Tueh!

I don't have time to be dragging words with you. I probably could pay your full year salary and not wink.

Klass99:


Can you please learn to STFU and stop displaying your stupidity all over the forum. The guy's story is clear and easy to understand.

There is no greater simp than a man who does nothing for a living except to run his mouth waaaa on a public forum, always rushing to comment foolishly and asking if he can drop aza for hand outs. That simp is no other person but you.

Unlike you the OP has a job in the power sector and does something worthwhile for a living. What exactly do you do for a living, besides being foolish on NL.

And when they gave birth to you some people probably gathered to celebrate and give thanks. They didn't know what a complete waste of sperm and egg you will turn out to be.

K

Irreplaceable01:
■ Let me continue the story; many persons seems to be getting the narrative wrong. Although I'm not a story teller, so try to read slowly, comprehend before replying.
To continue...I was now speaking with the uncle she stays with (He was the first person I went to visit with drink and declared my intention to marry her last two yrs) I asked what was going on, I need clarification as I don't understand. He replied that he was shocked to have seen me that he thought me and her were no longer together. Saying that he told her to tell me that family did not accept me because of my ethnicity (I'm Edo). This girl didn't tell me anything, totally kept me in the dark and none of her family members told me anything like that. I became furious and the Uncle reacted aggressively, telling me to leave his house.
The next day 12th February, I matched back to the house with my soldier friend to ask her about the warfare of the unborn child,this girl replied that she thought she was pregnant but she's not. Omoh, how can someone be thinking she's pregnant for 7months? I spent money to Register her for antenatal, do send money for provisions,buy fruits and all that. It was obvious she had aborted the pregnancy.
I wanted to take it up with her but family advise I let go of everything and move on. People can be wicked sha. Her reason for all these was that family did not want their daughter to marry from Edo

Was your relationship with her some sort of long-distance relationship or what?

So, her parents rejected you two years ago, but you never heard about it because you relied on the gal to relate the final decision from her parents to you but she lied? And she equally lied about being 7 months pregnant, a pregnancy you had been funding but didn't see for an entire 7-month period?

If she lied to you for over 2 years, and even about the pregnancy, then you really should try to move on from this as soon as you can.

Kobojunkie:
Was your relationship with her some sort of long-distance relationship or what?

So, her parents rejected you two years ago, but you never heard about it because you relied on the gal to relate the final decision from her parents to you but she lied? And she equally lied about being 7 months pregnant, a pregnancy you had been funding but didn't see for an entire 7-month period?

If she lied to you for over 2 years, and even about the pregnancy, then you really should try to move on from this as soon as you can.

It was not a long distance relationship, I was always visiting her aunty she stayed with. I do call her sister we do gist. I even bought food stuff for the family this past December for Christmas. We were together in my house fews days to this introduction. We even chatted the morning of that introduction and we arranged to meet that very day 11th of February which was a Sunday.

It was just a strong urge within me, like am intuition that pushed me to go visit the family that very day. There was no single reason to have suspected such a thing was going on.

Kobojunkie:
Was your relationship with her some sort of long-distance relationship or what?

So, her parents rejected you two years ago, but you never heard about it because you relied on the gal to relate the final decision from her parents to you but she lied? And she equally lied about being 7 months pregnant, a pregnancy you had been funding but didn't see for an entire 7-month period?

If she lied to you for over 2 years, and even about the pregnancy, then you really should try to move on from this as soon as you can.

As for the pregnancy, it was real. We visited my mum when she was 5 months gone and my mum confirmed it. I registered her for antenatal and her that. It was obviously aborted

Irreplaceable01:
I did seek their consent. Carried drink to the family and visited the mother also. Nobody told me they are not in support of our union. They were just giving one silly excuses or the other. Delaying the whole process without a definite Yes or No. Try to understand.

Quit explaining yourself to people who want to be deliberately dunce. Your original post is simple and easy enough to understand.

Irreplaceable01:
As for the pregnancy, it was real. We visited my mum when she was 5 months gone and my mum confirmed it. I registered her for antenatal and her that. It was obviously aborted

WOW! So, after what you have said so far, how sure are you the pregnancy is yours? and what do you intend to do at this point? Force her to conduct a DNA test so you can have and share custody with her even with her supposedly married to someone else?

Wait a minute.... it was aborted? Well, be glad you didn't have to share custody of your child with a woman who probably made up her mind to move on long before you discovered.

Kobojunkie:
WOW! So, after what you have said so far, how sure are you the pregnancy is yours? and what do you intend to do at this point? Force her to conduct a DNA test so you can have and share custody with her even with her supposedly married to someone else?

What is your problem self...is comprehension that difficult for you. I said it was aborted and you are speaking of DNA

Irreplaceable01:
What is your problem self...is comprehension that difficult for you. I said it was aborted and you are speaking of DNA

I just updated my comment on that.

Klass99:


Quit explaining yourself to people who want to be deliberately dunce. Your original post is simple and easy enough to understand.

Thank God there are still intelligent minds here. I kept going back to the post to see if there was a mistake with the writeup.

I can not imagine how you feel