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Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by Abbeytoy(m): 9:47pm On Mar 28 |
Stevenbright: You get it, and the reason he talk to me for advice. I just want them to be happy in anything they do |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by Abbeytoy(m): 9:48pm On Mar 28 |
MrBrownJay1: I don't ask, but I think so. There's high probability of that |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by Abbeytoy(m): 9:53pm On Mar 28 |
Tjra: I am not a single father, I am married with 2 beautiful and lovely daughter's. To your advice, it would be reverted. |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by 4reala(m): 10:30pm On Mar 28 |
Your friend is acting selfish. The lady might be carrying the thought of what if the biological father comes for his son nko? Definitely there will be issues. If your friend loves the lady, let him marry the girl with the child and treat him good. It will be left for the boy to consider him as his father, depending on the way he treats him. Or else he can allow her go, because he can surely not have only her. |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:08pm On Mar 28 |
Abbeytoy: let put ourselves in that man's shoes.... so you paid for the upkeep of your child (food/shelter/medical/school fees etc) until now, and then because some man wants to marry your babymama, he wants to adopt "your" child that you've raised til now. what man in his right mind would be okay with that? |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by Abbeytoy(m): 11:11pm On Mar 28 |
MrBrownJay1: Doesn't have issues with the baby daddy, can the mother accept the terms given is the deal. |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by Abbeytoy(m): 11:13pm On Mar 28 |
4reala: Securing the future and protest his interest is now considering childish? Wow wow wow. I think I have find the perfect response for him to act on |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:17pm On Mar 28 |
Abbeytoy: the child biological father must be part of that discussion/deal... you cant possibly decide to adopt another man's child without talking to that man first and foremost (if he is alive), even if babymama accepts the adoption of her child. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by 4reala(m): 11:20pm On Mar 28 |
Abbeytoy:So you haven't seen some biological children refusing to recognize one or both parents when grown up, or even disowning some |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by Abbeytoy(m): 11:34pm On Mar 28 |
4reala: Never seen, only heard but rate... However, it's a choice to make whether to finance someone else child or not. Now, I believe he should not spend a penny on the boy or let her go |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by Abbeytoy(m): 11:36pm On Mar 28 |
MrBrownJay1: She should then agree not to finance the boy. It's not a big deal, make the biological father do |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by 4reala(m): 11:42pm On Mar 28 |
Abbeytoy:No, I'm only giving u the illustration that even his own biological son can disown him, that it's not legalizing adoption that will make the boy see him as his. He just have to show love, taking into consideration that the lady is also going to show love to his own son |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by 4reala(m): 11:42pm On Mar 28 |
Abbeytoy:No, I'm only giving u the illustration that even his own biological son can disown him, that it's not legalizing adoption that will make the boy see him as his. He just have to show love, taking into consideration that the lady is also going to show love to his own son. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:52pm On Mar 28 |
Abbeytoy: it IS a big deal... remember, its more than just a financial issue. but ok, lets look at it in all repercussions.... 1st of all, if/when that child lives in his house, will he pay part of the rent too? if/when that child rides in his car with them, will he pay Uber fee too? if/when he uses that man's cooking gas to cook his own food, will he pay part of the gas bill? if/when that child uses light in his room or electricity to play with his Playstation or charge his phone, will he pay part of the Nepa bill too? 2nd, when that child turns a teenager and start to be rebellious IN THAT MAN'S home, who will discipline him? when that teenage child (probably bigger than his mother now) insult his mother and disrespects her. who will discipline him now? when that teenage child misses curfew and comes home at 3 in the morning drunk or high, who will discipline him and teach him respect? when that teenage child brings his yeye friends over and start to mess around with all type of girls OR any type of drugs, who will discipline him? a man with AUTHORITY must be in this child's life 24/7 to show him guidance, to teach/raise him and instill in him the proper values, care, love and upbringing. most mothers can only raise a child until 12/13yrs old, after that, the authority/strength and NO messing around attitude of daddy comes into play. 3rd, the reality is that there can only be one head in your household, and that person must be listened to by EVERYONE IN YOUR HOME, no exception whatsoever. nobody can be in your home pretending that they dont have to answer to you (the head of the household). the minute someone believes that they are only there as "tourists", then your home is about to be messed with. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by WeddingParol: 9:57am On Mar 29 |
Kobojunkie: First time of reading something objective from ....... Today is a good day. Happy 😊 Good Friday |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by Segun2222: 2:03am On Apr 07 |
MrBrownJay1:single mothers will always keep the door open for their baby daddies the friend will always be the 3rd party in the relationship |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by Michelle55: 10:35am On Apr 07 |
Babinski:Apt💯 |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by Ishilove: 10:54am On Apr 07 |
Abbeytoy:Is the baby daddy active in the child's life and living up to his responsibilities? |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by justlovesfarmin: 6:27am On Apr 08 |
Why does he want to make another person’s child his? As a single father himself, would he want another man to take legal custody of his child. He is a red flag abeg. The lady should find her and son a better man. |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by NoToPile: 7:42am On Apr 08 |
He's also a single father, if his child was with the mother and she allows her husband adopt him thereby losing any right to him how would he feel. Always dishing what you can't accept. He should go and marry a lady with no child. |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by Abbeytoy(m): 6:20pm On Apr 10 |
Ishilove: I am not sure of that |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by Abbeytoy(m): 6:21pm On Apr 10 |
justlovesfarmin: The message is clear... It's not a must but he won't allowed him in his house or take care of him. They are cool if he take the boy to his father. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Faces Dilemmas Over A Partner's Child Adoption. by Abbeytoy(m): 6:22pm On Apr 10 |
NoToPile: The message is clear... It's not a must but he won't allowed him in his house or take care of him. They are cool if he take the boy to his father |
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