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|The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by PHBABE(f): 6:06am On Oct 12, 2007|
The Story Of My Life-------by Mrs.Roseline Nnawuihe
My name is Roseline Nnawuihe. I am the wife of Nze Benjamin
Nnawuihe from Umuezukwe, Awo-Omamma, Imo state, Nigeria, and
we live in Dallas.
I have been following very closely the various write-ups on
the internet, especially those written by my husband with
regard to the upcoming Orlu elections in Dallas, and I have
come to the conclusion that I can no longer keep quiet while
innocent people¢s character and personality are slowly but
surely being destroyed. For those who have been following
the internet lately, Mr. Benjamin Nnawuihe in his most
recent writings, indicated that me his wife, has been
sleeping around with other men. He has also waged a war
against another man who he claims is the cause of all his
I have been married to Benjamin Nnawuihe for 20years, and
had 5 children for him. I was married to him at the age of
18years, and joined him in Dallas from Nigeria after my high
school. For those 20years of marriage which can pass for
20years of bondage and slavery, I have had to endure
constant physical abuse, verbal abuse, and emotional abuse
and mental torture in the hands of Mr. Nnawuihe. On my very
first day in this country, he sat me down and lectured me on
the ills of associating with other people. It did not matter
who. He cut me off from all my relatives and my friends. He
did not allow me to talk to anybody on the phone. He got me
pregnant every year even when I protested, because according
to him, he did not want all those men eying his beautiful
He would not let me out of the house unless to go to
work or to go to the grocery, and I was on the time clock
for both errands. When I come home from grocery, my husband
will go through the list of items on the receipt to make
sure they were only the things that he wanted. He would make
me return any of the items to the store if it was a personal
thing. For the purchase of the grocery, he will tear out one
check leaf and write the name of the store on it. I have
worked two jobs since my arrival in this country. God help
me if I was running more than fifteen minutes late in coming
home. I would get the physical beating of my life. He would
call my job at school and make complaints to get me fired.
He actually called the police a few years back and alleged
that I was into Medicare fraud. I refused to call the police
even when I was urged on by many people because I loved him,
and also because he threatened my life if he ever had a
police record. Even then, he still called the police himself
and made a report just to build up a record against me.
I would hide my bodily bruises from people, and lie just to
protect him. Last year 2006, while he was leaving for ORA
convention in Miami, he seized my cell phone so that I do
not talk to anybody while he is away. When I tried to get
the phone from him, he called the police and told them that
I prevented him from making a 911 call. I thought it was all
a joke until the police came and handcuffed me and put me in
jail. I spent that weekend in jail while he was away in
Miami enjoying himself. I had no way of contacting anybody.
Even my children were helpless and stayed at home hungry. My
16year old son then contacted my friend Mrs. Livina Ike who
contacted a lawyer. That lawyer was attorney Godson Anyanwu
who bailed me from jail and handled that case. He is a
living witness today.
This man is so insecure that I got a beating anytime he sighted me greeting any man, even if they are his relatives. Whenever we went to parties together, we
will always leave early fighting all the way home just
because a man asked me for a dance and he would attack the
person. At my age, I still look VERY GOOD, and I am grateful
to my God for that. Every man that talked to me or
complemented me was my lover. I have gradually learned to
put up some resistance and not curl up like a baby and cry
all day as I used to. Benjamin Nnawuihe can talk and bark
all night long when he is mad, and still go to work in the
morning. He forbade me from owning a cell phone because he
wanted to make sure I was not talking to other men behind
him. It was not until two years ago after I had a tire
blow-out on my way from work and was stranded on the highway
at midnight that I disobeyed him and got a cell phone. Even
though I have been the major bread-winner in the household,
I will always handover my paycheck to Ben every pay day as
he instructed, and I was forbidden from owning a bank
account, or to call my parents in Nigeria, not to talk of
sending any money to them to feed with. Benjamin has never
been gainfully employed since I arrived in this country, but
he was able to build a house in Nigeria with all the money
he collected from me. It was only a few years ago that I
disobeyed him and opened an account because it was becoming
difficult for him to give me money even to buy my
under-wears. My husband¢s relationship with his children
is even worse. He beats and abuses them on the slightest
pretext. He does not know how those children are fed or
clothed. Unlike other fathers he does notparticipate in any
of the children¢s school activities. When they disagree
with him on any issue, he threatens to disown them. For the
past one year, he is not on speaking terms with our 17year
old son because he does not agree with his father¢s
treatment of me and Benjamin Nnawuihe has told him several
times that he is not his father. Anybody who has seen this
boy will see the carbon copy of Benjamin Nnawuihe. Mr.
Nnawuihe has not allowed me to travel to Nigeria since 1999
even when my father died, or even to go see my sick old
Through all these years, I have been very supportive of my
husband. I have been faithful to him till this day but he
will always accuse me of sleeping around due to his
insecurity. He is a very hateful and wicked man and he does
not forgive. People see him as a very angry man who never
smiles, and they wonder how I have put up with him all these
years. He does not have any friends because he cannot keep
friends. His politics is that of bitterness and personal
destruction. He is very devilish and should be avoided by
decent people. In 2004 he had a land dispute at home with a
man from Umuezukwe, Awo-Omamma. While traveling to Nigeria
that year, he swore that the young man will not be alive to
live on that piece of property. He later rushed back to the
United States suddenly. I later learned that the young man
in the land dispute has been shot dead by unknown people. Is
Ben Nnawuihe a murderer? You be the Judge.This is just one
of several cases.
Let me get to the issue about Dr. Okechukwu. For the
records, let me state that I have never had any extramarital
affairs with anybody for that matter since I married Mr.
Benjamin Nnawuihe. My God knows this, and Benjamin Nnawuihe
knows this. In 2005 OOPA elections, I was running for the
post of PRO against Mr. Ifeanyi Iwunze who is Dr.
Okechukwu¢s good friend. I was not comfortable going
through with an election because I felt that I will lose
because people hate my husband. I was advised by those who
know him to approach Dr. Okechukwu to help in urging Mr.
Iwunze to step down for me because they were very good
friends. My husband was not in good terms with the Iwunze
family, so I asked Dr. Okechukwu not to tell my husband
about it because he will feel insulted. Later on, my husband
saw details of phone calls between me and Dr. Okechukwu on
our phone bill and accused me of sleeping with him. He
refused to listen to any explanations. About two weeks later
n December 2005, Dr. Okechukwu visited us with his wife and
children in what ndi-igbo call ¡igba oriko¢. They ate,
drank, and spent the entire Sunday evening with us. Dr.
Okechukwu used the opportunity to explain everything to my
husband that nothing happened between us, and that it was
just politics. Mr. Nnawuihe will not let the matter go. He
called Dr. Okechukwu on the phone several times threatening
that he will kill him, and Dr. Okechukwu reported the matter
to the police. He has vowed that he will destroy Dr.
Okechukwu¢s reputation in Dallas, United States, and
Nigeria. He is going around telling people that Dr.
Okechukwu writes me checks in thousands of dollars and
bought a car for me. I am here to state that Dr. Okechukwu
has not given me any money, and does not give me any money.
For years I put up with Benjamin Nnawuihe letting me use the
car to work when it pleases him, and seizing the keys when
it does not please him. In order not to lose my job, I saved
up some money to buy a car. Mr. Nnawuihe went with me the
day I bought my car. It was the little money I saved up I
used to make down payment like everyone else and I am
carrying a car note. Anybody who has had an accident and
been to a doctor will understand what I am about to say. I
was involved in an accident with my car. I received
treatment at Medical Rehabilitation clinic owned by Dr.
Okechukwu/ Dr. Ezenagu/ Dr. Ozor. The money that was paid by
the insurance company included $300 (three hundred dollars)
for pain and suffering which was paid to me on the official
clinic check. My husband seized that check till this day but
continues to tell people that Dr. Okechukwu wrote a check
for one thousand dollars for me. My husband knows the truth
because he was aware of my treatment, and also because has
had the same experience with Dr. Okechukwu in the past. If
Mr. Nnawuihe can prove his story, then I am guilty of
everything he has accused me of. My problems with Benjamin
Nnawuihe started long before Dr. Okechukwu arrived in town,
and has taken a turn for the worse since Acho Orabuchi and
his wife got involved in my family affairs and became his
chief adviser. I want people to ask around in Dallas what
happened to several families that took Acho Orabuchi in as
their friend and adviser. Ask Chief Ike. Ask Mr. Godwin
Ibekwe, ask Mr. Festus Okorie. Where do I stop? Yet Acho
Orabuchi continues to live with his own wife Ngozi Kate
Orabuchi who was arrested for shoplifting in 1997, and again
convicted of shoplifting and theft in 1999. If Acho Orabuchi
wants me to post the public record on the internet, let him
declare that I am lying. This same people will go on the
internet, pass moral judgments on others and circulate
salacious materials about them. Are the Orabuchis home
wreckers and more? You be the judge.
I have no University education because Benjamin Nnawuihe
wanted me only to work and not go to school. My grammar may
not be the best, but I have tried my best with some of my
educated female friends to put my ideas together in this
My experience in the hands of Mr. Benjamin Nnawuihe will
fill a whole novel. I have only given a brief summary of it.
Anybody reading my story will ask why I am telling it. I
have two reasons. The world must know the truth about who
Benjamin Nnawuihe really is because he has taken the moral
high ground and he has put his family matter out there. I
left Benjamin Nnawuihe nine months ago while he was in
Nigeria because knowing him, that is the only time that I
can leave safely. I have waited this long to do it because I
wanted my children to grow up a little more in a family
setting with a father and a mother but Benjamin Nnawuihe
chose not to be a responsible father. I will wonder for the
rest of my life if I made a good decision, but I leave it in
Gods hands. The second reason for my story is that I believe
there are hundreds of women out there married to Nigerian
men who are living my life. They need to know that they have
a choice. If there is anybody out there who thinks that what
Benjamin Nnawuihe has done to me is acceptable, it is my
prayers that their daughters meet the same fate when they
I do not have much access to the internet. I am asking
whosoever that reads my story to please send it out to as
many forums as they have access to. Silence they say is
golden. But if you are dealing with a mad, sad, disgruntled
man like Benjamin Nnawuihe, silence will no longer be
Thank you for taking the time to read my story and may God
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by iice(f): 6:22am On Oct 12, 2007|
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by kaypinchi(m): 7:07am On Oct 12, 2007|
Na wah o!
This woman has been pushed to the wall.
Can we get to hear the other side of the story?
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by efuah(f): 9:54am On Oct 12, 2007|
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by omena555(f): 10:00am On Oct 12, 2007|
na wa oh! i read this story in one other thread yesterday and till now i dont just know what to say!
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by Busta(f): 5:48pm On Oct 12, 2007|
Is this 4 real?
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by presido1: 6:50pm On Oct 12, 2007|
For the purchase of the grocery, he will tear out oneand he does not work, how come he has money in his acc? does he take social?
I had no way of contacting anybody.Even my children were helpless and stayed at home hungry. Myhow did your 16 yr old son contact your friend when u do not have anyway of contacting anybody.
I will always handover my paycheck to Ben every pay day as he instructedHow do he clear your paycheck as it is not written in his name and he must present an ID before a check cashing agency must pay him.
Dr. Okechukwu visited us with his wife and children in what ndi-igbo call ¡igba oriko¢.As far as i know this event cannot be done anywhere except infront of a deity. How come your family and Dr Okechukwu's did it in Dallas. Aru emeee.
Am not doubting your story neither do i beleive in it. But some things you wrote has a slim chance of happening in America, especially flogging his kids, he can go to jail for that alone takless of keeping them hungry. Did u learn how to drive in Nigeria or he allowed you to go for driving lesson when he is not the driving instructor and who paid for that when you are forbiden to open an acc or even cash your pay check.
This will make a very big hit in Nollywood. Try them.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by Ezinwannem: 7:07pm On Oct 12, 2007|
alot of this things are happening in the U.S, I have witnessed alot, Naija men in da States depends on their wife and then they dont work, It is is very sad, but da good thing is that it will neva happen in this generation unless the person is a fool
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by Seun(m): 7:14pm On Oct 12, 2007|
This is a fabricated story. Why can't the woman just go to the police? We are not fools here.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by presido1: 7:19pm On Oct 12, 2007|
Ezinwannem:Are u Sure? did u read the full story? Police handcuffing and putting you in jail for the whole weekend cos you stopped ur husband to dial 999. Are they nigerian police?
Seun:Not far from that i think.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by almondjoy(f): 2:53pm On Nov 03, 2007|
That shows you are so uninformed and unexposed. If you restrict anyone from using the phone to call for help----that constitutes "false imprisonment" if you do not know. Try working in a "domestic" abuse unit abroad or read it up. America is not like Nigeria where you infringe on peoples' rights like animals. You have no right to restrict anyone's movement since he or she is not your "hostage". Please try and educate yourself or travel more often and see how civilized societies handle such issues.
Had a Nigerian room-mate once while I was an undergrad here and this friend/roomate of mine dated a Nigerian with a foul temper once and when she felt she felt she was not safe around the "beast"--just picked up the phone---dialed 911, She did not even have time to say her name or address before the beast snatched the phone from her hands hands and smashed it on the hard wood floor. She could not get to any phone, around the apartment. He even prevented her from leaving the room and told her if she tried any rubbish he was going to kill her she later told me. Did not even know what was happening early that Sunday morning still I was still in bed--with my own "beast" in ma own section of the apartment.
But guess what? The girl said within 3 minutes from placing that call, about 10 police cars were outside ma door with swat teams. I know because I opened the damn door and saw all these cops outside the apartment. The first question they asked the fool was "Sir? Did you restrict the young lady from using the phone? He said no--and behold there was the smashed up phone on the bedroom floor. They just handcuffed the mother fucker in his pyjamas with no shoes straight to jail. I can never ever forget that humiliating site of that guy looking pitiful in his jammies off to jail. My heart melted with regret--his face and how he looked so helpless. How he was bailed only God knows. He was instructed never to come within 50 feet of the lady ever again. The rest of his "sleepover" belongings were dropped off at the police precinct by my room mate.
Never saw the fool again. Till date---a false imprisonment record is still on his record because the roomate of mine refused to tolerate that crap and filed formal charges of domestic abuse against him. JUST FOR A SIMPLE ARGUMENT!!!! I was so proud of her. I would have done the same and if I ever display such animalistic tendencies, I would like to be apprehended ASAP before someone gets hurt.
How can anyone be in America for heaven's sake for over 20 years and still live like they are in Ohafia? Well, I blame the lady more than I blame the man. This Mrs. Roseline Unawuihe of a lady caused most of the problem by allowing this beast to walk all over her like that in America of all places. Well, thank God she is still alive. She will definitely have to solve this mess herself and cannot get help from anyone if she does not try to help herself first. What a pity.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by almondjoy(f): 3:18pm On Nov 03, 2007|
They are very many of them here. Show up with "black eye syndrome" at work and were dark shades for weeks even at night. How do you call the cops on the father of your children? Then most of these women are the breadwinners of the home. All expenses will fall on the women while the "niggerized nigerian spouse" eat his hot dog in jail peacefully. Especially when you know you are the one who will eventually pay to bail him out? Then you have to deal with the stigma of a "battered" woman around the community. Then you have to explain to your kids what the heck is going on. Police matter for America no be joke oh! You think it is Nigeria where everything goes with the ye ye police force. In America, the last place you want to find yourself is in police wahala. These fuckers do not play. Then you are black too. They would gladly put you on the news and use you as part of their statistics of dysfunctional immigrant families.
You have to be prepared finacially and emotionally to go that route. You need a lot of money/ attorney fees/ child care arrangement/ time off work--Gosh-- I used to work there and I say it is not funny at all. Most of the women who come there to report their spouses regret it because they did not think it through before making statements and get tangled in the technicality of the "domestic abuse" process. YOU HAVE TO BE READY OH! or don't even try it at all. You cannot stop that ball when it starts rolling. Your children can even be taken away when they police find out what kind of environment they have been growing up in.
Too many reasons why the woman do not go to the police. Once you involve the police---the real wahala starts then. You will spend more time in court and counselling sessions than in your own house. The wahala is so much that you will even regret calling the police especially if you are married. Your name will be on the records next to his. Public records anyone can look into.
The best way to prevent this type of rubbish is to not let it happen at all. When it has gone on for over 20 years--there is not a whole lot you can do anymore. Too late now. The only thing to practice now is damage control. You know Nigerians in general---Igbo people especially can be very secretive when it comes to this kind of thing. They would rather die in silence than come out and admit they are being punched behind closed doors by their men. Just to save face. What a sick culture of abuse.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by omoge(f): 3:44pm On Nov 03, 2007|
well said almondjoy. You are VERY correct!!! You don't even have to say anything on the phone to get the police there, just dial and the police will always locate you no matter where you are. Very TRUE and VERY GOOD system here!
Where the poster is living is not Nigeria where police wait till you are dead. They don't play with domestic violence here. Devil bless the man that acts violent to his woman. You won't get away with it unless like Roseline, you accept the nonsense from him.
Fear might be the reason.
I have heard and read that some Nig men prefer to marry from home because they believe a nigeria woman won't call the police for you unlike the White/Black American women.
May we never cross path with the ruthless ones.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by Pain: 1:06pm On Nov 25, 2007|
My Heart Bleeds. This Was A Life of Captivity. No One Deserves This!
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by amsky(m): 5:41pm On Dec 10, 2007|
o!!!!!!! wat a pity.this ben guy just met the wrong person.if it were a woman like me,that guy would have been on exile by now.i tell u ladies out there.no matter what,never let anyone treat you this way,once you have the slightest inkling that a guy can be this beastly,you just fashi him fast fast.and if you decide to put up with it like this lady has done for 20yrs then you can put up with it for life.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by stillwater: 5:39am On Dec 24, 2007|
This is chilly, not a story to read before going to bed. But I believe the story especially the part the guy doesn't work, while the wife works because it's happening to a relative now, but thank God my aunt's not silly.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by wendymanda: 6:40am On Dec 24, 2007|
I think this is made up because if true her 16yr old child would at some point have enough.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by awestreet(m): 3:06pm On Dec 30, 2007|
look, these are the type of stories that give Nigeria a bad name. this story is very yahooze-like. STOP DEY SPOIL OUR COUNTRY NAME.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by stark(m): 5:26am On Jan 11, 2008|
MADAM AM REALLY VERY SORRY FOR ALL THAT U WENT THRU FOR THE PAST 20 YEARS. BUT IF I MAY ASK, IF UR "LONG STORY" IS ANY THING TO DEAL WITH, WHY DID YOU CHOOSE TO GO THRU ALL THIS HELL, BEFORE LETTING THE CAT OUT OF THE BAG, WHEN U HAVE ALTERNATIVE OPTIONS TO GO FOR REDRESS. GET THE POLICE INVOLVED OR DIVORCE! AM AFRAID IF U ARE REALLY SAYING ALL THE TRUTH. WE ALL KNOW THAT THE ALMIGHTY AMERICAN LAWS PROTECTS THE WOMEN WELL MORE THAN THE MEN. ARE U GOOFED?
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by WesleyanA(f): 3:11pm On Jan 18, 2008|
she said her husband brought her from her village in Nigeria at age 18 (easy victim) who knows if she even has green card.
but 20 years is still too long of a time to come into ones senses. lol
so many women like that in the US even american ones. they even showcase them on Oprah sometimes
some episode on Oprah talked about formulating an escape plan
keep a diary, hide all important documents, keep a key copy with a neighbor or friend etc. before calling the police or running away. and make sure he won't find you where you're hiding. lol i watch too much Oprah
some women are dumb though to let stuff like that happen to them.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by waleab: 4:11pm On Feb 11, 2008|
wonderful illeterate wants to be a PRO!!!!!!!!!!
me smell a manipulative spirit here. almondjoy is correct in her write up but i dont believe this happened. just tooo sleek and too convinient.
good write up though and a good try for a first draft
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by eaz(f): 1:16am On Feb 14, 2008|
Almondjoy has done justice to the issue. I have a relation who is putting his wife through worse than what this lady is passing through in the same U.S. We learnt that she was a prisoner in her home through some relatives that went to visit and met the lady indoors with the door firmly locked against her and her kids. Some years back they were in the news when the guy wanted to amputate the lady's hands in the presence of his kids for whatever reason. We in got to find out when my husband got a mail like this lady's story at work, read it and saw that an Enugu person was invoved and another person mentioned in the story had the same surname with me. The story was that a neighbour of ours in Enugu that lives in the U.S killed his wife in a domestic incident and my realations story was reffered to as similar incident. The kids were taken to a shelter but later returned to the wife. Till today, if the guy and his wife have killed themselves we don't know. What we know is that somehow, the lady is passing through all that poo.
All you doubters and hole pickers and proffesional script assesors should not laugh or scorn other people's pain. It could be your sister or your daughter.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by nwando: 1:46am On Feb 14, 2008|
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by blacklion(m): 10:03am On Feb 15, 2008|
First of all BEFORE the feminazis on nairaland pounce on me, I am not Ben Nnawuihe. I am not his lawyer or his advocate. I don't support wife battering or enslavement.
This story and the husband's version were posted on email lists of some Igbo organizations in the US. That's how the story got out as people began circulating the story of Rose and Ben to their friends for laughs. Those of us who are on the original email lists have a better perspective because we saw the origins of the story and the katakata that followed.
I am NOT supporting Ben. I don't know Ben and Rose. I don't live in Dallas.
But I do know that this story suddenly cropped up at a time when one Dr. Theodore Okechuku was contesting for presidency of an Igbo organization in Dallas. Ben Nnawuihe was one of his opponents. Ben circulated email alleging that Rose was having an affair with Dr. Okechuku and that she was one of his many mistresses. Wha we have been reading here is Rose's version of the story. I will post Ben so each and every one of you can judge for himself who is telling the truth.
I will shut up here. Again, I am NOT supporting Ben or Rose.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by blacklion(m): 10:07am On Feb 15, 2008|
This is one of the emails from Ben. I will post some from Rose and Dr. Okechuku later -
in a message dated 9/29/2007 1:25:34 AM Central Daylight Time,
My dear brothers and sisters:
I was rather laughing going through the purported story of my estranged wife. Though it is not good to pray for situations like this but sometimes it is good for things to happen. I always wondered if it is possible even though I have seen several people go through this every day. When people told me to be careful with what I ate, how and where I slept at night and my movement in and around the house suggesting danger or badly body harm to me when were together, I will always laugh and respond that she wouldn’t go that far. But allowing herself to be used in this purported story by Dr. Theodore Emeka Okechuk(w)u and Emeka Godfrey Iwunze with the help and advice of Attorney Charles Uzoma Maduka made me to believe that I had endangered myself living with this woman under the same roof for over a year plus after the problems started because she could have been used for other purposes.
Ordinarily, no one would want to engage in a fight with a woman and wins so easily no matter what, not to talk about the mother of your children (if she wouldn’t also lie about that.) Personally, I would have left this matter alone but going through it once more, I am compelled to respond one or two of her false allegations. How and where do I start or end? Do I start by leveling same false allegations on her as she had just did to me? I don’t think so, rather I will try to dignify her and keep praying to God so that one day she would realize herself and come back to her normal senses because I feel Okechukwu has brainwashed her so much that she only thinks and does what Dr. Okechukwu tells her to do and not the kids or me.
It would have been more appropriate if she had put more thoughts to the story before publishing. This is not also a story of a woman seek for help or slavery but rather the story of a greedy wild woman running around town looking for greener pasture. Unfortunately some individuals are already taken advantage of it trying to buy sympathy and shut me up. Unfortunately, they are wrong and won’t succeed.
First, the allegation of murder leveled here is so grave that I must categorically deny it. I think the right words after reading the paragraph were shock, surprise and of no merit needless to talk about reading this from someone who supposedly has known me for more than eighteen years of marriage. The allegation is baseless, nonsense and unfounded. Neither my parents, my grand parents, nor any of my relations had ever been involved or associated with blood. I have never taken anyone’s life whether it is direct or indirect. As she pointed out, I am from Umuezukwe Awo-Omamma in Oru East Local Government Area of Imo State. I implore anyone wishing to know more to please verify.
Since becoming adult and to the best of my knowledge, no one had missed or died mysteriously in my village not to talk about me being involved. I have not been involved in any land dispute that resulted to death. I am not a violent person. I love people and humanity which is why I am involved in politics. I have done so much politically to help the community. Through this political process I have met a lot of people including Dr. Theodore Okechukwu unfortunately who destroyed my family and is totally out to further the destruction. I still cannot understand his motives. Trying to define or portray me as a murderer is unbelievable. Fortunately, they will not succeed. God is not asleep! I have regularly visited home every Christmas for the past twelve years and was in Nigeria twice in 2003. Please recall that here in Dallas, three to five persons had lost there lives due to infidelity, yet I have never at any time considered that as an option but to keep praying and asking God to change their hearts so we can raise our children together as husband and wife.
Secondly, she alleged abuse in our marriage and to that of the kids. I will also categorically deny that accusation. For sixteen years, our marriage was one of the ideal and admirable marriages in this community. I have never laid my hands on her before nor were police called in to our house until she started her love affairs with Dr. Okechukwu. The first police that visited our home was called by her girlfriend. She had falsely sent police from her home alleging that we were in a fight. Fortunately, when the police came, we were eating the food that she prepared with the kids. They told us that someone had called that we are fighting. The kids and I laughed at the officers. They were shocked to the response from our children. I told them to go after the person that made the call for false police report. Then my estranged wife told them that the incident happened in the morning when the kids were asleep. She did that just to validate and save her friend from trouble. After asking too many questions, they found out that she was lying. They cautioned and left. From there on it was police every now and then. Since I already knew what their game plans were, to get me arrested and or get me on an assault charge/record. Why would I fall for such trap. Her boyfriend, Dr. Okechukwu digs into my records every now and then both locally and nationally to find something on me in other to keep me quiet. Unfortunately for them, they couldn’t find anything after twenty four-years of living in the USA.
I have never abused any of my children. They all love me and I love them. We treat each other with respect. If I had treated them badly as she alleged, and with the advice of the police informing us about the rights we all have to call them any time no matter the reason, they would have capitalized on that. For over two years I was going through this trauma, I have the option of divorce or separation realizing the fact that there was no marriage in our relationship but I still did not divorce or separated do it because of the children. She abandoned the kids for four days while I was in Nigeria last December claiming that I went home without telling her. With the advice of Dr. Okechukwu who promised her heaven and earth including financial support, she moved out of the house while I was in Nigeria. She is so brainwashed by Okechukwu that I started to think if she is okay. She never thinks any thing positive about the kids nor do things for them needless to talk about me. We have five children. I have three living with me and two are staying with her. The three that are with me are happy and well taken care of.
“About two weeks later n December 2005, Dr. Okechukwu visited us with his wife and children in what ndi-igbo call ‘igba oriko’. They ate, drank, and spent the entire Sunday evening with us. Dr. Okechukwu used the opportunity to explain everything to my husband that nothing happened between us, and that it was just politics. Mr. Nnawuihe will not let the matter go.” >>> Rose Nnawuihe
Speaking of ‘igba oriko, I am a bona fide Igbo man. My understanding of the word 'Igba Oriko' is that there must be a commission of an unbecoming act. And they have never admitted to anything or having affairs. So what is the 'Oriko' for? Besides I never knew that Dr. Okechukwu was visiting us until all of a sudden he was at the door. I asked my estranged wife if she knew that they were coming, and she answered, no. I immediately told Dr. Okechukwu not to try such visit next time because I hate to be taken by surprise. Look at his wife’s face, it seemed like she does not know about the visit and the so-called ‘Igba Oriko’. However, the truth of the matter is that Dr. Okechukwu had told my estranged wife that they were coming but she kept it away from me and lied even when I asked her about it. She had earlier prepared ngwo-ngwo which she served while they were visiting and for the first time, she took drinks from the storage and chilled without my knowledge or help from the kids. Usually our kids refill the refrigerator when it is empty. While they were visiting, he never raised the issue nor did he tell me the purpose of their visit. We were there watching the game and after the game they left.
Let me clearly state this; she caused this problem for her self because of greed and selfishness which made her broke her marriage and enter into relationship or love affairs with Dr. Theodore Emeka Okechukwu, who is also married; a love affair that has gone so wild and far and no longer a secret in Dallas for nearly two and half years. All efforts to stop them by Mrs. Vivian Okechukwu (Dr. Okechukwu’s wife), myself and others failed. Chief Humphrey Agbor and Engr. Ike Agbor, who are Dr. Okechukwu’s brothers and fellow Otulu men here in Dallas went to him pleading for him to leave people’s wives alone. He refused. Please recall that Rose Nnawuihe is not the only woman Dr. Okechukwu is involved with but I am one of those fighting it because of the kids. He has four known women (mistresses) and six other part time lovers within our Orlu alone. Around Dallas, more than four others and one Anambra man whose wife is a Cameroonian is also fighting this criminal. Dr. Okechukwu was involved with the family that just perished here recently due to infidelity (wife dead, husband now serving forty years imprisonment and three kids all in foster home.) Too bad!
Let me not try to dwell on this so much however, I implore anyone wishing to know or see more of what I have as evidence to please call or visit with me. I know sometimes we hate to hear the truth. Same time, we hate to see people take laws into their hands. Now that I prefer to talk about it as a victim of Dr. Thoedore Okechukwu, people still don’t like to hear it. Some are even suggesting that I “take it off the table … it’s your personal problem … deal with it yourself”. Had it been I tried to handle this differently, same people would say; “oh, he’s wrong , if I had heard it… he should have brought it for us to do something.”
We have never thought about the fact that Dr. Thoedore Okechukwu is married. His wife is equally suffering in silent. For instance, my estranged wife was in a fight with Mrs. Okechukwu last December at her home where she went for a Christmas-eve party at the invitation of Dr. Okechukwu without Mrs. Okechukwu’s knowledge. Mrs. Vivian Okechukwu knew her husband is having affairs with Rose Nnawuihe. When Rose Nnawuihe came in, Mrs. Okechukwu immediately confronted her to leave and she refuse because Dr. Okechukwu had given her the impression that she is part of the family. Instead of leaving Mrs. Okechukwu’s home, she started fighting Mrs. Okechukwu in her own home. This was happening while I was in Nigeria. Additionally, Mrs. Okechukwu had confronted her on many occasions over the phone and even sent people to warn her to stay away from her husband. On December 16, 2006, at a birthday party Dr. Okechukwu had organized for one of his illegitimate children, Rose Nnawuihe danced close together (wholesale) with Dr. Okechukwu throughout the evening. Many people were calling for me to come and see things for myself because I was not there too and Mrs. Okechukwu was not there too. They have been seen at several different parties dancing and in hotels, restaurants, stripper club and bars.
We have not also thought about this man who is Being Intimate with women without protection and the risk and danger involved in spreading diseases. One would want to ask me how do you know this; well, considering the fact that his bad life style had produced two to four babies, proved that no precautions were taken. Remember that all of these women are married and their husbands might not be aware of their wives activities, and neither would he be expected to use one at home thereby endangering his wife.
I have to take this opportunity to thank all the callers for your wonderful support and encouragement. This summarizes the world we all live in that a wife and mother of your five children would ever ally with political opponents in order to get cheap popularity and destroy the family. I am not a candidate in this election however the candidate, Dr. Theodore Okechukwu’s character, credibility and integrity must be defined. If not for anything, at least for us to be aware of the imminent danger of the criminal amongst us and whom we deal with. As a victim, I believe it is incumbent on me to remain focus in this cause of education to our community.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by blacklion(m): 10:08am On Feb 15, 2008|
---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: theodore okechuku <email@example.com>
Date: Mon, Oct 1, 2007 at 7:00 AM
Subject: [IGBO_FORUM] Re: [ICANDFW_FORUM] Bne Nnawuihe responds to Purported "Roseline Nnawuihe tells her story"
To: ICANDFW_FORUM@yahoogroups.com, IGBO_FORUM@yahoogroups.com, firstname.lastname@example.org, oopa <email@example.com>, firstname.lastname@example.org, email@example.com
DEMAND TO RETRACT
Dear Mr. Benjamin Nnawuihe,
I have just read the most libelous piece of material which you posted all over the internet today with the deliberate intention to impugn my character and my person. In consideration of my leadership position in the society and my profession, in consideration that this is a figment of your imagination, I demand that you retract the entire information line by line. I also demand from you an immediate and unreserved letter of appology.
You have 24 hours to carry out this demand begining from 12:01am on 10/01/2007 until 12:01am on 10/02/2007.
Theodore E. Okechukwu, MD.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by blacklion(m): 10:11am On Feb 15, 2008|
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From: Nneka Okoro <firstname.lastname@example.org>
Date: Oct 3, 2007 2:57 AM
Subject: [IGBO_FORUM] Rose Nnawuihe is not the only woman
my sister Mrs. Ibenaso,
Please pray for orlu people. Their sins are plenty.
You are unfairly harsh on Rose Nnawuihe. Don't get me wrong as a mother she is suppose to be there for her children. She is not the only woman wrecking the family of Mrs Vivian Okechukwu. Many orlu married women are sleeping with okechukwu. Mr. Nnawuihe brought his own to public. Vivian told a friend that she hated Meg Duru who her husband paid about $10,000 to decorate their home. During the time of decoration Meg Duru and Okechukwu was staying alone in the house and knowing her husband history she disliked the lady. Meg Duru is a nurse and not interior designer or decorator. There are other women going after okechukwu money. It is greed. Don't blame Okechukwu. When they take money from him they have to pay. Their husbands are owing Okechukwu too. There are women like Theresa Duru, Ifeyinwa Iwunze, Emeka iwunze's wife, Chinyere Iwunze, ifeanyi Iwunze's wife and others they are working for many home health companies and defrauding the government. What is happening in Orlu today is going to affect many innocent people. Theresa Duru, Ifeyinwa Iwunze, Emeka iwunze's wife, Chinyere Iwunze, Ifeanyi Iwunze's wife working for home health companies will put those home health companies in danger because their habit of fraud and filing false reports will come to the public to see. Investigations will come behind.
Is it not fair for you to bring out all the mess instead of hammering on Rose nnawuihe? Don't you think that the government will also come after them very soon. Am I saying orlu men and women are promiscuous. Theresa duru is divoced. It is bad for married women to go for married man. Don't blame okechukwu only. Vivian Okechukwu preacher's daughter disliked most orlu women as she disliked divoce.
The elders and chiefs cannot say anything because they are owing okechukwu money. They can't condemn okechukwu behavior. Even they do the thing okechukwu is doing. Emeka Iwunze even was one the people who chased Chika Ihegboro out of her matrimonial home. Today chika ihegboro is divoce fron Godwin ihegboro.
This orlu people are going crazy. They will not until they finish themselves. Prayers can only save this people. They must clean up their house. Felicia Mbanaja-Hadjesmaili I will contact you.
Mrs Nneka Okoro
Ifeoma Ibenaso <ifeoma.ibenaso@ yahoo.com> wrote:
ROSE NNAWUIHE YOU ARE A DISGRACE TO MOTHERHOOD
BIKO, NDI DIM NA UMU NNEM,
EKELE DIRI UNU NILE .
ROSE NNAWUIHE IS CONTITUTING A MENACE AND DISGRACE TO IGBO WOMEN AND DR. OKECHUKWU SHOULD STOP USING HER. ROSE NNAWUIHE LEAVE OKECHUKWU AND RETURN TO YOUR FAMILY. OKECHUKWU LEAVE ROSE NNAWUIHE AND CONCENTRATE ON VIVIAN AND YOUR CHILDREN.
I AM A FRIEND WITH VIVIAN OKECHUKWU. WITHOUT REVEALING THE PRIVATE DISCUSSION I HAVE HAD WITH HER, SHE IS A VICTIM TOO JUST LIKE MR. BEN NNAWUIHE AND OTHER PEOPLE. HER CHILDREN ARE VICTIMS TOO. YOU DO NOT KNOW ABOUT SERIES OF FIGHTS THAT GO ON IN THAT HOUSE. IT IS A FACT THAT HER HUSBAND'S INFIDELITY IS AFFECTING HER AND THE CHILDREN. THERE IS A PASTOR THAT IS PRAYING WITH US TO SAVE OKECHUKU FROM THESE LADIES. MRS VIVIAN OKECHUKWU IS DYING IN SILENCE AND FEAR. WE SHOULD PRAY FOR THAT FAMILY.
I AM ASHAMED TO SAY THIS IN THIS EMAIL. I DO NOT KNOW IF I SHOULD SAY IT. LET ME SAY IT VERY LOUD THAT ROSE NNAWUIHE IS A KNOWN PROSTITUTE IN DALLAS AREA. OUR IGBO CULTURE FROWNS AT HER BEHAVIOUR.
ROSE NNAWUIHE GOT FIRED IN HER JANITORIAL JOB FOR Being Intimate IN THE PARKING LOT. THE NEWS IS AROUND DALLAS .
ROSE NNAWUIHE YOU ABANDONED YOUR FAMILY AND CHILDREN. YOUR DAUGHTER MAY NOW BE SUICIDAL BECAUSE OF YOUR BEHAVIOUR AND YOU DO NOT CARE BECAUSE OF MEN.
I WONDER WHY PEOPLE HAVE NOT CALLED THE CPS TO INTERVIEW THOSE CHILDREN ESPECIALLY THE ONLY DAUGHTER YOU ARE LIVING WITH.
YOUR HUSBAND IS RAISING YOUR TWO DAUGHTERS WITHOUT A MOTHER. WHAT CAN OF MOTHER ARE YOU? DID YOUR OWN MOTHER ABANDONE YOU?
YOU SAID YOU DON'T HAVE ACCESS TO INTERNET AND YOU DON'T HAVE THE SKILLS TO WRITE YET YOU SAID IN YOUR RESPONSE TO ONE MR. TONEY THAT YOU HAVE READ EVERYTHING HE WROTE. YOU ARE DESTROYING YOURSELF AND YOU ARE A DISGRACE TO MOTHERHOOD. WHY DO YOU ALLOW MEN WHO WILL THROW YOU AWAY TOMORROW TO USE YOU? DO YOU KNOW THAT THESE MEN HAVE CRIMINAL RECORDS? DO YOU KNOW THAT THE LAWYER HAS A THEFT CRIMINAL RECORD? DO YOU KNOW WHAT OKECHUKWU IS GOING THROUGH AT THE PRESENT TIME? GET A LIFE AND LEAVE THEM FOR THEIR OWN VICES.
YOU ARE CALLING PEOPLE NAME WHILE YOUR CRIMINAL RECORD IN DALLAS COUNTY IS PATHETIC. YOU HAVE BEEN CHARGED WITH AND CONVICTED FOR ASSULTS. YOU HAVE BEEN SENT TO ANGER MANAGEMENT SCHOOL . YOU ARE STILL ON PROBATION.
ROSE NNAWUIHE YOUR THEFT, FRUAD, AND PROSTITUTION CHARGES WILL SOON BE AT YOUR DOOR STEPS AND YOU HAVE THE GUTS TO CASTIGATE DECENT FAMILIES THAT OPPOSE YOUR BAD ACTIONS.
YOU TOLD YOUR FRIEND THAT YOU DO NOT REPORT YOUR INCOME FROM THE MANY MANY HOMEHEALTH AGNCIES YOU HAVE WORKED FOR. YOU FILE A SEPARATE INCOME FOR MANY YEARS WHILE MARRIED AND NOT REPORTING THE WHOLE INCOME. THIS ACTION MAY NOW COME TO THE ATTENTION OF IRS.
ROSE NNAWUIHE IS WORKING WITH MANY MANY HOMEHEALTH AGENCIES OWNED BY NIGERIANS. THERE WAS A POLICE REPORT COMING FROM HER HOME THAT SHE IS FRAUDULENTLY DEFRAUDING THE GOVERNMENT THROUGH THE HOMEHEALTH AGENCIES. IF YOU OWN A HOMEHEALTH AGENCY AND ROSELINE CHINYERE NNAWUIHE IS VISITING ANY OF YOUR PATIENTS, YOU ARE AT YOUR OWN RISK. SHE TOLD HER FRIEND THAT SOMEONE REPORTED HER TO THE POLICE THAT SHE IS COMMITING FRAUD BY FILLING FALSE STATEMENTS AND SAME INFORMATION FOR ALL PATIENTS WHETHER SHE SAW THOSE PATIENTS OR NOT.
HOMEHEALTH AGENCY OWNERS THIS A FRAUD ALERT AND YOU SHOULD TAKE THIS SERIOUSLY. ACT IMMEDIATELY. YOU MAY BE INVOLVED.
I HAVE TWO DAUGHTERS AND THEY NEED ME. BOYS ARE VERY DIFFICULT TO RAISE IN THIS COUNTRY AND THEY NEED A MALE FIGURE IN THEIR LIFE, ESPECIALLY THEIR FATHER. NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT, BUT YOU WORK TO KEEP IT HEALTHY. THIS IS MY ADVICE TO MARRIED WOMEN WHO WANT TO RESPECT THEMSELVES.
MY HUSBAND MARRIED ME BROUGHT ME TO AMERICA WITH ONLY HIGH SCHOOL CERTIFICATE. HE SUPPORTED ME THROUGH MY EDUCATION. I HAVE NOT ABANDONED HIM AND MY FAMILY NOW THAT IAM MAKING IT. I AM GRATEFUL TO HIM.
MRS. IFEOMA IBENASO, RN, MSC. BSC
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by blacklion(m): 10:14am On Feb 15, 2008|
Folks, I hope these posts above will give you some idea what went down. Once again, I am NOT supporting Ben or Rose. I don't know them in person to know who did what to whom. Even if Rose was sleeping around, I don't support Ben batterng her or enslaving here. The sole purpose of my posting the above is provide a broader picture from all sides of the story including the Dr. Okechuku accused of being Rose's lover. BTW, Okechuku eventually won the election.
This is a very long and complicated story with so many angles to it. There were thousands of emails on this subject. I've posted just a few.
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by almondjoy(f): 7:45am On Feb 18, 2008|
What is all this?
I hope you guys got permission before you published all these things on youtube?
Na wah for Nigerians ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooh!
I no fit shout!
It only shows that you can take the can take monkey out of the bush but the bush ultimately remains in the monkey!
See wetin adults dey wash for internet? My private life? I think say na only Nairaland this kain tin dey 'appen?
This couple needs to be taken to that village square in Dallas and given at least 40 lashes of horsewhip every morning for at least 1 month to beat the madness out of them,
Say what? So this is the best way to settle their marital squabbles abi?
Once a villager, always a villager!
Look at these people?
Chaiiii! And a dey brag say ma mama come from Orlu--thank God say na lie!
Clutchin' ma Edo state passport even tighter to ma chest.
See these "Igbo" people?
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by almondjoy(f): 8:01am On Feb 18, 2008|
Abeg, shey una sabi that famous song for Naija those days.
IF YOU WANTO MARRY A HUSBAND NEVER YOU MARRY A "PSYCHO" WAKA ABOUT OH
IF YOU MARRY A PSYCHO WAKA ABOUT OH
NA SO SO TROUBLE TROUBLE TROUBLE
HA HA MY PEOPLE--------------
EVEN WHEN E DRUNK OH
KPOM KPOM KPOM
I-KPAGHA ON YOUR FACE OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH!
What did a tell you guys? If you want to marry any man from the US, please endeavor to get a psychological profile in conjunction with an STD panel to screen for diseases in advanced stages enough to cause dangerous psychosis. The reason a spent so much time on this thread:
I almost lost ma fingers in the process but for the timely intervention from God who appeared personally to me to leave that thread alone.
You ladies in Nigeria--be careful ooooooooooooooooooooooh! Please make sure you screen these "abracadabra yanky" grooms before una enter plane follow them comot from Nigeria ooooooooooooooooooooh!
Once again do your American Express thingy eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeh!
DON'T LEAVE HOME WITHOUT IT
Never leave Nigeria without a spouse! The ones abroad are maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad! Now look at what we have here? I say, a trial will convince you. How this woman stayed with this tatafo of a man is beyond me. Frankly, in his so-called defense of himself in the proceedings above, he has invariably demonstrated he is a "certified nutter"!
Look Mr. Ben Unawuihe or wharrrrrrrrrever you call yourself. If you are reading this. I have a question for you. How in the world can you go and get a Nigerian girl @ age 18 from home and after 5 or 10 children she grew enough wings under your roof that she has been living under since she was 18 years old.
BTW, why did you keep getting her pregnant against her will and despite all her protests like she rightly testified before us? If it took 20 years to grow these broken down rugged wings--she must be a gigantic slowpoke, with ebelebo fruit for brains. Most sharp Nigerian babes usually accomplish that no brainer of a task in less than 2 months with the next door neighbour. Haba!
Don't you understand that NO means NO even in a marriage. I think she and the kids should sue you for marital molestation and I hope you are locked up for the rest of your natural life in a "full way house"--not just a "half way house " for the kolomentally disturbed! silly man!
You have been warned ladies! We will not even discuss those ones from UK. We all know what they are like--- half-Unclad toothless GYPSIES!
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by j-girl: 8:20am On Feb 18, 2008|
In fact, I am speechless i didn't read the whole thing so I won't talk too much. But na wa. We don't even know how true or fabricated the story is. All we know is that these people are supposedly there. It's not only Nigerian women that are treated like this, you hear the same thing from American women in general.
Almondjoy, that was very hilarious but now I'm going to have to go home to find a spouse - I can't risk living in hell
|Re: The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by blacklion(m): 8:28am On Feb 18, 2008|
We don't even know how true or fabricated the story is.
may god bless you j-girl. its good to see a woman who can look at an issue from both perspective - not just side with her fellow woman because of her gender.
you are absolutely correct - both ben and rose have disgraced their children. what i posted above is just a mere tip of the iceberg. they posted even worse things about each other on the internet.
there is no way to know which of them is telling the truth - or even what the 'truth' is in such situations where husband and wife are trying to paint each other black
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