Hi All,
Thanks all 4 your vibrant contributions on this session.
I hav a snag that’s been bothering me 4 a while now.
I hav this friend I got 2 know thr her bros some 7yrs
Ago. In the last 4 years she has become closer to my
Mind than her bros because she is better mannered n more
Sincere than her bros who even tricked me of 10k at
Some point. Her mum knws this n has always preffered
My company with the daughter than the guy bt her
Father will nt hav any guy under the guise of anything
To spent 2mins with the girl.
In the past 2years, no day has past without us talking
Sometimes 2 or 3 tmes. She is always calling n I also
Reciprocate except of course any of us have low
Battery. I love her and she ‘likes’ me too, but
She has repeatedly tld me she has no reason to have a
Boyfriend. Often, her frnds in school accuse her of
Lying about me bt that can't change her position nt even
My subtle efforts.
The truth is I love this girl n ready to treat her as a dear
Frnd ( nt lover). This is actually my idea of frndship
B4 marriage( sorry if I hurt anybody). from my observations,
This is the kind of frnd she would like to be.
The prob I have now is that ever since we bcam serious frnds
(or close pen pals) she hasn’t visited me. I am always the only
Making all the visits if we must see. Mayb because her father will
Screw her if he finds out she is visiting a guy or because her mum
Has made her to believe that’s better to avoid undue sexual urge.

She doeant seem to be ready to mak any sacrifice 4 our frndship
beyond her daily calls.
Really, as it is she isnt obliged to me in any way. Thats also obvious
from her attitude except am been in a hurry. At the moment, people
unknwing thinks she is my girlfrnd n she once in a while acts it on phone
or in her house when we meet.
Please, i need your advise. Should stop this talking thing and face my live
expecially now that i'm at the verge of finishing my NYSC or should
i continue to be patient with her in the hope we can develop something better
in the immediate future.
Thanks

You said u dont understand your closet female friend anymore? Is she just a friend or A TRUE FRIEND? Why dont you just blurt out and let her know how u feel, moreover on the issue of visiting, dont force it on her it she will when the time is right

Well, thats y am confused- if she really taks me serious.
I really dont have a prob abt visiting in itself. Its just
that it shows hw much u mean to pple.
She knws i care abt her both in my words to her
n my actions. Sometimes, i do some things which
she confesses trips her bt she wudnt b forthcoming
after many years.

speak2des

i understand how it hurts not to be loved in return, but why not let go of her and look for someone else out there who's gonna love and appreciate you. Common!!!!!!!

Bros, I feel you but plenty women dey so move on.

I have thought abt that. In fact in the last 3 days i hvnt called her,
bt she been calling daily. This makes me feel her the more.
Moreover, she seems so unique in every respect.
I mix well with girls- mayb an extrovert, bt there is sometin
abt her that keeps me attached.
Sometimes, i feel she shld just stop calling me so i can
overcome the thought of her with time bt she just wudnt
stop. Hw can i shout on her to stop calling when 4rm the
beginning she has always only sounded like a genuine,
sincere frnd who wudnt b involved emotionally.

you dont understand your closest female friend and i dont understand yourpost!

Spoilt, u no well.
Ur bros need advice n u de ye ye m.
Abeg, say something better.

I don't really understand your story.

You seem to be speaking for yourself and 'defending' your 'girlfriend''s position also.

I don't think you understand what you want.

Neither do you understand what the girl wants.

Real men go for what they want.

You don't need a girl to give you a perfect Green light. before you understand her drift.

Mostly, you need maturity _{Don't worry, experience will teach you}

Have a SERIOUS conversation with her

Tell her you want to date her exclusively and you need to know where you stand in her life

Tell her how much you like her and how YOU need to know if she feels the same, if not then you can set you heart somewhere else

Stop playing school games here
let her understand YOU are no longer a child and neither is she
Unless she is under 16 , i do not see why she cant see you on her own
abi have u given her signs that you will 'rush' her once she meets you

[color=#770077]I completely agree with Salsera,

Have a heart to heart talk with her, let her know where u're going and decide if she wants 2 go there with u.[

the best relationships start from f/ship./color]

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