Lolaabokoku: A friend of mine just got married and she told me how she asked her husband about his salary and how much he earn monthly but the husband stylishly waved the questions with another topic.. After then, my friend starts feeling bad and she tells me her husband does not loves her.. Nairaland pls advise on this serious matter. pls no insults.

GboyegaD:

I would say often times it is better because it helps you both plan your finances and help reduce unnecessary expense and demands. I think it is because of the upbringing I had cos we all knew my dad's salary and also his pay day and for my mom, we knew what her daily contribution was.

Stromae:
The man is waving off the question with another topic.. But y are men like this?

Hmmmm, am not sure it is the right thing to do until the man can really trust the woman to understand his financial decisions and status. If, as the OP said, they recently wedded, my mind tells me that the girl will still be young in mind and have some unrealistic expectations of her husband. Until, the both of them go through some tough situations together, she DOES NOT need to know his salary, else she might tend to be asking for much, just because she knows it costs N79 and his salary is N80.

It would be better if she got a job of her own, that way the husband would greatly respect her more and be more comfortable with her knowing his financial details. (Even if the job is just to keep her busy till the kids come, if she doesn't want to continue). No man wants a wife that appears more interested in getting cash/items from husband than adding to the relationship, cos in his mind she may start resembling a sex worker (It is worse if they have a maid/boy/chef/cleaning service that cooks and cleans at that early stage because the man may only see the wife's value in between her legs if she is not careful).

OP: I am inclined to believe that she does not have a job. If no job, she should quickly push on her own and search for something doing, if she does not have a university/tertiary degree she could still go into unskilled labour, if possible work at a day care or creche (For me i'd still be impressed whether she sold akara or ankara). Just get a money making venture, no matter how small. After about 2/3 months of being serious with it she can tell him her turn over, then can ask him his own. Let me know his response this time.

If she is already working then go straight to what i wrote in red

Lolaabokoku: A friend of mine just got married and she told me how she asked her husband about his salary and how much he earn monthly but the husband stylishly waved the questions with another topic.. After then, my friend starts feeling bad and she tells me her husband does not loves her.. Nairaland pls advise on this serious matter. pls no insults.

Lolaabokoku: A friend of mine just got married and she told me how she asked her husband about his salary and how much he earn monthly but the husband stylishly waved the questions with another topic.. After then, my friend starts feeling bad and she tells me her husband does not loves her.. Nairaland pls advise on this serious matter. pls no insults.

maclatunji:

Tell your friend to stop being petty and grow-up! As long as her husband doesn't do crime and takes care of her needs to the best of his ability.

If he tells her how much he earns-fine. If not, let her focus on other things like her own salary- tell her I said so.

Lolaabokoku: Nevertheless i dont think is bad to know how much her husband earns but the husband is being crafty..

gist4real: There is no i in married once a guy gets married whatever he makes is no longer for him alone so he has to disclose what he makes its the familys money.

Lolaabokoku: why does he always change the topic stylishly anytime she asks?

y me: Seriously I don't wanna know how much my husband earn as this might create room for comparison and that is the last thing I wanna do

but then again it all depends on the relationship you both share

how does she not knowing what the husband earns affect their love? wahala dey o

otokx: That lady obviously has a problem.

otokx: That lady obviously has a problem.