My wife has been on this admission thing for a long time now and her dream is finally going to become true as a US school has just given her admission to study.
We are married for about 3 years now with a 2 yr old baby girl. We are so fond of each other that we hardly do anything without each other.
I am so happy for her as that's her dream, but how will i cope with her absence for "2 YEARS", and alone with our baby??
Married people with such experience should please talk to me as i need your kind words now!

this is sad.
2 whole years away from husband and young child?
Couldn't she have applied somewhere closer?
Hope de change of environment away from family for so long doesn't change her.

2 years

Whadda heck! Does she need the degree desperately ni? Din't u guys factor all these into your plan when she was seeking admission?

Any chances of you relocating with are temporarily?

I guess we were too desperate searching for her dream (getting to the height in academics), forgetting that we are also building a family.
Now that the reality has dawn on us, it's beginning to look scary.

kay-pawpaw:
I guess we were too desperate searching for her dream (getting to the height in academics), forgetting that we are also building a family.
Now that the reality has dawn on us, it's beginning to look scary.

My dear, it is scary. I am a woman and I can't allow my hubby to leave home for that long o. It's either we go together or

Imagine this cold weather, how person go hold body

Tgirl4real:

My dear, it is scary. I am a woman and I can't allow my hubby to leave home for that long o. It's either we go together or

Imagine this cold weather, how person go hold body

Sincerely, I don't have any problem with holding myself.
Just thinking about how I will manage with our daughter not seeing her mum the way she used to. Emotions generally. We're too close!!!

@OP
your problem is very simple: you guys have to MAKE AN IMPORTANT DECISION (which should have been made a long time ago), and stand by it and its consequences.

Wow! This is a tough one. It's commendable that you're so supportive of her goals. 2years is a long time for a mum to leave her child but I have seen this before and everything worked out in the end (a family friend had to send her child to her mother's place across the country while she finished school in the US). As long as you both agree that her educational goals are worth the sacrifice, then you'll both get through this and be stronger for it.

You will survive. 2 years goes by fast. I will advise you to arrange for a visa for you and your daughter at the same time. They should give you 2 years or more. The both of you can now decide how often you will see each other. Every 6months or 4 times a year. This is if you guys have the financial capability for such. Have you guys discussed what happens afterwards? Because i am sure she will like to work abroad for a few years after graduation. If this is the case, then you are looking at more than 2 years and you both have to sit down and work it out. It is best to either move as a family, or stay together in Nigeria as a family. I dont see why she cannot further her education in Nigeria . This schooling abroad doesnt work too well when a family is involved. Schooling abroad comes with its peculiarities. Sh*it always happens. . You will need a lot of patience, trust and understanding. UK would have been a better option. One year

Hmmmmmm!
@All, thanks so much for your words.
We'll try our best.

2mch: You will survive. 2 years goes by fast. I will advise you to arrange for a visa for you and your daughter at the same time. They should give you 2 years or more. The both of you can now decide how often you will see each other. Every 6months or 4 times a year. This is if you guys have the financial capability for such. Have you guys discussed what happens afterwards? Because i am sure she will like to work abroad for a few years after graduation. If this is the case, then you are looking at more than 2 years and you both have to sit down and work it out. It is best to either move as a family, or stay together in Nigeria as a family. I dont see why she cannot further her education in Nigeria . This schooling abroad doesnt work too well when a family is involved. Schooling abroad comes with its peculiarities. Sh*it always happens. . You will need a lot of patience, trust and understanding. UK would have been a better option. One year

Co-signed.