Hi guyz, I'm new here and I would really appreciate your advices. Here's my story

         I've been dating this guy for over a year now. I dont know if i could classify it as full dating, because i havent seen him for over a year now, although we keep in touch through phone and emails that is to say 90% of this relationship is based on phone calls. I have been having second thoughts lately about this 'relationship'[i][/i]. The reason is that he doesnt call me, txt or anything. When i send him mails, it takes him a million years to reply. (really) Sometimes I feel I am doing too much [i][/i]and I ask myself is it really worth the stress. Maybe its the distance between us that is tearing us apart, but i really doubt it. To crown it all, this same guy cheated on me while we were 2gether and I am very certain he is doing worst things now.
Should I call it quits or keep on holding to something that doesnt exist?

Well the truth is that, distance is a very likely factor that affect relationships, but as you said earlier, he cheated on you when you're together, thier is every posibility that he'd do the same now

but I'd advice you to try speaking to him on the phone and then, know what to do from his responses,

and the earlier the better
such persons might pretend everything is alright when you guys meet again,

If he cheatd 0n u when 2geda. . . I'd say itz p0ssible when apart . .u knw they say "out of sight is out of mind"(n0t in all caSes) . .again itz said dt "absence makes d heart gr0w f0nder" *these adages self !* bt why n0t try calling hm & ask hm whtz holdin him bk. .then decide if itz genuine or n0t. .
I w0nder why s0me guys/men can't stand up 2 their decisi0ns
If itz causing so much pain. . .break d chain

Run! Run!! Run!!!

Thats it.

That relationship does not even exist.

It exists only in your mind. (You are On-Your-Own)

Do urself a favor and Find true love and happiness

@ Wham I guess you are rite. But i am finding it difficult to let go, I dont no call me stupid but i've already created this happy endin in my mind. Guess I'm d fool in luv[i][/i]
I'll give it a thought though

Let him go deary, if he's urs, he'll come back n if he ain't, u'll get better.

it's hard 2 let go esp when u truthfully luv d person but u have 2 do wat u have 2 do

I think you need to find that out yourself.
Ask him if he still does.

Watch him to see if the relationship still has the spark it used to have

@Oracle
U know if i ask him, his answer wud be yes followed by his sermon of undyin luv for me and tins i wud luv to hear.

if you dare let him go, you will find another kind of fault in another type of guy.why dont you try to bend him to the side you want.dear,you can make things work out fine if you want it.

lady, nothing good comes so easy. if you advice het out,will you share your guy with her?

why are yuu waisting your time over somebody who don,t care if you exist why a handsome man like me is seeking who to share my life with. pls let me know if you are really lonly.

well as the saying goes;out of sight is out of mind.trust guys of nowadays any little opportunity,we take babes for a ride.
Firstly,what is the reason for being far apart? cos the guy might be taking the excuse of maybe work to cheat on you.think deeply girl before you know it,the guy may be getting married to anoda babe soon.

afribeauti:

this same guy cheated on me while we were 2gether and I am very certain he is doing worst things now.
Should I call it quits or keep on holding to something that doesnt exist?

Need I say anything?