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Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by GetMeRight: 8:12am On Oct 04, 2021 |
skyoboy: If they're the only ones he trusts, he can use them. Or would they have another reason to take the over that one too? Lol |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Yansham: 8:12am On Oct 04, 2021 |
It all boils down to how we regard our parents. I understand that the construction of the house was co-financed by you and your wife. So it is insensitive to have involved your parents in the construction of your house. How do you expect them to feel that you are building your own house when they still leave in a rented apartment? Don't be surprised that they have hatched this plan of moving into this house the moment you got them involved in your building project. What is the way forward? If you are not the only child of your family, rally around your siblings and see how you can build their own apartment for them. With this new mentality of ''You don't owe your parent anything'', most new generation parents need to start planning for their future and not go over-board or spend their whole fortune for any child or children. 2 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Nobody: 8:12am On Oct 04, 2021 |
MeghaneMorgane:He didn't contribute to building the house alone, his wife also contributed to building that house. It was meant to be for him and his wife when they relocate back to Nigeria, his parents have no business moving into ghat house 4 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by OfficialAPCNig: 8:12am On Oct 04, 2021 |
TheeDetective:You'll die young the way you are going. You are truly EVIL 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by neyobills: 8:12am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Emarvel: He should rather be thanking them for such an initiative,IMO that’s been economically wise at least he isn’t around yet so why the fuss,your so called yankee people live with their parents too,if he comes back and needs his privacy he should rent another place for them perhaps build a small place for them of there is available funds,if I have been to yankee then u would know it’s not a big deal over there,after all he would have kids someday and might need need their support too when he is aged. 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by ahaika23: 8:13am On Oct 04, 2021 |
First of all, my opinion is that it’s wrong they moved in without your consent. I believe that is your anger. I also want to believe if they had suggested it to you maybe you would have accepted also. If these are right, then talk to them and express your emotions to them, tell them you are upset and why and I believe if they are understanding parents too, they will apologize. Talk to them. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by INDUSTRIALFAN(m): 8:13am On Oct 04, 2021 |
thesicilian:lol…. But He didn’t beg them to be born. They made the decision to bring him into the world so its not his fault they cut their dreams short for his sake. Who was supposed to do it before? 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Mysticwebb: 8:13am On Oct 04, 2021 |
GofuckYourself:In the light of the truth. A knowledge, demystifying the mysteries of this life. Only a knowing, can understand the source of your words. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by cooljude(m): 8:13am On Oct 04, 2021 |
[quote author=Pacesetter123 post=106426105]Consent ko, conscience ni. Wen the wer buying akara for you in the morning to eat n go to primary school, did they seek ur consent? Wen they stopped buying new clothes for themselves in order to buy school uniform for you,did they seek your consent?Abeg shift one side make Malle and Popsy enjoy the fruits of their labour in peace! U sef,no be Yankee u based? Or na school or biznes trip u dey go dere? Your logic is wrong.... He did not abandon them, he has been providing rent money for them. The building hasn't been completed... Before the year runs out relatives and siblings will join his parent and his building will be converted into family house. On the long run when he returns he wouldn't have the needed privacy and peace of mind because his family had already harbored hatred for himself and his wife for daring to evict them from a house they had zero financial contribution. @kehindeaj78, kindly do your best to resolve the issue now..... a lot of Nigerians have entitlement mentality, do not fall for their Bullshit emotional blackmail. 2 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Lothbrok(m): 8:13am On Oct 04, 2021 |
The decisions parents take in their old age is far from what we can imagine. They have deprived themselves the comfort of living in a completely luxurious flat to an uncomplicated building, just to save money for you. This is priceless. They know you wouldn't support their plan, hence this. Be proud of your parents. They didn't invade your privacy, They are doing what they feel is best for you and your finances. . . The least they can do is to occupy a room. . Age is not on their side . . Thank them and blessed them. Soon, they will return to their hometown to spend the remaining of there glory days. 2 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by samsard(m): 8:14am On Oct 04, 2021 |
T4kbaba:Its your RESPONSIBILITY to sacrifice for your kids because you decided to birth them. Africans operate with too much entitlement. 2 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by tuboi: 8:15am On Oct 04, 2021 |
I’m sure your parents are thinking that you’re building the house for them.Theirs nothing good about what they did.My advice is that you let go of the house and double your hustle and safe enough money to buy a property whenever you want to Visit Nigeria…Don’t think of building again…That house that look big and modern at the moment will be below your standard in few years time…. 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Nobody: 8:15am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Kehindeaj78: Rejoice, they are your parents. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by dan2976: 8:15am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Please send them more money to complete the house... Now that they are there, they can help monitor the construction better... |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by MeghaneMorgane(f): 8:16am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Simran94: Let him explain to his parents na. If they will reconsider their decision. But I won’t advice he chase them out. Even the wife can’t chase them out. Worse worse, he should see how to manage the situation until he builds a house for his parents or build another house for himself. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by GetMeRight: 8:17am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Brandonx: What happened to leasing or selling? 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by wolesmile(m): 8:17am On Oct 04, 2021 |
DWJOBScom: I pity your last days |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by INDUSTRIALFAN(m): 8:17am On Oct 04, 2021 |
mastermaestro:He is the one paying the rent not them. He is still building his house. Them living in the house will not allow the workers work effectively because there will be too much obstruction |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Born2conquer: 8:18am On Oct 04, 2021 |
GofuckYourself:no reasonable parents will do what his parents did My parents can us any of my things but mhen, they can’t do this 2 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by alpontif(m): 8:19am On Oct 04, 2021 |
You sef think am 1. You RESIDE permanently overseas. 2. YOUR OWN PARENTS live in a Rented house in Nigeria. 3. You told this said parents to build a Personal House for YOU in Nigeria, while you continue to reside PRIMARILY overseas I can only conclude you don't have good friends, or you don't listen to sage advice, or maybe you are getting affected by American culture. Number one, it is an insult to your image that your parents live in a rented apartment while you have enough money to build a house for them. It shows deep selfishness and self centredness, and an inability to be self aware. Number two, it is an insult to your parents that you inform them to build you a personal house that you will basically live in just during festive periods if you are around in Nigeria , while they live in a rented apartment. It is undignified and grossly insulting to them. A wiser child would first do all he can to remove his parents from a Rented house, by building them their own house, even if it's a 3 bedroom. Owing one's own property does a lot to the self esteem. Your parents self esteem would have greatly increased while they would have said endless prayers for you. How do you imagine they feel living in a rented property while their non resident son is building a Brand new house for his Holiday home?.. Is that good to you? Now that they have preempted you, are you going to make the problem much worse by chasing them from the house? How can you leave a house empty while your parents live in a rented house? Does that make sense to you?.. You need to change your circle of friends or advisers and pray for wisdom. 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by wolesmile(m): 8:19am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Kehindeaj78: And so Do you mind if we talk privately |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by OfficialAPCNig: 8:19am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Kehindeaj78:You gave them money for rent, yet they decided to disrespect you by moving into your property without your consent. I won't blame them because a typical Nigerian parent is entitled. Please give them another money to rent new apartment and kindly tell them to leave the property. But if you decide to allow this lie, you are going to regret it. Parents or not, they should know their boundary, especially when dealing with a married son. I love my parents SO MUCH. but i will take my wife and kids over them, anytime and any day. No regrets 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Acidosis(m): 8:19am On Oct 04, 2021 |
NoToPile: Aha you already know ! But I think the wife should be compensated even if they agree on getting another property. Women think deep. I bet she's currently thinking about the future and how to secure her kids' future. 4 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Pzpropertylimit(m): 8:19am On Oct 04, 2021 |
This is too barbaric . They suffer to raise u yes , others suffered to raise them too . This is too bad . U have done ur best by sending them money to pay for the house rent immediately and they still went this way . Too bad ! Don't spend money on that house again. Trust God for more resources to get another one . I share u pain bru 2 Likes |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Born2conquer: 8:20am On Oct 04, 2021 |
DWJOBScom:He must or else he will end up a tenant/squatter in his own own house |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by MrPaul2: 8:20am On Oct 04, 2021 |
emae009:What stupid privacy are you talking about? He sent them money for rent yearly, he should save up three years rentage and get them a land for a start. They’re even helping him to save up 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by yunqdady: 8:20am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by INDUSTRIALFAN(m): 8:20am On Oct 04, 2021 |
mastermaestro:The least they could’ve done is allow the workers finish their job before going to inconvenience them and slowing down work progress…. The house is not complete. Besides he pays fhe rent for his parents so what’s all this talk of consider parents bla bla bla….. he considers them that’s why he pays their rent. He also is building the house with inputs from his wife. Or should his wife’s parents aslo move in and they can be one big happy family? |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by HopeAlive16(f): 8:21am On Oct 04, 2021 |
DubaiLandLord2:My thought exactly |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Sojigold(m): 8:21am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Parents, The only true love one can get. I lost my father exactly this month a year ago. I now know how much life can be empty without them. Please love on your parents as if they may die today. Bro, no replacement if they go. I dare say this, you can never ever repay them in equal measure of sacrifices they have endured for you if you become successful at age 6months old. God will bless you. |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by tunize(m): 8:21am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Do not listen to anyone saying you should chase out your parents come to look at it we both know you are not coming to Nigeria to stay. You built/are building it so you could have a place to lay your head when you come visiting abeg live Ur papa and e babe Ur mama alone |
Re: My Parents Move In To My Ongoing New House Without My Consent by Passionate1(m): 8:21am On Oct 04, 2021 |
Personally, I dey place people where they belong. .4get d sentiments and rubbish weh people dey write here. .Get dem another apartment .Dem no table d matter and seek for your permission b4 moving in . . African mentality truly sucks! Be strict and resolute! 4 Likes |
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