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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by GboyegaD(m): 3:56pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Visasolution048: There's nothing dunny in what I wrote. It is disrespectful to leave your plates on the dining table for someone else to clear except you are married to a waitress who waits on you as the service she renders. 1 Like |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by budusky05(m): 3:56pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Thank ur God na only that one be her problem, this days na cheating wife we get to hear everyday 1 Like |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Dfr0: 3:58pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
You have spoilt her from day 1 1 Like |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by GboyegaD(m): 3:58pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
CSTRR: What happened to him dropping it off in the sink before leaving for the office? All these power flexing is the reason we are still where we are as a country. When kids act the same way, it is people like you that scream down the roof forgetting that you set such precedence. 1 Like |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by ema2020: 4:09pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Fred166:upon as the country hard Una still dey carry burden put 4 head Nigerian men una never learn anything 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by steveekeoma(m): 4:17pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Fred166: That's pregnancy brouhaha. After birth she'll get back to her sense. Just exercise more patience with her. Oga after eating take your plate to the kitchen. Your wife is not your waitress. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by bethyz(m): 4:19pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Take charge of whatever you want in your home now. If you don't it will continue. Pregnancy or not take charge so you don't get frustrated 1 Like |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Visasolution048: 4:41pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
GboyegaD: Okay ooh... |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by afroxyz: 4:42pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
DontBullshitMe: if you know, you know |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Nobody: 4:46pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
One of the reason why i kick people with my rain boot. Damn.. Nasty.. I'm Outta here |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by grandstar(m): 4:54pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Fred166 A lazy wife isn't good. I presently have a lazy lady at home. She isn't my wife but my cousin. She asked whether she could come to stay with me and I said yes. She told me she wanted to bring a much younger friend along and I objected. That was a red flag. Why will you add to your host's load? She now told me that her niece would come in about 2 weeks time to sit for GCE and return. Her niece came and after sitting for the GCE, she no comot . For personal reasons, I chose to ignore and let her stay. A while later, my cousin's sister requested for the young girl as she was pregnant. The girl left us and went to stay with her 2nd auntie. After some time, however, we received the message that the poor girl had been given a dirty slap by her giant of a husband. This so incensed my cousin staying with me that she requested the girl back. I said she isn't coming to stay with us- that I don't want it. My cousin was livid but she did not show it. She started leaving a lot of housework undone and seemed she wanted me to pick up the slack. She later opened up that I wanted to kill her with all the work in the house. Why? It dawned on me because I did not allow her niece to return So, the primary purpose of bringing her niece was to do the housework while she does things at her own pace. Imagine the audacity! I live in a 3 bedroom flat. I don't ask her to wash my clothes. Even cooking, if she calls and asks me to help her with rice or swallow, I gladly do it. So, which "all the work"?. Was her niece not doing "all the work"". Her niece was even washing her clothes. I never gave her niece my clothes to wash. Even when I send her on errands, I tell her to buy coke or minerals. I don't like taking advantage of people. I feel sorry for you. I really don't know what to say. My cousin is a teacher and when she comes back by 4 pm, she says she is too tired. So, I understand your wife's pregnancy excuse. The best thing to do is to bring a relation of hers or two to come do the work in the house. But send them to school. Don't exploit them. That's the best advice I can give you so you do not have friction with your wife. Her "laziness" was a flaw you either were unaware of or you chose to ignore. You just have to learn to live with it. If you push her too hard, she won't get the sense of what you're doing. She's probably pampered like my cousin who is the last born of her mum. |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by grandstar(m): 4:57pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
NovesaTillie: You have said some facts. You can't change a person once they're married. 1 Like |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by writeprof(m): 5:10pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
NovesaTillie: Honestly truthful 1 Like |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by advanceDNA: 5:10pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
girlygirlyMain: As if you don’t wear wig.... Most ladies wear wig these days...so don’t try to paint posh girls with being dirty and lazy. there are fine girls that are neat and organized...this op’s wife just has witchcraft ... 1 Like |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by CSTRR: 5:52pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Elsueno:Sorry to ask. When you were growing up as a Nigerian in Nigeria, did your father clear the plates he uses to eat by himself? Be honest with yourself. 1 Like |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by ashetu(m): 5:56pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Fred166: Sorry to say this sir, don't you notice all these character while dating her... Let me design beautiful flyers to promote your business Whatsapp 08024575448 1 Like |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by ashetu(m): 5:59pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
faithfull18: Yes ma,let me create a flyer for what you are selling my WhatsApp is 08024575447 1 Like |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Elsueno: 6:12pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
CSTRR: My dad doesn't care about all this tradition stuff, if nobody is close by he clears the table, if my mom or any of us kids are around we do it instead. He never Eats & just leave the table., NEVER!. in fact I jump at the opportunity to do these kind of stuff for him. |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by JayPeeOham: 6:20pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Mood11: Seconded!! Talking about carrying cross.. the thing is the OP is carrying his cross sideways instead of carrying in straight so it doesn't brush anyone... Mtchheeeewww |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Jsaviour(f): 6:24pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Use the beauty as compensation since you married the beauty. Nobody can have it all Didn't you court her? Didn't you notice she was lazy? But beauty blinded your eye. Oga, endure or get a house help. Slay queen can't come and kill herself 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by CSTRR: 6:26pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Elsueno:If your mum or any of the kids are around, they will do it for him. Okay Good. You have answered my question. There is no where I said a man should not park his own plates when nobody is around. |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by emonis88: 6:32pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
BigBashiru:If u il understand, beauty transcends a fine face n a banding body, all that il fade away with time, the true beauty of a woman lies in her character. |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by JayPeeOham: 6:36pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Fred166: The idea of a maid is okay, but here are two things you can do: 1. Hire an elderly person. 2. She would not live with you guys.. she comes does her work and leaves. Her work should also include cooking if your wife permits it! P.S. The Home keeper doesn't have to come everyday of the week! In addition, you must have noticed her laziness when you guys where courting and/or dating but you still chose to marry her that way. Perhaps you thought she would change or you said to yourself no one is perfect! Alas, that is her real self because she has always been lazy even before the pregnancy judging from your post, so you just have to find a way around it somehow. One of the ways, is to accept her the way she is and stop complaining lest she sees you as a nag because her kind of person would never understand you, they see nothing wrong with their lifestyle. Secondly, you would have to be doing some things if not all the chores yourself that's if the home keeper arrangement isn't feasible. I wish you all the best in your young marriage with your beautiful wife 3 Likes |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by l0uie(m): 6:50pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
I no even bother read the epistle that you typed. By mere reading heading, one can conclude that you are a mumu. |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Blackdisciple(m): 6:57pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Lolzzz she couldn't see the house chores as exercise tho. The eating attitude is normal during pregnancy they will even want to use Maclean to eat bread don't be surprised. I once refused to give a pregnant girl a friend of mine garden egg back then in Jos and she cried profusely that day . Bros what she's doing now is just the beginning, I pity your case don't try bringing your niece oo cos she will kill her. |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Blackdisciple(m): 6:58pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Killbillz: Ok because she never use Maclean eat bread abi lolzzz.... 1 Like |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by favy19(f): 7:10pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
frozen70:oga take this advise 1 Like |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by xest(m): 7:45pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Fred166:Sorry Brother. That's what you will face for the rest of ur life with her. |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by eneazi(f): 7:48pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
The question is; how long did you two date, secondly, was she this lazy before she became pregnant ( because change in behavior during pregnancy differs in women, moreover this is her first) lastly, the 'chop chop' is not her doing but as a result of the little seed you deposited in her. Be patient with her for now if not for anything but for the fact she's pregnant |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by BigBashiru: 8:10pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
emonis88: the problem with nigerians is that they do not like to tell themselves the truth... "fornication" and "sexual immorality" are not committed based on character but are committed based on nyash, boobs, etc. hence why people go for the looks they are happy and comfortable with and their spec so that they can stick with her all his life otherwise he will get side chicks etc. |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Mrphylor09: 8:18pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
U see that zeeworld ehn Na stupidity extraordinary every day |
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Beey(f): 8:19pm On Jan 11, 2022 |
Fred166:You’ve received blame for not being observant while dating your wife or ignoring the signs. It’s all the past and you are married. Women behavior can change during pregnancy due hormonal changes. Remember she’s also eating for two. Try not to make a big deal out of her feeding habits at this time. Since she doesn’t want a live in domestic help, why not get someone that can come daily and then go to their own home later? At least they’ll clean and cook. Turn a blind eye till your wife delivers. After delivery, put the matter at hand to the table. Let her be responsible for some bills in the home, after all marriage is a partnership. Hold on to the thought of buying a car unless you are willing to add more expenses to your budget because it seems like she might not even afford to fuel the car. Until she can show improvement, I don’t think it’s worth investing more money on her or her business. Goodluck |
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