It seems me and you are passing through the same thing I last my beloved mom��� last two months 28th April 2022. Her burial/Funeral is on 1st July 2022. When she died it was like our world has come to end. Still finding difficult to believe she’s no more���. The worst part of it we are just two me n my younger and our dad died 12 years so we are orphans now. The most scattering and shattering��� part of it that death could not allow my mum to see her grandchildren already due to be delivered���. But in all this I took solace in God.

Take it easy bro,we all gone die someday,God knows the best

What you will do for now is to stop blaming urself or anyone just believe is her time.
When Death is approaching it usually comes with different complications so u won't know what is wrong.... Am working in hospital so I know of these very well . CCF is not easy to diagnose pls take heart and move on that life for us death is compulsory.

May her soul rest in peace

She can't get forgotten, but you must ask yourself in grieving, what would she have expected of you to do in moment like this.
I remembered my mum everyday one way or the other, when I feel like breaking down, I would tell myself " this isn't what she would have me do".
Today made it, 5Yrs my mum left us. We still dey carry go, no body Waka ( no loss among my siblings) no body go solo...
God will heal your pain, dear

frozen70:


You have to be very strong if you realy want her to get to her final destination

And if you realy want to move on with life

Once she is buried, you will start getting back yourself

Don't be surprise, she will visit you and talk to you to move on that she has gone to prepare a place for you

God is your strength

As Jesus or what? Must we make things up unnecessarily

solasoulmusic:


Thanks and the moniker matches the real sex just so you know. Mum is able walk around easily foot is back to normal quick thinking

oh you're a lady?
You sound so intellectual, please kindly drop your mail address let's talk

frozen70:


You have to be very strong if you realy want her to get to her final destination

And if you realy want to move on with life

Once she is buried, you will start getting back yourself

Don't be surprise, she will visit you and talk to you to move on that she has gone to prepare a place for you

God is your strength

haba madam.
This is funny and weird tho

dboY1123:


Thanks sir.. It is very hard

Eya, so sorry about your mum.

if you are a Christian/Muslim, make it your prayer point, Ask God for strength to bear this loss, he will do it.

it was what helped me when I lost my sister.

nnamdi640:
For me to overcome mine, am sure God will give you the heart to overcome yours. 5:05pm, 16 November 2019 can't just escape my mind. I left her healthy just to come back from work met her rolling on the ground. My brother, this world is nothing.

na wah oh

tinacrl01:






I feel the same way when I lost my dad..my mom died last year Oct and my dad died April this year your will not understand how I’m feeling now about there deaths

may God strengthen you bro

Fairandlovely:
going through same,,lost my mum a month ago nd it hasn't been easy,,saw when d doctors nd nurses fought hard 2 resuscitate her but she still left me

may God strengthen you

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MetaPhysical:


Op, your mother transitioned from a physical state to a metaphysical state.

I know Im going to get a mention for typing my moniker but thats ok.

There are three phases of this life, they are partitioned from the other. Those stages are

1. Prelife
2 Life
3. Afterlife.

Life is a continuity through all three stages and is never extinguished but transforms.

It goes like this...when a child is born they already carry in them the imprint for reproduction. In other words they come out of womb with a capacity for recreating ancestry.

The fertilization stage of sperm and egg is a manifestation for that ancestry to experience life. In the womb the life has no knowledge of time, space or distance...it exists in a void. Life is where experiences happen to know, to taste, to touch, to feel and to see. Then a muvh richer and better experience lies ahead when life transforms into afterlife. We become like bird, we can at once see everything, be everywhere, touch every link up and down in the ancestral link.

In afterlife we can experience a ancestor of 300yrs ago or a descendant to be born 500yrs in future. Imagine a baby in womb, inexperienced, dependent and need an adult to care and nurture its development. That is a relationship between life and afterlife. They are in the metaphysical state caring for us, looking out for our best interest and grooming our development. To them, we are in the womb of life.

So your mother is not dead. Keep her in your memory and remember she is looking out for you. When you need something that she cannot provide she will reach to your ancestral link and ask for someone to get it to you so you will be okay. So remember to pray and love her and as well your ancestors because you are in the womb of life and they look out for what is good for you.

Dont forget your mom, keep her in loving memory and stop saying she is dead. She lives in afterlife with your ancestors and descendants. Your descendants cannot come to your aid because they are in prelife and are yet to know what living is....unlike ancestors, they have passed through it, they know, and can bring solution to a dillema in your path.

You do a disservice when you think of your mom and past ones as dead. They are in afterlife, love them, adore their memories with flowers, nice incence, good perfume, white clothings, cook their favorite food and give out in alms...particularly on their birthday or afterlife day. Tell them to come be with you and love you.

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ShenTeh:
I quite understand this feeling very well.

June 2016 I lost my mum and I became very depressed. While trying to get over that rude shock, I lost my immediate elder sister October same year. I was completely devastated. Death lost its worth for me, more so life and living.

It is a tough place to be. Time will heal you but if the affection is deep, it would take a very long time.

Ps I still shed a tear or two just 2 nights ago before I slept off.

losing two loved ones in a year is gruesome

Dosoq:
Was once in your shoes, I lost my beloved mum 2018 November, I'm yet to heal.

I really took care of her by asking her to get a referral letter from lagos hospital (when they were just turning up and down) to uch ibadan cos I reside in ibadan.

I was 7months gone(pregnant) when she came over,was always going to the hospital with her even in my condition, she did surgery and all,but i lost her exactly a month after I gave birth.

If I tell you that I miss her every passing day,there's no day I don't remember her,as I type this,I'm shedding tears.

One of the things that help me heal are those memories we share,her smiles,her jokes and all.

I'm also the last born and we were the closest in the family which was evident to my siblings.

I'm now an orphan,but God has been faithful.

She's gone to rest, take good care of yourself.

may God strengthen you

seanwilliam:
Im so sorry for your loss. May God gives you the fortitude to bear the loss.

To other people reading this , Pls take care of your parents whilst they’re alive ..

This sums it all

steryj:
This is why I hate to belong to the living if there is another chance to be on this planet earth again.

you said it all

It is well my brother.
Tap into your strengths and not weaknesses.
Pray ceaselessly if you are religious.
Seek a professional counselor or psychologist.
Engage in as much hobbies as possible to occupy your mind.
Good luck and may you find the strength to bear the loss.

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born)

You can't get over it, but you just have to learn to live with the reality. As for your other siblings, I'm sure they are dealing with it their own way.
So sorry for your loss. May her soul rest in peace.

TechBIogger:
oh you're a lady?
You sound so intellectual, please kindly drop your mail address let's talk

I get that all the time… I was educated through failure

solasoulmusic:


I get that all the time… I was educated through failure

email pls

put yourself together and move on, life goes on and nothing can bring your dear mama back( God bless the dead)..a close friend of mine is having a similar scenario, she is the last born, lost the mum as well but i have given her similar advise...your mum has lived her life, if u continue to live in pain

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TechBIogger:
haba madam.
This is funny and weird tho

That's what he needs to hear to call him down of his depression

phemmyfour:
As Jesus or what? Must we make things up unnecessarily

He needs that word to calm him down

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

I comepletely understand what you are going through and reason is you and I seem to be on the same boat. I lost my mum a month plus ago... In 2 days makes it 2 months and in my hands... Up till now, I have no interest in life... I am feeling the exact way you are feeling.. Sometimes I will be fine sometimes I go moody.. It is not easy no matter what anybody tells you but one thing is for sure, with time, you get to adapt to the pain, to the reality of like they are not coming back again... It's not easy but with Time you he batter... You have a father, I don't have a father too so it's tough but time will heal... Follow your grieving process alone.. No matter what anybody tells you, you will heal youself with time... The void will be there forever but you will learn how to live and manage it.. May God have mercy on them out parents...i feel your pain but you will be fine with time... Just follow your process.. Grieving isn't something you just jump out of, it's a process and you will be fine inshaAllah... Bless up... To the ones that lost their mother, their father and both parents, stay strong, God de... To the ones that still have a parent or one of them, show them.l love even when they are mad at you cause believe me, death is inevitable and it will happen and when it happens, you will be left wth the memories you created with them so make it a good one.... Bless up

Still sticked.

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with t like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

Sorry bro!

Time is a healer.

I understand ur pains... Time heal

Tanks fan

Tanks fan

TechBIogger:
may God strengthen you

Fairandlovely:
Tanks fan

just saw in your profile that you're Benin based.
I reside there and incase you'd need someone to talk to I'm available

Am indeed grateful..tanks alot

TechBIogger:
just saw in your profile that you're Benin based.
I reside there and incase you'd need someone to talk to I'm available