Baffupdrizz:


What does the OP intend to achieve by posting a screenshot of his Father's SMS for the whole world to read? Is this forum his village council?

COMRADE CALM DOWN

Kobojunkie:
1. How can the dad be right when he took the boy in to supposedly rehabilitate him at 14, an age when a kid could still b reformed, only to do nothing in all that time? He brought a predator into his own home, and let it loose on his daughter's without care. That is the height of foolishness

2. Educate his sisters to shout for help? And for whom? The same father who did nothing the many other times news of the boys escapades had gotten back to him, assuming he himself has never in fact walked into the boy similar way OP said he did.

3. A slap? Why not do what is right which is called the authorities to deal with the matter at this point since his family has not been able to rehabilitate the goon so far? Na when story return say the boy rape another gal in the neighborhood instead dem go call police or what?

ChampagneF:
Honestly from where I’m sitting I still consider u weak seeing that u finally had the conversation with ur dad but u had to go tru sending him a msg. If ur dad is a smart father I guess u guys would have had the conversation face to face after he had replied u, if he didn’t then I finally know who u took after.
I still have to commend u seeing everybody can’t b bold enough to face their father and speak their mind, the first part of talking to ur sisters also is a good development. Since ur dad said he’s on a mission to help ur cousin, the work now falls down to ur whole family working together and speaking out in case he misbehaves.
First thing first change the locks to ur sisters’ room, speak to ur dad about it. Make him get new locks if he is keen on assisting the boy to change his ways he shouldn’t leave his children unprotected.
Talk to ur sisters to always raise alarm anytime he starts misbehaving around them, if they find his movement or activities fishy or don’t seem to understand what he’s up to. Also the youngest shouldn’t b left alone around the house especially when he’s around and towards evening time.
Lastly, look for an avenue to deal with him, find an excuse. It’s not necessary that it has to be a major issue, u can even create a rift between the two of u, maybe he didn’t greet u when he woke up this morning beat him up, make sure u give him a very good beating of his life and let him understand that if he dare lay a finger on any of ur sisters even if it is for corrective reasons u would skin him alive, as one person had advised u earlier, behave like a mad man. These type of men(ur cousin) are the type that respond to violence more than the sod hands ur dad and everybody around him is giving him.
I come in peace.

Farid24224:


What do you mean by they will grow up to become something else?

saintneo:
Oga Kobo, that cousin is not normal I must tell you. For me, my suggestions are defensive strategies, the offensive strategies you suggest might end up back-firing. I am not saying my defensive strategy is perfect either.

If they were Christians, I would have suggested taking to boy for strong deliverance. By the time, he fasts for 7 days dry, those demons and evil energies in him will flee by force.

About the dad being right - have you ever tried killing mosquito perched on your scrotum - I am assuming that you are a man (male, he, him)? The dad is caught between two devils, he is confused on how to handle it.

Zonefree:
Your father might have molested his own sister for him to be calm about the whole thing. Maybe that boy is even his biological son.

What father gives a second chance to a potential rapist and pedophilic animal?

Candidlady:




Hmmmmm

But does his cousin know bout what might have transpired between his mum and the OPs dad?
(Na just assumptions)

Is the OP cousin’s mum aware of what is happening?


So many questions for my head now~could be effect of this shiii iam spliffing~~~


Ijust feel for those girls

Comradepreneur:
Read Previous thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7420371/how-reduce-hatred-cousin-brother

This is a follow up thread concerning the action I took after reading the comments.

I know I've failed as an older brother, to protect my siblings from their cousin. But I want to make amendments.

As such, the first action I took was to send my dad a text message, voicing out my displeasure on how he has been handling the issue regarding the harassment on my siblings.



And below, is his reply to the message, and my subsequent reply to him.

Apparently, the he took in the boy, so as to rehabilitate him. Meaning, the boy may have been previously doing this to his own sisters or may have attempted to do it to his sisters.

Did I also mention that he's a chronic lier? He lies even if caught while doing something he's accused of.

At this point, the only thing I could help my sisters with is to repair their door lock first thing in the morning.

I also woke up my cousin and sternly warning him of staying away from my sisters even in the daytime.

I also, intend to tell my Mallam, our Islamic cleric since my mom respects him a lot. And just maybe, he could talk some sense into her and my dad.

Thank you all for your advice. Your advices, has really helped me in order to become a better person than I was.

Candidlady:


low self esteem

increased fear, guilt and self-blame

distrust of adults or difficulty forming relationships with others

disrupted attachments with those who are meant to keep them safe

mental health disorders such as anxiety, attachment, post-traumatic stress and depression disorders

self-harming or suicidal thoughts
learning disorders, including poor language and cognitive development

developmental delay, eating disorders and physical ailments

permanent physical injuries or death
violent, aggressive or criminal behaviour or other behavioural problems

drug and alcohol abuse and high-risk sexual behaviour.

(Iam sure you know where iam driving at)

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Kobojunkie:
Shout, who go come save them when OP is off to NYSC camp soon?

Na there papa or their uncle? Or even their mama who is more concerned about wetin people go talk?

What happens when the sisters are in the house alone during the day with him?

redseason:
Wow! There is more than meets the eyes in this case. No father, no matter how dead beat would watch anyone, irrespective of relationship molest his children. Trust me, there is something fishy between your aunt and your dad. How are you sure your own dad(with due respect) did not sexually violate his own sister while they were living under him? Hence the lack of moral high grounds to act. No relationship supersedes that of your immediate family.

Mindlog:
There is likelihood of a history of sexual perversion in your family that is enabling the pervert thus your father can't act because he was involved.