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Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Kobojunkie: 12:47pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
Oracleee:1. Therapy for her or therapy for him? 2. Did therapy work for your friend who is no longer good looking? |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by deavicky(m): 12:48pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
all4zionlover:stop taking up his responsibilities. That had made him irresponsible. |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Ishilove: 12:48pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
jeromestarks:So you were there when she was chasing the good men away? Abeg if you have nothing reasonable to write then don't comment, instead of jumping into baseless and illogical conclusions 3 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by bonnyhope: 12:50pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: I also stated that she should continue talking to him for a positive change because I know that as far as he remain a gambler, he will not be responsible. |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Babyboyforeal(m): 12:50pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
But he was gambling before u marry him? |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by millionboi(m): 12:51pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
ElijahIme1992:you stop deciving urself,it may never pay......to be betting with his salary is not investment,stop misleadin ppl here. |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Oracleee: 12:51pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Therapy for him not the wife. But the wife will orchestrate it as a mad man won't know he his mad but those around him. Therapy did worked for my friend, he didn't stop once but along the line he stopped after a while. He his picking his life back together and it's not an over night thing. Last time we spoke, he his doing better and instead of gambling, he his making long time investments. |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by writeprof(m): 12:51pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
all4zionlover: Are none of his parents alive? Does he not have any (elderly) God fearing person ( elders, in-laws, pastor, imam etc) that he respects or listen to? You see, situation like this should be made open to one of such people or even your parents/elders if you are legally married but not in a way that would demonise the man - he is your husband. Are you a Christian? Take it to God in prayer and fasting. I want to believe there was a time your marriage was sweet, even if there was not, go to God in repentance and surrender your life & family to Him. The hearts of kings are in God's hands not to talk of your husband. God bless you and your home. |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Mrkumareze(m): 12:52pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Well, I don't support beating but people take challenges upon themselves inorder to achieve a certain goal. She did it and it worked for her. |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Tannhauser(m): 12:52pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
dollytino4real: Where una dey see all these kind men marry sef? 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by deavicky(m): 12:52pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
dollytino4real:I think you should find out maybe he had borrowed money from those devilish loan people around his office or in his place of work. If no, stop taking up his responsibilities. |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Kobojunkie: 12:53pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
Elokristi:1. So instead of raising her children, she will now focus on raising an addict , sort of like trying to fill a basket with water all so as to placate folks like you who would rather not let her do what is best for her and her sanity. 3 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by pikechukwu6(m): 12:53pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
It's a pity that you are facing this kind situation. Dear, you just need to keep your head up high.. talk to him or consult his relatives on it if he persist to change. Finally, you need to endure and pray. Divorce is not best option. 2 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Ishilove: 12:53pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
alyarmouk:What the unholy fvck did I just read? 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Kobojunkie: 12:54pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
Mrkumareze:So how long did your sister have to endure the beatings for? And what goal did she in fact achieve by being panel beaten for as long as she was?, |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by jeromestarks: 12:54pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
Ishilove:Why do u hate me so much? What have I ever done to you? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by kaymart: 12:54pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
You chose him... Take responsibility for your choice. |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Lepon02: 12:55pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
all4zionlover: Ok. |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Analysiscorner: 12:56pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
If after speaking with him, he still doesn't want to change, involve your pastor, both families etc. |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Kobojunkie: 12:58pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
kaymart:So marriage na lifetime shackle? 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Kobojunkie: 12:59pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
Analysiscorner:And If all of that already failed, then what? 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Kobojunkie: 1:00pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
Weedhustler:So she can't decide she has had enough? 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Kobojunkie: 1:01pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
IgOga:LOL.... una dey read at all? 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Flesh10: 1:01pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
If he is a good father then there is a soft side of him that needs to be triggered. One thing about bad habit or addiction is that it is very difficult to handle. You can caste out a demon spirit but you can never cast out bad habit. It requires intentional actions. This is what I advise speak with him gently see he can see where he is hurting you and the kids, if he doesn't change take a brutal action by overlooking the responsibilities in the house be it the children's welfare OR house bills. It will hurt the kids and you but sometimes you have to have a heart of steel to cause a change. If he cares about the kids he will sit up and go hustle. He knows you will sort the bills that's why he gambles. Na who no get alternative OR see food chop dey gamble. Take that option out of his hands. If it means you slowing down your business, slow it down 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Kobojunkie: 1:02pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
Blue86:Jesus Christ said your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36 - Yet you think it makes sense to bring His name here? |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by grandstar(m): 1:05pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
all4zionlover Gambling was described as the second worst addiction by a psychologist. He said the worst was the slot machine as it gives you instant gratification. You put a coin in and you could win a months salary in an instant rather than work hard for in a job over 30 days to earn it. He said it messes up the brain's reward system. You keep yearning to get that hit Your husband believes if he makes a hit, his family fortune will change overnight and that you don't seem to get it. That is why he is ignoring you and is pissed with you. Truth is, when that money arrives, half or more of it would be ploughed back into gambling and all of it disappearing and never to be seen again. Why not invite him to a meeting of Jehovah's Witnesses one day? Our meetings are very serene with a scriptural ambiance. Some of our members were once gambling addicts. There is a brother who I am close to who is now an elder. He told me was badly addicted and was always playing pools. He later realized that God hates gambling and that it is rooted in greed and covetousness. He stopped gambling. After stopping it, he used the money he would have saved up playing pools to buy a fridge. It meant so much to him. Probably only you can know the feeling of what that meant to him. It is over 20 years now and he has never gambled again. Visit www.jw.org and find the Kingdom Hall closest to you |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Ybaby: 1:06pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
all4zionlover: Divorce him |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Exceed15: 1:06pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
U mentioned you have no love and respect for him. Kindly correct that first if he must even listen to you. Madam , it is not greener on the other side. If you think other women are enjoying their marriage more than you is a big deception. Becareful what you throw away and say it's not good. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by ifihearam: 1:06pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
If the betting enter and he wins millions will you be here complaining? As you lay your bed please lie ooo He go hammer one day and make it up to you..just dey pray. |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by Kobojunkie: 1:07pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
zakkxx:1. Gambling is a spirit that needs to be fed with money that is meant for your children? 2. Pray to God? If you found out your wife was a gambler, would you also sit praying to God while she gambles all that money away? 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by RZArecta(m): 1:09pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
all4zionlover:bear in mind, your husband has psychological problems and needs to see a therapist for his gambling addiction. I know that it might be very faint now but you still love your husband and it will grow if he sits up especially financially. What you need is a solution Make enquiries on where he can go for the therapy sessions, they're mostly expensive but try Save up the money for the therapy sessions Have a heart to heart talk with him telling him about his gambling addiction and how it's affecting you, the kids and you're already tired of the marriage and you please want him to change. By now he should be showing signs of remorse Tell him you want him to go for therapy because you realise it's an addiction and it can be controlled. You want the man you married to come back to you. Once he agrees, book an appointment and follow him to appointments if you want. Marriage is a battle that cannot be won by one partner alone, the two heads must come together. Sometimes it's mostly fun, sometimes there are wars but that initial love that led to marriage must always be worked on in good time and bad times. I know it's not easy on you but just try at least for the sake of the children. The problem will be if he refuses to accept that he has a problem because then, you'll have to check your options. Nobody will say then that you didn't try your best to save this marriage. Ego won't work |
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