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What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Bekeey: 12:14pm On Jul 20, 2023
Good day my people. No long story, 2days ago, I got some money that someone meant to send to my account 30k for the job I did for him. So I decided to send the money to my wife's account. Could you believe that for past two days, my wife have not discussed such transaction to me. I expected her to tell me that night the transactions was made that she got some money she doesn't know the sender. But to my greatest surprise she has not disclose such to me.

Please, what should I do and what does that implies?

I am planning to confront her tonight once I got home from work. Or should I hold on for her to consume the money and later mandate her to pay me or tell me what she used the money for.

I'm just confused why my wife couldn't discussed such thing to her husband. What should I do please my people?

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Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Xammie001(m): 12:17pm On Jul 20, 2023
Bekeey:
Good day my people. No long story, 2days ago, I got some money that someone meant to send to my account 30k for the job I did for him. So I decided to send the money to my wife's account. Could you believe that for past two days, my wife have not discussed such transaction to me. I expected her to tell me that night the transactions was made that she got some money she doesn't know the sender. But to my greatest surprise she has not disclose such to me.

Please, what should I do and what does that implies?

I am planning to confront her tonight once I got home from work. Or should I hold on for her to consume the money and later mandate her to pay me or tell me what she used the money for.

I'm just confused why my wife couldn't discussed such thing to her husband. What should I do please my people?

DEAR SIR
YOU SHOULD KNOW YOUR WOMAN BETTER DUE TO THE RELATIONSHIP YOU KEEP,HER STYLE ,HER WAYS AND YOU ALSO HAVE A DEALING MECHANISM ON HOW TO DEAL WITH HER.
COMING HERE TO SEEK FOR ADVISE MAY AND WILL SEVERE YOUR PRECIOUS RELATIONSHIP

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Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Xammie001(m): 12:18pm On Jul 20, 2023
MY OWN WOMAN ANYTIME SOMETHING LIKE THAT ENTERS HER HAND I DO INFORM HER BEFORE HAND SO AS TO SEPERATE GIFTS FROM MY OWN MONEY,IF SHE WAN SCAM ME I KNOW WITH HER ACTIONS

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Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Bekeey: 12:20pm On Jul 20, 2023
Xammie001:


DEAR SIR
YOU SHOULD KNOW YOUR WOMAN BETTER DUE TO THE RELATIONSHIP YOU KEEP,HER STYLE ,HER WAYS AND YOU ALSO HAVE A DEALING MECHANISM ON HOW TO DEAL WITH HER.
COMING HERE TO SEEK FOR ADVISE MAY AND WILL SEVERE YOUR PRECIOUS RELATIONSHIP

You are write but I'm just thinking is not right and wise for her to keep silent 🤔
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Blackdeewhy(m): 12:22pm On Jul 20, 2023
It seems you two are having TRUST issues in your relationship.

If she told you she got money from an unknown person in this present hard economy situation and let's say you didn't know the sender and you're NOT the sender, won't you say it was one of her BOYFRIEND in disguise

Tell her you asked a client to send the money and don't try to make a hole where there's none.

Funny enough, she might intend to use the said money for the kids or buy food stuff at home.
Please be MORE open to one another.
Wishing you the best 💯.

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Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Xammie001(m): 12:27pm On Jul 20, 2023
Bekeey:


You are write but I'm just thinking is not right and wise for her to keep silent 🤔
DID YOU INFORM HER EARLIER ABOUT THE MONEY COMING TO HER ACCOUNT
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by donbachi(m): 12:30pm On Jul 20, 2023
Why make her look like a bad person .. you were supposed to tell her about a payment that will be received by her account,as the account holder.
What if she's also expecting cash from her relatives.
After all no be every money wey enter your account you dey tell her

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Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Bekeey: 12:32pm On Jul 20, 2023
Blackdeewhy:
It seems you two are having TRUST issues in your relationship.

If she told you she got money from an unknown person in this present hard economy situation and let's say you didn't know the sender and you're NOT the sender, won't you say it was one of her BOYFRIEND in disguise

Tell her you asked a client to send the money and don't try to make a hole where there's none.

Funny enough, she might intend to use the said money for the kids or buy food stuff at home.
Please be MORE open to one another.
Wishing you the best 💯.

You are right too but if it really an unknown sender and she informed me by her self, I won't suspect anything. That proves to me more that she's sincere enough that keeping mute and I later found out.
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Bekeey: 12:34pm On Jul 20, 2023
Xammie001:

DID YOU INFORM HER EARLIER ABOUT THE MONEY COMING TO HER ACCOUNT

There was nothing like that.
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Bekeey: 12:40pm On Jul 20, 2023
donbachi:
Why make her look like a bad person .. you were supposed to tell her about a payment that will be received by her account,as the account holder.
What if she's also expecting cash from her relatives.
After all no be every money wey enter your account you dey tell her

You are right too, but not for unknown account or person. I will definitely tell her if it's unknown account.

Try understand my path. I didn't mean every money that enters her account. Ok, what if it was illgot money that may require trace any time?
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by fyzaila: 12:43pm On Jul 20, 2023
You two are not very open to each other. Because she is suppose to discuss it with you. Couples shouldn't hide anything from each other no matter how insignificant that thing is. Well unless there is trust issues.

God knows i am marrying the person whom to keep things a way from would be difficult for me.
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by internationalman(m): 12:47pm On Jul 20, 2023
Maybe she didn't know.

I used to date a girl that barely checked her phone notifications.. I had to always call to tell her in situations like this...

She was the kind of person you wouldn't send a message in an emergency situation..

Nigerians generally are not good with emails and conventional messages
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by fyzaila: 12:49pm On Jul 20, 2023
internationalman:
Maybe she didn't know.

I used to date a girl that barely checked her phone notifications.. I had to always call to tell her in situations like this...

She was the kind of person you wouldn't send a message in an emergency situation..

Nigerians generally are not good with emails and conventional messages

Which notification are you talking about? He is talking of credit alert.
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by internationalman(m): 12:50pm On Jul 20, 2023
fyzaila:


Which notification are you talking about? He is talking of credit alert.

Don't credit alert come in as notification?
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by advanceDNA: 1:11pm On Jul 20, 2023
Bekeey:
Good day my people. No long story, 2days ago, I got some money that someone meant to send to my account 30k for the job I did for him. So I decided to send the money to my wife's account. Could you believe that for past two days, my wife have not discussed such transaction to me. I expected her to tell me that night the transactions was made that she got some money she doesn't know the sender. But to my greatest surprise she has not disclose such to me.

Please, what should I do and what does that implies?

I am planning to confront her tonight once I got home from work. Or should I hold on for her to consume the money and later mandate her to pay me or tell me what she used the money for.

I'm just confused why my wife couldn't discussed such thing to her husband. What should I do please my people?

First make sure say she knows....

if the money don truly enter her account and she just lock up like that...baba..ur wife na street ooo.. dey careful with am ooooo.....me i no fit roll with women we her heart deep like that..... even if the .oney is not from u...she supposed tell u...say strange money enter her account ooo....in case yawa go gas later...

U better tell her now...that its money for a job u have not done...that u only told the person to swnd to her account cos ur account was not going.....if care is not taken ...she fit deny oo.

..no let her know how much money dey ur hand per time.... no talk say person no warn warn u ooooo
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Kobojunkie: 1:15pm On Jul 20, 2023
Bekeey:
â–  Good day my people. No long story, 2days ago, I got some money that someone meant to send to my account 30k for the job I did for him. So I decided to send the money to my wife's account. Could you believe that for past two days, my wife have not discussed such transaction to me. I expected her to tell me that night the transactions was made that she got some money she doesn't know the sender. But to my greatest surprise she has not disclose such to me.
Please, what should I do and what does that implies?
I am planning to confront her tonight once I got home from work. Or should I hold on for her to consume the money and later mandate her to pay me or tell me what she used the money for. I'm just confused why my wife couldn't discussed such thing to her husband. What should I do please my people?
I don't follow! Your wife does not have anyway of identifying the sender of the money or she has no way of knowing the money came from you? Could it be she probably thinks it was angel money and so is waiting to give testimony of it in her church on Sunday? undecided
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:59pm On Jul 20, 2023
i dont understand.... why didnt you tell her that someone was gonna send you money in HER account? why the sneaky part, trying to test her?!

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Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Bekeey: 6:42pm On Jul 20, 2023
MrBrownJay1:
i dont understand.... why didnt you tell her that someone was gonna send you money in HER account? why the sneaky part, trying to test her?!

Was urgent, according to the sender, he said it was only UBA that's he can pay into to avert wahala.
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Childfree: 7:18pm On Jul 20, 2023
It could be possible she didn't see an alert.

It could be possible she saw money entered into her account, don't know who sent it, wondering who sent it.

It could be possible she saw it, knew it was you. So what? Shouldn't it be the first thing you'll do is to confirm if a certain 30k entered her account just to be sure about the transaction?

Moreover this wasn't the first time you are doing this kind of dumb shit.

Here is another one
https://www.nairaland.com/6987060/valentine-tested-fiance-today-she

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Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Nazgul: 7:40pm On Jul 20, 2023
I honestly do not understand you at all.

You're receiving money from a client into your wife's account and you couldn't call her to inform her of the transaction, and still didn't call her to confirm if she received the cash inflow before executing the job for the person.

What if the person didn't send any money to her account at all, what if he just sent you a fake screenshot, and since you didn't pre-inform your wife, she couldn't confirm any receipt of the transaction?

Better go and inform her first let her confirm that the money is in her account before condemning her for playing the mute.

And next time you want to make a transfer to her account from a 3rd party, kind inform her. It's going to save you the stress of all this hide and seek you're playing with yourself.

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Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Reinamaria(f): 8:08pm On Jul 20, 2023
Op, you're very very annoying!

So, why did you not tell your wife you were expecting some money that'll be transferred into her account?
What was your intention for not telling her?

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Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Intergrated: 9:03pm On Jul 20, 2023
Op you are one of the problems in Nigeria. You dey find trouble where there is no trouble. What's wrong in saying my love I sent 30k into your account? Abi fuel increment dey worry u.

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Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by MrBrownJay1(m): 9:09pm On Jul 20, 2023
Bekeey:
Was urgent, according to the sender, he said it was only UBA that's he can pay into to avert wahala.

...so urgent that (til now) you havent been able to tell her?!?!?! come on! your story makes very little sense.
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by GboyegaD(m): 9:27pm On Jul 20, 2023
Did you inform her someone will be paying money into her account? Does she receives alert and does she check her text messages often?
I would advice in your approach that you take things gently and hear her out first.
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Bekeey: 10:10pm On Jul 20, 2023
Nazgul:
I honestly do not understand you at all.

You're receiving money from a client into your wife's account and you couldn't call her to inform her of the transaction, and still didn't call her to confirm if she received the cash inflow before executing the job for the person.

What if the person didn't send any money to her account at all, what if he just sent you a fake screenshot, and since you didn't pre-inform your wife, she couldn't confirm any receipt of the transaction?

Better go and inform her first let her confirm that the money is in her account before condemning her for playing the mute.

And next time you want to make a transfer to her account from a 3rd party, kind inform her. It's going to save you the stress of all this hide and seek you're playing with yourself.


He sent in the receipt and I confirmed it
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Nemesis0147(m): 10:14pm On Jul 20, 2023
Bekeey:


You are right too, but not for unknown account or person. I will definitely tell her if it's unknown account.

Try understand my path. I didn't mean every money that enters her account. Ok, what if it was illgot money that may require trace any time?
oga keep quiet and stop being petty!!
What if has been expecting that the same amount from someone else?
U just wan cause wahala for your marriage
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Nemesis0147(m): 10:16pm On Jul 20, 2023
internationalman:
Maybe she didn't know.

I used to date a girl that barely checked her phone notifications.. I had to always call to tell her in situations like this...

She was the kind of person you wouldn't send a message in an emergency situation..

Nigerians generally are not good with emails and conventional messages
anybody that is crediting or that credited me without telling me is wasting his or her time because I don’t check my bank notifications(I have a different phone we’re my banks notifications come in)….I only login to my banks app other phone …I can stay 2weeks without logging into an account sef.
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Nemesis0147(m): 10:21pm On Jul 20, 2023
Bekeey:


Was urgent, according to the sender, he said it was only UBA that's he can pay into to avert wahala.
you should have told her
What if account was having issues?
Una sef
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by NoToPile: 10:38pm On Jul 20, 2023
People dey sha.
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by frozen70(f): 2:06am On Jul 21, 2023
Bekeey:
Good day my people. No long story, 2days ago, I got some money that someone meant to send to my account 30k for the job I did for him. So I decided to send the money to my wife's account. Could you believe that for past two days, my wife have not discussed such transaction to me. I expected her to tell me that night the transactions was made that she got some money she doesn't know the sender. But to my greatest surprise she has not disclose such to me.

Please, what should I do and what does that implies?

I am planning to confront her tonight once I got home from work. Or should I hold on for her to consume the money and later mandate her to pay me or tell me what she used the money for.

I'm just confused why my wife couldn't discussed such thing to her husband. What should I do please my people?

You have not told us the real reason you sent that money to her account and you want her to respond to that amount when you know that she already told you what she need money for and the amount needed to settle whatever she needs the money for

Assuming she requested for 150k and you sent that 30k, mind you she is already beefing for you, so she is expecting you to say something for sending money that is below what she need and you are expecting her to comment on a low alert

Well both of you know what you are doing

If you know that, you are supposed to be appreciated go ahead and ask her

Am sure her silent means alot and you know very well

So don't come here to paint a picture of an ungrateful woman

When a woman is on silent treatment, something is wrong along the line
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Xammie001(m): 7:55am On Jul 21, 2023
Bekeey:


There was nothing like that.

SO PLEASE TELL HER AND DON'T SEE HER AS A BAD OR GREEDY PERSON
Re: What Do I Do? She Have Maintained Silent by Bekeey: 8:32am On Jul 21, 2023
Xammie001:


SO PLEASE TELL HER AND DON'T SEE HER AS A BAD OR GREEDY PERSON

Have informed her yesternight but she claimed she didn't see it

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