vronnie,
what you say makes a lot of sense. and for you i think you will be just fine. cause i think a true sign of how genuine they are is that he takes you to the place from where he comes. and to his people. so you guys sound like your going strong. and if you return to usa once a year. that cant hurt. all the best to your marriage.

malaika.
someone in my defense! finally. thanx for that. and you got a lot of it right. only that when i said am "african" i did not want to be forced to reveal which part i come from. mainly because once i say it, how do i know my other naija friends wont put 1 and 2 together and pinpoint me. i do it for aninomity. although am not coloured, im actually black. but thanx for your defense.

ol girl I love ur tie especially the way it sticks out of ur top
Ur guy na Nna number 1 of Africa

no be so?!!!!

Why dont you people just leave OgaMadam alone.

Desorlah Thank you!

oga madam,

so that is not you, but those pics are so funny almost got me a querry for laughing so hard instead of focussing on the job at hand.

@ topic,

when you eventually visit nigeria with your boyfriend(am assuming you'd go ahead and marry him) you'd realize that you were probably crossing the brige before getting there.

nigeria is not as backwards as you may like to think. a lot of inter tribal and inter racial marriages happen here every day, and most of them eventually work out. what bothers you is probably giving up your culture, friends in SA and moving to strange nigeria, but believe me, if you've learnt how to cook igbo meals and are learning the language, you have nothing to worry about especially if he comes from a liberal family.

so my advice, meet the folks, brothers, sisters and as many extended family as you can meet and make up your mind if you want to be with them for ever and ever. if you can get them to accept you, you have no qualms as igbo men are particularly nice to their wives, but if you are not accepted, then i think you had better go and marry that white man you always wanted cos hell hath no fury as an african family that does not like the bride to be, they will use every trick in the book to send you back to wherever you come from.

all the best, just look hard and long, and pray even harder and longer beforeyou leap.

thanx a million aproko.

Aproko:

oga madam,

so that is not you, but those pics are so funny almost got me a querry for laughing so hard instead of focussing on the job at hand.

@ topic,

when you eventually visit nigeria with your boyfriend(am assuming you'd go ahead and marry him) you'd realize that you were probably crossing the brige before getting there.

nigeria is not as backwards as you may like to think. a lot of inter tribal and inter racial marriages happen here every day, and most of them eventually work out. what bothers you is probably giving up your culture, friends in SA and moving to strange nigeria, but believe me, if you've learnt how to cook igbo meals and are learning the language, you have nothing to worry about especially if he comes from a liberal family.

so my advice, meet the folks, brothers, sisters and as many extended family as you can meet and make up your mind if you want to be with them for ever and ever. if you can get them to accept you, you have no qualms as igbo men are particularly nice to their wives, but if you are not accepted, then i think you had better go and marry that white man you always wanted because hell hath no fury as an african family that does not like the bride to be, they will use every trick in the book to send you back to wherever you come from.

all the best, just look hard and long, and pray even harder and longer beforeyou leap.

she'll fit right in.
She already looks like she can slice okro with her teeth.
and break open palmkennel with that shiny forehead

_kidding

whatever babyosis

4 pages full with insults, what now, this girl did not create herself, if everyone were to post their pics i'm sure we'd find sum more 'wowo' people, please leave ogamadam alone

LOL!!! UNA know now to make my day!!! thanks for the laughter!
Good luck to ya Ogamadam!

thanx madam and best of luck to you too

if u want 2 u will, his family should be ur concern, ma igbo people u diggg?

I wonder what nairaland is turning to nowadays, someone came in for advice, if you know you dont have any tangible advice to offer her why dont you move on, she has said it several time that she is not the one in the picture still people keep on asking the same question over and over again, i dont know why people are talking more of a picture than the advice which she asked for in the first instance, we need to grow up and stop behaving like a kid.

I'm in the similar situation but we have not discussed marriage yet. However, it shouldn't matter whether or not he is Nigerian and you are not. The important aspect of your relationship is that you understand and respect each other's culture. Having that respect will make you love stronger. Hope this helps you with some of the doubts you have. Goodluck.

p.s. I'm gonna say this as nice as possible.I have a lot of guys friends that are Nigerian and my boyfriend is Nigerian. No offense. I just want to know why you chose that particular boy out of all the good looking Nigerians out there?

read the post carefully.

i said pics were for special effects.

anyways,

How long have you been out with your boyfriend?

lol. I'm sorry. I guess I should have read it properly. We've been together for a few years, we've been dating since high school and now we're juniors at the same university. He and I are similar in many ways, such as personality and morals, so our difference in culture do not affect us that much. I'm not sure how close you and your boyfriend are but you should talk to him about how you feel. He might have some resolutions to your fears, maybe even suggest ways to adjust gradually into his culture. I know most Nigerian families are very conservative so they value tradition. If you acknowledge and respect it, even though you might not agree with it, then you not have big problems. Try to learn two or more important values of your boyfriend's family and truly understand it. It will put you more at ease once you've studied his culture and family. In return, he will do the same for you. Well that's it. I hope I was helpful. Good Luck.

p.s. sorry about the pic comment. No hard feelings right?

nah,

none taken.  well me and my boyfriend have now reached the end of our road.  I think i came here because of all the reservations i had about our relationship.

for us, i think our differences are too big.  its been on and off, on and off, well now its perpetually off.

i wanted something to work that wouldnt work i geuss.  i think also i just bumped into the wrong person.  i wont date nigerian again.  its done for me now.  been there, done that bought the Tshirt and the video.

To be honest, i think i feel relieved.  i would have to put up with much if i got married to him, God had to stop it.  For my sake.

Anyways, if yous all the same, and have a lot of similarity and stuff, thats good right?

speak to you later

wow, girl, I bow for those pics. They are---------------- awesome! wowness! lol, don't mind me.

I really don't get ur purpose for ur topic. The title doesn't sound right. U're african and ur bf is igbo ok, i get ur point, u don't want to disclose ur country's name in africa but u sound like one of 'em "akatas" who think africa is a country. "igbo" like u said is a tribe/ethnic group. u make it sound like another continent. Trust me, i understand u but what do u need help with. d way y'all foreigners be complainin' each time u're engaged or goin' out with a Nigerian, y'all make it sound like we're aliens or smthin'. That's what i don't get. If u got any direct questions, feel free to ask me 'cause ur previous questions are not direct, therefore i don't know how to begin to answer u. holla back. chiogo got ur back.once more, i salute those pics. lol

I broke up with him so it doesnt matter aight.

By the way your not ailiens, but in future, going out with someone who is more like me will make my relationship easier, Nigerians are better off with each other.

Damn girl i can't say you are urgly or beautiful rather, i think my brother is blind spiritual and physical, i think my brother's parents won't tolorete you cos we have princess and queens back at our homelands.


Compare yourself and this girl.

If you are happy im happy.

@bluenubian


puuhhlease i have seen ur pictures, u arent anything special so chill out. whoever told u, u were all that lied ot ur fat ass.

you are beautiful no matter what they say!

[s]but were those pictures taken with a pin hole camera? [/s]

spoilt:

you are beautiful no matter what they say!

[s]but were those pictures taken with a pin hole camera? [/s]   

lmaooooooo @ pinhole camera

Where is basket mouth? ^{give these people need counsel}.

Ogamadam,

I having laughing and crying. Those pictures were amazing. Did she put vasiline on her face. Why is his pants like that. Amazing. Your both beautiful, awolowo

heheheheh. . .oh lordy. . .*stop laughing*
ehrrrrm. . . those pixz. . they try oh.
and am not sure if the other nairalanders have covered this fact. . .but an Igbo is also an african, so i guess it CAN work. . .i mean it should.
wowo + wowo =

i dunnow, becoz am white, if i have a say here, ,
but my bf is Nigerian, and i love him, and he loves me back, so if me and him can make it, then why would u and your sweetheart not make it?
i mean love is interracial.

A.B.A4LIFE:

Damn girl i can't say you are urgly or beautiful rather, i think my brother is blind spiritual and physical, i think my brother's parents won't tolorete you because we have princess and queens back at our homelands.


Compare yourself and this girl.

im sorry but does that comment make any sense even to you??so the gurl in the picture is the finest in the world right??a girl posted a topic asking for advice and you are ranting about "your brother being blind"have you seen her picture to know if she is not prettier or are you saying there are no south african girls prettier than the pictures,meen i just wonder about we nigerians sometimes,
@poster
i guess any advice on your topic wont mean much now so ill just pass.
for people on here just ranting and raving blindly without any sensible reasoning
1)she said the picture is not of her neither is it of her now ex boyfriend
2)all she is asking for is advice on the igbo customs so either she is yahoo yahoo or google google or amazon amazoon or pay pal pay pal has absolutely no meaning,she has not asked any of you for money neither has she asked for anyone's email or bank acount so how did you come to your warped conclusions.

i dont know who she is but im only posting this so other africans who are none nigerians who stumble on this thread will not think all of us nigerians are as retarded as some people on here

@Poster

Yes you can, i dont see any reason why not!!!