You know what it feels like when you are caught between the devil and the red sea?..You are screwed which ever way you turn..

How about finding yourself on the horns of a Delimma..You are gored and disboweled either way..

The Delimma of a married Man ..

On a regular basis his honour and loyalty is put to the test. He has to balance loyalty to his Mum and siblings in one corner, and in the other ,his wife, the mother of his kids.


Mum raised him into the man he is today..Nurseed him while he was pink and frail..Fed him from her own breast.Sleepless nights for her on days where he was sick and it felt like he was never going to make it till dawn.

He grew up with his siblings . they've been through hardships,good times ,difficulties that seem insurmountable and probably were.....He feels at all times a deep sense of loyalty to them..

His wife on the other hand is a woman he loves and has promised to protect and defend at all times..She didn't nurse neither did she breastfeed him but she supports him now and seeks to build the future by his side...

So what is a Man to do when His wife and his Mum/Siblings are in a misunderstanding?..Who does he side with and how will this affect the other party(ies)?..


We read here on a regular basis how MILs and DILs are constantly fighting .Power struggle between the wife and the man's Siblings.

The man is stuck in the middle not knowing where to turn? wherever he goes he is Damned.!.

How would you suggest he deals with this Delimma?..Let's talk...

He should stay on the side of justice.
When situations arise,he should try as much as possible to hear both sides of the story and judge/mediate righteously.
In some cases,he may need to beg or plead for one side to compromise or forgive.

The first thing a married man needs to know is that his wife not only becomes a part of his nuclear family when he marries but also a part of him no matter the circumstances of his family while growing up.Any man who doesn't has no business marrying.
There are good and bad families.One should try to ensure that the family one is marrying into is a good one with reasonable people.

When faced with disputes at home, a man must first and foremost diplomatically try to de-escalate tensions and bring peace without taking anyone's side. His role shouldn't be that of a judge but a mediator.

He can see who is wrong and who is right from hearing them out and with that information, he'll reason with the party at "fault" with a view of having them understand and apologize while he'll approach the offended party to appease them to forgiveness.

Whether this is done on the spot or privately will depend on the situation. Both families are there for him and he should understand them and know how to balance their interests.

What's tha business?

There is no dilemma. It is the man's responsibility to set boundaries for both parties. He should not encourage either party at the expense of the other, and not entertain any bad gossip about either his mother/siblings, or his wife. They should all be no-go areas.

Well captured in the 3 previous comments.

Marriage is a scam

He needs to find a way of balancing the situations. His objectivity is key and needs to know how to be a peace maker. No one is right or wrong in most cases however, he needs be able to tell/teach the excessive one patience and tolerance. Lastly, he should never be in between.

Zabiboy:

Another post about a "MAN'S" Upbringing and as usual, the Father is COMPLETELY IGNORED in the write-up and the HEAVENLY SENT, HARD-WORKING, EVER-PRESENT, BREAD-WINNER "MUM" is being Praised...
To even think that it's a Male that wrote this SHIT is just sickening...

That is because fathers are not usually caught in this kind of situation.

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JhyMedex:
You know what it feels like when you are caught between the devil and the red sea?..You are screwed which ever way you turn..

How about finding yourself on the horns of a Delimma..You are gored and disboweled either way..

The Delimma of a married Man ..

On a regular basis his honour and loyalty is put to the test. He has to balance loyalty to his Mum and siblings in one corner, and in the other ,his wife, the mother of his kids.


Mum raised him into the man he is today..Nurseed him while he was pink and frail..Fed him from her own breast.Sleepless nights for her on days where he was sick and it felt like he was never going to make it till dawn.

He grew up with his siblings . they've been through hardships,good times ,difficulties that seem insurmountable and probably were.....He feels at all times a deep sense of loyalty to them..

His wife on the other hand is a woman he loves and has promised to protect and defend at all times..She didn't nurse neither did she breastfeed him but she supports him now and seeks to build the future by his side...

So what is a Man to do when His wife and his Mum/Siblings are in a misunderstanding?..Who does he side with and how will this affect the other party(ies)?..


We read here on a regular basis how MILs and DILs are constantly fighting .Power struggle between the wife and the man's Siblings.

The man is stuck in the middle not knowing where to turn? wherever he goes he is Damned.!.

How would you suggest he deals with this Delimma?..Let's talk...

Astrogeotech:
Hello.. Do you still need the borehole drilling in minna?

Yes I do

JhyMedex:

Yes I do

Have you done the geophysical survey?

Kindly chat me up on whatsapp or call 08136569906

Let us discuss in details

Astrogeotech:


Have you done the geophysical survey?

Kindly chat me up on whatsapp or call 08136569906

Let us discuss in details

Okay.. will send a msg on Whatsapp