Kanwulia: Hmmm!
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Kanwulia: Hmmm!

haryor1986: Hello NL, my fiancee angrys over little tins too much. She don't want to overlook tins @ all. When she s angry, she raises her voice so high that am begining to dislike her attitude because am a calm guy and don't get easily angered. But she won't listen 2 me am fed up. Wat ways can I handle dis situation. God bless u... Hapi sunday

haryor1986: Hello NL, my fiancee angrys over little tins too much. She don't want to overlook tins @ all. When she s angry, she raises her voice so high that am begining to dislike her attitude because am a calm guy and don't get easily angered. But she won't listen 2 me am fed up. Wat ways can I handle dis situation. God bless u... Hapi sunday

vivianc:

What is it that you always do to her that makes her so angry? Have you searched yourself? Or is she a lunatic? Why don't you just reassess yourself and make her happy for once!

Humans have different temperament, so don't expect her to be like you! You might be the type that surpresses his anger, that's your temperament, not hers!

I'm the type that voices my anger out depending on who is involved. I was getting close to this guy that felt and complained that I get angry all the time. One day I sat down and reflected on things and I realised that yes, i have been angry alot in that friendship but the truth of the matter is the guy does so many things so wrong and he expects me to suck it up. I called him, sat him down and talked to him. I'm not a lunatic but clearly he has turned me into one. He brings out the worst in me and I told him it was best he is no longer in my life anymore.

So what am I saying? This could be your fault! It could be that you do so many things so wrong! What do expect? For her to suck it up and smile and give you a gold medal? You bring out the worst in her, so its either you find a way to turn things around or you take a walk.

vivianc:

What is it that you always do to her that makes her so angry? Have you searched yourself? Or is she a lunatic? Why don't you just reassess yourself and make her happy for once!


I'm the type that voices my anger out depending on who is involved. I was getting close to this guy that felt and complained that I get angry all the time. One day I sat down and reflected on things and I realised that yes, i have been angry alot in that friendship but the truth of the matter is the guy does so many things so wrong and he expects me to suck it up.

So what am I saying? This could be your fault! It could be that you do so many things so wrong! What do expect? For her to suck it up and smile and give you a gold medal?

Kanwulia: Hmmm!
This ya YINGRISH can HANGRYS any woman in and out of bedroom o! Kai!!!

Me sef for don POISON your azze tey-tey!

Nonsense!!!!

igbonla:

You are running away from taking responsibility for your behavior, it has nothing to do with what the guy did but everything to do with how your reactions/responses.
Stop giving people so much power over your emotions; life will always throw mean and sometimes deadly punches at us, how we respond determines our success or failure.

igbonla:

You are running away from taking responsibility for your behavior, it has nothing to do with what the guy did but everything to do with how your reactions/responses.
Stop giving people so much power over your emotions; life will always throw mean and sometimes deadly punches at us, how we respond determines our success or failure.

Royal Roy:

My thoughts exactly.
Each adult should take responsibility for their behavior and not blame it on someone else.

If the fiancée refuse to stop been mad at every single issue then you the Op should move on.

People rarely change, they only become a clearer version of what they truely are.

jeffizy:
You even sound angry here too.
Anger is what any matured person can control. You need to know people will always have a different approach to everything cos we are not the same. It's called tolerance.
Although, most angry people are either impatient or havinging inferiority complex.

alutacontinua: Does she snap at other people like that too?

vivianc:

I don't understand what "responsibility" I should take. And this is not about me. The rest of the things you are saying are completely out of point.

People don't just react to nothing, they react to actions. While you don't give any Tom and Jerry the right over your emotions, I agree with that. No one is obligated to us, i agree but when a certain person occupies a certain position or space in our lives s/he is obligated to us.

The guy should take responsibility for his actions too that provoke this lady. If this guy is engaged to this lady, he is obligated to her, to treat her right at all times but if he doesn't, the lady has every right to be angry.

Its not everything that's the lady's fault. That he first complained doesn't make him innocent!

Secondly, people's temperament differs, so are their horoscopes. Find out where your partner falls in. If you don't know all these, then you shouldn't advice people on behavioural issues, cos you are not qualified to do so.

igbonla:

Usually don't do come backs but there are always exceptions.
(1) Part of my comments that seemed out of point were directed at your personal experience that you shared, thought it was obvious.
(2) Again, reacting to somebody's action is what I was asking you not to do! You have control over how you react but never on the actions coming at you!
(3) I agree that every body should treat everybody right but sadly, we don't live in an ideal world.
(4) Never wrote anything about the lady being at fault, I listened to Chimamanda when she talked about the dangers of a single side story and learnt valuable lessons.
(5) Temperament may differ but everybody must control their tempers otherwise it becomes an insane world. If in doubt, go to Ojota motor park watch those touts for like 15 minutes.
(6) Sorry, I don't do horoscopes and don't believe that has got anything to do with anybody's behavior.

igbonla:

Usually don't do come backs but there are always exceptions.
(1) Part of my comments that seemed out of point were directed at your personal experience that you shared, thought it was obvious.
(2) Again, reacting to somebody's action is what I was asking you not to do! You have control over how you react but never on the actions coming at you!
(3) I agree that every body should treat everybody right but sadly, we don't live in an ideal world.
(4) Never wrote anything about the lady being at fault, I listened to Chimamanda when she talked about the dangers of a single side story and learnt valuable lessons.
(5) Temperament may differ but everybody must control their tempers otherwise it becomes an insane world. If in doubt, go to Ojota motor park watch those touts for like 15 minutes.
(6) Sorry, I don't do horoscopes and don't believe that has got anything to do with anybody's behavior.

alutacontinua:

We're humans and we're bound to react to people's actions, most especially the people we love! Anger is a normal reaction to some actions and in a relationship, you cannot expect a party to be keeping cool if the other party ain't acting cool.

vivianc:

Don't mind them. If this poster where to be a chic complaining about a dude, we would have seen a lot of "How to calm him down and treat him like a king" lists. But since reverse is the case, how dare me! Right? How dare me demand she should be treated right, huh? Of course she shouldn't be, she should just smile and remain cool even when the guy drives her insane. If she couldn't the guy should move on jare..... After all he is doing her a favour by considering to marry her.

Hypocrites.

vivianc: Is it not a shame how most of you are not being objective in this matter? Really a shame!

Unless someone is a lunatic, s/he doesn't just react to nothing, there most be an action before a reaction.

The question is what is she reacting to?

Now the way people react differs, that's their component, its the way they are created. So why don't we sit down and figure out ourselves how or what our partners' components are, it will help us a long way. And when we have figured it out, won't it be plain selfish to repeatedly do things that our partners' would react negatively to? If you can't figure this out, you have no business being in a relationship.

meine:

This girl must really have some anger issues to deal with and i am not joking,see how she talks down on people. I fear for her guy,she has no courtesy at all.

haryor1986: Hello NL, my fiancee gets angry over little tins too much. She don't want to overlook tins @ all. When she s angry, she raises her voice so high that am begining to dislike her attitude because am a calm guy and don't get easily angered. But she won't listen 2 me am fed up. Wat ways can I handle dis situation. God bless u... Hapi sunday