Zedric: thats because most girls see white wedding as an avenue to show off but, technically, traditional wedding covers everything.

YorubaJesus: Marriage is just a piece of paper whether its cultural, legal, white or black. If two people are meant to be together, they will without the need of getting married.

Mynd44: White wedding is a form of traditional wedding. Traditional wedding we borrowed from another culture.

I essence, if you do your traditional wedding and a "white" wedding, you just did two traditional weddings. Any wedding which is consumated by your church pastor(leader) is a church wedding. It does not matter if you wear white(or a gown or the groom wears a 3 piece suit) or not. It does not matter if you have it in church or not(you can have it in a hall and your pastor comes over to bless you with the church's backing)

Hell these days, traditional leaders have marriage registers which is domiciled with the Baale, local Oba or an recognised Traditional leader and you go there to sign it which makes it official(They report to the Local Governments)

I don't know why people love calling their traditional marriage "engagement" and their church wedding "wedding" it is just weird. When you have something called "Introduction" which is basically an engagement ceremony.

Odunharry:
where av u bn?

YorubaJesus: Marriage is just a piece of paper whether its cultural, legal, white or black. If two people are meant to be together, they will without the need of getting married.

Janetozi: you need medical attention, ur brain have been infested with maggots. Guuuuuuush!

ammyluv2002: Yeah! White & court wedding are just ceremonial. You can decide not to wed in the church but you must perform the traditional rites on a lady before she can be called your wife....is in the bible and as a Christian, I always go with my bible principles not trendy principles.

Although some say is ok to get a marriage blessing from a priest/pastor which isn't bad

Meristem:
1000 likes!
If not for our copy-copy mentality in Africa/Nigeria, the case should have been such that the couples simply CHOOSE ONE format. But culturally, we seem to have our feet in our mouths - A lady's performs the full traditional rites of marriage, and then as if that were invalid, she starts agitating for "white wedding" and I'm like "why white? why not GREEN, PURPLE or BLUE wedding?"
In fact, we are the only ones who show utter disregard for our own traditions, and utmost respect for others'
YEYE

ammyluv2002: Yeah! White & court wedding are just ceremonial. You can decide not to wed in the church but you must perform the traditional rites on a lady before she can be called your wife....is in the bible and as a Christian, I always go with my bible principles not trendy principles.

Although some say is ok to get a marriage blessing from a priest/pastor which isn't bad------------------------------------------------- You are confused and at the same time contradicting yourself,from your statement you does not regard wedding in the church and you said you are a christian. at the other hand you couldn't declare the one you fully support,in that case you are waiting for majority vote,negative or positive. This is a complete sign that someone is not groom into the spiritual guidelines of the church of which he/she claimed to be a member and this rampant among christian. NOW LET ME EXPLAIN IT TO YOU MAYBE IT WILL BE OF HELP IF REALLY YOU ARE NOT A HYPOCHRIST. Firstly ,Traditional marriage is a perfect spiritual arrangement on her own which will attract both physical and spiritual blessings from both parents of the new couple. secondly,church wedding is a sacrament (For we Catholics,it is the Sacrament of Marriage, or Holy Matrimony, is a public sign that one gives oneself totally to this other person. It is also a public statement about God: the loving union of husband and wife speaks of family values and also God's values.) this can be done in the church or any where considered to be sacred. NOW why is it done in the church? Just like baptism,(for we Catholics,the Sacrament of Baptism is the first step in a lifelong journey of commitment and discipleship. Whether we are baptized as infants or adults, Baptism is the Church's way of celebrating and enacting the embrace of God.) IT IS A TOTAL INITIATION INTO CHRISTENDOM which in theology means (the collective body of Christians throughout the world or throughout history) The issue here is if you are initiated or baptized in christian church you are obliged to obey the rules of initiation or you end up being mess up in life.so in the case of marriage you must wed in the church or as permited by the leaders of the church. failure to do that will amount to disobedient ,and the same Bible tell us christian that obedient is better than sacrifice. And if I may ask, is double or triple blessing a bad thing? if not why do people purposely fight the church unreasonably? Finally the two ceremonies have their great advantage and if you are a christian you are strongly advice to do the two completely so as to get the blessings from both and as well fulfill your obligation as a christian,God bless you as you do.

eldoradoxx: People most times ignorantly have to borrow money to organise 3 types of marriages which have only one effect. Traditional marriage(Customary marriage) is as valid (if not more valid) as Court /Church Wedding. Church or Court wedding are one and the same thing. Infact a proper church wedding starts from the Marriage Registry of the Court where the intending couple obtain license to marry and the 21 days marriage band is published for objection. If your church marriage lacks the above mentioned ingredients, simply know that the Marriage Certificate you have is invalid and all you did in Church was merely a Church Traditional Marriage and not a Marriage under the Act. If you wedded in Church properly, you re merely waisting your time and money conducting a second marriage in the Registry. If you have done Customary Marriage, Nigeria's law recognises this as a 100 % valid marriage. Infact Church Marriage has no biblical basis whatsoever. Church Marriage is simply English Traditional Marriage which the English people have enacted into law. Even in the law, there is no place it is stated that it must be inside a church. It must only be conducted by a licensed person and in a licensed place. So if your club has license to conduct marriage according to watever style they wish, why not. Infact a Muslim can conduct Marriage under the Marriage Act if the Imam obtains a license and the place of conduct of marriage is also licensed. The only limitation is that he must not marry more than one wife. So whether it is traditional alone you can afford, it is valid marriage before God and man. Any pastor that tells you traditional marriage is not valid and you must not touch your wife after traditional marriage until you do church wedding is a liar from the pit of hell. All Jesus attended at Cana of Galilee was Jewish traditional marriage and not church wedding. If you have plenty money u can do both.

Toosure70: is there place in d bible where marriage was celebrated in d church?

salaksmana: Traditional marriage is complete because marriage only means when a man and woman agree to marry each other and the two families accepted, but it is not binding under the law that is why a court/white marriage is needed and also for the spiritual aspect of it, depending on your faith/religious belief.

Mynd44: White wedding is a form of traditional wedding. Traditional wedding we borrowed from another culture.

I essence, if you do your traditional wedding and a "white" wedding, you just did two traditional weddings. Any wedding which is blessed by your church pastor(leader) is a church wedding. It does not matter if you wear white(or a gown or the groom wears a 3 piece suit) or not. It does not matter if you have it in church or not(you can have it in a hall and your pastor comes over to bless you with the church's backing)

Hell these days, traditional leaders have marriage registers which is domiciled with the Baale, local Oba or an recognised Traditional leader and you go there to sign it which makes it official(They report to the Local Governments)

I don't know why people love calling their traditional marriage "engagement" and their church wedding "wedding" it is just weird. When you have something called "Introduction" which is basically an engagement ceremony.

YorubaJesus: Marriage is just a piece of paper whether its cultural, legal, white or black. If two people are meant to be together, they will without the need of getting married.

boxer022:
I beg to disagree with you sir, in the igbo culture if the introduction and traditional wedding does not take place, it means that the girl is not married even though the guy and the lady are living together till she dies. To the family and the kindred or town she is from their daughter is just dating that young man and is still single.

YorubaJesus:

I agree the family won't accept her as their daughter or son if there isn't a traditional rite or marriage but you see a couple is made up of two people. When other peoples opinions come into the relationship, trouble comes. If two people choose not to get married then so be it. But in developed countries, they have live in partners, legal partners etc. Marriage is not a necessity.

Mynd44: White wedding is a form of traditional wedding. Traditional wedding we borrowed from another culture.

I essence, if you do your traditional wedding and a "white" wedding, you just did two traditional weddings. Any wedding which is blessed by your church pastor(leader) is a church wedding. It does not matter if you wear white(or a gown or the groom wears a 3 piece suit) or not. It does not matter if you have it in church or not(you can have it in a hall and your pastor comes over to bless you with the church's backing)

Hell these days, traditional leaders have marriage registers which is domiciled with the Baale, local Oba or an recognised Traditional leader and you go there to sign it which makes it official(They report to the Local Governments)

I don't know why people love calling their traditional marriage "engagement" and their church wedding "wedding" it is just weird. When you have something called "Introduction" which is basically an engagement ceremony.

Amya:

You say traditonal law is complete, yet in the same breath you say it's not binding under the law. And you even got ignorant likes for this.

Traditional marriages are complete and BINDING under the Nigerian law. No other type of marriage is needed after the traditional marriage

Zedric: thats because most girls see white wedding as an avenue to show off but, technically, traditional wedding covers everything.

Nnamdini:

Wrong.tradional wedding doesn't cover everything.as long as you're a christain,a white wedding supercedes the traditional wedding