A story shared by a friend made me realise how crucial it is to know what a soon to be groom has down there...

A couple got married deeply in love with each other. When the time to consumate came during their honey moon, the most shocking view was revealed to this fresh bride. The man then explained to her saying when he was about 3 years old, boiling water accidentaly spilled on his crotch, thereby inhibiting the growth of his genitals. Since his genitals were like that of a three year old, he gave her his blessings to keep sex partners whenever the need arises.

What now should be the position of the church concerning matters like this - in preventing and correcting it?


I've heard ladies say they'll intentionally sneek a peek at their partners stuff maybe while he is dressing up, using the bathroom or even touching it by 'mistake'.



Please profer solutions by sharing your views on this.

Solution to what exactly

Odilafta:
Solution to what exactly

What the Church should do in preventing and correcting the issue raised?

vickyO:


What the Church should do in preventing and correcting the issue raised?

wat of d mosque? Wat if impotent? Wat if transvestite?

vickyO:


What the Church should do in preventing and correcting the issue raised?

The church stands that a man and a woman should consumate their marriage on the night of their wedding.

Common sense should tell people to find a way of checking and being certain that their chosen partner possess all they need/want in a a life partner including genitals...
For intending couples that uphold the legacy of abstenance,other ways of checking should be applied,such ways are:
.Slight romance/smooching

.Outright questioning 'how big are you down there?' ,'when last did you get ho.rny?',during intimate talks,intending partners shouldn't be strangers because they don't engage in sex.

.Intentional 'accidential' inspection just like Op suggested.

The man can deceitfully say He is Okay whereas he isn't

Vickyo, I don't really get ur question, 'peeping', or simply put I Don't understand what u are getting at?

But as touching ur account of the couple, the truth is that every true xtian intending to marry will n ought to discuss vital things before getting married, (especially things like that).

When the guy know he was impotent, why put the lady in such situation?

NB Now there is a difference between being impotent n having a small member, if the case is of the later it ought not to being much issue 'cos marraige is more than 'orgasm'. And these things are more spiritual, don't the lady believe in miracle or nothing more can be done?

Anyways every intending couple should make sure they are compatible spiritually n physically.

asalimpo:
wat of d mosque? Wat if impotent? Wat if transvestite?

I'm a Christian so I shouldn't particularly bother about how it would be handled in the mosque.

The other questions are also controversial but let's tackle one at a time.

PastorOluT:
Vickyo, I don't really get ur question, 'peeping', or simply put I Don't understand what u are getting at?

But as touching ur account of the couple, the truth is that every true xtian intending to marry will n ought to discuss vital things before getting married, (especially things like that).

When the guy know he was impotent, why put the lady in such situation?

NB Now there is a difference between being impotent n having a small member, if the case is of the later it ought not to being much issue 'cos marraige is more than 'orgasm'. And these things are more spiritual, don't the lady believe in miracle or nothing more can be done?

Anyways every intending couple should make sure they are compatible spiritually n physically.

Marriage needs orgasm to function well. A miracle should happen before the marriage is sealed.

The woman in my story has been having extra marital affairs from the onset of her marriage till now.

I think issues like these should be discussed during counselling. The pastor should ask if the man does have erections or if the woman does menstruate. . I think counselling couples should include crucial issues like these.

vickyO:



Marriage needs orgasm to function well. A miracle should happen before the marriage is sealed.

The woman in my story has been having extra marital affairs from the onset of her marriage till now.

The marraige started on a faulty foundation n both parties were insincere n never know what they wanted.

Now when I was talking about compatibility, I mean both party would be able to satisfy themselves. Or is it a must one must posses a 'big member' to satisfy the partner, that's what I meant by heavenly feeling bt u make it seem i was referring to satisfaction.

@Harwo, many people lie during counselling and that to me is not very reliable..

PastorOluT:


The marraige started on a faulty foundation n both parties were insincere n never know what they wanted.

Now when I was talking about compatibility, I mean both party would be able to satisfy themselves. Or is it a must one must posses a 'big member' to satisfy the partner, that's what I meant by heavenly feeling bt u make it seem i was referring to satisfaction.

Ok, so if a marriage like the one I illustrated is brought to you, what steps will you take in solving the problem?

vickyO:


Ok, so if a marriage like the one I illustrated is brought to you, what steps will you take in solving the problem?

I know for sure that d person is insincere n this even might be the least of the problem, so I will prayerfully consider n probably divorce her.

Bt it should be noted that xtianity is more that physical, so if u are serious with the faith u would always know before u take that step 'cos God would always reveal to u. It is obvious that the guy is dubious n not a xtian, so we are talking about being unequal yoke here.

PastorOluT:


I know for sure that d person is insincere n this even might be the least of the problem, so I will prayerfully consider n probably divorce her.

Bt it should be noted that xtianity is more that physical, so if u are serious with the faith u would always know before u take that step 'cos God would always reveal to u. It is obvious that the guy is dubious n not a xtian, so we are talking about being unequal yoke here.

The man actually told her to do so because of his predicament. It wasn't her wish...

God does warn people about taking certain steps but they ignore His leading. In this case,if both parties were christians, and seriously sought God's will , God wouldve alerted d lady.

Anoda issue,is theyre many things about d other person tht cud end a marraige if one knew about it.

So, how does One get the leading of God on things like these?
I've researched and am still researchg on it. I do know it takes serious work on d part of the seeker.
Som people do claim to hear God but tht experience isnt universal.
One shud go into issues as crucial as this prayerfully prepared.

S.ex is important in marraige-no doubt. But i think,personally, i would call for a divorce rather than sleep around.

vickyO:



Marriage needs orgasm to function well. A miracle should happen before the marriage is sealed.

The woman in my story has been having extra marital affairs from the onset of her marriage till now.

I think she may be stupid for doing that. Why not just get a divorce? whose child is she going to carry now?

Odilafta:


The church stands that a man and a woman should consumate their marriage on the night of their wedding.

Common sense should tell people to find a way of checking and being certain that their chosen partner possess all they need/want in a a life partner including genitals...
For intending couples that uphold the legacy of abstenance,other ways of checking should be applied,such ways are:
.Slight romance/smooching

.Outright questioning 'how big are you down there?' ,'when last did you get ho.rny?',during intimate talks,intending partners shouldn't be strangers because they don't engage in sex.

.Intentional 'accidential' inspection just like Op suggested.

Instead of all these why not just do it once in order to really confirm things? I have seen a young woman whose vagina is shortened. It can never allow for proper action...outwardly she looked beautiful.Hmmm.

vickyO:



The man actually told her to do so because of his predicament. It wasn't her wish...

After the deed has been done, n the advise was to sleep around. Don't u see it was flaw from the onset?

Fast and pray tht the man's organ shud b restored and grow back to it's full lenght.
Yeah,i know it sounds silly, but God will do it!
But it's gonna take all the concentration and focus this couple hav got.
People usually giv up in prayer because d problem seems insurmountable but there's a point you reach,as you persist, where the problem begins to look surmountable even though you've seen no physcal answer.
I said concentration and focus not faith cuz tht's wat seems hardest to muster during prayer.
Her and her husband can kneel at the bed and begin to pray against this problem ,regularly,everyday.
Read books on faith,ur spiritual authority etc.
The man's physcal development was stopped it can be restored.
He has given up hope of fathering children - this isnt God's will.
If she'll stand her ground she'll see a miracle.
It may take weeks,months,a year mayb 2 or 3 but the problem will go.
Theyre married now. Sleeping around is adultery. She wants a healthy s.ex life. God can forgive her and him their sins . This problem can go.
God can change the man's body.

Harwo:
Apostle Paul spoke about his infirmity as being the reason he did not marry. I think counselling couples should include crucial issues like these.

Where you get this fake news?

asalimpo:
Fast and pray tht the man's organ shud b restored and grow back to it's full lenght.
Yeah,i know it sounds silly, but God will do it!
But it's gonna take all the concentration and focus this couple hav got.
People usually giv up in prayer because d problem seems insurmountable but there's a point you reach,as you persist, where the problem begins to look surmountable even though you've seen no physcal answer.
I said concentration and focus not faith cuz tht's wat seems hardest to muster during prayer.
Her and her husband can kneel at the bed and begin to pray against this problem ,regularly,everyday.
Read books on faith,ur spiritual authority etc.
The man's physcal development was stopped it can be restored.
He has given up hope of fathering children - this isnt God's will.
If she'll stand her ground she'll see a miracle.
It may take weeks,months,a year mayb 2 or 3 but the problem will go.
Theyre married now. Sleeping around is adultery. She wants a healthy s.ex life. God can forgive her and him their sins . This problem can go.
God can change the man's body.

fasting and praying to cure erectile dysfunction?

davien:
fasting and praying to cure erectile dysfunction?

Lol...The mumuness of some Christians is bewildering. Dude even knows it's silly but still went ahead to proffer such idea.

kevoh:

Lol...The mumuness of some Christians is bewildering. Dude even knows it's silly but still went ahead to proffer such idea.

Innocent question/i come in peace -How does his faith concern you ehn, aproko-wannabe

Busybody2:


Innocent question/i come in peace -How does his faith concern you ehn, aproko-wannabe

Yes ooo! I be aproko original one! Remove the wannabe, abeg. Don't stylishly insult me by starting your sentence with ''Innocent/I come in peace''. Gosh, you guys can be sneaky hypocrites! If you want to insult please do so, stop being cunny.

vickyO:
A story shared by a friend made me realise how crucial it is to know what a soon to be groom has down there...

A couple got married deeply in love with each other. When the time to consumate came during their honey moon, the most shocking view was revealed to this fresh bride. The man then explained to her saying when he was about 3 years old, boiling water accidentaly spilled on his crotch, thereby inhibiting the growth of his genitals. Since his genitals were like that of a three year old, he gave her his blessings to keep sex partners whenever the need arises.

What now should be the position of the church concerning matters like this - in preventing and correcting it?


I've heard ladies say they'll intentionally sneek a peek at their partners stuff maybe while he is dressing up, using the bathroom or even touching it by 'mistake'.



Please profer solutions by sharing your views on this.

That's why the Bible explicitly states it is better to remain unmarried to make heaven... In this instance, the man's cross now becomes the woman's and vice versa so yes he "arguably" did her wrong but she is also now constantly sinning.


I used the word arguably because some people are naturally born with small genitals which remains the same size so the boiling water incidence is no excuse. We are to love our neighbours as ourselves and love is forgiving, keeps no record of wrongdoing, love protects, love hopes, love perseveres...the woman should have stuck to her husband till eternity as marriage is for better for worse, and sought God's face...

Finally, Matthew 5:28 states that anyone who looks at someone with a lustful intent has already committed adultery with such person in their heart...so all those feeling and touching and testing is lust-inclined.

kevoh:

Yes ooo! I be aproko original one! Remove the wannabe, abeg. Don't stylishly insult me by starting your sentence with ''Innocent/I come in peace''. Gosh, you guys can be sneaky hypocrites! If you want to insult please do so, stop being cunny.

Oh fudge, see how an innocuous innuendo got your knickers in a twist. Sorry I missed the (f=female) sign beside your moniker. Off to go change my glasses prescription. It will not happen again, Ms Aproko...I sure can call you that huh since you have given me the green light to call you just that

Harwo:
I think issues like these should be discussed during counselling. The pastor should ask if the man does have erections or if the woman does menstruate. Apostle Paul spoke about his infirmity as being the reason he did not marry. I think counselling couples should include crucial issues like these.

Where did you get that from, Sir?

Busybody2:



Oh fudge, see how an innocuous innuendo got your knickers in a twist. Sorry I missed the (f=female) sign beside your moniker. Off to go change my glasses prescription. It will not happen again, Ms Aproko...I sure can call you that huh since you have given me the green light to call you just that

Boring! Your attempt at humour is damn boring! Try Harder!

Lesson: in everything you do, dont start your building on a faulty foundation. Don't miss the first step.
The first step is consultation with the One who instituted marriage.