sparklie:



I hold no grudge against u. How have u been?

Im fine. Thanks.
Im sorry.
I long to hear from you.
Frogive me...

What is there to be excited about? Getting hitched to a stranger, you met during ya journey in life, for the rest of ya life? Lool

Nah, I have never cared about marriage. All I want, when the time is right, is a decent woman who agrees with my philosophy on how I want my kids to be raised, and also complement it. We don't even need to get "married" to achieve that. We can do Cohabitation. Marriage as an institution is grossly overrated these days - celebrating and getting excited about it would amount to celebrating mediocrity lol.

SirShymex:
What is there to be excited about? Getting hitched to a stranger, you met during ya journey in life, for the rest of ya life? Lool

Nah, I have never cared about marriage. All I want, when the time is right, is a decent woman who agrees with my philosophy on how I want my kids to be raised, and also complement it. We don't even need to get "married" to achieve that. We can do Cohabitation. Marriage as an institution is grossly overrated these days - celebrating and getting excited about it would amount to celebrating mediocrity lol.

The first person to break the ice.

ATOB:


The first person to break the ice.

Well, I might get excited if Meagan Good decides to leave her hussy for me,. Or maybe Sharon Leal, and K.D. Aubert. Those women are 11/10.

However, for any random chic - GTFOHWTBS!

Marrying any random chic is non-achievement. You already know she'll say "yes" before you pop the question. After that, just know you're stuck for the rest of ya life. Now, that's fvcked up!

No. It doesn't

I just have this feeling, that l will never find Someone who can understand me.

Plus the stories I hear and read on this section. It's scary

Joavid:
No. It doesn't

I just have this feeling, that l will never find Someone who can understand me.

Plus the stories I hear and read on this section. It's scary

forget the stories you hear and change that feeling. our expectatns have ways of coming to pass. expect that you will have a great marriage, attend marriage seminars, read books on marriage, prepare yourself for marriage and pray for a life partner that will understand. replace ur fears wth faith, hold God strong. Despite marital challenges, There have bin/are great and sweet marriages and urs can be great as well. Cheers

Advertico:
forget the stories you hear and change that feeling. our expectatns have ways of coming to pass. expect that you will have a great marriage, attend marriage seminars, read books on marriage, prepare yourself for marriage and pray for a life partner that will understand. replace ur fears wth faith, hold God strong. Despite marital challenges, There have bin/are great and sweet marriages and urs can be great as well. Cheers

Humans have been running away from responsibilities since the year 500BC. Lol. It's funny how some people just decide based on other people's judgement. People who come on here to complain (as the person you quoted stated) , don't trust in themselves to give something meaningful, and as such are not expecting anything good either.

I know for sure (and by the grace of the Most High) that mine would be far different from what is conventional. I know the kinda plans I have, and hopefully getting a good woman that would complement me would make everything just perfect. There is no marriage that is perfect, neither is there anyone without problem. Whether you get married or not, predicaments would always surface. As humans, are we supposed to run away from these problems or find solution to them? This is a question alot of people fail to ask themselves, and thereby, also fail to answer.

We did a programme in my church today that required that people come and donate (Catholic Church - Harvest). Mehn, there was a woman that touched me with her words and action. Touched me more than all the things the Priest said. When she came to make her own donation, she was just full of thanks and praise to God for the kinda hubby He gave to her. And mind you, she ain't a recently married woman that you could just imagine that love is still intoxicating. Looking at her, she should have graduates as children, if not married ones even. Ohh boi... Imagine the words of benevolence she used to describe the hubby and how appreciative she is to God. Imagine this woman who has been married for 20+ years still referring to her hubby as her HERO. That says alot. After much was said by her, I tapped my friend sitting beside me that, if he did listen very well, plus watched how she expressed herself, he would discover that, all the woman said came from her heart of hearts. And coincidentally we said this together and i quote; "na like this my wife go take talk about me" with joy, gratitude and gladness in her heart.

And also, it was more of a chanllenge to me as a future hubby and father. So, I take solace in people who do it right, and not be pessimistic because of the ones who have failed in making that institution "marriage" a sacred and unique one.

I will play my part to the best of my abilities, and I hope I find a perfect complement.

dmcdad:

Humans have been running away from responsibilities since the year 500BC. Lol. It's funny how some people just decide based on other people's judgement. People who come on here to complain (as the person you quoted stated) , don't trust in themselves to give something meaningful, and as such are not expecting anything good either.

I know for sure (and by the grace of the Most High) that mine would be far different from what is conventional. I know the kinda plans I have, and hopefully getting a good woman that would complement me would make everything just perfect. There is no marriage that is perfect, neither is there anyone without problem. Whether you get married or not, predicaments would always surface. As humans, are we supposed to run away from these problems or find solution to them? This is a question alot of people fail to ask themselves, and thereby, also fail to answer.

We did a programme in my church today that required that people come and donate (Catholic Church - Harvest). Mehn, there was a woman that touched me with her words and action. Touched me more than all the things the Priest said. When she came to make her own donation, she was just full of thanks and praise to God for the kinda hubby He have to her. And mind you, she ain't a recently married woman that you could just imagine that love is still intoxicating. Looking at her, she should have graduates as children, if not married ones even. Ohh boi... Imagine the words of benevolence she used to describe the hubby and how appreciative she is to God. Imagine this woman who has been married for 20+ years still referring to her hubby as her HERO. That says alot. After much was said by her, I tapped my friend sitting beside me that, if he did listen very well, plus watched how she expressed herself, he would discover that, all the woman said came from her heart of hearts. And coincidentally we said this together and i quote; "na like this my wife go take talk about me" with joy, gratitude and gladness in her heart.

And also, it was more of a chanllenge to me as a future hubby and father. So, I take solace in people who do it right, and not be pessimistic because of the ones who have failed in making that institution "marriage" a sacred and unique one.

I will play my part to the best of my abilities, and I hope I find a perfect complement.

awesome my guy.

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Sometimes the way they treat us with this sex thing.....I feel like weeping. More like if u don't wanna do, pls fall out, the queue is long. I knw some gals have made them feel like this but why not give everyone a fair chance. If sex is gonna happen even after both parties have sworn "no sex b4 marriage", let it take a natural course and not by force, coercion or undue pressure. Let it happen because the woman also wants u not because she feels that if she doesn't give u, u might leave her or seek for it else where.

For me, whatever will be, will be. Yorubas say that, the water that one will drink, will not flow pass u, meaning if it's urs, u'll drink it and u go belle full.

It's just appalling when most of what men wanna discuss is how much they love se.x, like I love it so much and u shld be ever ready to drop ur ass 4 me to grind![/quote
my opinion tried and tested sex before marriage doesn't guarantee a happy marriage so why the fling.moreover u get to know if u are in love or not with the absense of sex. though body no be firewood but that doesn't make premarital sex right

Joavid:
No. It doesn't

I just have this feeling, that l will never find Someone who can understand me.

Plus the stories I hear and read on this section. It's scary

So because you read bad marriage stories, your marriage will be bad? smh....so, if someone fails an exam, you must fail too?? Stop living by others' standard, create your own standard and live by it.... also, acquaint yourself with good marriages(stories)...


Nevertheless, marriage no be by force. ...

MarvellousGod:
So because you read bad marriage stories, your marriage will be bad? smh....so, if someone fails an exam, you must fail too?? Stop living by others' standard, create your own standard and live by it.... also, acquaint yourself with good marriages(stories)...


Nevertheless, marriage no be by force. ...

How can you compare an exam to marriage??
Can you state the similarities between the two?

And am not living by anyone's standards.

Marriage = create your standards
What are you talking about?

After spending a couple of days in my Uncle's house, I just have one thing to say.............













































Marriage sucks!!!!!

I'm very much excited about marriage now than any thing.
My wife to be has been my best friend for 9 years. We courted for 3 years and now we are getting married on the 27th of Dec this year.

The foundation of friendship has a long way to go between you and your wife. Of cos we do have issues but it doesn't last more 11:59pm.

Marriage is exciting when you are sure you getting married to the one you love.
When you are sure God approves your choose of hubby or wife marriage is exciting.
With commitment, understanding, forgiveness, respect, love, sex, and most importantly God being the first in your marriage, you will have what I call divine marriage. That is heaven on earth.

The worst thing I fear in life is bad marriage.
Let me fail, make mistakes in life but never allow me have a bad marriage oh Lord.

I invite all NLers to my wedding on the 27th Dec.

Congrats.
As you wish so shall it be for you in Jesus name.

valyzubxx:
After spending a couple of days in my Uncle's house, I just have one thing to say.............













































Marriage sucks!!!!!

Tell us about it.

phabulous88:
I think you started out on a deficit mentality thinking that marriage will solve all your problems. Marriage comes with a whole lotta challenges and fights and arguments, at least I saw that in my parents but they always ended up on the same bed, every night of everyday

And so to answer your question, YES I will get married. In fact I can't wait to get married cos I'm tired of being in the kitchen and cooking at 10 pm

So if you're a lady that looks and acts like my mother, please PM me and you just might be lucky

@bolded: That's the reason you want to get married? You can as well employ a Chef.

phabulous88:
I think you started out on a deficit mentality thinking that marriage will solve all your problems. Marriage comes with a whole lotta challenges and fights and arguments, at least I saw that in my parents but they always ended up on the same bed, every night of everyday

And so to answer your question, YES I will get married. In fact I can't wait to get married cos I'm tired of being in the kitchen and cooking at 10 pm

So if you're a lady that looks and acts like my mother, please PM me and you just might be lucky

You do not need marriage bro, a good cook will do

Phema:


@bolded: That's the reason you want to get married? You can as well employ a Chef.

I did not see your post, I would not have posted

Why do people bother gettin married? i dont understand.


so with all the sob stories we hear on Chaz B show & the things we read hear in the family section. some people go still open their eyes and put themselves in bondage..

Goodluck to you people

Phema:

@bolded: That's the reason you want to get married? You can as well employ a Chef.

bukatyne:


You do not need marriage bro, a good cook will do

Proverbs 31:14 She brings home food from out-of-the-way places, as merchant ships do

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EdPuKQ67zwc

Sometimes it gets annoying when people think the next thing you MUST do is "get married"; Like a sequence. I think, until you feel deeeeeep within you, with a strong conviction that marriage is the best next thing, then don't! Must everyone get married

I was at the office today, and a colleague's husband called her an "oponu", just because she cldnt find a set of keys early enough. I was like, is this what marriage is all about If he could call her an "oponu" in public, God knows what he calls her in private.

Again, marriage is not for everybody. The benefits of marriage can be achieved without a wedding. People should stop making a big deal out of it!

Yea.

phabulous88:




Proverbs 31:14 She brings home food from out-of-the-way places, as merchant ships do

And you interpreted that verse to mean cooking?

phabulous fabulous pastor

Never have!
Not sure if I'll ever be
Maybe not until my 10th anniversary and I'm still loving it

bukatyne:


And you interpreted that verse to mean cooking?

phabulous fabulous pastor

Yes na! Or how else is she gonna feed her family? With tubers of yam?

phabulous88:


Yes na! Or how else is she gonna feed her family? With tubers of yam?

With baskets of cassava

bukatyne:


With baskets of cassava

Hehe.

God our strength but at times you have to go for morality at the expense of sociality

Atob u again. U tot marrying a small gal wud guarantee happiness. Baba if u wanna live long. Pursue her o

ATOB:
If I had the chance or if I have my way I will stay single for the rest of my life and just give birth to kids if I get a willing lady.

I have been fooled to believe in love all along. I thought with marriage all dreams will come true. I have felt some form of emotions with certain girls at one point in time and they felt same too, only for us to begin to get weary and tired of one another.

We hear different stories and accounts of failed marriages and the non-existent love people claim to have disappeared in their lives.

With experience too, I have come to the realization that commitment brings more hurt than good except ofcourse those negligible amount of people who are lucky to find someone who is compartible with them.

Other problems include:
Lack of jobs.
Failing economies.
Expensive accomodation and school fees
Infidelity amongst many others.

With your experience and orientation so far, will you still get married?

Typical. ..I can imagine.

MarvellousGod:
Your marriage is what you make of it.... Marriage needs manure for continuous and blossom growth... Go out with your partner, see movies together both at cinema and home, play ludo, cards etc together, buy things for each other, crack jokes, go on holidays, pray together, do those things that keep the bond so strong and love evergreen. ...

Learn to forgive cos you ain't perfect too.
Never assume or hold unhealthy suspicions in your mind.
keep no third party
Above all, Let go of whatever ego you have when it comes to your partner.....

Marriage is sweet cos many marriages around me are just sooo

At least a silver lining in the clouded sky of the family section.

Thank goodness there are still people out there who still believe and are having what they wish for unlike what most want us to believe on this section daily.