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Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Nobody: 8:46pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
Eyop:I feel it's sometimes unfair to use family as a yardstick to determine who to marry. Why should you pay for the sins of your brothers, sisters and cousins? People are different, including members of a family. A man/woman may come from a family of rotten apples but he/she can turn out to be a wonderful, responsible person. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Nobody: 9:12pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
Op is not a yoruba thing, me as an igbo, not even every state in igbo land i can marry from I can marry from this states enugu 90 % possible anambra 80% possible Almost impossible for me to get married from this places abia 2% possible imo 5% possible Ebony 10 %possible Hausa 100% impossible Yoruba 2 % possible Niger deltas 1% possible You see is not a tribal some thing and am igbo from enugu state, is choice or you can call it tradition |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Nobody: 9:56pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
itstpia8: becos dats d only tribe I know dat is not very flexible with marrying oda tribes. Did I mention dat my aunt's husband is yoruba, and dat her hubby's sisters told me day wd neva marry an omo-igbo? I think u hav ur anser rite dia. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by DJMONACO(m): 10:50pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
thats why Africa is still backward. what is wrong in intertribal marriage? mtcheew. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Nobody: 11:02pm On Dec 13, 2014 |
Whatever that rocks for u. I still know two sisters that married german men,one few yrs after d other. Ur would be spouse might come from sudan. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by repogirl(f): 1:10am On Dec 14, 2014 |
Its the mentality of the family, I wouldn't say most yorubas are guilty of this attitude but then I have seen more than once that Yorubas are not really welcoming when their sons marry outside. my mother who is Ijaw married my Yoruba father and his people didn't like it. On the other hand, I am married to an Ibo man and his family is very accepting and my dad is alright with it also. Its a personal thing, I wouldn't generalize and say its the whole tribe at fault.... Also people who say these things have never really mingled with people of other tribes, hence such myopic views 1 Like |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by bnovative(m): 1:28am On Dec 14, 2014 |
The truth is, tribalism in marriage doesn't arise when you are famous and rich. when money speaks, tribalism dissolves. Fact. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by bnovative(m): 1:35am On Dec 14, 2014 |
HKCOMPANY:Don't worry keep waiting. from ur post It is safe to say you have a warped notion about other tribes, and that's prejudice. Good luck to u and ur would be town husband. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by itstpia8: 3:35am On Dec 14, 2014 |
Eyop: GoodGirl2: you could be both right or both wrong, depending on your personal perspectives and cultural contexts. in some places, marrying an "imperfect" partner as stated by eyop, will lead to consequences which could have been avoided had proper care been taken before deciding to marry a particular person, or before particular persons decided to go into marriage. In such instances, it is assumed a blemish or unsuitability of one family member, is regarded as a stain or blemish on all members of that family and thus rendering them unsuitable as marriage material. what the nature or form of these "blemishes" is, and how much importance is attached to them, is decided by the enquirer. This, btw, does not mean the enquirer himself does not have blemishes on his part and from his own extended relatives [does anybody in nigeria have clean hands?], but in matters of marriage, he has to bring into account the fact that families are involved. On the other hand, the modern culture-weary individual, wants to discard all these non-western attitudes towards marriage and not judge the individual by the missteps of their relatives. For some, this is a gamble that works out well for them, while for others, the consequences may be what they feared. personally, my opinion is do not enter a relationship without Christ as your foundation. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Nobody: 3:39am On Dec 14, 2014 |
Timbuktou: May have nothing to do with your name Maybe you no reach Itstpia8 may reject you too |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by itstpia8: 4:01am On Dec 14, 2014 |
Eyop: expatiate more on what are the dangers involved in people from your area marrying without conducting proper investigations. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Eyop: 9:14am On Dec 14, 2014 |
GoodGirl2: Your personal opinion though. Can you also elucidate on what you meant by "rotten apples" because my own understanding might be different from yours. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Eyop: 9:28am On Dec 14, 2014 |
itstpia8: Do you want to marry from my state . Investigations are important when going into marriage and this is not particular to a state or community. I was just using my own state to explain further to the OP since he also comes from that region. So carrying out investigations before marriage is the ideal thing to do so that one can save yourself the stress of running from pillar to post when the problem starts. Even before starting a serious relationship that would lead to marriage,it's most times advisable to carry out the check & balances before swinging into action so as to avoid problems. To me, the girl comes first and her family follows. If an individual marries a daughter of the Queen of the coast or that of Witchcraft and feels calling holy ghost fire will help out in marriage,then such person better have a rethink because he's in for deep shiit when the wahala starts. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Nobody: 9:51am On Dec 14, 2014 |
babyosisi:You may be right. Or, maybe she was a small-minded ignoramus-tribalist who had been fed hatred from her mother's milk. However, she was definitely not worth my time. Tell her I said hi. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by WORLDPEACE(m): 10:01am On Dec 14, 2014 |
Eyop:That na where you spoil all the sense wey you been dey make. Who is the queen of the coast, and why can't you people keep her name out of your mouths? I am coming to meet you this night the minute you close your eyes to sleep. Your blood is in trouble. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Eyop: 10:28am On Dec 14, 2014 |
WORLDPEACE: Lol...whether my post makes sense to you or not,is none of my own business. It is a different thing if am on my own the powers of darkness come find wahala na that time person go know say Jesus christ is lord not when you go and pick what belongs to the devil. I will be on standby awaiting your arrival. 1 Like |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by WORLDPEACE(m): 11:01am On Dec 14, 2014 |
Eyop:When I come what will you do? You will be shouting for Jesus' blood while me I am after your blood. Are we not both wizards? But where I am better than you is that I know you have blood. You, you have been asking for Jesus' blood since forever and you have sucked him dry. I repeat, This night your blood is in trouble. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Nobody: 4:48pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Eyop:By "rotten apples" I mean people with qualities you wouldn't necessarily want in your own spouse. For instance, a man may come from a family where his 2 sisters are commercial sex workers while his remaining brother a hopeless drunkard known also to be a petty thief. His father may be an irresponsible womanizer meanwhile his mother may be have been implied in murder case. (***This is just a case scenario***). However, the man in question could be a hardworking, responsible, considerate, good-humoured, good-looking and family-oriented guy who would surely be a good husband to any woman. Would it then be fair to reject him because he comes from a "rotten" family? |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Nobody: 5:11pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
itstpia8:From my observation, what Africans fear most is witchcraft. It's the one thing people never fail to look out for in families of prospective spouses. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Eyop: 5:38pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
GoodGirl2: I get your point but that's not what i meant by carrying out a proper investigation on the family prior to proceeding if the number 1 aspect(the girl) is certified ok. Your example is very doable by any girl or guy who actually knows what he or she wants since both parties would be living together and all those examples you listed wouldn't influence the union negatively if he or she doesn't mind. but what i meant was the peace of mind of the girl or guy in question but more on the girl's part since she's being married out of her family to join the other family. |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by itstpia8: 8:14am On Dec 15, 2014 |
Eyop: what are the checks and balances you look for in situations where you are thinking of marriage? also, your focus is mostly on female background, are the males exempt? |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Agrika: 12:40pm On Dec 15, 2014 |
It's not only the yorubas...all tribes most especially igbos do that...so I see no big deal in it...abi u wan tell me say u never see better akwa-ibom girl wey fit be ur wife? |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Nobody: 4:21pm On Dec 15, 2014 |
Agrika: why do u guys keep asking d same question dat I've answered a thousand times over? |
Re: Do Yorubas Still Refuse To Marry Omo-igbos? by Eyop: 7:12pm On Dec 15, 2014 |
itstpia8: As previously stated,the girl comes first and the family follows. Spiritual and traditional background investigations are all that i need prior to forging ahead in marriage and this would happen at the initial stage of my relationship with the girl/lady in question so as to avoid wasting each others time. I am not only focusing on female background but combining the two i.e male and female. Also remember that the OP is a guy. |
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