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Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Nobody: 10:02am On Mar 03, 2015 |
edwife: Your case is different I guess. 1. You are a Nigerian. Relocating to Nigeria to you is no deal. For a foreigner, I wouldnt readily advise this. 2. You probably have a good husband. As for OP, wwe don't know what kind of hubby she has. Op has not given enough substantial info about the man to have a clue and like someone said above "It appears this man would not readily sacrifice his own comfort zone for love. He even gave OP a deadline of 2015" We know Nigerian men and their different types. He can wake up tomorrow and start flirting with another women. If this happens what would be OP's gain then having sacrificed all she had. The essence of this is in case things do not work out later in future between them despite the fact that she relocated to Nigeria, then she may have had her life shattered. So its a decision that has to be made with throughness. In fact one has to get close and know the OP and her hubby to be able to give an advice. Incase she emails you be careful what advice you give her. Besides in her case, relocating to Nigeria, with the present state of and deficit in the country is 2000 steps backwards. I would rather the Man sacrifice all and join her in the UK. 3 Likes |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Nobody: 10:05am On Mar 03, 2015 |
NickiRoman: You left out xiadnat |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by irunoko(m): 10:58am On Mar 03, 2015 |
kanwuliajara,cococandy,chillisauce have said it all,the rest are ranters,distractors and noise makers as far as i am concerned 4 Likes |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by mcdokwe(m): 1:10pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
babyosisi:op you are better off not taking the advice of women like this. Believe me or yes, she cuts across like someone who brags about having a perfect union and would need the constant misfortune of others to remind her how perfect hers is. How on earth does she dare insinuate your hubby is married to other women even when nothing in your post suggest same thereby generating destructive ideas in you? From my little time here on earth, I have come to acknowledge and appreciate the fact that our fates are dynamic whether in marriage or other secular or conventional endeavours. That something turned out perfect for you doesn't necessarily mean it would for me if I applied your tactics to the later therefore calling for the need for us to be discretional. You got it all wrong in the thinking that you are doing it for your hubby- the better choice should have been marriage, yes you are doing it for your marriage and not hubby. You need to tell yourself whether beinG happily married is more important than proving you can do without him. I have heard some ask why he didn't consider moving to the UK himself. But now let's look at the bigger picture here- as an African, a man is wholly responsible for the upkeep of the family, the ladies role is mostly seen as supportive and as such when it isn't there, it is inconsequential. Believe it or not, if the man moves to the UK, he and his family who are likely to be dependent on him would have to strain you awhile for succour whilst he tries to get employment or not and the same women here would berate his lazy ass for living off a woman thereby giving you the impression you are doing something that never should be done in marriage. Then you said his income is higher it's a pity such things weren't sorted out before the marriage, but believe be you should move down here and if your prefer life in the UK, be around him to convince to move with you later in life, you got that power, don't lose it for anything but if you make this about personal interest now, then forget the possibility of ever getting him to move no matter how bad things get now or ever. Beautiful unions are built by people in it, build yours now and reap from it in the future. God bless you with the wisdom to make the right choice 14 Likes |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by mcdokwe(m): 1:36pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
Misssessay: 1 Like |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by pickabeau1: 1:50pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
mcdokwe: This 2 Likes |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by KanwuliaJara: 4:51pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
iykedare: Hmmmmmm You again? Why do I get the "uncanny" feeling that you "dream" of me at least once a week? 4 Likes |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Notyourb1tch(f): 5:09pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
When your gut does not feel right about something it is usually right. kanwuliajara,cococandy,chillisauce, headlamp1, babyosisi and bukatyne, moca and mutter have all raised valid points. My fear especially is wrt to the financial aspect. Talk to your husband about this. If you don't mind me asking which nationality are you ( white, jamo, African?) 1 Like |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Judie7654(f): 5:26pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
Notyourb1tch:where in the Uk are you in?... It's cool we both follow Nairaland... Thought I was alone.. |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by rolled: 6:18pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
Chei Op take your matter off NL So many Negative comments.na so Nigerian men bad reach? Some women here don already dash the op husband an invisible wife It's so easy for you all to say my hubby doesn't cheat but can't trust another person's hubby Op shebi you have a family in the uk Talk to them 6 Likes |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Notyourb1tch(f): 7:10pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
Judie7654:heya . You are pretty btw. I don't think we are the only ones cos have seen a couple of users also from the UK. You can Pm me and we can chat there 1 Like |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Emaprince: 8:50pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
mcdokwe: 1 Like |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Misssessay: 12:58am On Mar 04, 2015 |
Notyourb1tch: That is very true - my gut feels I need to do this and just be with my hubby - but my head says it's not the smartest thing to do right now. So it's the financial aspect. Btw am black British |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Misssessay: 1:04am On Mar 04, 2015 |
[quote author=mcdokwe post=31261059][/quote] It's a head over heart issue - while I love and trust him dearly. I think all of us women have AT LEAST one friend who has screwed up their lives at the expense of a man...... |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Misssessay: 1:15am On Mar 04, 2015 |
mcdokwe: Thanks - completely agree, totally skipped that post for those commenting that my husband has another wife - might I add - it's still very possible that my husband could cheat on me when in Lagos?!?! Most guys I kno cheat, So I Shd give up my life so my hubby doesn't cheat with some shank! I think not.... Although unconventional it's very easy to judge - especially when both are self made successful professionals. But this is for the union of my marriage - I understand his reasons - he's worked hard to get where he is - as have I! But I just know the day I leave - my career will practically be dead. |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Misssessay: 1:20am On Mar 04, 2015 |
[quote author=Headlamp1 post=31254956] Your case is different I guess. 1. You are a Nigerian. Relocating to Nigeria to you is no deal. For a foreigner, I wouldnt readily advise this. 2. You probably have a good husband. As for OP, wwe don't know what kind of hubby she has. Op has not given enough substantial info about the man to have a clue and like someone said above "It appears this man would not readily sacrifice his own comfort zone for love. He even gave OP a deadline of 2015" We know Nigerian men and their different types. He can wake up tomorrow and start flirting with another women. If this happens what would be OP's gain then having sacrificed all she had. The essence of this is in case things do not work out later in future between them despite the fact that she relocated to Nigeria, then she may have had her life shattered. So its a decision that has to be made with throughness. In fact one has to get close and know the OP and her hubby to be able to give an advice. Incase she emails you be careful what advice you give her. Besides in her case, relocating to Nigeria, with the present state of and deficit in the country is 2000 steps backwards. I would rather the Man sacrifice all and join her in the UK. [/quote ] Yes you get it For a complete foreigner it's a bit different - let's face it I will need time to understand how everything works etc.... But it's the economy too - now the exchange rate is craazzzy !! It's the risk element! All this time I can say with no certainty i'll be able to find a job to progress my career. |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Misssessay: 1:23am On Mar 04, 2015 |
mutter: This is a fear of mine although my husband is pretty mellow.... I wonder what rights do you have as a wife in Nigeria? With regards to assets, courts, etc... |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Misssessay: 1:25am On Mar 04, 2015 |
Ewuro4: Very true - He is a good man, truly! And it makes me sad because people must judge us allot 2 Likes |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Misssessay: 1:32am On Mar 04, 2015 |
edwife: Oh! Nice - how did you find it? How long did it take you to get settled in? |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Misssessay: 1:37am On Mar 04, 2015 |
edwife: Thank you! I will do - good to know i' m not alone 1 Like |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Nobody: 9:33am On Mar 04, 2015 |
The only person I blame in this tale is your 'husband' who should have lassoed your arze over to Nigeria three. Years ago. He's probably enjoying the time apart, so while you find it 'difficult' to leave your bvllshit independence, you've given himthe independence he needs to get his groove on. A high-earning red-blooded male won't be waiting on yo arze to come around and cure his konji. If you like come back, if like don't come back, na you sabi. Just don't be surprised when you're invited for his child's christening and dedication in a few months. Dey dia dey mumu. |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by mcdokwe(m): 12:58pm On Mar 04, 2015 |
Misssessay:that is what happens when you get into it with the kind of mindset flying around here, (expecting the worse and planing an exit route even before getting in) my people would say "Onye na anyi elu si ka eshewere ya mmiri oku na oga ada elu" which translates as whoever goes tree climbing and ask that water should be boiled for him cause he is going to have a fall. Hope for the best and work for it. It is a marriage you are into already, not one you are planning so give it your best. Grace 1 Like |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by maclatunji: 2:25pm On Mar 04, 2015 |
Prepare a solid exit plan and come down to Nigeria assuming you will be safe. Location matters, I would not advice you to come down to a location in Nigeria where you might get kidnapped! Is your husband's job one that allows him come home everyday? Separation without a certain end is bad for marriage, afterall, marriage is largely about companionship. |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by irunoko(m): 3:53pm On Mar 04, 2015 |
[quote author=Khabuqi post=31243024] Accurate! You are one wise woman. Can we fucck?[/quote] kanwuliaaaaaaaaajara |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by Wendy80(f): 12:38am On Mar 05, 2015 |
rolled: I wonder how a man who's given his wifey deadline to be with him will still have side wife and kids like some posters suggested. |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by kandiikane(m): 4:37am On Mar 05, 2015 |
Misssessay: Is the bolded true ......I am not Nigerian. |
Re: Sacrifice All For Sake Of My Hubby by jinggles(f): 4:49pm On Aug 24, 2015 |
Hello guys can you please take a look at the Family section Topic: relocating to America. I need your opinion guys. Thanks alot. |
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