Why blame the girl alone? The guy is as guilty the girl. We should learn how to say the truth always.. OP abeg we no want gender issues here.

Sadly, such guys meet nice babe's and vice versa! Watch the trend, they hardly meet each other (co-habiting adherents)! Na so life be!

elomez:



The real world you call it. Anyways the guy who cohabits with a lady while in school and never ended up with her afterwards will still end up with one that cohabited with some other guy while in school too. She won't even tell the guy i did cohabit with someone while in school and a huge celebration would even be done on her by him on the wedding day. That's the irony of life.

I understand how you feel! It's actually unfair, but there is an eternal battle between idealism and reality! Reality always wins!

sinizia:


I agree it's all about the perception. Personally I despise co-habitation, but something in me can't allow me keep mum while the ladies are made the scapegoat of a crime committed by two genders, I guess.

RottenTomato:
Shut the bleep up! Op is very correct. Most of u are disgrace in marriage. Una too dey bleep...before marriage una don bleep like 50 men!

r the men saints!

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Blebleswag:
Same they wil do to ur sisters, cos she's bn jumpin 4rm peter2james, fryingpan2pot etc.
Or if u dnt hav sisters, then to ur girl child/children

you're obviously a pú§§y-trading bítçh whose çünt is as used and as weak as the old national stadium in lagos.

You have plainly paid your pû§§y away in school for free meals and expo, you slummy, dumb , a dime-a-dozen whørë.

RottenTomato:
Shut the bleep up! Op is very correct. Most of u are disgrace in marriage. Una too dey bleep...before marriage una don bleep like 50 men!

Most culprits here who are the opponents of this post don't have their pix on here......Let 'em update their profile with their pix, then the OP will be vindicated. #Harlotry

Rapmoney:
I often wonder where Nigerian youths copied this nonsense from because even students in universities in America, Asia and Europe do not engage in this trashy act as we do over here!!! Yet, we still call them agents of immorality?

I just feel, deep within my heart, that girls who cohabit or cohabited in the university do not desrve any dime as bride price paid on them! They should just follow their would-be husband to his house, free of charge and continue where they stopped in school!

A girl cohabits with a guy for 4 to 5 years in school; this means the dude would bleep her through out those years (free of charge o!), she would perform wifely duties for him...cooking, cleaning, washing, providing emotional wifely support, etc (free of charge too o!). Now, what's still left in such a body? If she can bleep a dude for years without any dime paid on her, coupled with the numerous wifely duties, then what's the need of paying a dime on her as diary or bride price? If that bloke that bleeped her for years didn't pay a dime on her where families would meet, eat and drink and pray, why should I pay a dime on her head? Worse of it is that this dude enjoyed all what he enjoyed free of charge! Now, why should I be requested to pay for same? Common, that's not fair! What's sauce for the goose is also sauce for the gander!!!

From Delsu to Lasu, from Uniben to OOU, from Uniport to Unical, from UniAbuja to Esut...it is the same story! Any girl who cohabits with a dude in school who has never paid a dime on her has lost her feminine value! She doesn't deserve anything paid on her!!!

ok so what is ur say about the men co habiting with ladies and given dem free deek? Its always d women dat suffers! Isn't it with d man she will do it with? Bros u have sense now, manage and use it! Stop being stwepid na?

Blebleswag:
Same they wil do to ur sisters, cos she's bn jumpin 4rm peter2james, fryingpan2pot etc.
Or if u dnt hav sisters, then to ur girl child/children

I just hope what you just said is not because of your conscience!!!

ideykwum:
Very sensible post!

for real?? Whether working class or student, cohabitation is cohabitation.. after all we've seen student relationships that led to marriage.. bottom line, it's bad but we shouldn't blame the girl alone.

personally I'm not marrying any used good. I'm settling for a virgin. I rather stay unmarried than end up with all these condemned goods without shame that call themselves naija girls.

garriboy:

I could give very detailed answer but let's just say the answer lies in the reason why women are the only ones termed "used up goods". And mind u, ur fellow females have used this exact phrase with regards to dis post

Those 'fellow females' are not to be compared to me. Not all of us are the same, they probably dont know their value as 'A woman', and thats why they swallow and accept every nonsense the 'immature guys' say to them.....plus I see guys like u, most esp most NL guys as the type who dont see women beyond whats btw their legs..and see no value whatsoever in d female folk. But then, I really dont give a damn cos I know wat I carry.....Good night! Now, lemme wait for one slowpoke to come and misquote me

aflyingbird:
I don't agree with cohabitation of any sort and have never done it nor will I ever do it. But to say a person loses their value because of it, really? If that's the extent if your education then I pity you. Some idi000ts here, even the females, are agreeing with the op. Too much ignorance and mediocre education is ruining Nigeria!

I hereby put it to u that u have done it and maybe still doing it.....u can't deceive some of us....smh

adellam16:
ok so what is ur say about the men co habiting with ladies and given dem free deek? Its always d women dat suffers! Isn't it with d man she will do it with? Bros u have sense now, manage and use it! Stop being stwepid na?

Abeg, leave these people jare. They are obviously a confused set of beings.

raayah:


Bless your heart!

Bless yours too, pretty damsel.

@ Ideykwum, you are right. Much as it hurts, reality always win. But I feel happy knowing I stand for justice at all times even if I lose eventually.

KevinDein:
personally I'm not marrying any used good. I'm settling for a virgin. I rather stay unmarried than end up with all these condemned goods without shame that call themselves naija girls.

are u or ur sister virgins? Na question o! Don't get angry

Takim107:
hmm, go sleep.

U too,go lagoon.

I am definitely for one man one wife and waiting till marriage but unfortunately we live in an imperfect world.

The attitude of Jesus to the woman who had more than 6 husbands was not judgment and condemnation but love and compassion while obviously discouraging further sin.

My observation with these sorts of threads is that Nigerian men are one of the biggest hypocrites living on the face of this planet. They set high standards for women that they themselves cannot and will never attain to. They sleep around while condemning women who sleep around, they constantly harbour lust in their hearts and some even descend to masturbation , forgetting that Jesus said whoever looks at a woman with sexual thoughts has already committed the evil act.

Take a look at yourselves you Pharisees, judge yourselves so that God does not judge you on the last day. Do not think that you will be held guiltless because you are man.

The warning is for both men and women, so stop being a minsogynst . Offer sound advice and leave it at that.

Remember God's forgiveness is sufficient for the restoration of any soul and any soul that has been forgiven is 1 million times worthy of marriage and a bride price. If you don't think so, go and look for somebody else assuming you are a saint.

Mercyblack:
for real?? Whether working class or student, cohabitation is cohabitation.. after all we've seen student relationships that led to marriage.. bottom line, it's bad but we shouldn't blame the girl alone.

If a girl carried her load and moves in to a mans house, then she alone is to blame. LIke wise a dude taht moves into a womans house. In Law if a crime happens, lets say rape, she would be asked who took you there or did you go there of your own accord?, Then they ld ask, what were to expecting really when you move to a mans house. The problem is that most girl that move-in expect too much. That a man says move in , a woman can say NO, heaven wont fall, but the moment she says yes, then what ever happens is her fault.

frosbel:
I am definitely for one man one wife and waiting till marriage but unfortunately we live in an imperfect world.

The attitude of Jesus to the woman who had more than 6 husbands was not judgment and condemnation but love and compassion while obviously discouraging further sin.

My observation with these sorts of threads is that Nigerian men are one of the biggest hypocrites living on the face of this planet. They set high standards for women that they themselves cannot and will never attain to. They sleep around while condemning women who sleep around, they constantly harbour lust in their hearts and some even descend to masturbation , forgetting that Jesus said whoever looks at a woman with sexual thoughts has already committed the evil act.

Take a look at yourselves you Pharisees, judge yourselves so that God does not judge you on the last day. Do not think that you will be held guiltless because you are man.

The warning is for both men and women, so stop being a minsogynst . Offer sound advice and leave it at that.

The evil will become more evil and the good will become better as we approach the final day when world events will be wrapped up.

Remember God's forgiveness is sufficient for the restoration of any soul and any soul that has been forgiven is 1 million times worthy of marriage and a bride price. If you don't think so, go and look for somebody else assuming you are a saint.

tell d animal OP o! He needs Jesus! D guy is a sound hypocrite! I'm sure his manhood is useless already! He is hurting nd frustrated.

adellam16:
are u or ur sister virgins? Na question o! Don't get angry

girl if my sisters aren't virgins, a man who would prefer to marry only virgins should stir clear of them. it's his choice.
as for me I'm not marrying a girl that has been sucking and riding another man's diickk for years....no no. I rather stay single.

SeverusSnape:
OP, YOU'RE right. I agree with you.
And most of them won't get married to the said boyfriend, These set of girls are very sanctimonious too...They are the best set of church goers.
Rubbish!!!...

I will advice Nigerian guys to pray for a fairly used lady because most of them have been terribly used.

Any lady who marries a man who did not dsvirgin her deserves no bride price xcpt rape or molestation victims.

Even the bible seconds this.

FOREXMART:


Not only in schools my brother, even in churches, it's very common in the south south especially Port Harcourt. You see them sit separately in church firing praying in tongues, leading home cells meanwhile they live together yet they not married. In the south south. One of the major problem and cause i noticed is the cost of accommodation and where a lady can't meet up she easily moves in with a Guy.

...and they will be first to be in church on Sunday morning, yet they would look down on those who didn't go to church that day.

Toks2008:


I will advice Nigerian guys to pray for a fairly used lady because most of them have been terribly used.

Any lady who marries a man who did not dsvirgin her deserves no bride price xcpt rape or molestation victims.

Even the bible seconds this.

Bros, It's very frightening.
Some guys are even scared of getting married.
If the time comes for me eh... I'LL EMPLOY THE SERVICES OF A PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR TO ARCERTAIN HER PAST LIFE. I'm serious o

U90INDIVERSIT:



I beg to disagree with u on this........It's minding our own business that has kept our society at it current decaying state........Op, thumps up!

Glad people like u are still here. Thanks a lot. U have a high sense of reasoning

SeverusSnape:

Bros, It's very frightening.
Some guys are even sacred of getting married.
If the time comes for me eh... I'LL EMPLOY THE SERVICES OF A PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR TO ARCERTAIN HER PAST LIFE. I'm serious o

Have you ever slept with a girl and if yes how many times ?

Have you ever practised lust or masturbation ?

I need sincere answers.

adellam16:
tell d animal OP o! He needs Jesus! D guy is a sound hypocrite! I'm sure his manhood is useless already! He is hurting nd frustrated.

I see u lack common sense!

RottenTomato:
Mugu why didn't u open a separate thread for this crap?!!!

He's really a maga......Let him just request to visit the girl's mum( maybe to start the process of marrying)......bro, u go hear super story. lol

frosbel:


Have you ever slept with a girl and if yes how many times ?

Have you ever practised lust or masturbation ?
I need sincere answers.

I've never slept with any girl, I've dated 5 so far and I didn't visit their garden; Even when they insist I do.

... And yes, I do jerk off.

Blebleswag:
Same they wil do to ur sisters, cos she's bn jumpin 4rm peter2james, fryingpan2pot etc.
Or if u dnt hav sisters, then to ur girl child/children

Well that's if his sister's are wayward.
Right op..those girls are free of charge!

I have said it TIME without NUMBER...
I can NEVER SETTLE for anything LESS...not when it even comes to MARRIAGE..

BECAUSE a LADY will never do such..
They always DREAM BIG.

I can't MARRY A HARLOT.
Any Lady that did such in school and ended up with another man is MOST LIKELY a Harlot.
Most extended these their SHARING FORMULA to LECTURERS..
U still hear them say they want a GOD FEARING MAN.

ThankGOD , I know how To do a sound VIRGINITY TEST ., it's part of my Job description.

SeverusSnape:

I've never slept with any girl, I've dated 5 so far and I didn't visit their garden; Even when they insist I do.

... And yes, I do jerk off.

Did you think Jesus was joking when he said adultery starts from the heart ?

Do you not consider 'jerking off' as a sin ?