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Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by justmenoni: 2:30am On May 03, 2015
@Op when i saw the title of this thread on the front page i was like sho mk i go see.

After readin ur post,as a man i agree with most of ur points grin grin grin at least i am guilty of some,eg the socks throwin part,when i get back from work my bag might be thrown on the sofa,jacket(dat one i fit hang am) etc next mornin when i am goin to work and wifey aint home and after doin robo rebe i am then in an haste to rush down to work then voila i can't find my bag ,oh where dis woman put my charger,chai where is my bottle and i will be boiling seriously dat sometimes i hv to call wifey and ask her where she kept so so so and even warn her to leave my stuffs anywhere i kept them(even if messin up everywhere)

Dat romantic one eh mehn he get as he be ooo,many times wifey be askin us to tk the kids out to the park,cinemas,picnics but i am always like 2moro 2moro andthen tell her later that dos oyinbos are doin it cos dey don't hv jobs(no be same work we dey do)

I swear i dove hat for correct naija women ooo(ppl back in naija might not understand this),i am always like babe why are d kuds screamin,why are u screamin but mehn if i babysit for just one day na serious gobe unless i am takin dem out(hw many naija man get dat patience)

Op but i think dis doesnt apply to naija man only ooo u need to meet other african mehn(at least i hv a friend from a neigborin country to naija) and ge told me he can't ever marry a white woman cos he can't ever imagine closin from work and tellin his wife that he wants BANKU prepared within a short period and d oyinbo lady go be like u dey craze?

I am not guilty of the other points oo cos i drink my wine at home jeje and i cook for wifey(but will use the whole plates,pots and curtleries which in return is a doubble kob)
But as u don talk now i will get airforce1 to play for wifey nxt valentine and rokiatu,onila and 190 go be MC cos afetun iyawo gbe

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Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by MrBasketball: 3:02am On May 03, 2015
donpope1:
Reason Why You Should Not Get Married To a YORUBA man would have made a good title. lipsrsealed
Mr senseless. undecided
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by MrBasketball: 3:15am On May 03, 2015
maylisa:
you said it all. It will take the grace of God for me to settle down with a black African, especially a yoruba from Nigeria. Reason best known to me
With this statement, i will call u an iddiot..

Who cares about you marrying a white man, u are just fooling yourself.

Girls like u are those who weep in sorrow after marriage, continue, if u will even cross Naija border in your life time.
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by MrBasketball: 3:20am On May 03, 2015
macygray:

U are so right especially d yoruba men,dey are worse
Your stupidity is improving. grin
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by MrBasketball: 3:21am On May 03, 2015
colormebad:
It Is Very Easy To Know A Troublesome & Nagging Woman, OP Is A Typical Example! If U Marry Her Type U Are In For A Deep shiit! She's Bound To Nag U To Death, U Can Never Never Pleased Her Type...
Exactly!
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by MrBasketball: 3:23am On May 03, 2015
UnimkeAk:


Prayer Houses future members .


This is quite simple; all you ladies that believe or see reason in this Crazy post;
Next time a Nigerian man approaches u for a relationship or even ask for ur hand in marriage.

PLEASE SAY NO!

And wait for ur foreign husband
grin
I pity their condition. grin sad
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by MrBasketball: 3:31am On May 03, 2015
Guidette:


[s] Omg!!!! Chop kisses! Most naija guys are unromantic and chauvinistic. Cant stand men like that. If a man thinks he is better than me cos he has a dick, he should go through half of what Ive gone through in life and see if he will undermine me as a woman. Mtschheeewwww.

#TeamOyinboMen [/s]
See as u just dey mumu yourself.

When you regret it hope you won't come and open a thread u have a broken marriage saying... "PLEASE HELP!!! "
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by Jman06(m): 5:51am On May 03, 2015
bukatyne:


I would also say That Some of our sisters might not cherish all these 'serenre'. Beautiful home, good kids and a lots of loose money would do. Some like the beating and tough love part too.

Everyone should find a spouse who complements them.

Thank you @bukatyne. Was about typing the above.
Most Nigerian girls are confused and don't know what is good for them in relationships. I have dated a girl who said that I was 'too emotional' just because I was doing the lovey-dovey things with her,yet when you develop "iron" heart and stop showing them love, they still complain. They think that a guy showing his affections for the lady he loves is a sign of weakness, forgeting that it takes the love of a woman to calm even the strongest of men. Think about the biblical story of Sampson and Delilah.
Some of them also think that guys show affection only
when they are broke, so even when a guy is genuinely showing his love, they think he is doing that because he's broke. You see, confusion everywhere.
Thank goodness for your likes tho, who have got some functional brain cells in their skulls.
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by lapo(m): 5:53am On May 03, 2015
This is a generalisation. Can you mention one country where their men are 100% free of all those attributes you ascribed to Nigerian men. I refuse to visit your websites cheesy lol.

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Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by ireneidiva(f): 6:21am On May 03, 2015
Maser:
Nonesense! This nasty western mentality is the reason many of our Nigerian girls end up divorced. If you've ever lived abroad, you'll understand what I'm saying. They turn monsters, expect their husband to worship them, become disrespectful, and spite their man because of senseless feminist mentality.

This thread is marriage poison!

No sane woman should buy it. The good old fashioned way our parents did it remains the best!
You better marry your parents.

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Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by ApexTitan(m): 6:46am On May 03, 2015
MarieSucre:
erm... excuse me "provide for her and HER kids" wth! na immaculate conception. Nigerian mentality! Choi!

Nothing like Nigerian mentality here, that is the basic premise on which marriages are founded. The expectation is that the man provides for the woman in exchange for sex. it's been like this almost from time immemorial.

Bluntly stated like that it will offend those who aspire to more in marriage but this fact cannot be denied.
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by mambiyoo(m): 7:21am On May 03, 2015
Inferiority complex-you always think others are better than you... i hope you will be courageous enough to put your money where your mouth is. By the time you are 40 and married to the wonderful men of other countries, I sincerely hope you will still hold on to this your opinion... undecided
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by tracyfemmmm: 7:22am On May 03, 2015
OP is correct abeg! grin grin
lol i love this thread abeg a lot of them have issues.
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by Begonia(m): 7:26am On May 03, 2015
Nigerian men need CHANGE! grin

Sai... grin grin

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Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by Nobody: 7:39am On May 03, 2015
EggovinMma:
LOL.

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Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by Omotayor123(f): 7:42am On May 03, 2015
TheInkheart:
Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man

It is no doubt that Nigerian men make wonderful lovers; they are sweet, kind, thoughtful, maybe not very romantic but romantic still and good in bed too. It is also no doubt that these men are very rare to come by in Nigeria. Maybe by default or societal conditioning, most Nigerian men are so not it; they are egoistic, chauvinistic and make terrible husband materials. You wonder why I think Nigerian men; at least most of them, won't make good husbands, read the reasons listed below:

-They Are Chauvinists: pardon the strong word "chauvinists" but Nigerian men prefer to stick to their bias opinion about women and their responsibilities in the home. The take the "head" duty way too serious and often push the women aside expecting them to follow their will and do as they say. If you marry a Nigerian man, you will probably end up as the less important voice in the home or wherever the man rather than as a partner you are to him.

- They Are Polygamous In Nature: In Nigeria, some men believe men are entitled to as many women as they can handle and so, they are free to marry more than one wife or have affairs with other women. With a Nigerian man, it is never certain that you will be the only woman in his life. To save yourself the heartbreaks of discovering condoms and hotel receipts in his pocket or worse, finding out he has secret children, please do not marry a Nigerian man.

- They Are Not Romantic: you want flowers, a guy to follow you to the salon, exotic lunches, dinners, vacations, chocolates and breakfast in bed? Then, a Nigerian man is not the man you should marry. They often consider these things as cheesy and unneccesary. Maybe they will try on your birthdays and valentine's day (that's if they don't come up with excuses to forget). The most romantic thing some Nigerian men will ever get for you is packs of food from an eatery or drinks and few back/foot rubs just right before sex.

- You Will Be A Nanny To A Grown Man: if God blesses you with a Nigerian man and a somehow scattered one, you are in soup. You've just graduated to being a nanny to a full grown man. You will pick his socks, shirts and what not after him when he gets back from work, even flush the toilet when he's done. Be ready to face a sulking man if the food is not ready on time or you try to get him to do something for you when his favourite game or tv show is on. You will have to pet and stroke his ego almost all the time to make him happy.

- They Have The Wife Beating Syndrome: either by societal conditioning or home training, some Nigerian men believe it is very normal to hit a woman; that is the only way to put them back on track when they are wrong. It is no secret that some Nigerian men will beat their wives and feel no regret about it; it is somehow the woman's fault the man is so angry to the extent he has to hit her. If you're not ready to lose your fine skin to the itchy palms of a man, please steer clear of Nigerian men.

Nigerian men are also good liars. They smoke and drink heavily and blame it on the society's deteriorating condition; they have to "keep body and soul together". Many Nigerian men have money problem; it is either they are misers or heavy spenders. Some prefer to show off the wealth they do not possess by living way beyond their standards. And the most annoying part is that many Nigerian men are Mr nice guy in public and Mr stingy in their homes which you will agree is not a very attractive trait especially in someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I know by now, some guys are already hissing and cursing me probably but it is undeniable that many Nigerian guys have terrible attitudes that make them really undesirable husband materials. I mean, it is tough enough we have to cope with the many issues in the country, men problems should not be added to our weighty wahala. We deserve men who understand us (at least to a reasonable extent), shower us with the affection we need, pamper us and make us feel very special and loved but how many Nigerian men can beat their chests that they can be the man of our dreams or at least, part of the dreams?!!


more articles n www.theinkheartblog.com and www.360nobs.com/author/alice-temitope-dako/
So we go to America to Marry.

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Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by childluck(m): 8:06am On May 03, 2015
This is what happens when you have read too much of Mills and Boom.
Then you think what are being painted in those books are really in reality - wake up dear.

Don't judge all by few ones that have disappointed you.

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Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by Tobxyad(f): 8:06am On May 03, 2015
Not all nigerian men tho

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Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by JESUDARASIMI(m): 8:59am On May 03, 2015
Individual with different reason,i suspect the author of the write-up is sharing her failure experiences that make her to back to the forgoten single day,so not all what your brain accomodate that you will upload.my advice for you is to trace your step back to where you galantly fail & submit yourself,learn your past mistake to avoid any further or future occurrence
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by deb(m): 9:00am On May 03, 2015
TheInkheart:
Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man

It is no doubt that Nigerian men make wonderful lovers; they are sweet, kind, thoughtful, maybe not very romantic but romantic still and good in bed too. It is also no doubt that these men are very rare to come by in Nigeria. Maybe by default or societal conditioning, most Nigerian men are so not it; they are egoistic, chauvinistic and make terrible husband materials. You wonder why I think Nigerian men; at least most of them, won't make good husbands, read the reasons listed below:

-They Are Chauvinists: pardon the strong word "chauvinists" but Nigerian men prefer to stick to their bias opinion about women and their responsibilities in the home. The take the "head" duty way too serious and often push the women aside expecting them to follow their will and do as they say. If you marry a Nigerian man, you will probably end up as the less important voice in the home or wherever the man rather than as a partner you are to him.

- They Are Polygamous In Nature: In Nigeria, some men believe men are entitled to as many women as they can handle and so, they are free to marry more than one wife or have affairs with other women. With a Nigerian man, it is never certain that you will be the only woman in his life. To save yourself the heartbreaks of discovering condoms and hotel receipts in his pocket or worse, finding out he has secret children, please do not marry a Nigerian man.

- They Are Not Romantic: you want flowers, a guy to follow you to the salon, exotic lunches, dinners, vacations, chocolates and breakfast in bed? Then, a Nigerian man is not the man you should marry. They often consider these things as cheesy and unneccesary. Maybe they will try on your birthdays and valentine's day (that's if they don't come up with excuses to forget). The most romantic thing some Nigerian men will ever get for you is packs of food from an eatery or drinks and few back/foot rubs just right before sex.

- You Will Be A Nanny To A Grown Man: if God blesses you with a Nigerian man and a somehow scattered one, you are in soup. You've just graduated to being a nanny to a full grown man. You will pick his socks, shirts and what not after him when he gets back from work, even flush the toilet when he's done. Be ready to face a sulking man if the food is not ready on time or you try to get him to do something for you when his favourite game or tv show is on. You will have to pet and stroke his ego almost all the time to make him happy.

- They Have The Wife Beating Syndrome: either by societal conditioning or home training, some Nigerian men believe it is very normal to hit a woman; that is the only way to put them back on track when they are wrong. It is no secret that some Nigerian men will beat their wives and feel no regret about it; it is somehow the woman's fault the man is so angry to the extent he has to hit her. If you're not ready to lose your fine skin to the itchy palms of a man, please steer clear of Nigerian men.

Nigerian men are also good liars. They smoke and drink heavily and blame it on the society's deteriorating condition; they have to "keep body and soul together". Many Nigerian men have money problem; it is either they are misers or heavy spenders. Some prefer to show off the wealth they do not possess by living way beyond their standards. And the most annoying part is that many Nigerian men are Mr nice guy in public and Mr stingy in their homes which you will agree is not a very attractive trait especially in someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I know by now, some guys are already hissing and cursing me probably but it is undeniable that many Nigerian guys have terrible attitudes that make them really undesirable husband materials. I mean, it is tough enough we have to cope with the many issues in the country, men problems should not be added to our weighty wahala. We deserve men who understand us (at least to a reasonable extent), shower us with the affection we need, pamper us and make us feel very special and loved but how many Nigerian men can beat their chests that they can be the man of our dreams or at least, part of the dreams?!!


more articles n www.theinkheartblog.com and www.360nobs.com/author/alice-temitope-dako/


Soro Niyen ?
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by Excuzeme: 9:05am On May 03, 2015
TheInkheart:
Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man

It is no doubt that Nigerian men make wonderful lovers; they are sweet, kind, thoughtful, maybe not very romantic but romantic still and good in bed too. It is also no doubt that these men are very rare to come by in Nigeria. Maybe by default or societal conditioning, most Nigerian men are so not it; they are egoistic, chauvinistic and make terrible husband materials. You wonder why I think Nigerian men; at least most of them, won't make good husbands, read the reasons listed below:

more articles n www.theinkheartblog.com and www.360nobs.com/author/alice-temitope-dako/


With over 25Million Nigerian MEN happily MARRIED, who is this inconsequential harlot bad-mouthing Nigerian men?

Go and ask South African Women, Go and ask European women, Asian Women, e.t.c,.... who are all dying to marry a Nigerian MAN!

Abeg, your failure in 'marital relationship"....is your attitude and lack of sense, dont blame it on Nigerian men.
undecided undecided

[size=18pt]Eewu, Agadi Nwanyi[/size]
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by fikki1: 9:16am On May 03, 2015
@op, how many Nigerian guys hv u dated?? U don date dem finish...yeye dey worry u.. You said yes to a wrong guy in naija, u now took to NL to utter words dat are not encouraging, na who send u, an adage says look before u leap...ODE OSHI
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by rumomonga(m): 9:34am On May 03, 2015
TheInkheart:
Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man

It is no doubt that Nigerian men make wonderful lovers; they are sweet, kind, thoughtful, maybe not very romantic but romantic still and good in bed too. It is also no doubt that these men are very rare to come by in Nigeria. Maybe by default or societal conditioning, most Nigerian men are so not it; they are egoistic, chauvinistic and make terrible husband materials. You wonder why I think Nigerian men; at least most of them, won't make good husbands, read the reasons listed below:

-They Are Chauvinists: pardon the strong word "chauvinists" but Nigerian men prefer to stick to their bias opinion about women and their responsibilities in the home. The take the "head" duty way too serious and often push the women aside expecting them to follow their will and do as they say. If you marry a Nigerian man, you will probably end up as the less important voice in the home or wherever the man rather than as a partner you are to him.

- They Are Polygamous In Nature: In Nigeria, some men believe men are entitled to as many women as they can handle and so, they are free to marry more than one wife or have affairs with other women. With a Nigerian man, it is never certain that you will be the only woman in his life. To save yourself the heartbreaks of discovering condoms and hotel receipts in his pocket or worse, finding out he has secret children, please do not marry a Nigerian man.

- They Are Not Romantic: you want flowers, a guy to follow you to the salon, exotic lunches, dinners, vacations, chocolates and breakfast in bed? Then, a Nigerian man is not the man you should marry. They often consider these things as cheesy and unneccesary. Maybe they will try on your birthdays and valentine's day (that's if they don't come up with excuses to forget). The most romantic thing some Nigerian men will ever get for you is packs of food from an eatery or drinks and few back/foot rubs just right before sex.

- You Will Be A Nanny To A Grown Man: if God blesses you with a Nigerian man and a somehow scattered one, you are in soup. You've just graduated to being a nanny to a full grown man. You will pick his socks, shirts and what not after him when he gets back from work, even flush the toilet when he's done. Be ready to face a sulking man if the food is not ready on time or you try to get him to do something for you when his favourite game or tv show is on. You will have to pet and stroke his ego almost all the time to make him happy.

- They Have The Wife Beating Syndrome: either by societal conditioning or home training, some Nigerian men believe it is very normal to hit a woman; that is the only way to put them back on track when they are wrong. It is no secret that some Nigerian men will beat their wives and feel no regret about it; it is somehow the woman's fault the man is so angry to the extent he has to hit her. If you're not ready to lose your fine skin to the itchy palms of a man, please steer clear of Nigerian men.

Nigerian men are also good liars. They smoke and drink heavily and blame it on the society's deteriorating condition; they have to "keep body and soul together". Many Nigerian men have money problem; it is either they are misers or heavy spenders. Some prefer to show off the wealth they do not possess by living way beyond their standards. And the most annoying part is that many Nigerian men are Mr nice guy in public and Mr stingy in their homes which you will agree is not a very attractive trait especially in someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I know by now, some guys are already hissing and cursing me probably but it is undeniable that many Nigerian guys have terrible attitudes that make them really undesirable husband materials. I mean, it is tough enough we have to cope with the many issues in the country, men problems should not be added to our weighty wahala. We deserve men who understand us (at least to a reasonable extent), shower us with the affection we need, pamper us and make us feel very special and loved but how many Nigerian men can beat their chests that they can be the man of our dreams or at least, part of the dreams?!!


more articles n www.theinkheartblog.com and www.360nobs.com/author/alice-temitope-dako/

Rubbish. Stereotyping. Op u are deluded and mentally colonised
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by rumomonga(m): 9:43am On May 03, 2015
MrBasketball:

Mr senseless. undecided

That's an understatement sir!!
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by SangoCrusader: 9:43am On May 03, 2015
Raiders:


Is this how your father treat your mother? Just because your father treats your mom like a slave and badly, doesn't mean all Nigerian men will treat their wives badly

Why make it personal you tw*t @Raiders
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by Monikween(f): 9:53am On May 03, 2015
I disagree with The op... some not all...generalizing is a stupid thing to do When you've not tasted all...*just saying *
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by Eminentsaint(m): 10:03am On May 03, 2015
Don't marry. By the time you see no one to marry you, don't blame anyone okay?
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by Nobody: 10:19am On May 03, 2015
Guidette:


Omg!!!! Chop kisses! Most naija guys are unromantic and chauvinistic. Cant stand men like that. If a man thinks he is better than me cos he has a dick, he should go through half of what Ive gone through in life and see if he will undermine me as a woman. Mtschheeewwww.

#TeamOyinboMen


See as you resemble HIV positive alien? Who wan marry you before? In the next 10 years now, na so u go relocate to Mountain of Fire. Mtchewwww

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Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by tracyorez(f): 10:20am On May 03, 2015
I agree with you @op but not all especially the "chauvinist" part hun!

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Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by iskuburi407: 10:29am On May 03, 2015
just passing-by
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by Nobody: 11:38am On May 03, 2015
nobody will even marry u
Re: Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man by iheanyi40(m): 11:38am On May 03, 2015
NmaGOD44:
if ah hear....I'm married anyway so don't worry about dat
keep on deceiving yasef o, u hear me

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