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Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by ELgordo(m): 7:53am On May 15, 2015
sukkot:
cuz there was no internet back then. now with internet and mobile phones women stash porn in their phones and expect every man to have 20 inches of gbola. their expectations done high now. if your gbola no touch your knee-cap dem no go stay inside marriage. internet done corrupt everybody finish grin JUST KIDDING
Dude you speak the truth . . . No Lie!
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by wildikeman(m): 7:53am On May 15, 2015
That's becos these a lot of freedom today. There's a sense of equality today where women have a voice in the society than in the olden days. wink
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by Toks2008(m): 7:55am On May 15, 2015
SAMBARRY:
Here we go again sanctimonious hypocrite. I don taya for una matter o
aren't you the people that will say you don't want virgins virgins are frigid. You want women with experience. When the student con get experience finish won't she be more versatile than her teacher so please let me hear word and back to the how many days she has had sex. So u thought it's only men that know how to be verbally expressive when analysing sex with their friends over a bottle of gulder.

ptsheww

So you are so gullible to believe guys that said they don't want virgins? in as much as we know virgins are rare to find but trust me, no sane guy will give up a virgin for a thoroughly battered p*nny.

Why do ladies have so much attachment to the guy that first broke them? Show me one man that will divorce a wife he disvirgined except for an extremely serious case.

I was the man who made my wife a woman and trust me, this is a big plus because despite her shortcomings and immaturity,i still have this respect for her and while many ladies may not believe this, no matter how sweet your hubby may present you, there is this maximum respect a lady gets if she marries the man that made her a woman and this is why the Bible recommends bride price on only virgins.

If i will ever have to remarry, i am not looking for a virgin not because i don't want it but because its like trying to pick a diamond from the floor.

If you are a lady and a virgin reading this, just try and preserve it fore your hubby and watch if he will not respect you to the highest limits.

Ladies should get this straight, men will tell you plenty rubbish just to have a taste of your goody bag and even me as a mare mortal despite my spiritual inclination might take advantage of a virgin girl even if i have no vivid plans for her so it boils down to you as a lady to wise up.

If you are not a virgin,no wahala, a man will still love you and respect you but there is a big plus in you marrying the man who made you a woman and this is an unequivocal fact.

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Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by precisionindepth: 7:56am On May 15, 2015
brownlord:
Kai so many reasons.

Parents was the one making choices for their kids.

It was an era when the most important thing was family background, unlike today, it is pocket background,

Even when family background is considered, it's about how wealthy the family is, honesty, good morals etc no longer count, just have money, the would-be inlaw's don't care about the illicit activities in the family.

I noticed then, A woman never get to know her partner until the day of marriage, which in most times she will refuse, they had little or no choice, even though there was no courtship like we having today, they still get to love themselves... the love was not there from the beginning.

Their priority was raising a good family.

They were not looking for 6 packs in men and men not all about light skin, yellow-label skin etc, it was about decency, honesty, modesty, integrity...etc

It was a time, the man was the head of the family.

It was a time, women were shy of losing their virginity before getting married....Unlike today girls boast of how many yahoo boys they have slept with.

What went wrong?



the olden daz marriages produced the modern days husbands and wives..what went wrong?
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by tayoccu(m): 7:58am On May 15, 2015
tobtap:
MORALS.....OUR ladies clearly lack it now embarassed

God bless you.
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by SAMBARRY: 8:00am On May 15, 2015
Ok

Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by harry509: 8:01am On May 15, 2015
tpiadotcom:
Strange!

Modern marriages have both the husband and wife either wishing for death or divorce as their only alternatives, why marry if you hate your fellow human?

Nor be by force nah.
not yet married so... Don't kw wat 2 say.
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by centjamie(m): 8:01am On May 15, 2015
Toks2008:


A billion likes.

You just nailed it.

people marry for the right reasons and a woman will be with who she wants to be with without any affiliation to the man's financial status and when i hear stories of how our mothers drank garri with their husbands before hitting it big, i really respect them but today if you are not made, forget it.

A typical lady will not mind leaving a man she loves deeply and who also loves her because he is not ready for the expenses of A MARRIAGE CEREMONY just to wind up in the hands of a man she has no love for simply because he is a money bag who is willing to close the whole street because of one day marriage ceremony.

In short, misplaced priorities is the sole reason why marriages break up these days.

My marriage broke up the day i saw single as marital status on the cv of my ex even when i taught she was happily legally married to me and please tell me what will make a married lady write single on her CV? I guess because she is looking for a job that will give her MONEY and anytime i imagine that episode,i tend to wonder how much can she possibly make in that job she is looking for that will make her deny her matrimony.

Too bad money has turned most of our precious ladies into slaves and object to be bought,used and dumped in the hands of men.


Women of nowadays have totally lost it.anything for the money goes.my advice for my fellow guys is to be very careful when choosing a wife.

Sorry about your marriage bro,some women are wicked.

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Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by Olypeppy(f): 8:01am On May 15, 2015
Gudos to our parents especially our mothers#endurance was what kept their marriage going.I bet you they where able to endure of kinds of shits at d risk of their own happiness
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by Nobody: 8:01am On May 15, 2015
tobtap:
MORALS.....OUR ladies clearly lack it now embarassed
ode leleyi o, are you married ni? this is one clear reason, blame each other for your misfortune. nonsense
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by tayoccu(m): 8:03am On May 15, 2015
our churches do not help matters too, instead of teaching intending couples how to pray together and work together to build a strong home, they're busy trying to drum doctrine into their heads.
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by repogirl(f): 8:03am On May 15, 2015
Because back then most women believed in sticking it out, divorce was looked at as shameful but these days, divorce is very much acceptable, if its not working out, if he/she doesn't make me happy anymore, its better to be alone than unhappy.

Also grass is greener on the other side syndrome, they think happiness is somewhere else, with someone else......

Guaranteed, there are wicked and awful spouses out there, philanderers and violent types shouldn't be put up with but then most marriages could be saved if most people determine to make it work, instead of giving up and looking for something better elsewhere.
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by SAMBARRY: 8:06am On May 15, 2015
Sooo

Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by Arsenate(m): 8:06am On May 15, 2015
I don't get it ladies. if you will be going into marriage with the intention of bailing out at the slightest hint of trouble, why marry at all?

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Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by precisionindepth: 8:07am On May 15, 2015
centjamie:



Women of nowadays have totally lost it.anything for the money goes.my advice for my fellow guys is to be very careful when choosing a wife.

Sorry about your marriage bro,some women are wicked.
what about men too? some men r wicked too in fact extremely wicked
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by misreal(m): 8:08am On May 15, 2015
pocohantas:
Humans are changing, evolving...call it anything.

You can't compare their ideologies to life then and now. Women way back were more tolerant and 'timid'. They were trained to take everything that comes their way. Divorce was never an option.

I wouldn't be far from the truth if I say the women were in a kind of bondage then.

With the advent of feminist and misogynist, there has been a clash of ideologies. The problem is the present day men and women. I think I love it this way, marriage isn't a do or die affair.

You either in it or out of it.
this is y ur marriage may crash.
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by Arsenate(m): 8:09am On May 15, 2015
repogirl:
Because back then most women believed in sticking it out, divorce was looked at as shameful but these days, divorce is very much acceptable, if its not working out, if he/she doesn't make me happy anymore, its better to be alone than unhappy.

Also grass is greener on the other side syndrome, they think happiness is somewhere else, with someone else......

Guaranteed, there are wicked and awful spouses out there, philanderers and violent types shouldn't be put up with but then most marriages could be saved if most people determine to make it work, instead of giving up and looking for something better elsewhere.
but truth is there will always be trying times in marriage. why marry at all if you have the intention of bailing out at the slightest hint of trouble

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Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by chidiandre(m): 8:10am On May 15, 2015
cos there was no social media outlets
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by Toks2008(m): 8:10am On May 15, 2015
centjamie:



Women of nowadays have totally lost it.anything for the money goes.my advice for my fellow guys is to be very careful when choosing a wife.

Sorry about your marriage bro,some women are wicked.

Thanks bro but the saddest side to it is that no matter how hard you try, when it comes to a woman who i strongly consider as the first wonder of the world, you can never ever be too careful in choosing them because every woman is like a black market that has the tendency to give you unpleasant surprise(s) no matter how careful you are in choosing them or how excellently you treat them.

This has made me draw up this conclusion that in order to be happy with a lady, all you need do is Love your lady with so much passion,lavish her with gifts,treat her like a queen,don't ever raise your hand to beat her or insult her in anyway

Listen to her when she wants to be heard and shower her with lots of accolades,give her undivided attention and be very romantic towards her.
Respect her above others and dont cheat on her in anyway. Provide her needs and don't ever break her heart or make her cry.
Be extremely caring and pamper her in anyway imaginable.

But despite all these,expect the worst from her.

This in my candid opinion is the only way you can be happy with a woman.
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by precisionindepth: 8:12am On May 15, 2015
repogirl:
Because back then most women believed in sticking it out, divorce was looked at as shameful but these days, divorce is very much acceptable, if its not working out, if he/she doesn't make me happy anymore, its better to be alone than unhappy.

Also grass is greener on the other side syndrome, they think happiness is somewhere else, with someone else......

Guaranteed, there are wicked and awful spouses out there, philanderers and violent types shouldn't be put up with but then most marriages could be saved if most people determine to make it work, instead of giving up and looking for something better elsewhere.
u spoke well... marriage is abt two Pple wanting and willing to work it out. in d case where only one partner is willing and d other is hell bent on letting it fall..then such marriage won't work.
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by paix(m): 8:12am On May 15, 2015
Men should love their wives; wives should respect their husbands. Anything outside that, peace will elude the marriage.
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by SAMBARRY: 8:13am On May 15, 2015
grin grin grin




are you too into comedy grin




ok so she was a man before you turned her into a woman. She was never a woman all along grin




and by the way the last time I checked respect is earned. The presence or absence of hymen doesn't determine respect. doesn't
Toks2008:


So you are so gullible to believe guys that said they don't want virgins? in as much as we know virgins are rare to find but trust me, no sane guy will give up a virgin for a thoroughly battered p*nny.

Why do ladies have so much attachment to the guy that first broke them? Show me one man that will divorce a wife he disvirgined except for an extremely serious case.

I was the man who made my wife a woman and trust me, this is a big plus because despite her shortcomings and immaturity,i still have this respect for her and while many ladies may not believe this, no matter how sweet your hubby may present you, there is this maximum respect a lady gets if she marries the man that made her a woman and this is why the Bible recommends bride price on only virgins.

If i will ever have to remarry, i am not looking for a virgin not because i don't want it but because its like trying to pick a diamond from the floor.

If you are a lady and a virgin reading this, just try and preserve it fore your hubby and watch if he will not respect you to the highest limits.

Ladies should get this straight, men will tell you plenty rubbish just to have a taste of your goody bag and even me as a mare mortal despite my spiritual inclination might take advantage of a virgin girl even if i have no vivid plans for her so it boils down to you as a lady to wise up.

If you are not a virgin,no wahala, a man will still love you and respect you but there is a big plus in you marrying the man who made you a woman and this is an unequivocal fact.
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by precisionindepth: 8:13am On May 15, 2015
Arsenate:
I don't get it ladies. if you will be going into marriage with the intention of bailing out at the slightest hint of trouble, why marry at all?
same applies to men. until we stop trading blames on each other, there won't b a way forward.

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Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by HizMissy(f): 8:14am On May 15, 2015
Because the old type of gala is sweeter than the ones being produced nowadays.
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by SAMBARRY: 8:15am On May 15, 2015
And Toks 2008 are you trying to be funny or something because this days you have become very amusing cheesy grin grin
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by Maximus85(m): 8:18am On May 15, 2015
tpiadotcom:
Strange!

Modern marriages have both the husband and wife either wishing for death or divorce as their only alternatives, why marry if you hate your fellow human?

Nor be by force nah.

Back then there was no make up. So, the man knows who he is marrying and he's not afraid of waking up one day to see another face in his house. No deceiving. Plus the fact that back then divorce is a taboo. Any woman sent out of her husband's house automatically becomes an outcast (dalemoshu).
Back then women aren't dragging positions with their husbands. Women are never pushing to be independent. You wonder what they teach themselves in the all women churches.
The society is degraded. Note married men have their own madness as well.
They chase anything in skirts but you need ask, which kin skirt? Back then women dresses like sane people but today, they want to walk naked. They expose their cleavage, their laps, back, bare shoulders etc. Married women oooo. One of them recently said his husband knows that she loves to expose her body. This kin woman dey sane?

I don't want to sound as if the women are the major reason for short-lived marriages but they are 70% responsible. If the wife is not the reason, then another woman outside must have orchestrated the wahala. Men aren't as strong at mind as perceived. Once we see fresh something, before we could remove our eyes, our instrument of power would have started nodding down there.

We need the sanity of our Women to help marriage lives. Especially fashionwise and behavioural.

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Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by Toks2008(m): 8:19am On May 15, 2015
SAMBARRY:
grin grin grin




are you too into comedy grin




ok so she was a man before you turned her into a woman. She was never a woman all along grin




and by the way the last time I checked respect is earned. The presence or absence of hymen doesn't determine respect. doesn't

Lol, you are the comedian here because everyone knows that when a girl makes love for the first time, she becomes a woman and of-course hymen or no hymen, a man that will love you will love you and that was reiterated in my last paragraph.

But the truth must be told, Virginity is very much still in vogue just that men no longer look for such not because they don't want it but because they have no hope of finding such.

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Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by HizMissy(f): 8:21am On May 15, 2015
Toks2008:


I was the man who made my wife a woman

.

Just want to ask if it was ur wife who made you a man.
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by Edusouls(m): 8:22am On May 15, 2015
RickRichards:
Because Romancelanders have complicated everything with: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Fart; 0.5 Ways of Telling if Your Wife is Your Wife; 20 Types of Conversations Married Couples Should Avoid While Watching a Plasma but not LCD TV in 3D and not 4K.
You get my point now? Phew!!!
u re a very intelligent man, well said brother, u see all sorts of advice and useless tips posted on how a man should do that,a woman should do this, and people is badly mislead by such..

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Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by Edusouls(m): 8:23am On May 15, 2015
tobtap:
MORALS.....OUR ladies clearly lack it now embarassed
and men also.
Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by Toks2008(m): 8:25am On May 15, 2015
HizMissy:


Just want to ask if it was ur wife who made you a man.


Yes and i was only 26 then. Other encounters i have had before then was like sexual molestation.And asides this, it is not an issue for a man to be a virgin by virtue of the way nature has designed it.

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Re: Why Do Olden Days Marriages Last Longer Than Modern Ones? by SAMBARRY: 8:26am On May 15, 2015
grin grin Lololol grin grin





ok so the hymen makes her a man and after disvirgining her she miraculously turns into a woman cheesy grin grin



toks2008 are you serious grin




so what type of respect because I need to know because I have a young growing beautiful oyoyo daughter grin
Toks2008:


Lol, you are the comedian here because everyone knows that when a girl makes love for the first time, she becomes a woman and of-course hymen or no hymen, a man that will love you will love you and that was reiterated in my last paragraph.

But the truth must be told, Virginity is very much still in vogue just that men no longer look for such not because they don't want it but because they have no hope of finding such.

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