My fon got faulty& insertd my sim in my 15yrold sis fon.Later got a cal frm a friend 2say she dropd an info in my fb inbox,i typed facebook xpectin 2c a page wia i wil b askd 2 log in wit my usernam&pasword,wat i saw instead shockd me 2d bones.My sis fb which she secretly opend appeard wit 5 unread mssgs.I clicked on msgs& wat i saw was her chats wit about 9guys including 2 uni guys she told she was 18askin her out.I read chats wit her frend about a guy she was datin in skul sayin she luvs him but was hurtin her by playin wit oda gals,i noticed she cals her friend mrs vic&her friend cals her mrs mark.she also chatted wit som boys in her skul askin her out,but she told dem she had a bf.i saw a msg wia she told a boy in her skul 2meet her in a zoo she frequents wit her frenz.I realy dnt knw wia 2start frm,am frm a broken hom&d 1st dota.tot of goin 2her skul 2report 2her principal so dat d boys wud b fished Out,but changd my mind cos she just wrote her junio waec&wunt b in skul til sept&d boys myt bher clasmates

Sit her down and advice her like a sister (that's if you are not once like her ooo). Do as if you didn't see anything and tell her many examples of girls in your neighbourhood that guys have ruined their future.. Am sure she would know and always remember that you warned her, even if she would not listen.

U are her elder sister, u suposed to hav a heart to heart talk wit her.... I wonder why u hav not talked to her all these while... Speak to her on d dangers of frivolous relationships which ar always misleading.... She needs to be wary of boiz...... She should hav male friends but not a must to hav boyfrnds at her early age.... I can go on and on if u dnt hav points

Immoral age. I finish secondary not bordered of girls Na Jss3 student dey chop cucumber like say that carrot! You can't stop her, only Jesus can.

Moral decadence and lawlessness holds sway. The importance of good parental upbringing can't be over emphasised. Even the environment a particular child was exposed to while growing up, has a key factor in moulding her into a responsible citizen or a wayward individual.
If she founds herself in an environment where the new trend is getting an Iphone 6 or a boyfriend, so what's the end? She needs to keep up with the jonesses so as not to be seen as a loser.
Peer groups, internet, etc. Are bad influences to the life of youngsters/teenagers.
Sister, go and get her a copy of the novel AS YOU GO TO COLLEGE - Victor Ojuejiofor.
Trust me, the did will be done.

Na so e take dey start. Min while op yu seriously nid to talk with her on a personal level, good enough you are both girls. I don't think going to her school will do much good cos she might feel embarrased and might just go extreme....... Who knows?


Talk to her and most especially,



Talk to God.

jcmaiah:
Immoral age. I finish secondary not bordered of girls Na Jss3 student dey chop cucumber like say that carrot! You can't stop her, only Jesus can.

You already have something to tell your sons and grand sons.




@OP, It is your responsibility to advice and educate her on what's she's doing, you should look for where to get the heart.

Mtcheew....ira nu. Who facebook don help ?

Cutehector:
U are her elder sister, u suposed to hav a heart to heart talk wit her.... I wonder why u hav not talked to her all these while... Speak to her on d dangers of frivolous relationships which ar always misleading.... She needs to be wary of boiz...... She should hav male friends but not a must to hav boyfrnds at her early age.... I can go on and on if u dnt hav points

am so pained,i feel i hav failed her as a sister. feel i shud discos and show my elda bro whom she fears d messages at d same time i fear he myt end up aggreviating evrytin,he myt beat her up which wud not change anytin.

Free the girl abeg, why did you have to invade her privacy? Let her enjoy herself abeg.

Did she report you when you got pregnant and went for abortion?

15years? J.S3? When I was almost done with S.S3

Anyway, going to the school to disgrace her would have been better so that she'll feel remorse for her action and probably turn a new lead but I don't know what the stigma would be on her.

As for people screaming free her, I hope you'd be there to help when she gets pregnant or contact STDS.

Trust is good but control is better.
It was wrong to give a child at that age this gadget without constant control.
It was a mere coincidence that you discovered it.
So you and the family also have a part blame to carry.
She needs to be educated and not punished.

mutter:
Trust is good but control is better.
It was wrong to give a child at that age this gadget without constant control.
It was a mere coincidence that you discovered it.
So you and the family also have a part blame to carry.
She needs to be educated and not punished.

tanx 4ur contribution. planning 2hav a heart 2 heart talk wit her lata in d day

Tallesty1:
You already have something to tell your sons and grand sons.




@OP, It is your responsibility to advice and educate her on what's she's doing, you should look for where to get the heart.

I am searching for the point, don't seem to see any!

Op what are the things you do and talk about in her presence? She's your younger sister , you know her better than we here.


If it were me , here's what I'll do.

I'll first take her phone and get her a Nokia touch light , she's too young and don't need a browsing phone yet. Then sit her down , ask her what it is she's lacking that makes her need a boyfriend or in this case boyfriends is it money? companionship ? Peers ? Or anything then from there I'll know the advice to give her. Telling your brother , at worse he'll beat her and then she'll just grow worse.

mamziii:
am so pained,i feel i hav failed her as a sister. feel i shud discos and show my elda bro whom she fears d messages at d same time i fear he myt end up aggreviating evrytin,he myt beat her up which wud not change anytin.

well both of you should treat this matter with tact... I hav a younger sister too... She does all erm "she used to do all that" until her two brothers including me sat her down and we all talked sense into her... We told her we love her, we don't want anythn to hapen to her such as hrtbreak and unwanted preggie... We told her the whole truth abt boiz.. I believe she has changed nw sha.... Your brother should not even dare raise his hand on her.... Its his fault, and urs too.. Yeah.. Let's tell ourselves the truth.. The rod is meant for only children but sensible words r meant for adults... Nw go speak some sense into her... She will change with time..... By the way, u shuld try being a friend to her, thereby getn her to open up to u... Trust me, u will be shocked

If its my younger sister
I would take her phone yes .. Because at js3 she should be thinking of exams etc nkt BOYS at all
Then i will go n report her that way she will be embarassed at school n those small small boyz too will see she comes from a good home n you as an older sister will not tolorate nonsense ..


At the end of the day when she older n in UNI er she can do whatever but right now shes a child.

Op, you really have to talk to her... she's probably bowing to peer pressure. .. You could give her example of people whose lives have been devastated as a result of STDs, pregnancy et al...

You could also threaten to report her to your elder bro if she continues misbehaving. . Since she fears him, she may change. .

All d best... e no easy

mutter:
Trust is good but control is better.
It was wrong to give a child at that age this gadget without constant control.
It was a mere coincidence that you discovered it.
So you and the family also have a part blame to carry.
She needs to be educated and not punished

@ bold, exactly