treese:
Hello you all. I am his wife.but I am indeed glad he came here to pour his heart out. He doesn't like communicating with me that much, once he is upset u dont wanna be around me. You will pity me, he treats me unfair, he removes his ring at will and says he had a bad day and so it his wedding ring that caused it. You can take a look tru my profile. You would see just a little of my complaints. But now i get where the problem is. Funny enough I didn't know he had this topic here already cos I am not much of a nairaland person so if he didn't make front topic I won't have seen it. And it was even God that drew my attention here cos even front topic I don't read that much. Very very glad I did. Now o am not a cheating wife and would never ever till I die cheat. I would rather walk away. You see d gentle man who put this topic down, he doesn't talk much to me. If anything goes wrong with us, I could be talking for 3mins he will just increase the volume of his phone and start playing music. He can agree how any times in a day I ask him why he hates me so much. Cos he acts as such. Let me analyse the instances that made him think am cheating. My EX who was the first man I probably ever loved. Myself and my husband has had plenty issues on exes his exes sef just disappeared completely like a year back. My ex probably called me and we had a very clean and open convo. I tot to myself this is wrong jor. So I told him, my ex called me and he has always bin calling which is true. But very clean convo. He has Like 3kids now and is happily married. The day i told my hubby my ex called me. He was just there like whatever, and I rem telling him that day you never get jealous of me. U should even ask me questions or something. If I keep talking without bin asked questions then something is wrong with me. God knows I felt hurt that he was neutral. And that night my husband decide to have phone intimacy with an old female friend to get back at me. I rem that Sunday Wen I saw it. I cried. I felt hurt d moment he said that's for Kipling in touch with ur ex. And i asked him why he didnt allow us talk about it immediately, sometimes thats all we need just talk to us and show u care, till date i always feel my husvand is t worrird ablut losing me, instead he pays me back. And i dont think it should that way, sometimes communicatikn is all u need and u would just find d truth in d detail. I cang coynt how many incriminatikng stiffs i have fpynd on his phone, me i cant kip quiet for too long i tell him sharp sharp and sometimes it isnt what i think, but if i decide to keep.quiet and pay him back i would only be hurting us more, so back to my ex, Then we went out, we spoke about it and it all got cleared, but I guess it didn't. Secondly he spoke about me removing my ring. Now this is me also.when I find out hubby always removes his ring often and blame it on bad days I join him. Right now none of us Is wearing a rjng; he as removed it again and thrown it away claiming another bad day and I joined in cos I don't undestand that ish again. Now the third case of cheating. He said o saved my ex's number yeah that's true and that becos I didn't want my husband to think otherwise cos I actually think he knows the guys number or have it saved somewhere. This guy is helping my lil brother gt a job with an oil firm. He is only helping.
When my husband saw this I felt so bad so so bad and I wish I had discussed it with him. But I tot he would pay me back painfully again so I decide to keep it away from him. The third blame is me cooking for a guy on the estate. The guy is a friend I met quiet alright. But God sees my heart I cooked it out of helping. His wife is overseas and d guy claimed to be broke, then also there was fuel scarcity he said he couldn't get fuel to buy. So he wanted me to help him with food. That faithful day, my husband's friend who also lives on the estate was home, my nanny and my two kids, so I asked him to give his opinion,and he said why not that the guy is an easy going person on the estate and for him to ask for food he must be In a bad state. We had some left over rice at home and I told hy nanny to go and give him. When my hubby came back that day I Had to find a way to explain to him. I wasnt too sure of his response, but to a certain extent d man i know and the way he has bin treating me I tot he will say no big deal. But I got otherwise instantly I knew I had messed up, but how to fix it became a problem. He has called my dad on this matter. That old man is another man I fear the most after God. Tho I was scared of wat he will do to me. But I was rather glad. Cos I wanted to be free and be trusted again. The matter on ground is something that I know can ruin my home but now that he as spoken I believe and hope he learns to trust me. Now I understand d reason for the mean treatments. He doesn't like visiting marriage counselors, so smtimes we end our matters and issues arguing and no resolution. Am saying it world wide now. I am not cheating on my husband. I love him than anything else in the world. Appreciate him and would always honour him. His changes and behaviour towards me recently sort of got me changing to, but now I see where it's all coming from. God bless u nairaland at least he spoke here. But seriously, dear Nairalander's you can't give concluding opinions on a journey of 3years based on 650 words. U don't av any idea wat we both av bin Tru to just conclude that he divorces a woman u know nothing about based on the short story u heard. I am a woman who would do anything g to keep her home. I took steps that I had no clue I would regret. Now he doesn't trust me no one knows how that feels. Even when I go out for business he picks d lie from d truth and this hasn't bin making me go what I deserve. I hope and pray God fixes this for me.

God bless you, madam, for giving us your own side of the story. You sound honest and real. That is why it is wrong to jump to conclusions without hearing both sides of a conflict. I am sorry for having a negative thought about you.
Now, it's clear you did not go to the guy's house to cook for him. Because for me that would have been a big no no. And the food you gave him was not given secretly.
Your husband actually misled us.
Please try to seek help for both of you with marriage counsellor. There must be somebody he respects. Get the person involved. Your husband needs some serious counselling. My best wishes to you and your husband.

Mr Husband, or will I say Mr Detective, Y not find a way of loving, caring n giving her enough attention instead of checking phones confronting her? U're indirectly pushing her out. All you should is stop doing those things that will make her seeking for a shoulder to lean on, give her time n stop checking her phone for no reason
Pray hard,put ur mind at rest n always remind her u LOVE her if u truly do
Takia n all the best

My 10k advice. You are not worthy of being called a man. You are not in control of your house that is why your wife has taken you for granted this much. I wish you well.

Bros you don't need anyone to tell you that your wife is a cheat.

Pls how much does a DNA test cost?. Brother, your wife is cheating on you.

mejai:
I think 'ftc' has said it all. but if u want to continue.... a hot resounding slap will reset her senses. I don't support spouse assault but just to reset it.

Since when slap donc change from assault to reset?

This woman has no single respect or feeling for you from day one.The marriage was a fraud in the first place.I dont know how long you have been married or how many kids but whatever situation,she used you to get the tag MARRIED,while she is banging outside.Infact when the banging has reached the point of cooking,you imagine how long it has been on.Can you recall how fast she came to cook for you while you were still courting with her.
Just forget this woman and rearrange your life because the moment you get to discover what you are looking for,your life will be on the line.
She is a dumb asshole just as most of them are.Tell yourself the truth which you have already confirmed from her mouth and phone.Cooking for another man is done after the banging has been going on outside while the man"s wife was around.Sorryooooooooooooo.

wagazala:
Bros, begin find new wife.

If your wife would go as far as cook and confide in another woman's husband other than you then obviously something is wrong. The usual template answer most people will give you on this forum is have a heart to heart talk about it to your wife, pray about it, etc. Forgerrit, if you don't have kids yet, i'll suggest you start packing your bags.

Smart one. 3 gbosa.........

freelance777:
Dear Nairalander's

How are you all doing? I hope you guys are doing well? I am writing this post to express my fears of the unknown, because I have been a very trusting and reliable husband to my wife.

Before marriage, my wife have once told me about his ex who is supposedly his best date ever in her life before she met me, that apart 2 years into our marriage, we had an arguement in which she confronted me about a number saved with a lady's name on my dialled list. I openly and honestly told her it was my old school mate whom I missed her call and had called back. But she wanted to know more like I was doing something shady, that got me all roused up and I just told her to leave me be.

A week later, I received a call from her straight from work that my daughter had a serious cut on her lips due to an
accident, I quickly rushed down to the school, but met them at the nearest clinic where my daughter's lip was being stitched, few mins later I walked down to her school where she works nearby to pick up her car key then bring her car nearby so we could all go home, surprisingly, I found her wedding ring inside the glove compartment. A ring she wore out to work that very morning.

I didnt question her immmediately until the night of that day, I asked her why she had removed her ring and kept it in the glove compartment knowing fully well that the wore it out that very morning, she said it was because I have had mine removed since the past 1 month, so she also had the same reason to remove her's.

A week later, she opened up to me that she has been talking to her ex whom I described above, I asked her about what? She said she has been taking advise from him whenever we have issues. I kept shut and moved on.

2 more years into this marriage, I recently found out that her ex had sent her a whatsapp message, but she didnt respond, so I opened up a discussion with her based on ex's. I asked her if keeping contact of ex's or communicating with ex's is good for married people be it the man or woman, she said its a no no, that infact she will never accomodate such and that its wrong for anybody to do that. I immediately told her to open up her whats app, she did and I showed her her ex's whats app message, she at first was scared, wanted to cover up the phone somehow, but due to fear, she slowly relaxed herself and she said well that I can see that he is just talking and she has not been responding, and that its possible for someone you do not have on your contact list to send you a whatsapp message, I agreed, but countered her saying you also have saved his number with Abbreviation, if you never intend having future communication with him, why then did you save his number thereafter? I didnt get an answer, until later after two weeks when she told me she was in communication with him in order to secure a job for his younger brother. ( Very hard to believe) I moved on.


A few days later again, I was on my way to help her fix her iphone which she has abandoned like a year and the half, something just prompted me to dial his ex's number on that phone, behold she had saved the number as 'rsif' someone who bears Williams. Anyway I kept quiet still. The the final incident that gave me a final warning that this my wife might be cheating on me unknowingly was just a month ago when she told me she had met this dude on the same estate we reside, that he was into business and had also gave her his complementary card, I asked what he does, said he is an estate agent, I responded saying estate agency does not correlate with what you do, she said at least he can provide us good offer for housing by the time we are ready to move. When all of a sudden, she said that same guy had asked her to help cook since his own wife had travelled to the USA to give birth. She asked if it was right for her to go ahead and do the cooking, I immediately denounce that move that it is wrong, and that the guy has another motive entirely. I told her to tell him that he should ask his own family member to cook for him, and that she should immediately cut communication with him if she wants to last long in the marriage.

My wife responded by saying, she does not think the guy has bad intentions and that he is a cool and nice person with a very mild personality,that if the dude has such intentions, that it would be the most surprising occurence to her. I said well just do as I have said. Lo and behold, I investigated her phone and I found out that she had already cooked for this dude even before she asked me the question. I confronted her, and she said it was because I might not find it funny and thats the reason why she kept it a secret at first. I then promise to show her that the dude was infact a cheater whom is planning to cheat on his wife with my own wife. One day, I impersonated my wife, and started sending text as such as that am ready to give him what he wants, lo and behold, this dude was responding and was even asking where I was at, that he is ready to heal my wounds, a hug and everything that I needed. I showed my wife the text message, and she acted all surprised, but I was not, because based on the conversations that I have seen, it seems to me that whenever I have issued, he rushes to call the guy and tell him everything, which was a good avenue for the guy to provide emotional consolation in order to get what he wants.

I apologize for this long story, but I just needed to detail this story well, so that I can get insight of what I need to be thinking, what I need to do, and the right steps to take.

Thanks all.

Bros with wat u just said, it is very obvious that your wife is cheating on u, find another woman if u want to live long bcuz I won't b surprised if she poison u one day(God forbid)

treese:
Hello you all. I am his wife.but I am indeed glad he came here to pour his heart out. He doesn't like communicating with me that much, once he is upset u dont wanna be around me. You will pity me, he treats me unfair, he removes his ring at will and says he had a bad day and so it his wedding ring that caused it. You can take a look tru my profile. You would see just a little of my complaints. But now i get where the problem is. Funny enough I didn't know he had this topic here already cos I am not much of a nairaland person so if he didn't make front topic I won't have seen it. And it was even God that drew my attention here cos even front topic I don't read that much. Very very glad I did. Now o am not a cheating wife and would never ever till I die cheat. I would rather walk away. You see d gentle man who put this topic down, he doesn't talk much to me. If anything goes wrong with us, I could be talking for 3mins he will just increase the volume of his phone and start playing music. He can agree how any times in a day I ask him why he hates me so much. Cos he acts as such. Let me analyse the instances that made him think am cheating. My EX who was the first man I probably ever loved. Myself and my husband has had plenty issues on exes his exes sef just disappeared completely like a year back. My ex probably called me and we had a very clean and open convo. I tot to myself this is wrong jor. So I told him, my ex called me and he has always bin calling which is true. But very clean convo. He has Like 3kids now and is happily married. The day i told my hubby my ex called me. He was just there like whatever, and I rem telling him that day you never get jealous of me. U should even ask me questions or something. If I keep talking without bin asked questions then something is wrong with me. God knows I felt hurt that he was neutral. And that night my husband decide to have phone intimacy with an old female friend to get back at me. I rem that Sunday Wen I saw it. I cried. I felt hurt d moment he said that's for Kipling in touch with ur ex. And i asked him why he didnt allow us talk about it immediately, sometimes thats all we need just talk to us and show u care, till date i always feel my husvand is t worrird ablut losing me, instead he pays me back. And i dont think it should that way, sometimes communicatikn is all u need and u would just find d truth in d detail. I cang coynt how many incriminatikng stiffs i have fpynd on his phone, me i cant kip quiet for too long i tell him sharp sharp and sometimes it isnt what i think, but if i decide to keep.quiet and pay him back i would only be hurting us more, so back to my ex, Then we went out, we spoke about it and it all got cleared, but I guess it didn't. Secondly he spoke about me removing my ring. Now this is me also.when I find out hubby always removes his ring often and blame it on bad days I join him. Right now none of us Is wearing a rjng; he as removed it again and thrown it away claiming another bad day and I joined in cos I don't undestand that ish again. Now the third case of cheating. He said o saved my ex's number yeah that's true and that becos I didn't want my husband to think otherwise cos I actually think he knows the guys number or have it saved somewhere. This guy is helping my lil brother gt a job with an oil firm. He is only helping.
When my husband saw this I felt so bad so so bad and I wish I had discussed it with him. But I tot he would pay me back painfully again so I decide to keep it away from him. The third blame is me cooking for a guy on the estate. The guy is a friend I met quiet alright. But God sees my heart I cooked it out of helping. His wife is overseas and d guy claimed to be broke, then also there was fuel scarcity he said he couldn't get fuel to buy. So he wanted me to help him with food. That faithful day, my husband's friend who also lives on the estate was home, my nanny and my two kids, so I asked him to give his opinion,and he said why not that the guy is an easy going person on the estate and for him to ask for food he must be In a bad state. We had some left over rice at home and I told hy nanny to go and give him. When my hubby came back that day I Had to find a way to explain to him. I wasnt too sure of his response, but to a certain extent d man i know and the way he has bin treating me I tot he will say no big deal. But I got otherwise instantly I knew I had messed up, but how to fix it became a problem. He has called my dad on this matter. That old man is another man I fear the most after God. Tho I was scared of wat he will do to me. But I was rather glad. Cos I wanted to be free and be trusted again. The matter on ground is something that I know can ruin my home but now that he as spoken I believe and hope he learns to trust me. Now I understand d reason for the mean treatments. He doesn't like visiting marriage counselors, so smtimes we end our matters and issues arguing and no resolution. Am saying it world wide now. I am not cheating on my husband. I love him than anything else in the world. Appreciate him and would always honour him. His changes and behaviour towards me recently sort of got me changing to, but now I see where it's all coming from. God bless u nairaland at least he spoke here. But seriously, dear Nairalander's you can't give concluding opinions on a journey of 3years based on 650 words. U don't av any idea wat we both av bin Tru to just conclude that he divorces a woman u know nothing about based on the short story u heard. I am a woman who would do anything g to keep her home. I took steps that I had no clue I would regret. Now he doesn't trust me no one knows how that feels. Even when I go out for business he picks d lie from d truth and this hasn't bin making me go what I deserve. I hope and pray God fixes this for me.

. you are ruining your marriage with your "do me I do you attitude|action". your husband removing his ring is no justification for you to remove yours.
You went ahead to be discussing your marital issues with a man, you called an ex. listen up, for we men " a shoulder to cry on is a dick to ride on" you didn't stop at that you pick up a neighborhood man who is married to start sharing your issues with again and went ahead to cook for him in his house.. you called your ex "the first man you ever loved" , that should die inside of you, cut off all ties with your ex now.
Men get jealous than women , but are covert with it, unlike women, as such reaction you will get from pushing him to the jealous state can be brutal.
Woman, save your marriage, apologise for your actions and inactions to your husband, don't try to justify your actions.

you and. your wife just dey act nollywood movie

Everybody Aboki with his own kettle.

I hate wen people allow other people destroy their homes... Oga stop removing ur wedding ring for no reason. And madam see Wats happening na... Think think and think again,,, ur ex won't marry u if ur husband decides to divorce u ooo. Cooking for a guy u feel is so cool, hmm I laff at u cos u dnt know sheeeet about men. I reserve my comments cos dis is marriage nt just an ordinary relationship. See my advice. Both of u must seek the face of God in ur household and chairman pls be the man of the house, cos sincerely u r not. This is Africa, cease dat her fone if u ve to, and dat her ex warn dat man to stay away from ur wife.

chinchum:
. you are ruining your marriage with your "do me I do you attitude|action". your husband removing his ring is no justification for you to remove yours.
You went ahead to be discussing your marital issues with a man, you called an ex. listen up, for we men " a shoulder to cry on is a dick to ride on" you didn't stop at that you pick up a neighborhood man who is married to start sharing your issues with again and went ahead to cook for him in his house.. you called your ex "the first man you ever loved" , that should die inside of you, cut off all ties with your ex now.
Men get jealous than women , but are covert with it, unlike women, as such reaction you will get from pushing him to the jealous state can be brutal.
Woman, save your marriage, apologise for your actions and inactions to your husband, don't try to justify your actions.

I totally agree with u

By cooking for a total stranger means your wife is cheating already. You don't have to catch her in a bed with anybody before u prove that. You won't be surprised to know that she's also doing charity work for other men you don't know. It seems you have lost control of your home but don't worry all u need to do is to change your attitude, get stronger mind and know when to take actions, be a man of authority and be in control of your domain.

ideykwum:
You're the "ode"! Simpleton!

Ode!

obichiekweibe59:
This woman has no single respect or feeling for you from day one.The marriage was a fraud in the first place.I dont know how long you have been married or how many kids but whatever situation,she used you to get the tag MARRIED,while she is banging outside.Infact when the banging has reached the point of cooking,you imagine how long it has been on.Can you recall how fast she came to cook for you while you were still courting with her.
Just forget this woman and rearrange your life because the moment you get to discover what you are looking for,your life will be on the line.
She is a dumb asshole just as most of them are.Tell yourself the truth which you have already confirmed from her mouth and phone.Cooking for another man is done after the banging has been going on outside while the man"s wife was around.Sorryooooooooooooo.

Ode!

Ur a pussy bro, I wish a pitcb try that shit to me.

I took my time to read from the beginning to the end as I'm typing now.

I noticed that after treese gave her own side of the story, freelance777 has gone mute and that says it all. Two wrongs can't make a right.

You have phlegmatic temperament and you used it in killing your marriage.

Freelance777 you never trusted your wife from the onset and see where it has landed you. Loving your wife is not good enough as TRUST is the source to solidify that LOVE. Marriage is not a bed of roses and so challenges are set to bound but what defines the marriage is how you come out a CONQUEROR.

Treese you made a mistake from the beginning by finding solace in your EX when your husband turned his back on you. Every man given that opportunity will always want to take advantage. Your pride is your HOME. You can't counter actions with the same action as you removing your ring because he removed his.

Third parties is never the solution to a marriage.

A broken HOME is out of broken TRUST.

Save your marriage today cos you still love each other.

I don't have time for kids! Get some home training!

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Ode! [/quote]

ideykwum:
I don't have time for kids! Get some home training!

I don't have time for _dumbasd fool! Hey some home training!

Ode!

wagazala:
Bros, begin find new wife.

If your wife would go as far as cook and confide in another woman's husband other than you then obviously something is wrong. The usual template answer most people will give you on this forum is have a heart to heart talk about it to your wife, pray about it, etc. Forgerrit, if you don't have kids yet, i'll suggest you start packing your bags.

Oh well they already have a daughter, I guess you must have forgerrit what the OP did about trying to prove the other guy is a Cheater is childish, dafuq do you think! She already knows, he done enter the place or she's hoping he will enter, its that simple, its just trickle truth, giving you half the story so that catching her will be Hard.

If I were you, I'll ignore her for now, I go just dey gather info without her knowing, when I have a 100% proof then I'll give her the kick, 'cos even if she stop talking to him obviously she has already checked out of the marriage, and if a new guy will show interest in her same sh*t will repeat itself.

[b]TO BOTH THE HUSBAND AND THE WIFE. NOW THAT I HAVE ANALYZED BOTH STATEMENTS THE SOLUTION HAS BECOME VERY APPARENT. I MUST SAY THAT IS IS INDEED VERY SAD AND SHOCKING THAT THIS ISSUE DEGENERATED TO THE POINT WHERE BOTH OF YOU CAN ONLY POUR OUT YOUR HEARTS ON A FACELESS FORUM SUCH AS NAIRALAND AND ASK FOR HELP FROM SOME HERE WHO ARE PROBABLY FACING THEIR OWN CHALLENGES IN MARRIAGE.

MY ADVICE, IS FOR YOU TO SEEK PSYCHOLOGICAL INTERVENTION AND THIS MUST BE DONE SUPER FAST BEFORE YOUR MARRIAGE CRASHES AND BURNS. PEOPLE WILL ONLY KEEP TELLING YOU TO FIX YOUR MARRIAGE BUT NOBODY WOULD TELL YOU HOW CRITICALLY. THIS IS WHY YOU NEED AN INTERVENTION. YOU ARE BOTH GROWING APART!

ONE IS CAREFREE WITH HIS APPROACH WHILE THE OTHER FEELS ALL HER ACTIONS HAVE A PERFECTLY GOOD AND JUSTIFIABLE EXCUSE. THIS IS THE PERFECT RECIPE FOR A DISASTROUS MARRIAGE.

I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE A CONFERENCE CALL WITH YOU AND YOUR HUBBY IF YOU BOTH WOULDNT MIND. I DONT NEED TO KNOW YOUR NAMES BUT I WOULD LOVE TO MEET WITH YOU PHYSICALLY SO WE CAN CONNECT FACE WITH EMOTIONS AND JUST TALK... BOTH OF YOU AND MYSELF WITH MY WIFE.

YOU CAN PM ME FOR MY PHONE NUMBER OR RUN A SEARCH ON MY MONIKER FOR MY NUMBER. BOTH OF YOU NEED TO ACT FAST BEFORE ALL YOU HAVE WORKED FOR GOES BYE BYE.[/b]

wagazala:
Bros, begin find new wife.

If your wife would go as far as cook and confide in another woman's husband other than you then obviously something is wrong. The usual template answer most people will give you on this forum is have a heart to heart talk about it to your wife, pray about it, etc. Forgerrit, if you don't have kids yet, i'll suggest you start packing your bags.

Bros u make lotta sense, this is just the advise he needed.

Brytawon:
I took my time to read from the beginning to the end as I'm typing now.

I noticed that after treese gave her own side of the story, freelance777 has gone mute and that says it all. Two wrongs can't make a right.

You have phlegmatic temperament and you used it in killing your marriage.

Freelance777 you never trusted your wife from the onset and see where it has landed you. Loving your wife is not good enough as TRUST is the source to solidify that LOVE. Marriage is not a bed of roses and so challenges are set to bound but what defines the marriage is how you come out a CONQUEROR.

Treese you made a mistake from the beginning by finding solace in your EX when your husband turned his back on you. Every man given that opportunity will always want to take advantage. Your pride is your HOME. You can't counter actions with the same action as you removing your ring because he removed his.

Third parties is never the solution to a marriage.

A broken HOME is out of broken TRUST.

Save your marriage today cos you still love each other.

Good one bro......thanks for the intelligent advice.....hope the OP has learnt some lessons!

You registered last month and your stock in trade is abuse! I won't reply your madness any more! I looked at your profile and I understand your dilemma!!

Insidous:


I don't have time for _dumbasd fool! Hey some home training!

Ode!

I think you are too soft on her

I v a feeling u wud cheat if/wen u r married

Tobiegal:


Finally some real sense!

What do you think you are doing snooping around her phone... talkless of impersonating her... Would you have taken it likely if it were the other way around?!

OP would advise you the same as i would advise a woman in your shoes...

You need to stop snooping around her phone with the mind of finding something? if only you have got a 6-10 job, this would be the least of your concern...

Please, sit her down when she's in a good mood, and talk to her nicely... if that doesnt work... talk to someone she respects... if da doesnt work.... seek the Lord in Prayers! Nobi only woman sabi pray for man.... you should also learn to pray for your woman...if the marriage really means anything to you!

And about the ring removal? what was your own reason for doing away with your own? You were enjoying, feeling fly like a young bachelor.... abi... tau! the tables have turned... she's an after 2 funky babe.... and you are here shouting all over the place... abegi! u tik its easy to born 2 and still look funky ba? na the result of ya attitude you dey see so.... please, free the babe jere...

So a guy isn't allowed to be jealous ryt,he shudnt get annoyed or complain when she is doing stupid tins ryt

repogirl:
Your wife cannot communicate with you obviously, she is scared you would read the wrong meaning and jump into conclusion which you always do from all you have said.....

I agree that its wrong for her to keep these relationships but maybe you also over react when you find out about them. You are right in how you advice her against these men but try not to get her scared like you have caught her doing something she shouldnt be.

Make her safe in your home and let her be able to relate with you freely or you will scare her off into doing something you will both regret.


Your wife is also at fault and needs a good talking to but since you are the one here, its your own part I am focusing on.

That describe my immediate ex, I took her by suprise wen I treated her bleeped up nd dump her ass. Unfortunately, u already signed for beta for worse contract with her, so u gat no choice dan to stand up to dis. I realise u r d gentle type here nd dat doesn't solve issues like dis. Ur wife within her doesn't see anytin wrong in wat she is doing , infact she sees u as d ova reacting man here, my broda, na small craze she need to reset her factory settinz, dat atom of fear must be dere for u to av ur wife bck. And if I may ask u, what are u finding in her phone ? Neva eva try dat again ok ? She gat her life to live. Lotta tinz are better left unknown . If ur wife fear u, she wnt act dat way nd if u fear ur wife, u wnt be finding her fault up nd down. U guyz av a round table meeting with each oda nd neva eva involve a 3rd party in ur marriage life. Datz for u both. I pray God gv u both d strenght to let by gone be by gone

Brytawon:
I took my time to read from the beginning to the end as I'm typing now.

I noticed that after treese gave her own side of the story, freelance777 has gone mute and that says it all. Two wrongs can't make a right.

You have phlegmatic temperament and you used it in killing your marriage.

Freelance777 you never trusted your wife from the onset and see where it has landed you. Loving your wife is not good enough as TRUST is the source to solidify that LOVE. Marriage is not a bed of roses and so challenges are set to bound but what defines the marriage is how you come out a CONQUEROR.

Treese you made a mistake from the beginning by finding solace in your EX when your husband turned his back on you. Every man given that opportunity will always want to take advantage. Your pride is your HOME. You can't counter actions with the same action as you removing your ring because he removed his.

Third parties is never the solution to a marriage.

A broken HOME is out of broken TRUST.

Save your marriage today cos you still love each other.

Bros I disagree with u about the issue of trust, if a wife can save the name of ex with code, it really mean something even though it may not but true.
How many people can take it when their wife cook for a male friend of her after her husband has complained about such male friend?

She gave her husband room for suspicion and I doubt the other woman will take it lightly when she comes and her husband tells her another woman has been taking care of him including cooking while she was away.

There are things u will deliberately aviod, not because things will happen but to avoid people thinking that's things is happening.

She threw away her caution, u can be a good neighbour but it must be with to wisdom.
Her nanny could have done the cooking and delivery of the food in the presence of her husband and with his blessing.
How will she feel if she discover that her husband has just turned to a good Samaritan to one potential rival in their estate after she had shown her disapproval to her husband's friendship with such lady

ideykwum:
You registered last month and your stock in trade is abuse! I won't reply your madness any more! I looked at your profile and I understand your dilemma!!

Ode!