tearoses: Efe na wa o! Can't people be "big" and happy? You make it sound like its a crime So long as their health is not affected and they are happy within themselves then they just need to get on with life.
Some people dont want to be skinny & some men dont even like skinny ladies. Everyome has a choice.
My mama is not a lepa . . however she is over 80 and as far as I can remember has never spent a night in a hospital and when I say remember I am talking at least 30 years. Very active physically and mentally. Tayour will confirm this. She flies by herself several times a year and still cooks & insists on baby sitting. My pops on the other hand, very slim, tall & handsome bobo, my friends used to think he was my brother sadly passed away very young from illness.
Dont get me wrong, its important to live a healthy life and I am an advocate for that. Good healthy food and excercise is very important.
I read somewhere whaere you said that you have gone from 102kg to 60kg, which suggests to me that like me, you are not a naturally thin person or your metabolism would never allowed you reach that weight in the first instance. So you have had to work hard at it to get the excess weight off and you will continue to work hard at it for the rest of your life. I work hard at it too so I speak from experience having lost 14kg in 3 months. Its def a lifestyle change.
So rather than make overweight people feel even more bad about themselves, you should be an encourager especially as you know how much hard work its been/is. Rather than criticize, help with tips, share a food and excercise diary and share information & experience.
I come in peace . . .Its Sunday
Lest I forget, a very big well done and thumbs up for your weight loss. Its not easy. Well done
tearoses: Efe na wa o! Can't people be "big" and happy? You make it sound like its a crime So long as their health is not affected and they are happy within themselves then they just need to get on with life.
Some people dont want to be skinny & some men dont even like skinny ladies. Everyome has a choice.
My mama is not a lepa . . however she is over 80 and as far as I can remember has never spent a night in a hospital and when I say remember I am talking at least 30 years. Very active physically and mentally. Tayour will confirm this. She flies by herself several times a year and still cooks & insists on baby sitting. My pops on the other hand, very slim, tall & handsome bobo, my friends used to think he was my brother sadly passed away very young from illness.
Dont get me wrong, its important to live a healthy life and I am an advocate for that. Good healthy food and excercise is very important.
I read somewhere whaere you said that you have gone from 102kg to 60kg, which suggests to me that like me, you are not a naturally thin person or your metabolism would never allowed you reach that weight in the first instance. So you have had to work hard at it to get the excess weight off and you will continue to work hard at it for the rest of your life. I work hard at it too so I speak from experience having lost 14kg in 3 months. Its def a lifestyle change.
So rather than make overweight people feel even more bad about themselves, you should be an encourager especially as you know how much hard work its been/is. Rather than criticize, help with tips, share a food and excercise diary and share information & experience.
I come in peace . . .Its Sunday
Lest I forget, a very big well done and thumbs up for your weight loss. Its not easy. Well done
hello sis.
Hello house, I greet all of una o......
Tgirl4real you are humbly sighted, thanks and God bless you.
tearoses: Efe na wa o! Can't people be "big" and happy? You make it sound like its a crime So long as their health is not affected and they are happy within themselves then they just need to get on with life.
Some people dont want to be skinny & some men dont even like skinny ladies. Everyome has a choice.
My mama is not a lepa . . however she is over 80 and as far as I can remember has never spent a night in a hospital and when I say remember I am talking at least 30 years. Very active physically and mentally. Tayour will confirm this. She flies by herself several times a year and still cooks & insists on baby sitting. My pops on the other hand, very slim, tall & handsome bobo, my friends used to think he was my brother sadly passed away very young from illness.
Dont get me wrong, its important to live a healthy life and I am an advocate for that. Good healthy food and excercise is very important.
I read somewhere whaere you said that you have gone from 102kg to 60kg, which suggests to me that like me, you are not a naturally thin person or your metabolism would never allowed you reach that weight in the first instance. So you have had to work hard at it to get the excess weight off and you will continue to work hard at it for the rest of your life. I work hard at it too so I speak from experience having lost 14kg in 3 months. Its def a lifestyle change. So rather than make overweight people feel even more bad about themselves, you should be an encourager especially as you know how much hard work its been/is. Rather than criticize, help with tips, share a food and excercise diary and share information & experience.
I come in peace . . .Its Sunday
Lest I forget, a very big well done and thumbs up for your weight loss. Its not easy. Well done
Brilliant post!!
The weight don drop now, dem think na by weight happiness dey surface. Shior! Nonsense and Japajantis! Gerrarahia mehn....
Ah sikin fe wa pa ni, I'm killing my frozen turkey on Tuesday for thanksgiving dinner , yall welcome. Tofu will be served for those on diet (sorry 0) .
Gotta work this weekend as its a time and half + weekend diff maga for moi
Your post reminds me of Oprah's weight battle and how she finally came to terms and finally happy with herself . especially after her 'Mauritania women' journey.
tearoses: Efe na wa o! Can't people be "big" and happy? You make it sound like its a crime So long as their health is not affected and they are happy within themselves then they just need to get on with life.
Excuse me Chaircover!
Where exactly in my post did I say people can't be big and happy? Or that people who are "big" can't get on with their lives? Does my comment on one particular picture provide a yardstick for generalizing all big people? Do you even know what brought about that comment? Seeing as you've been following my posts back-to-back on here, you ought to have realized that comment was made off the back of a long running conversation I've been having with Sambarry regarding our (mine and Sambarry's) difference of opinions on body sizes. Not that it's any of your business, but we've been having a light banter right from Chillisauce's healthy food thread here: https://www.nairaland.com/2232659/paste-pics-healthy-meal-here/84
Pls kindly go through what was said and you'll notice she came on first with comments (some of which people on the other side of the spectrum could also find disparaging) on body sizes and what her definition of a full African figure should be - all of which was taken in good stride - and that picture was simply to buttress her point.
SAMBARRY: Haaa where the waist and yash wey go hold wrapper if you tie wrapper
no waist again no yash no brez.how you go shake ya bom bom.you go just be like letter I
no africanness at all in ya stature. Na chinko stature be that
Some people dont want to be skinny & some men dont even like skinny ladies. Everyome has a choice.
I don't need you to tell me that. Kindly point out where in my post I've claimed everyone has got to be skinny or that people are bereft of choices?
tearoses: My mama is not a lepa . . however she is over 80 and as far as I can remember has never spent a night in a hospital and when I say remember I am talking at least 30 years. Very active physically and mentally. Tayour will confirm this. She flies by herself several times a year and still cooks & insists on baby sitting. My pops on the other hand, very slim, tall & handsome bobo, my friends used to think he was my brother sadly passed away very young from illness.
Am I missing something here? Why are you getting personal with me here? Do I know you, or your parents, personally on here? Do I know Taryour? Am I supposed to send her a friend invite and ask for verification on Chaircover's story about her parents' weight? Should / do I even care, or more importantly, do I need to? What has my response to Sambarry's call out go to do with your family members? There are a myraid of examples I too could give to counteract your points but what would be the purpose? Apart from feeding into your emotional rant?
tearoses: Dont get me wrong, its important to live a healthy life and I am an advocate for that. Good healthy food and excercise is very important.
Frankly speaking, I honestly couldn't care less about what you think. Whether you do think it's important or not isn't really any of my business.
tearoses: I read somewhere whaere you said that you have gone from 102kg to 60kg, which suggests to me that like me, you are not a naturally thin person or your metabolism would never allowed you reach that weight in the first instance. So you have had to work hard at it to get the excess weight off and you will continue to work hard at it for the rest of your life. I work hard at it too so I speak from experience having lost 14kg in 3 months. Its def a lifestyle change.
Here we go again... personalizations and even more personalizations.
Why bring up my experiences on here? Not that it bothers me either way but if you're going to have an argument with me, the least you can do is to stick to the point! For starters, I've never claimed to have dropped from 102kg to 60kg. If you read my quotes properly, you'll see I said 68kg! Secondly, contrary to what you think, I have always been a very slim person. Very. I've mentioned several times that when I got married, my weight was 55kg. And yes, my metabolism did let me get to that weight (102kg) because it was a gradual process. I didn't put on all that weight over night or in the space of one year. It took nearly 20 years to pile that all on. And do you know why? Part of it was because as a young wife / bride, I listened to dangerous advice such as the subtle ones you're giving off here about being big and happy, not all men want thin wives / partners. Or being told the more weight you put on, the more married you look, or being slim = your husband isn't feeding you well and a whole lot of claptrap that people ignorantly utter.
tearoses: So rather than make overweight people feel even more bad about themselves, you should be an encourager especially as you know how much hard work its been/is. Rather than criticize, help with tips, share a food and excercise diary and share information & experience.
Your assumptions are breathtaking to say the least.
How dare you? Who are you to sit there and judge my entire person of the back of a post that wasn't even directed at you? Do you have a hidden agenda for what you're claiming here? I mean I can understand if you're doing this to gain cheap publicity / garnier "Likes" from your goons and croonies for your post, not that I give a toss, but next time kindly leave my mentions out of it.
I have given countless support both on Chillisauce's healthy food thread and Naijababe's keep fit health thread, and not once, did I criticize, discourage, or make overweight people feel bad about themselves! Below are a few examples that are blatantly opposite to the picture you're trying to paint of me - stark contrasts, more like:
I am trying o I have even started praying about it sef for the Holy Spirit to decrease my appetite for these yummy things and increase the one for eating leaves. Nne how can I buy icecream cake for a birthday and not eat it I can't do it by my power o I need supernatural strength to do it
Lol!
I do believe you're trying even though the tone of your posts might seem otherwise. Believe me, I've been exactly where you are now - countless times, where I start and then fall off track several times. It's not easy, my dear but if this is something you know deep within you, you want, then you'll just have to try and stay focused.
I think what you need to do is adopt a whole new perspective. But first of all, you need to decide if this is just about numbers for you (i.e: dropping the lbs) or a lifestyle change you intend to stick to for the long run. If the latter is the case (which I hope), then try not to look at this as one huge goal. I.e: don't say to yourself, "I need to lose xyz kg by December this year" because December might seem a long way, away and you will be tempted to cheat.
Rather, take this out in mini bits. Give yourself bite-size goals by saying, "I'd like to lose 8lbs in a month's time". Then in that case, to achieve it, you'll be looking at losing an average of 2lbs per week, which is a much more realistic and tangible goal (bearing in mind the recommended amount of weight to safely lose per week is 2-4 lbs). Also, draw up a weekly chart / table for yourself to monitor your progress and stick this on your refrigerator and on your kitchen food cupboards. For each week you hit your target, give yourself a huge green tick. Keep doing this every week and try to be as consistent as possible with this. The reason I'm suggesting this is because have a visual representation of your intended goals make it look a lot more real, rather than having this (vaguely) at the back of your mind. Also, the visual aids will help keep you focused and on the days / evenings you really feel those gnawing cravings, your chart / progress table will go a long way to making you think twice before reaching out for those high energy-little nutritional value foods / snacks. Also, when you see say for example 5 consecutive green tick evidencing your hardwork and success, you'll be less inclined to want to undo all that effort.
Secondly, food shopping. I touched on this in an earlier post - don't know if you saw it. I'd like to think you're the one most in charge of your household food shopping. When next you go to the supermarket, make concerted efforts to avoid even looking at the confectionery section. Avoid it at all costs. Treat that area as a serious health hazard and wheel your trolley to the fresh fruits and vegs section. Stock up on as many different kinds of fruit and vegs as possible. Frozen vegs are good as well. Your reason for doing this is because you want your entire household to come with you on this lifestyle change. Encourage everyone to snack on fresh fruits and veg inbetween meals, rather than on high salt / sugar / fatty oils based processed foods / snacks. Take me for example. Last time I went to the supermarket, I bought: Oranges, Clementines, Green Grapes, Purple Grapes, Pears, Avocados, Golden Melon, Strawberries, Bananas, Apples, Mangoes, Plums, Cucumber, Lettuce, Cress Salad, Carrots, Broccli, Green Peas, Sweet Corn, Mixed frozen veg (Cauliflower, Carrots, Broccoli), Lentils, and Mushrooms. Didn't get the Brussel Sprouts as the store had run out... The aim of having such a wide selection is to cater for everyone's different palattes at home. However, the point I'm trying to make here is that you should resist the temptation to buy the unhealthy stuff. If you don't have it at home, you won't it. Trust me, it's a lot easier to resist buying something than to buy it then try resisting eating it at home.
Thirdly, you will shed a lot of lbs simply by stopping certain foods. I've got three in mind here:
~ Foods with high sugar content. Processed sugars like fizzy drinks, cakes, sweets, chocolates, etc. ~ Foods with high fat content. For example your deep-fried foods, crisps, deep fried chips, things with lots of butter content, etc ~ Foods with high salt / sodium content, most of which you get from processed / ready made meals. Try and cook fresh and cut down on buying ready-made meals. Or better still, eliminate ready-made meals from your shopping list.
Fourth and most important, exercises. Try and find out which exercises you enjoy doing the most. They don't even have to be anything heavy. You can even opt for taking brisk walks. Anything. As long as it gets your heart pumping and you're burning those calories. It's important whatever exercise you chose is something you enjoy, that way, it won't feel like such a chore when doing it. Nonetheless, exercising is very important because you know we aren't spring chickens anymore. As women, when we get to a certain stage, we start losing muscle mass. Then we find out that activities we previously undertook without breaking a sweat, eg carrying your grocery shopping effortlessly up the stairs, suddenly becomes difficult and then next thing you know, a muscle has been pulled or sprained... Sis, dieting alone won't cut it. As the fat is being lost, the muscles need to be tonned up, else you'll look sickly with lots of lose skin on your thighs, underarms, belly, and bum (I think!) And this was why I touched on drinking lots and lots of water daily. To hydrate your skin and to keep you looking younger. But most importantly, you need the water to replace the fat that's being lost (gradually) to aid your skin "snap" back into place.
I know this might seem a lot to take in, but if Efe could do it, I see no reason why Babyosisi can't. Take your time to go through this in detail and stay focused. Chin up dear and don't give up.
EfemenaXY:
Kayworld26: Thanks to Efemenaxy...found myself eating raw tomatoes last night
You guys are going a great job here, its really helpful atleast to a silent reader like me... Found myself exercising before bed yesterday ..and guess what, i felt really good after that and slept like a baby.. Even woke up late today
Although i am not trying to lose weight yet (less than 55kg) but i really want to start eating healthy... I am also trying to do away with fizzle drinks, not been easy though But i am gonna try....Water is beginning to taste really good to me these days too, i drink plenty of it now instead of coke
Thanks ladies...keep up the good work as there are some of us gaining from it...
Thanks Kayworld26. Glad to be of help...and good on you girl for choosing to eat clean and keep fit!
You know, once upon a time, I was that same 55kg that you are on now. That was shortly after I'd gotten married. Thing is, I didn't know much about eating right, exercising, and adopting a healthy lifestyle. Infact I wish I knew what I know now. Growing up in Naija, you get told (then) that the fatter you are, the better you look as it shows you're living the good life, and then being slender is not slender but thin and "suffering". Anyway, with each childbirth, I gradually increased in size over the years. At my heaviest (last pregnancy), I weighed a whooping 102kg!
I did at one point (a couple of years before then) tried to lose the weight but I went about it the completely wrong way. I crashed dieted and fasted. Was doing 6-to-6 with some high intensive cardio. Sure I was losing "weight". Came down from 70 something to 65 kg in a matter of weeks. 3 or 4 weeks I think. What I didn't realise at that time was that because I wasn't eating properly, I was losing muscle mass, in addition to fat. It wasn't sustainable and eventually when I stopped, I put the weight back on...and more. I was tipping the scales at 80 something kg. Then I took in with my last pregnancy and went up to 101kg (just before I gave birth).
Anyway, to cut a long story short, I had to do things the right way. Not just dieting, but dieting and exercising. At a slower, more sustainable pace. It's taken me three years to come down from that 102kg to 72kg. That a loss of 30kg in three years. I'm still not yet at my target weight which is to hit 65 kg but I've learnt my lesson. To go nice and easy and at a moderate, sustainable pace. It hasn't been all smiles and sunshine for me as I've fallen off the track a number of times, but the important thing to learn is when you fall off, you pick yourself up, dust yourself, and get on with it. No one's going to do it for you, but yourself.
Sincerely I think you are over reacting to a comment that was made in good faith!!!
All these quoting and referrals from past discussions is unwarranted.
To be honest Madame, you need to calm down really.
All your comments here in the past week has been a little bit harsh and unnecessary. Starting from your comment to the young lady that just joined the room, it was really not a nice comment at all.
Is there any issue bordering you outside of here? Are you having a bad time with life at the moment?
You just need to relax and stay calm please, it will all pass by!!!
It is well Good morning house Wishing us all a happy, favoured and fruitful week
Sis Idowu I went to the owambe The gold and chocolate brown wasnt too bad afer all
Efe I stopped reading your post after the first few lines Ive made a few points and its left for you to take what applys to you. What you said about that couple was totlally uncalled for, whether you were talking to Sambarry or not. Do you know the couple? The irony is the woman doesnt even look 102 kg to me.
And for someone who has been persecuted herself on this forum and people stood shoulder to shoulder to support you, even though many of us knew the truth, I would have thought that you would show that same support to people in other situations. Lets just leave that there
And for the record dont you ever addtress me in that way again, I am not your walkover and you dont feed me. I can be quiet and peaceful but I wont take any nonsense from you. You misyarned and I pointed it out to you. You are not a kid in the romance section and should know better. When adults talk, sense should come out of their mouth. Its best that you just stay far far away from me but if you refuse to I will give it to you in any flavour you want.
You never wished me a happy thanksgiving abi no be same iya Charlie we dey worship?
Ewoooo ooooooooo Sorry sis Happy thanksgiving babes How are you and yours?
I am chill. You know me naw I go my way you go your way Why did I call her out? Look at the way she lambasted that couple A couple having a happy day out We will be the ones to say Nigerian men this, Nigerian men that . . . . Then a man took his wife out and they shared an affectionate pose Look at that picture again and tell me how can such acid be spewed over such a lovely picture? Why are people so mean?
ifyalways: Make una two just chillax. Na now wey nld don half-dead finish una two want begin form fight? Ladies, not worth it abeg.
@Kayjasper, wrong timing for that speech. It's patronising and frankly, not needed NOW.
Okay ma'am, Its monday morning and they say what you do on Monday determines what happens the resf of the week If she likes she can come and quote the whole of an encyclopedia to me she is just forming and in her quiet time she will mull over what I am saying Im done with her. I Promise not to say another word. How are you all?
Okay ma'am, Its monday morning and they say what you do on Monday determines what happens the resf of the week If she likes she can come and quote the whole of an encyclopedia to me she is just forming and in her quiet time she will mull over what I am saying Im done with her. I Promise not to say another word. How are you all?
Thank you madam CC We are fine and fine. . Have a blissful week ahead.
Ewoooo ooooooooo Sorry sis Happy thanksgiving babes How are you and yours?
I am chill. You know me naw I go my way you go your way Why did I call her out? Look at the way she lambasted that couple A couple having a happy day out We will be the ones to say Nigerian men this, Nigerian men that . . . . Then a man took his wife out and they shared an affectionate pose Look at that picture again and tell me how can such acid be spewed over such a lovely picture? Why are people so mean?
I saw your ' I come in Peace' disclaimer but you should've printed it in larger fonts.
I saw the picture and read subsequent posts , the couple look lovely . The comment was derogatory but some words are better left unsaid to avoid a never ending rabble.
Just let it go as Ify implored and let's move on to the next topic.
Sincerely I think you are over reacting to a comment that was made in good faith!!!
All these quoting and referrals from past discussions is unwarranted.
To be honest Madame, you need to calm down really.
All your comments here in the past week has been a little bit harsh and unnecessary. Starting from your comment to the young lady that just joined the room, it was really not a nice comment at all. Is there any issue bordering you outside of here? Are you having a bad time with life at the moment?
You just need to relax and stay calm please, it will all pass by!!!
ifyalways: Make una two just chillax. Na now wey nld don half-dead finish una two want begin form fight? Ladies, not worth it abeg.
@Kayjasper, wrong timing for that speech. It's patronising and frankly, not needed NOW.
Maaaaaaama, it is needed o!!! The truth is needed.Make dem carry the spirit of anger comot for here make we see road. Haba! oh yea I forgot to say Morning sef, morning ooooo
tearoses: It is well Good morning house Wishing us all a happy, favoured and fruitful week
Sis Idowu I went to the owambe The gold and chocolate brown wasnt too bad afer all
Efe I stopped reading your post after the first few lines Ive made a few points and its left for you to take what applys to you. What you said about that couple was totlally uncalled for, whether you were talking to Sambarry or not. Do you know the couple? The irony is the woman doesnt even look 102 kg to me.
And for someone who has been persecuted herself on this forum and people stood shoulder to shoulder to support you, even though many of us knew the truth, I would have thought that you would show that same support to people in other situations. Lets just leave that there
And for the record dont you ever addtress me in that way again, I am not your walkover and you dont feed me. I can be quiet and peaceful but I wont take any nonsense from you. You misyarned and I pointed it out to you. You are not a kid in the romance section and should know better. When adults talk, sense should come out of their mouth. Its best that you just stay far far away from me but if you refuse to I will give it to you in any flavour you want.
Is this really madam tearoses? Iro oooo!! I won't watch you do all that ke...e ti classy ju fun gbogbo paparazzI yen jare! As the chairwoman of the family section, you have the right to call anybody out.You did well....it was the season and it was needed.
As for the color combo, i trust you killed it. You did gold beads as well huh?
(sorry 0) .
