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Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by SalomonKane: 10:52am On Aug 09, 2016 |
cococandy:So you're telling us your husband did not pay your bride price when he came asking for your hand in marriage? I want to believe you stood firm and look your father in th eyes and tell him your husband won't pay a dime on your head, neither will he bring the traditional gifts ascribe when he declared his intent to marry you? 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by postmann: 11:02am On Aug 09, 2016 |
byvan03: You're right about me being holding fastly to biblical truths. However, there is no biblical standard of servitude for a prospective husband towards the bride's father. The case of Jacob and Laban was not GOD's standard but Laban's, exercising his divine right over his daughter in deciding what he required as bride price for them. |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by SalomonKane: 11:35am On Aug 09, 2016 |
LadyOfgrace:Perhaps you will also like the idea of your husband ruling and lording over you, after being flogged 100 stroke of the cane. I'm sure you know the wife of a Fulani man doesn't have the luxury of airing her opinion(s) Which means all your education will be as silent as the 'W' in wrestling. 4 Likes |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by Nobody: 12:01pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
byvan03: good one! 2 Likes |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by LadyOfgrace: 12:01pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
SalomonKane: |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by Nobody: 12:05pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
cococandy: And the funny thing is that any cultural practice MUST differ from any Western cultural practices, which makes Western cultural practices the yardstick after all. What a paradox! I want to see an American or a European say: "We have to do this and that so that we differ from Africans." Mental slavery! And the funniest thing of all is that Christianity was brought to these people by Westerners along with the gender roles and steeotypes which they are still clinging to. 2 Likes |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by SalomonKane: 12:14pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
byvan03:Even when the Koboko method was still used by the Fulani's, i'm sure you know there were men who stood and took that 100 stroke of cane, and later claim their bride and tamed them making them the loyal house wife. I tell you this, should Nigeria as a whole adopt this Koboko method, women like you will find yourself at the mercy of drop dead nincompoops, who will endure 100 stroke of the cane, so they have you and yours as wives for comfort. Then I'm sure you'll live happily ever after. 1 Like |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by SalomonKane: 12:29pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
Mindfulness:Says who, ma'am? I'll have you know right from the time the Portugese visited the Bini empire, our cultural practices differ from that of the west. The concept of 'marriage' or what have you did not stem from the West. It was something that was widely accepted before Mungo Park discovered River Niger. I want to see an American or a European say: "We have to do this and that so that we differ from Africans."Oh they've longed been doing and saying this ma'am, that's why they tried eroding our culture and replacing it with theirs (christianity). The Europeans so much wanted to differ from us, that's why they decided to make us like them. I'm sure you've heard of the Policy of Assimilation in French west Africa colonies?. And the funniest thing of all is that Christianity was brought to these people by Westerners along with the gender roles and steeotypes which they are still clinging to.Gender role(s) wasn't brought by the West ma'am. The only thing the West Brought was mental slavery by virtue of their greatest tool, christianity. I'll have you know that before the coming of the Europeans, gender role(s) were clearly spelt and known by almost all African cultures. So the West have absolutely nothing to do with that. In other words, A real African man doesn't need a dick to know he has to provide for his woman, neither does a real African women need a vagina to know she has to support her man. (sorry for being graphic). 1 Like |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by 5minsmadness: 12:41pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
byvan03: [size=18pt]No. 2[/size] 2 Likes |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by 5minsmadness: 12:47pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
postmann:954likes 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by 5minsmadness: 1:00pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
LadyOfgrace:Passive aggressive. 1 Like |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by Nobody: 1:06pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
SalomonKane: Did I say that Africans didn'T have their own culture before the British, Portuguese or French came? No! But I find it funny when people defend cultural practices in order to differ from others because in this way they make other cultures their yardstick. Oh they've longed been doing and saying this ma'am, that's why they tried eroding our culture and replacing it with theirs (christianity). The Europeans so much wanted to differ from us, that's why they decided to make us like them. I'm sure you've heard of the Policy of Assimilation in French west Africa colonies?. That was a 100 years ago and more. European Empires considered Africans barbaric. This mentality has changed. And they did not only try to conquer Africans but other European nations as well. Gender role(s) wasn't brought by the West ma'am. The only thing the West Brought was mental slavery by virtue of their greatest tool, christianity. I'll have you know that before the coming of the Europeans, gender role(s) were clearly spelt and known by almost all African cultures. So the West have absolutely nothing to do with that. And yet millions of Africans embrace this religion today. If you want to differ from the West so much, why not return to African traditions all together? In other words, A real African man doesn't need a dick to know he has to provide for his woman, neither does a real African women need a vagina to know she has to support her man. (sorry for being graphic). Are you even aware that this is the how it's done in the West too MOST OF THE TIME? As soon as children are born, it's women who stay at home with their babies in more than 90% of all families across Europe. |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by 5minsmadness: 1:08pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
cococandy: As expected 2 Likes |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by 5minsmadness: 1:10pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
lezz: What's taradiddle |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by 5minsmadness: 1:19pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
SalomonKane:Yes she did! She's a progressive woman What, u think she only started behaving like this after she was ferried to the west? Coco's been a feminist from time immemorial |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by SalomonKane: 1:27pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
Mindfulness:Understood. That was a 100 years ago and more. European Empires considered Africans barbaric. This mentality has changed. And they did not only try to conquer Africans but other European nations as well.Yes. It's a pity that a people who enslaved their fellow man, will openly come out and call the same people they enslave 'barbarians'. And yet millions of Africans embrace this religion today. If you want to differ from the West so much, why not return to African traditions all together?That's the irony of it all. To think a people will embrace a religion that is alien and used as a mean of subtle subjugation beats my imagination. Truly, I don't religion to differ from the West, my thoughts and actions show that I'm very different as I don't conform to religious nonsense. I'm an African, as well as a Bini man. So I live my life according to how my conscience allow it, in accordance to my country. Simple. Are you even aware that this is the how it's done in the West too MOST OF THE TIME?The only thing I can tell you as regard this is "Civilization started from Africa" 1 Like |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by SalomonKane: 1:32pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
5minsmadness:I've seen and watch this so called feminist become 1st class mumu when they see that handsome tall man who come with marriage in mind. Many of them even go overboard and even pay their bride price for the men who intend to marry them. Internet machismo isn't only common to men folk alone. |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by Nobody: 1:35pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
SalomonKane: Slavery is not a European invention. Slavery existed in Africa long before any Europeans arrived. And today children in European schools of high quality teach their students to respect other cultures. There is even a fascination and glorification of purely indigenous people. Truly, I don't religion to differ from the West, my thoughts and actions show that I'm very different as I don't conform to religious nonsense. I'm an African, as well as a Bini man. So I live my life according to how my conscience allow it, in accordance to my country. Simple. I am human in the first place and so is everyone else. I feel at home in many places and I have come to realize that the similarities that people of different origin share are more than their differences. I wish we would focus more on what unites us. The only thing I can tell you as regard this is "Civilization started from Africa" True! |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by SalomonKane: 1:48pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
Mindfulness:Of course. We know how the Egyptians enslaved the Israelites in the Bible. But the West gave slavery a whole knew meaning and definition. Not to talk of how they turned it into a million dollar venture. I am human in the first place and so is everyone else. I feel at home in many places and I have come to realize that the similarities that people of different origin share are more than their differences. I wish we would focus more on what unites us.Aye!. This all bother on acceptance and tolerance. In as much as I understand that i'm different from another man, I still know I'm similar to him, but still our differences complement our similarities. True! |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by byvan03: 2:04pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
SalomonKane: No need consoling yourself, women like me are never at anyone 's mercy. Certainly men like you will go for what they will tame, it's good to cut your coat according to your size . 2 Likes |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by Nobody: 2:16pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
SalomonKane: The Egyptian Empire was built with the blood of slaves so there is no justifying one evil with another. Aye!. This all bother on acceptance and tolerance. In as much as I understand that i'm different from another man, I still know I'm similar to him, but still our differences complement our similarities. It's not about acceptance and tolerance, it goes beyond that. @bold I like this thought. |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by byvan03: 2:31pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
5minsmadness: No 2 really? you have no idea. I will walk out on all traditions and the ancestors can roll over in their graves for all I care. You only consider your loved ones and sacrifice just a bit of yourself not to hurt them. 1 Like |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by crackhaus: 2:55pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
Dheartless:Yessur, it truly is. |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by lilmax(m): 3:05pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
SalomonKane:no,it's only possible with their own (daughters) |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by SalomonKane: 3:16pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
byvan03:Oh really? Yet you crave to be won like a trophy by wishing a man undergo 100 stroke of the cane as penance for your 'bride price?'. Lol. My dear, women like you love to be spoiled, tamed and pampered beyond recognition, that's how you make yourself easy targets for breeding self seeking men. |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by LadyOfgrace: 3:23pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
5minsmadness:yes |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by SalomonKane: 3:25pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
Mindfulness:No doubt. Evil is evil (to a lesser mind) but i'll have you know evil is not evil as there are different shades of evil. I bet you'll liken a man who murder another man to a man who murder an entire family, talkless a whole tribe or community. Isn't that why our Justice system have different punitive measure for different crime? After all, they can say "crime is crime" and let a rapist serve 25 years to life, with a pick pocket. It's not about acceptance and tolerance, it goes beyond that.Really? Care to shed a lil light? @boldIt's all good. |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by LadyOfgrace: 3:30pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
5minsmadness:why didn't you round it off to 1000 likes? |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by SalomonKane: 3:30pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
byvan03:That says it all then. E.O.D!. |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by lezz(m): 4:01pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
5minsmadness:trivial lies. She seldom makes a comment without that. 3 Likes |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by Nobody: 4:12pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
SalomonKane: Your analogy is inappropriate. Africans like Americans and Europeans used slaves en masse. I don't see how the one is worse than the other. Really? Care to shed a lil light? I can accept you even though you come from a different cultural background is different from seeing someone's soul. It's all good. All is well indeed and getting better. |
Re: 4 Categories Of Women & Their Views On Bride Price by lezz(m): 4:22pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
Mindfulness: At the emboldened, did you say Christianity/Westerners brought gender roles to Africa? Princess of impulsive lies and dangerous premise! |
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