zeb04:
Very funny question. I started living alone at 21

sisisioge:
Hmmmm...

Living alone doesn't have anything to do with suitors IMO unless you wanna turn your house to an hotel.

Pros...
1. You practice being your own madam
2. You can do as you pls in your space
3. You can afford to bring whoever you pls home
4. You can divert your movement without a care in the world
5. You can decide to be super clean or super lazy
6. You don't need to report yourself and movement to anyone
7. You can eat and cook anything you like
8. You can decorate as you pls
9. You would generally become responsible...u keep the space in order


Con...
1. You run the risk of being too independent
2. Your bills and burden are all yours alone
3. If you don't cook, you don't eat...or if you don't provide food...
4. You could end up having unplanned overnight guests
5. You could end up being princess lazy
6. Boredom might give you bear hugs from time to time


I live alone(shared space ) though I have folks in Lagos. Today I could be in gbagada, the next in Opebi...yippy! Life of a single girl. I could cook enough for a nation and stock in my fridge or I could turn the fridge to wardrobe and start putting cloths in it. Whatever tickles my fancy! I could decide on my way home from work that I don't wanna go home and just head to my ex-flat mate's house. Na me be my boss. But of course, I sometimes miss having someone to talk to. When that happens, na to pack my stuff and head home until further notice! Options girl

seizethaBae:
I remember when i got admission @16 and my guardian in d same state said i must stay with her because i was too young to b living alone,say i fit get belle sef because of too much 'freedom' and i was like 'emagbami ke'.

Fast forward to 4yrs later when i came to lagos for my NYSC and i was staying with one of my uncle,My uncle's wife ehn! I told her about my interest in tailoring and to have a fashion store after nysc,she said 'God forbid' how can a university grad stoop so low to become a tailor. Few mths after i started my first job,i just cooked up one story dat my company provided accomodation to all staffs staying on d mainland. Omolomo larin ero, I rented an apartment,learnt as many skills as possible,switch jobs,did business as i like. I hardly invite my female friends to d house sef not to talk of a guy. Life is too short to be bothered abt 'society view'.

Sapphiredamsel:
I live alone and my landlord asked where I worked. I gave him the location not the company's name he insisted, when I told him the company's name lasan, omo see respect.
I stay alone because my family house is far to my workplace and it was spelling doom for my job security, omo I respect my self and got an apartment. But I have my own set rules. If you come my house unplanned, na outside you go sleep, ive done it for 2people before.
That is even if you know my house

seizethaBae:
I remember when i got admission @16 and my guardian in d same state said i must stay with her because i was too young to b living alone,say i fit get belle sef because of too much 'freedom' and i was like 'emagbami ke'.

Fast forward to 4yrs later when i came to lagos for my NYSC and i was staying with one of my uncle,My uncle's wife ehn! I told her about my interest in tailoring and to have a fashion store after nysc,she said 'God forbid' how can a university grad stoop so low to become a tailor. Few mths after i started my first job,i just cooked up one story dat my company provided accomodation to all staffs staying on d mainland. Omolomo larin ero, I rented an apartment,learnt as many skills as possible,switch jobs,did business as i like. I hardly invite my female friends to d house sef not to talk of a guy. Life is too short to be bothered abt 'society view'.

cococandy:
If she's an adult what's the question for?

Oh I forgot she neeeds to be living with people they people can keep an eye on her to make sure she's keeping her vagina for a future husband that's somewhere blowing his youth away without anyone judging him.

truthsayer007:


Hahaha na wah o, see casting, how do you know he's blowing his youth away, what if he's a pastor doing the work of God

ednut1:
Nigeria will only progress when pple start living by their own dictates nd not societal dictates. your fathers house is in mowe ibafo but u work in VI, dont move closer u hear. u have money to buy a car u won't buy cos it will scare guys away continue suffering o. chai

sunvick:
That was quite unfair to treat people that way. Tell me you have not been in that situation where you had to go to someone's place to pass the night due to unforeseen circumstances.

truthsayer007:


Lmao, I'm guessing you work in the office of Executive Governor. Those 2 people, am sure they aren't close to you, You wouldn't have done that tho.

Another thing i found out in Lagos is, Its better to live in a house where the Landlord does not reside. In my previous place, during my NYSC, my landlady kept checking the Ladies i bring into the house, she's a spirit Koko church type. Telling me this is not allowed in her house.

That was a big turnoff for me, I had to leave that house even before my rent was due.

pocohantas:


Staff please.
Nice story...do you have your tailoring store now?

SAMBARRY:
so pastor NO dey fok?

truthsayer007:


Pastor fok ke? No oh, its sinful. they are virgins , until wedding day

SAMBARRY:
story for the gods.like say them no dey get erecshon

cococandy:
If she's an adult what's the question for?

Oh I forgot she needs to be living with people they people can keep an eye on her to make sure she's keeping her vagina for a future husband that's somewhere blowing his youth away without anyone judging him.

hahahaha
You sef!

A young man can stay alone and bring in so many ladies to devour their vaginas, but a sister has to be under serious watch.
Oriegwu o

seizethaBae:

Not yet o,i don't even know what to do with all the skills yet. I was telling someone about my interest in cakemaking and d guy said 'one day you will wake up and decide to learn how to build house on your own'

Amelian:




Don't mind those set of people. I hate living my life on societal dictates.. When I bought my car, people on my street,talk like there's no tomorrow and it's always my landlord they will send to tell me their views about what I do and how I look..
My landlord stays in the same compound with us.. He stylishly chipped in one airy Sunday, in the evening close to the compound gate, cos sometimes two or three of us hangout at the gate including our landlord to chat and talk about the govt and economy..and yes bills yet to be paid... Lol.. So he stylishly chipped in, Amelia your car is fine, nice car but isn't it too big for u? I smiled, I already knows where he's heading to... And I said, noo, at least the car will help incarrying machines and other things sport cars cannot carry.. He said well guys are saying on the street, that first am not married and am cruising a car like this, let's see who will marry her.
I just shook my head, and I smiled at the landlord and told him look land lord, am not begging them to come marry me. I have enough admirers and toasters outside.. Am just not the type who dates different men up and down.. If not they should come see and men, real men wooing around my office environment.. So they should relax, am not waiting for them to marry me.. And yes, I will invite them to my wedding in due time.. My landlord smiled and said OK..
Ladies if u have money to buy a car? Buy o... Don't suffer yourself Oo

Sapphiredamsel:
Nah I plan my movements well and it's good to know everyone's principles and policies. My friends do know that you don't come to my house without informing me and getting my consent is key. If I wanna spend the night at someone's place, I call to inform to inform before hand and ask if it's okay to come over. Don't tell me how to live my life inugo?

truthsayer007:


Lmao, I'm guessing you work in the office of Executive Governor. Those 2 people, am sure they aren't close to you, You wouldn't have done that tho.

Another thing i found out in Lagos is, Its better to live in a house where the Landlord does not reside. In my previous place, during my NYSC, my landlady kept checking the Ladies i bring into the house, she's a spirit Koko church type. Telling me this is not allowed in her house.

That was a big turnoff for me, I had to leave that house even before my rent was due.

truthsayer007:


Asin ehn, Some Landlords that will not mind their business.

Even as a guy you will hear questions from Landlords like Pls show us your proof of Income...ehn are you a Yahoo boy or not ? Ehn..we don't want traders oh. Its salary earners we want

DeeTus:
Hahahaha. Eventually his choice of tenants will own him and he will start to complain.

cutiesoglam:

A good landlord is hard to find..... I hate houses with landlords... All my friends that v dem living in their compound always have a bad story to tell. Just 10% respect themselves n mind thier biz... Thank God I don't live with my landlord.. Lol

sunvick:
That was quite unfair to treat people that way. Tell me you have not been in that situation where you had to go to someones's place to pass the night due to unforeseen circumstances.

Teespice:


what she did is in order.

there is something called courtesy. if you are to visit someone at least give a form of notice. even if it's unplanned and unforeseen, a phone call at a short notice would suffice.

someone visited me out of the blue and at a time I was drifting to sleep. he was talking and I was yawning where I was. at a point I told him I was sleepy and he needed to leave which he did but not before telling me in not so good terms that what I did wasn't fair.

ItsQuinn:
Yes it's advisable for single ladies to live alone because of privacy and independence

Collenshy2020:

What made you think the above is are ripe recipe for consideration?

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Hello my dear e-fam,


Trust weekend is going well.

I just want your opinion on the above topic.

What are the pros and cons?

How does the society view this and also potential suitors?

Thanks