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Is This Not A Red Flag??? by richyblink1(m): 11:25am On Jan 04, 2017 |
There is is this girl my younger brother is seeing, they have been together for about 7 months now. She is quick to temper and always ready to challenge him on any issue regarding who calls the shorts in their relationship. She believes she should always be considered and treated with soft soft as a lady. Previously, he had comppained about her always wanting to control what he eats, how he eats, what he wears and friends he keeps. There was a day he visited me and she called demanding his whereabout, he told her he was in my place and she got angry and dropped the phone on him for not taking permission from her before visiting me. The main issue right now is that they are about going out 2 days ago and she suddenly asked him to go reverse the car and come pick her in front of her gate as against their normal routine of both walking to where the car was parked and move from there. He found that insulting and asked her to join him to the car as usual so they leave from there. After much argument she agreed to come to the car. When they got to the car, he politely asked her why she suddenly want to make him appear like an errand boy by asking that he drives the car to her gate to pick her. She got angry and warned him not to provoke her with such words. They exchanged words and he said he is no longer interested in going out anymore and will like to go back home, asking her to leave the door handle so he can leave. She refused and started shouting that he must take her out and stuffs. He stood his ground and asked her to leave his door. Before you know it she entered the vehicle and gave him a dirty slap and seconded it with another one on his eyes. As we speak now he is with a black eye. He kept his cool and asked her to allow him go. She asked if it's a breakup, he refused to answer and drove off. She is been begging and just called to inform me that she is coming to my office to plead I help her beg my younger brother. My people, how do I handle this case |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by Emescot(m): 11:34am On Jan 04, 2017 |
If she reach there give her a hot slaps, if she responds violently then dont settle anything for them, but if she cry or accepts it, then please let ur younger brother forgive her o The truth is everyone in a relationship receives bad advice from their friends, maybe her friends adviced her to always be in control and see how her man would react.. But with that slap, she really over did it 7 Likes |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by lilmax(m): 11:39am On Jan 04, 2017 |
he kept his cool? very WEAK thing as for advice the relationship should not be over, let him beat the hell out of her before he calls quit all this girls don get mind o 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by Nobody: 11:44am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Me thinks.. He shouldn't break up with her.. Let him acept her back, fvck her for all she's worth and dump her when she clocks an Unmarriable age #Simple 3 Likes |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by sylvez(m): 11:56am On Jan 04, 2017 |
Presh9OO: haba de Allah e nova reach like that na , op did not tell us what gave her power or what is giving her dat kind power to act dat way, may b na d girl buy d motor for him , may b na she dey fund d relationship or something like dat . |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by Nobody: 12:01pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
sylvez:Oya OP come xplain o |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by richyblink1(m): 12:09pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Presh9OO: He actually earns x3 of her salary so there is no way she will be the one funding their affair. The deal is that she is this type that believes everybody are equal and as such she can do as it pleases her. She can sit doing nothing and asks him to go get her water from the fridge or something like that. Always want to show that she is equal to him and has to do as she wishes. I once asked her if she is a feminist for telling me to warn my brother about trying to be head or appear as the boss in their relationship. That they are both human with equal right |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by Nobody: 12:15pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
richyblink1:Ur brother is Very Weak, that's the Harsh truth.. If he ever accepts her back, she will just start from where she stopped... It isn't worth it 7 Likes |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by Nobody: 12:15pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Lalasticlala we need more audience |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by MrsMurphy(f): 12:18pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
The girls character is unacceptable. I would ve asked your brother to forgive her if she was only claiming equal rights. But her trying to control him and even went to the extent of slapping your brother twice I say MBAAA(NO) that is what I cannot accept. 6 Likes |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by eyinjuege: 12:47pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
If your brother knows what's good for him, he'd better let the relationship end now, and he should go find someone else who's not crazy. The warning signs are there now, and if he dares continue and marrirs her, whatever his eyes see in the marriage he should not disturb NL with his woes. 15 Likes |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by Mumben(f): 1:15pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
That lady is rude, disrespectful and all. If ur Bro marries her, i am afraid he has to brace up for many more slaps and all. Ur Bro shud b a MAN and do d needful 5 Likes |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by Richy4(m): 1:23pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
I believe your brother is dating an independent woman with a diva attitude.(my number one icon Maria Carey got that attitude)...he either take her the way she is, or tell her it was not working for him...FYI, She will not change..just incase you are the prayer warrior type that thinks oh!!!! there's nothing prayer cannot do....it's just the way she is... And they comes in different packages...most of them got a golden heart when they are not putting up that diva attitude......But A control freak is a control freak any time any day....You can always ask your brother what he wanted....If he can cope with it..if not then they are not compatible .. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by richyblink1(m): 1:44pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Richy4: He is actually my younger brother not a friend. Can't equally remember telling you we are praying for her to change. Was only trying to get opinion on how to relate with her as she has been begging and wants me to assist in talking to my younger one to forgive and let go. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by Richy4(m): 1:48pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
richyblink1: Ok Good for you 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by austinereds(m): 1:49pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
just tell your brother to end the relationship. she's super rude. that's the best option before you become a marriage counsellor 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by temi4fash(m): 2:48pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Slap for something for a minor disagreement as in she slapped him, I believe he should just let the girl go oo, cos eh one day ot would be knife and not slap. Soon or later they will be disturbing God for martial bloss when the one he has provided self they are destroying it with there own hands 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by Nobody: 3:07pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
These threads on nairaland never cease to amaze me. Your friend is dating a controlling maniac who is also physically abusive, entitled, rude and you are asking us if it's a red flag? Are your senses still with you even if your friend has lost his? There is something called breakup Some topics just defy logic and common sense 11 Likes |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by milkymesh: 3:16pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
My brother this one na black flag. You know the type wet Shakarau dey hang for him back for those their home video, sorry bush video. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by Nobody: 3:18pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
A girl gave ur younger bro a black eye and u r here asking us what do to, mcheeeew. She's going to keep injuring him physically or kill him herself, or he's going to die of hypertension 'cus of her. The girl's physically n emotionally abusive. U r the big brother, do the needful n get him to break up with her or break them up urself!!! 4 Likes |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by sisisioge: 3:41pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
It is shocking that both you and your brother are still wondering what to do! Biko, encourage your brother to reg on Nairaland, marry the chick and continue to bless us with gist about the imminent woes that will betide his shadow. I no dey curse o...Na wetin go happen be that if them marry. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by richyblink1(m): 3:48pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Joavid: Please learn to contribute in a public forum without insult or words suggesting it. I trust you are still with your senses as well 3 Likes |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by richyblink1(m): 3:56pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
aflyingbird: My younger brother is an adult you know, so I can't just go using force on his personal life. Moreover, I never said or asked for help about he continuing with the relationship. Only asked how I should relate with the said lady who is coming over to persuade me to assist in resolving their differences. My younger brother is not in contact with her hence she is trying to use me to get across to him. The red flag I mentioned has to do with how to relate with her should she come begging |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by Nobody: 4:00pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
So you and your brother would go back to her if everyone here said so? Una be first class mumu. Gerrout of here. Your brother deserves the slap for being dumb if he doesn't know what to do. Why i nor dey date this kind girl? I once told a girl to get out of my car in the middle of nowhere for trying to practice the domineering attitude with me. Telling me come and take me home in a commanding and rude way like say she buy fuel for me. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by richyblink1(m): 4:05pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
sisisioge: Never said my younger brother or I are wondering what to do. My younger brother has already cut ties and all form of communication. I am only trying to know how to relate with her to avoid furthe issues 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by sisisioge: 4:07pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
richyblink1: OK o, no vex. Tell her you would not like to meddle in the issue and so cut your ties too. Life is as easy or hard as we make it. Good luck. 4 Likes |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by richyblink1(m): 4:17pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Aqva: Never asked if he should go back to her. My concern is on how to relate with her to avoid lashing out on her |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
richyblink1:Give her a back rub and tell her it'll be fine. My guy stop asking these kind of questions, it's embarrassing. Tell her you don't interfere in people's relationships, if you are the polite type. If not, tell her she's not the kind of girl you'll want as an inlaw and she should get the f out of your lives. 4 Likes |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by Nobody: 5:05pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
richyblink1: richyblink1: richyblink1: richyblink1: Don't relate with her, don't pick her calls, don't talk to her, don't answer her anywhere. She go get the message n stop disturbing u and ur bro. Let her know u'r not going to assist her to get ur bro back. Ur bro should move on, find someone else. 4 Likes |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by tartarus(m): 5:36pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Just like my ex, she once smashed my s7 edge and then proceeded to almost strangle me. My neck was sore for days Any form of domestic violence is wrong. Either male or female. I couldn't forgive her after that incident cos it wasn't even the first time. |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by richyblink1(m): 6:20pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
aflyingbird: Thanks. She has been calling to meet up but I told her I have a meeting to attend. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not A Red Flag??? by richyblink1(m): 6:25pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Aqva: I already figured that out. Thanks |
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