This is a long story.

It all started last Year after my dad's burial.

I left my younger brother in the village and returned to Abuja wia I was based. He was busy processing burial Documents and so he had to stay back.
He is not the first son but he is the next of Kin.

What my complicated family looks like


we are 4 children, 3 from my mum of which I'm d eldest, then a half sis that senoirs me.
Dad and mum were separated before her death in 2003 and he remarried before she died.
My current step mum had no child with him till he died.
My immediate younger bro had a fallout with step mum and left home in 2005 (he was 14) and No one heard from him again till dad died.
So dad made the last his next of kin.

While Emmanuel was processing Dad's burial Documents in Akwa-Ibom, I miraculously connected with Ezekiel the first son who told me all that happened and how he went abroad tru the desert and was deported. He had had been in Lag all along but too ashamed to return home after 10 years with nothing.
I immdiately connected him with Emma who was very happy to see him. I told them to work together on the Docs and after which they could come to me in Abuja and get settled.

4days together they wia both fine n happy to see each other and then the reunion turned sour.
They became cat and dogs and Would always call me on phone to settle issues between them.
Days later, Emma left for a church vigil and about the 3rd day, I got a call and the caller said my brother Emma was now mad. I called Ezekiel to go tio the supposed church wia he was n pick and make their way to Abuja with the next bus.

When I saw Emma, I cried, he looked all bones and ribs, eyes sulken and he was like a helpless shadow.
Emma would not sleep at night,he won't eat, he was restless, he would carry his bag and pace all day, roam all day and sometimes he would take a corner in the house and be crying and he would say things like " they want to kill me, they are sucking my blood, they want to use me for rituals. I was the most confused person on earth. I entered a fasting and praying mode.

Meanwhile, Emma n Ezekiel wia still cat and dogs, I got back home to find Ezekiel bleeding on his head. Emma attacked him with a padlock as he tried to restrain him from going out. I knew there that both brothers can't stay together.
My reunion with Ezekiel was sweet n sour.

2 weeks in Abuja with both brothers and my office approved my long pending transfer back to Lagos.
Time to separate both brothers as I thought.
Ezekiel said he doesn't want to go back to school and and wants to go back abroad, I was able to convince him to calm down and learn a skill which he agreed so I enrolled him in a Hair dressing and I and Emma left for Lag.

Emma's condition worsened, He would roam the Estate all day and sometimes I would return from work n not find him at home.
Then my maternal uncle whom we had not been in touch with heard about Emma and quickly sent for him.
This was about 4 months after the drama started.
My uncle was so angry I did not tell them all of it, accused me of not taking care of my brothers and said infact Emma would stay with him going forward and I should check Emma out in 3 months time.
I was very releived to find help.

1 week in PHC with my uncle and all was smoth, then my uncle called and said I shud send funds he wanted to take Emma for check up and I did.
A few days after my uncle began to complain that he can't cope, Emma was suddenly too rude and he can't bear it again. He said Emma was my cross to bear and I shud send him fare to return to me.
So 2 weeks after, Emma came back to me In Lag.
He was a lot more better, had gained good weight, His communication flow was a lot better but still distorted.

As the days went by, Emma began to talk less, he began to be very slow at accomplishing things, he could wash plates for hours. Then he began to take odd psoitions. He could stand for 2 hours and not move and all that. Then he would wee on himself.

I quickly sought d help of a traditional herb seller who gave me some herbs to cook for him and I did.
Day 3 on the herb n he began this deep sleep episodes. He would sleep for hours all night, wake up and eat in d morning n go back to sleep all day.
Try to wake him and he won't even move.
This continued for days coupled with the bet wetting which was worse.
I decided to seek medical help.

The first hospital we visited referred us to Federal Neuro-psychiatric Hospital Yaba same night.

My experience at Federal Neuro-psychiatric Hospital ,Yaba.


We got to Yaba at about 11pm, at this point he was all stiff and motionless, eyes open.
We were told that hospital card costs N4000 and I brought out my card to pay but to my surprise, I was told the hospital did not have POS.
The Doctor on call took his write up and that was it.
I was told we won't ve attended to as I didn't have cash to pay.
We were sent back home same night at about 12a.m.
My Brother survived the night and the next day we went back to the hospital.

I made all necessary pamemts, bought all materials as was required of me and he was placed on 3days observation in the Emergency unit and was on Drip as he wasn't eating.

By this time, the doctors diagnosed him and said hr was having catatonic schizophrenia plus seizures.
He would wake up briefly, mumble somee wordworldsds and go back to sleep.

After 72hrs, His time was up at the Emergency ward and I was instruscted to augment payment for his transfer to the main ward which I did.
At this time, I had spent at least a N100,000.
Admission fee for 1 month was 50,000 besides other expenses.

After 1 night in the main ward which was day 4, I was told that he needed specialist care and dey would have to refer us to military hospital as they did not have full capacity to handle his case. At this point I had become financially drained, I had spent everything, wia would I start from?.

I was advised to apply for refund so that Part of the 50k I paid for admission would be returned. I told the Doctors and Nurses that I couldnt afford new medical bills as I spent all but the referral note had been given and we had to go. I further asked on what grounds was my Brother beeb reffered and they said he is unconcious and we can't manage him in that state. They said we are nit discharging him yet and once he is stable bring him back. He was given some meds and I took him home.

About 1 week on the meds, he began to groan, he would groan all night holding his stomach n even throw up. He started rejecting his drugs nd even food.
I spoke with a physician and he prescribed ulcer meds and after 2 days on it, the stomach pain stopped.
On the 3rd day he became aggressive n violent n tried to attack me.
I quickly called for help n he was restrained and I took him back to the hospital. By this time he was no longer having the seizures or being unconcious.


Our second time in Yaba was a lot more dramatic, First the Doctors and Nurses said I had come to the hospital about 2 days back to return his bedsheets nd I equally told them my brother was dead.
I told them it was a mix up and wasn't me.

After a lot of consideration, they put him back in the Emergency ward and on day 3, I was with hope that he would be admitted to the main ward but to my surprise, My Brother was discharged and asked to be coming for clinic from home.

I quickly aired my fears that I'm not comfortable with the plan and Would want him to stay back some more but I was dismissed.
The consultant in charge of the main ward insisted that he had reffered and it was final. He would only take my Brother back if I produced an MRI test result.

I work Monday to Saturday, How will I monitor his progress?How will I convince him to take hims drugs?.
the hospital would hear none of that and it was the final decision.

We have been home for 4 days now. He has beeb doing well but twice he has asked for beer and he went out to get beer.
Yesterday I got back from work and everywia was smelling of cigarette smoke. He refused to talk to me.
This morning I tried to engage him in a subtle discussion why he needs to avoid those things so he can recover fully and my Brother attacked me again. He slapped me over and over.

At this point, I don't know wat do do, I had to run out of the house to a friends room, .I'm stuck here and can't go to work.
I have cried my eyes out, our rent just expired and I just paid for a new place. Where do I start from?, Yaba has dismissed him and I can't afford an MRI.
I Don't know wat to do, I have fought so hard and so long and I feel like running away.

Somebody help me I am loosing my mind!!!!.


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Help a sister please my heart is breaking

This is so sad...
But I think you should check hom into a mental home while you work and pray

Cc: Lalasticlala

put him in one room and flog the hell out of him.

As hard as it is, you have to let him go.
That's the only love you cab show to him in his state. Very obvious that drug abuse has a hand in his case. And speaking from experience it may only get worse. You would get worked up until you spiral out and maybe die. Thats the storyline for most mental health issues.
Alternatively he could enter a manic episode and so something terrible to you or some other person.
So let him go/be/roam.
Or look for one of these isolated private mental remand homes and check him in there.

feelgoodInc:
put him in one room and flog the hell out of him.

ah ah... be serious for once... this is someone inna difficult state seeking real advice! .... bro the best I can tell you is to let him go... its painful and hard to, but your conscience and heaven knows you have tried your best, Dont break your self... let go of him!

I once had a friend who was diagnosed with schizophrenia. I'm proud to tell you he's better now.
Listen carefully, Op. I know the idea of being paranoid and all throws you off but please do not give up on him.

They usually have all these hallucinations and images of things that are really not real. He needs to be placed under close watch and heavy meds. Endeavour to Get him to a home.

When talking to him, don't act like something is wrong, make the conversation like normal people. If he expresses any sort of imagination, just try and calm him down. Get him busy, don't let his mind wander, I trust you know some of his hobbies. Visit him as much you can and keep reminding him of how much you miss him.

Just do all these, hope, and pray. He'll surely get better. And while doing all that, do not beat yourself up, cause you might lose yourself, it's no easy task.

wow. i feel so sad for Emma. i'm not clear with the position he takes in your family - is he younger or older than you? in any case, this is a sad situation.

feelgoodInc:
put him in one room and flog the hell out of him.

you're very very stupid for this comment. very stupid.

WiredLeggings:
wow. i feel so sad for Emma. i'm not clear with the position he takes in your family - is he younger or older than you? in any case, this is a sad situation



you're very very stupid for this comment. very stupid.

thanks, I'll take that as a compliment :-D

I'm not backing down from the flogging advise I gave, first it's going to give you real satisfaction for all the suffering you've gone through, secondly I believe Emma needs it to come back to his senses since others have failed.

He needs to be checked in and while taking his taking his medication, have access to a psychotherapist.

You started the right course of action too late. You didn't state how much you spent on herbal medications. We don't know what your uncle did to him while he was away. A truly complicated case.

Leave the MRI, what are they requesting for it for?
Even if it shows a lesion in the brain will they operate it? Instead of them to sedate him first. Nonsense insensitive people.

It's a pity you are far from Benin. I would have advised you to take him to uselu psychiatric hospital and have him admitted. Don't mention the MRI to them but tell them about his prediagnosed catatonic schizophrenia. I don't think it's as costly as Yaba. Let them know that he is very violent. If u say he's not they will hand him back to u.

Like someone said above, he is not in touch with reality. Schizophrenia is a severe and chronic mental disorder in which there is a total distortion of the person's ability to perceive things. And it's obvious u need help in handling him. He needs to be admitted and taken care of by experts.

Pls don't leave him to roam. He will be exposed to so many dangers if u do so e.g ritualists, kidnappers, beaten by angry mobs, dangerous animal bites, etc.

Flogging him will not help either. In fact it might tilt him unto full scale violence.

Sorry about your predicament. Take heart.

This life ehen.....stories like this make me appreciate God Almighty for all His love despite the fact that I complain sometimes.

Op I'm going to put you and Emma in my prayers henceforth....God will always give you the grace and strength to pull through because this your problem is beyond what a single human being can carry.

Why not try at least to get him to the military hospital? You've not been there so you can't tell for sure how much his admission or treatment there would cost.

I'm also surprised that same Yaba people that referred him to the military hospital admitted him back again after a couple of days to demand for MRI scan.

Leaving him at home is dangerous. Both to you and your neighbour's.

Prognose:
You started the right course of action too late. You didn't state how much you spent on herbal medications. We don't know what your uncle did to him while he was away. A truly complicated case.

Leave the MRI, what are they requesting for it for?
Even if it shows a lesion in the brain will they operate it? Instead of them to sedate him first. Nonsense insensitive people.

It's a pity you are far from Benin. I would have advised you to take him to uselu psychiatric hospital and have him admitted. Don't mention the MRI to them but tell them about his prediagnosed catatonic schizophrenia. I don't think it's as costly as Yaba. Let them know that he is very violent. If u say he's not they will hand him back to u.

Like someone said above, he is not in touch with reality. Schizophrenia is a severe and chronic mental disorder in which there is a total distortion of the person's ability to perceive things. And it's obvious u need help in handling him. He needs to be admitted and taken care of by experts.

Pls don't leave him to roam. He will be exposed to so many dangers if u do so e.g ritualists, kidnappers, beaten by angry mobs, dangerous animal bites, etc.

Flogging him will not help either. In fact it might tilt him unto full scale violence.

Sorry about your predicament. Take heart.

Nicely said.
More blessings.

Sorry for your predicament OP.
The Lord is your strength , pls don't give up on him.

ifyalways:
Why not try at least to get him to the military hospital? You've not been there so you can't tell for sure how much his admission or treatment there would cost.

I'm also surprised that same Yaba people that referred him to the military hospital admitted him back again after a couple of days to demand for MRI scan.

Leaving him at home is dangerous. Both to you and your neighbour's.

Don't be surprised ma'am ,
Sebi na dis Naija, na d money dey need na.

TiredOfFighting:
This is a long story.

It all started last Year after my dad's burial.

I left my younger brother in the village and returned to Abuja wia I was based. He was busy processing burial Documents and so he had to stay back.
He is not the first son but he is the next of Kin.

What my complicated family looks like


we are 4 children, 3 from my mum of which I'm d eldest, then a half sis that senoirs me.
Dad and mum were separated before her death in 2003 and he remarried before she died.
My current step mum had no child with him till he died.
My immediate younger bro had a fallout with step mum and left home in 2005 (he was 14) and No one heard from him again till dad died.
So dad made the last his next of kin.

While Emmanuel was processing Dad's burial Documents in Akwa-Ibom, I miraculously connected with Ezekiel the first son who told me all that happened and how he went abroad tru the desert and was deported. He had had been in Lag all along but too ashamed to return home after 10 years with nothing.
I immdiately connected him with Emma who was very happy to see him. I told them to work together on the Docs and after which they could come to me in Abuja and get settled.

4days together they wia both fine n happy to see each other and then the reunion turned sour.
They became cat and dogs and Would always call me on phone to settle issues between them.
Days later, Emma left for a church vigil and about the 3rd day, I got a call and the caller said my brother Emma was now mad. I called Ezekiel to go tio the supposed church wia he was n pick and make their way to Abuja with the next bus.

When I saw Emma, I cried, he looked all bones and ribs, eyes sulken and he was like a helpless shadow.
Emma would not sleep at night,he won't eat, he was restless, he would carry his bag and pace all day, roam all day and sometimes he would take a corner in the house and be crying and he would say things like " they want to kill me, they are sucking my blood, they want to use me for rituals. I was the most confused person on earth. I entered a fasting and praying mode.

Meanwhile, Emma n Ezekiel wia still cat and dogs, I got back home to find Ezekiel bleeding on his head. Emma attacked him with a padlock as he tried to restrain him from going out. I knew there that both brothers can't stay together.
My reunion with Ezekiel was sweet n sour.

2 weeks in Abuja with both brothers and my office approved my long pending transfer back to Lagos.
Time to separate both brothers as I thought.
Ezekiel said he doesn't want to go back to school and and wants to go back abroad, I was able to convince him to calm down and learn a skill which he agreed so I enrolled him in a Hair dressing and I and Emma left for Lag.

Emma's condition worsened, He would roam the Estate all day and sometimes I would return from work n not find him at home.
Then my maternal uncle whom we had not been in touch with heard about Emma and quickly sent for him.
This was about 4 months after the drama started.
My uncle was so angry I did not tell them all of it, accused me of not taking care of my brothers and said infact Emma would stay with him going forward and I should check Emma out in 3 months time.
I was very releived to find help.

1 week in PHC with my uncle and all was smoth, then my uncle called and said I shud send funds he wanted to take Emma for check up and I did.
A few days after my uncle began to complain that he can't cope, Emma was suddenly too rude and he can't bear it again. He said Emma was my cross to bear and I shud send him fare to return to me.
So 2 weeks after, Emma came back to me In Lag.
He was a lot more better, had gained good weight, His communication flow was a lot better but still distorted.

As the days went by, Emma began to talk less, he began to be very slow at accomplishing things, he could wash plates for hours. Then he began to take odd psoitions. He could stand for 2 hours and not move and all that. Then he would wee on himself.

I quickly sought d help of a traditional herb seller who gave me some herbs to cook for him and I did.
Day 3 on the herb n he began this deep sleep episodes. He would sleep for hours all night, wake up and eat in d morning n go back to sleep all day.
Try to wake him and he won't even move.
This continued for days coupled with the bet wetting which was worse.
I decided to seek medical help.

The first hospital we visited referred us to Federal Neuro-psychiatric Hospital Yaba same night.

My experience at Federal Neuro-psychiatric Hospital ,Yaba.


We got to Yaba at about 11pm, at this point he was all stiff and motionless, eyes open.
We were told that hospital card costs N4000 and I brought out my card to pay but to my surprise, I was told the hospital did not have POS.
The Doctor on call took his write up and that was it.
I was told we won't ve attended to as I didn't have cash to pay.
We were sent back home same night at about 12a.m.
My Brother survived the night and the next day we went back to the hospital.

I made all necessary pamemts, bought all materials as was required of me and he was placed on 3days observation in the Emergency unit and was on Drip as he wasn't eating.

By this time, the doctors diagnosed him and said hr was having catatonic schizophrenia plus seizures.
He would wake up briefly, mumble somee wordworldsds and go back to sleep.

After 72hrs, His time was up at the Emergency ward and I was instruscted to augment payment for his transfer to the main ward which I did.
At this time, I had spent at least a N100,000.
Admission fee for 1 month was 50,000 besides other expenses.

After 1 night in the main ward which was day 4, I was told that he needed specialist care and dey would have to refer us to military hospital as they did not have full capacity to handle his case. At this point I had become financially drained, I had spent everything, wia would I start from?.

I was advised to apply for refund so that Part of the 50k I paid for admission would be returned. I told the Doctors and Nurses that I couldnt afford new medical bills as I spent all but the referral note had been given and we had to go. I further asked on what grounds was my Brother beeb reffered and they said he is unconcious and we can't manage him in that state. They said we are nit discharging him yet and once he is stable bring him back. He was given some meds and I took him home.

About 1 week on the meds, he began to groan, he would groan all night holding his stomach n even throw up. He started rejecting his drugs nd even food.
I spoke with a physician and he prescribed ulcer meds and after 2 days on it, the stomach pain stopped.
On the 3rd day he became aggressive n violent n tried to attack me.
I quickly called for help n he was restrained and I took him back to the hospital. By this time he was no longer having the seizures or being unconcious.


Our second time in Yaba was a lot more dramatic, First the Doctors and Nurses said I had come to the hospital about 2 days back to return his bedsheets nd I equally told them my brother was dead.
I told them it was a mix up and wasn't me.

After a lot of consideration, they put him back in the Emergency ward and on day 3, I was with hope that he would be admitted to the main ward but to my surprise, My Brother was discharged and asked to be coming for clinic from home.

I quickly aired my fears that I'm not comfortable with the plan and Would want him to stay back some more but I was dismissed.
The consultant in charge of the main ward insisted that he had reffered and it was final. He would only take my Brother back if I produced an MRI test result.

I work Monday to Saturday, How will I monitor his progress?How will I convince him to take hims drugs?.
the hospital would hear none of that and it was the final decision.

We have been home for 4 days now. He has beeb doing well but twice he has asked for beer and he went out to get beer.
Yesterday I got back from work and everywia was smelling of cigarette smoke. He refused to talk to me.
This morning I tried to engage him in a subtle discussion why he needs to avoid those things so he can recover fully and my Brother attacked me again. He slapped me over and over.

At this point, I don't know wat do do, I had to run out of the house to a friends room, .I'm stuck here and can't go to work.
I have cried my eyes out, our rent just expired and I just paid for a new place. Where do I start from?, Yaba has dismissed him and I can't afford an MRI.
I Don't know wat to do, I have fought so hard and so long and I feel like running away.

Somebody help me I am loosing my mind!!!!.


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Pls take him to a strong man of God, your brother is being attacked by spiritual forces, Don't be surprised Ezekiel might have a hand in it. your world turned upside down as soon as u had a reunion with him.
Nothing is impossible.

darlenese:


Pls take him to a strong man of God, your brother is being attacked by spiritual forces, Don't be surprised Ezekiel might have a hand in it. your world turned upside down as soon as u had a reunion with him.
Nothing is impossible.

Prophet of dooom....everything that happens has spiritual implications....see the way you even roped Ezekiel into your silllly mundane prophetic rubbish......this is a clear case of substance abuse.....yet you feel some imaginary spirit is pursuing him.

The heart of a black unexposed man....

And u even had to quote the entire write up to display this your mentality.

coolcatty:


Prophet of dooom....everything that happens has spiritual implications....see the way you even roped Ezekiel into your silllly mundane prophetic rubbish......this is a clear case of substance abuse.....yet you feel some imaginary spirit is pursuing him.

The heart of a black unexposed man....

And u even had to quote the entire write up to display this your mentality.

who is this one

I know someone who suffered from schizophrenia few years back, now he is doing fine. Call me on 0.9.0.6.3.9.1.6.9.0.8. Will hook you up with him probably he would like to share his story and how he survived. #remember_to_call

Apparently Schizophrenia hits around young adulthood. Which should be where Emma is right now if Ezekiel is 24. Emma must take his drugs and stop vomiting it. With the sad case of psychiatric medicine and treatments in Nigeria, I will advise you to use Google and reasearch carefully the drugs you can get for him.

Some people abroad live well with this illness and they manage it well. Though the severity of the illness varies from person to person. Also, do not rule out getting the MRI. Tumors on the brain can cause significant change in behavior.

His own change was very drastic. I don't believe it was substance abuse. It is most definitely mental illness or a tumor on the brain. You are all he has and sadly he is your burden. We all have our struggles in life.

Even if he was married, Na you people, him family go still carry the wahala. So do the best you can. Get the MRI done. If it is all clear, then you must find out how much it will be to get him committed. Or investigate a private psychiatrist so he can be properly monitored and have several types of drugs prescribed for him. Till you guys find the right set of drugs that make him function normally.

Please bring back Ezekiel so he can help you financially with the cost of taking care of Emma. Let him find work and continue his training in Lagos. He can also help you physically restrain Emma if need be. Try to keep sharp objects out of the reach of Emma. Make sure your house is violence proof and invest in a strait jacket if you can get one. Sad situation this is! So shocking!

Baby124, i also don't think she should rule out the MRI, like someone (Prognose) suggested above. the exact cause of schizophrenia is unknown but brain abnormalities are often a culprit, and with a rare type of schizophrenia like catatonic schizophrenia, an MRI is definitely needed. while I'm skeptical whether the Doctors would use the results of the MRI to properly treat him like Doctors in other parts of the world would, it's nonetheless a good idea for them to do it and see what they would find.

i think his sudden onset of this illness is odd too, more so because it occurred after he went to a night vigil. i hope it's not what I'm thinking.

I want to urge you to go back to work and stop fighting. Go back to your life and live it in full. your brother brought this problem upon himself and now he is dragging you along with him.
Do the best you can do and leave the rest for him and God to handle.

only your brother can save him self from this mess he created for himself together with medical care.

This is a clear case of a jealous child and a over pampered one.
you might not understand now but you will years to come.

WiredLeggings:
Baby124, i also don't think she should rule out the MRI, like someone (Prognose) suggested above. the exact cause of schizophrenia is unknown but brain abnormalities are often a culprit, and with a rare type of schizophrenia like catatonic schizophrenia, an MRI is definitely needed. while I'm skeptical whether the Doctors would use the results of the MRI to properly treat him like Doctors in other parts of the world would, it's nonetheless a good idea for them to do it and see what they would find.

i think his sudden onset of this illness is odd too, more so because it occurred after he went to a night vigil. i hope it's not what I'm thinking.

Let me ask you a question.
Let's say she spends like n70,000 minimum (N70,000 that she doesn't have) to do the MRI and an intracranial tumour is discovered. Where will she do the surgery, here in Nigeria? Let's say there's a neurosurgeon in this country that can perform brain surgery competently, how much will it cost? N100k? N200k? (minimum) ? Where will she get the money to do it?
Should the doctors have abandoned her because she couldn't afford an MRI?

Sometimes doctors send patients on all sorts of tests without regarding the power of their pocket. It's insensitive and sometimes unrealistic. I'm not saying the MRI is not important, but is there anything they can do in the meantime to alleviate the patient's (and the op's) suffering? Instead of threatening her to do an MRI or else they won't treat her?

Part of the job of medical personnel is to be empathetic towards patients. The world is moving away from the paternalistic and autocratic approach of ordering patients around and moving more towards patient centred care where the comfort of the patient is paramount. Her not having the money for MRI should not result in them stopping treatment for her brother. That was wrong.


(Modified. Sorry @wiredleggings. I meant to quote baby124. We're on the same wavelength, and I'm not ruling out the MRI completely but I felt it was unfair for them to give her such an ultimatum).

Prognose:
You started the right course of action too late. You didn't state how much you spent on herbal medications. We don't know what your uncle did to him while he was away. A truly complicated case.

Leave the MRI, what are they requesting for it for?
Even if it shows a lesion in the brain will they operate it? Instead of them to sedate him first. Nonsense insensitive people.

It's a pity you are far from Benin. I would have advised you to take him to uselu psychiatric hospital and have him admitted. Don't mention the MRI to them but tell them about his prediagnosed catatonic schizophrenia. I don't think it's as costly as Yaba. Let them know that he is very violent. If u say he's not they will hand him back to u.

Like someone said above, he is not in touch with reality. Schizophrenia is a severe and chronic mental disorder in which there is a total distortion of the person's ability to perceive things. And it's obvious u need help in handling him. He needs to be admitted and taken care of by experts.

Pls don't leave him to roam. He will be exposed to so many dangers if u do so e.g ritualists, kidnappers, beaten by angry mobs, dangerous animal bites, etc.

Flogging him will not help either. In fact it might tilt him unto full scale violence.

Sorry about your predicament. Take heart.

GBAM, correct.....I even suspect the herbal medications were what worsened the case

Op, I advise u to follow this guys advice

darlenese:


Pls take him to a strong man of God, your brother is being attacked by spiritual forces, Don't be surprised Ezekiel might have a hand in it. your world turned upside down as soon as u had a reunion with him.
Nothing is impossible.

It is just a pity, superstition and religion have really blocked some people's brain

Prognose:




Let me ask you a question.
Let's say she spends like n70,000 minimum (N70,000 that she doesn't have) to do the MRI and an intracranial tumour is discovered. Where will she do the surgery, here in Nigeria? Let's say there's a neurosurgeon in this country that can perform brain surgery competently, how much will it cost? N100k? N200k? (minimum) ? Where will she get the money to do it?
Should the doctors have abandoned her because she couldn't afford an MRI?

Sometimes doctors send patients on all sorts of tests without regarding the power of their pocket. It's insensitive and sometimes unrealistic. I'm not saying the MRI is not important, but is there anything they can do in the meantime to alleviate the patient's (and the op's) suffering? Instead of threatening her to do an MRI or else they won't treat her?

Part of the job of medical personnel is to be empathetic towards patients. The world is moving away from the paternalistic and autocratic approach of ordering patients around and moving more towards patient centred care where the comfort of the patient is paramount. Her not having the money for MRI should not result in them stopping treatment for her brother. That was wrong.


(Modified. Sorry @wiredleggings. I meant to quote baby124. We're on the same wavelength, and I'm not ruling out the MRI completely but I felt it was unfair for them to give her such an ultimatum).

MRI is very very important in this case. So they don't put him on drugs to treat an illness he may not have. Doctors can't see through the skull without an MRI to rule out a Tumor.

It is better she spends the money to find out exactly what is going on, than kill her brother with the wrong diagnosis. The doctors are right to be concerned because this case happened so suddenly. They will also want to make sure they are treating the patient correctly to avoid liability.

Once an MRI is done, then she will know how to move forward. Nothing like a lack of empathy or remorse in asking her to get an MRI. It's the right step to take, and the most compassionate because some doctors could have been sending her on fruitless small small money errands that will wreck her and then reject the patient at last.

Those of you advising her to let him roam, are you all that selfish?. Clearly from your comments we could tell of your personalities offline. You're asking her to leave him and live her life to the fullest; how on earth will she live it to the fullest knowing her brother is roaming the streets eating from garbage?. She needs encouragement not discouragement.

nowpresence:
I want to urge you to go back to work and stop fighting. Go back to your life and live it in full. your brother brought this problem upon himself and now he is dragging you along with him.
Do the best you can do and leave the rest for him and God to handle.

only your brother can save him self from this mess he created for himself together with medical care.

This is a clear case of a jealous child and a over pampered one.
you might not understand now but you will years to come.

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Drugs is killing your brother. Top on the list of drugs is Tramadol...I am sure, that guy pops 1500mg everyday.

Zizaboni:
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you didn't have to hijack someone else's thread to post your issue about needing money. you know you can create your own thread for that.