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Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Trueigbo: 10:26am On Jul 23, 2017
I was discussing with a friend yesterday. Our fore fathers marry their wives without knowing them and they grew in love building wonderful families.

Today the reverse is the case, as people marry the one they love but the rate of marriage failure is on the increase.


My question is should we marry the person we love or should we marry and grow in love with the person.

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by remi1444: 10:31am On Jul 23, 2017
marry the one you love, I wish this my Edo state crush can push me from friendzone.

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 10:32am On Jul 23, 2017
Nothing will make me marry someone I don't love with the hopes of growing in love in the future.

Marry whom you love.

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 10:36am On Jul 23, 2017
Marrying for love is great! But love is not always enough for a long lasting marriage.

I'd say marry someone you would have unwavering respect for no matter what.

Thus respect is the main ingredient of a good marriage. Then comes love, commitment. And the rest.


Not forgetting the overall, putting God in the center of your relationship/marriage is the sure route to its success.

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Elmojiid(m): 10:37am On Jul 23, 2017
marry and grow inlove ni o... nearest is dearest.,with time the luv will bloom

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by thesicilian: 10:43am On Jul 23, 2017
Different formulas work for different people.

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by nzeobi(m): 10:43am On Jul 23, 2017
marry someone with the qualities you desire and let the love develop, love alone is not just enough for marriage.

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Trueigbo: 10:43am On Jul 23, 2017
Elmojiid:
marry and grow inlove ni o...the nearer the dearest.,with time the luv will bloom

Could it be why our parents marriages were successful then?

Look at marriages these days. So many court case between husband and wife. Divorce is on the increase. Young couples now see divorce as an option unlike in the past when the word divorce is a taboo

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by elantraceey(f): 10:59am On Jul 23, 2017
Marry someone you know possesses qualities you admire and you're attracted to, love will blossom anytime.

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by LordKO(m): 11:28am On Jul 23, 2017
Know yourself - Self-realization - and understand what attributes you need from a partner (which you too must possess) then go for s/he that you fancy (one who fancy's you too) who possesses those attributes.

In summary, marry the one you love who equally love you too.

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Teedawg: 2:37pm On Jul 23, 2017
most one even marry self? everywhere i look na marriage or marriage problems . can't one just stay together without the pressure of marriage because i don't see the essence of getting married then later asking people if i should get a divorce because my partner doesn't like wearing pant? grin

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by merits(m): 2:37pm On Jul 23, 2017
marrying for someone you is the best, bcus love leads to successful marriage and everything good things follow after then.
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by sonofthunder: 2:38pm On Jul 23, 2017
Trueigbo:
I was discussing with a friend yesterday. Our fore fathers marry their wives without knowing them and they grew in love building wonderful families.

Today the reverse is the case, as people marry the one they love but the rate of marriage failure is on the increase.


My question is should we marry the person we love or should we marry and grow in love with the person.


1. What is marriage.
2. What is love.

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by blackbeau1(f): 2:38pm On Jul 23, 2017
Marry the one you love but make sure he/she is your friend too

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by MediumStout(m): 2:38pm On Jul 23, 2017
Most people abuse the word love out of context. Many equate sexual attractions and infatuation/obsession for love. 80% of people using the word love don't even love one another. Love is never a prerequisite for a long lasting marriage. Tolerance, communication and understanding is the key to marital success. The reason why marriages don't last these days is because the foundation is built on physical/material attractions of both partners and wrongly termed love. Love is not enough


Tonto dike and her husband once littered the Internet with various post proffessing love for one another when the infatuation and lust between them was at the early stage. Fast forward to this date, we all know how it ended. Where has the love for her king kong suddenly gone to after a year of marriage

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Lifebender(m): 2:39pm On Jul 23, 2017
remi1444:
marry the one you love, I wish this my Edo state crush can push me from friendzone.

Tell me what happens when the love isn't there no more.
You call it quits?

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 2:39pm On Jul 23, 2017
Marry the person you love... Cos you might end up not loving d person u married for other reasons.

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 2:40pm On Jul 23, 2017
Marry D1 you love

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 2:41pm On Jul 23, 2017
Both
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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 2:41pm On Jul 23, 2017
Marry someone that share the same values with you, both of u should be attracted to each other (very important) . Then Be mentally alike and with time, love will grow in marriage.


And there is everything possibility u marry the one u love? U may end up hating the person before the end of one year of marriage.
Falling in love doesn't guarantee success in marriage. It's simply a recipe to the ingredients needed in marriage.

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by SeniorZato(m): 2:42pm On Jul 23, 2017
Whats love?

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by collinsbaba(m): 2:42pm On Jul 23, 2017
What of in the case where ur partner loves wholeheartedly but u r finding it difficult to reciprocate her genuine love... Will the marriage thrive if eventually they got married

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by sisisioge: 2:42pm On Jul 23, 2017
Marry the person you love biko.

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by sukkot: 2:42pm On Jul 23, 2017
its better to marry and grow in love. when you marry the person you love the only way is down. but if you grow in love the only way is up.

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by GreatChizzy: 2:43pm On Jul 23, 2017
remi1444:
marry the one you love, I wish this my Edo state crush can push me from friendzone.

NO ONE COMES OUTTA THAT ZONE ALIVE!!!!
U SHOULD NEVER HAD ALLOWED HER PUT U THERE!!!
SMH

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 2:44pm On Jul 23, 2017
BleSSedMee:
Marrying for love is great! But love is not always enough for a long lasting marriage.

I'd say marry someone you would have unwavering respect for no matter what.

Thus respect is the main ingredient of a good marriage. Then comes love, commitment. And the rest.


Not forgetting the overall, putting God in the center of your relationship/marriage is the sure route to its success.
how can you claim to to love someone and not respect. Love comes first... every other thing comes after. Respect is earned. If someo isn't showing love, you can't respect. If you respect someone for what he has or who he is, what happens when it changes?

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by MrHighSea: 2:44pm On Jul 23, 2017
Una no dy tire?
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Kondomatic(m): 2:44pm On Jul 23, 2017
Trueigbo:
I was discussing with a friend yesterday. Our fore fathers marry their wives without knowing them and they grew in love building wonderful families.

Today the reverse is the case, as people marry the one they love but the rate of marriage failure is on the increase.


My question is should we marry the person we love or should we marry and grow in love with the person.


If the love no come gree grow nko

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Amberon11: 2:44pm On Jul 23, 2017
Lol...all those saying love is not enough obviously don't know what love is. If you both have true love for each other, that alone will bring compatibility and every other thing.

But I don't want love tho. I like it unrequited wink

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 2:44pm On Jul 23, 2017
GreatChizzy:


NO ONE COMES OUTTA THAT ZONE ALIVE!!!!
U SHOULD NEVER HAD ALLOWED HER PUT U THERE!!!
SMH




Lol grin

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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by SuperSuave(m): 2:45pm On Jul 23, 2017
oook! After hearing from both sides, I don't want to marry, na by force? undecided

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