sisisioge:


Lol...you've got to get her on board o. You could bribe her with some sensual gifts, insist on bathing with her, offer massages etc . OYO shall be your case if you slack. I know a babe that hated kisses, until she met a guy that only wanted kisses...yeah, she ended up liking it too cos she was crazy about him The day is still young, she's your wife.

I have tried everything in the book. I used to hate polygamy but I don't think there is much option for me soonest

sisisioge:


Oga, are we still brethren?

Hehehe... you betcha

sisisioge:


Melsan! Where have you been? Your own zoom in zoom out pass professor Pele own o.Howdy?

Hehehehe. Me dey hustle for Santa awoof..lol

Melsan:
Hehehehe. Me dey hustle for Santa awoof..lol

Where e dey happen? Biko let me join, people don dey collect harmpers already, nothing don show here o. Even if na groundnut oil, make I see collect

Great to know you're good. Cheers.

Your problem is a big problem and at the same time no problem at all depending on how you see it.

How long have you been into the matrimony?

Zenithpeak:
Your problem is a big problem and at the same time no problem at all depending on how you see it.

How long have you been into the matrimony?

5years

sisisioge:


Where e dey happen? Biko let me join, people don dey collect harmpers already, nothing don show here o. Even if na groundnut oil, make I see collect

Great to know you're good. Cheers.

Lol. Hope sey you nor mind husbandman awoof? Good you doing great as well.

Oga buy your wife books on sexuaallity......in the meantime bring some spice to the bedroom

Go lingerie shopping for your wife
Gwt her matching undies and tell her ti wear it
Make love in the daytime or with the lights on
Play some old school r&b just before the do
During the day send her romantic sms
When she goes into the bathroom, wait a few mins then join her in the bath.....she may resist initially.....but persists consistently and eventually she will loosen up
Buy her some tights /shorts to wear around the house
If you live with relatives abeg send them on 6month sabatical so that you can work on ur wide been free with you and both of you discovering and exploring your sezxuality.
Please dont underestimate pre-intimacy....play and suck her titties.....give her a head even if she doesnt reciprocate.....shave the hair off her veepot!!....drop some alcohol in her evening tea and watcg her loosen up.

Dont discuss this things wt her friends cos sadly, women like that often have friends who share the same view wt them


If you try all the above and it doesnt work, take it as your punishment for dumping your sekxually compatible bae for a wholesome church gerh.....thereby subjecting urself to a life of shitty s3x!!!

Melsan:
Lol. Hope sey you nor mind husbandman awoof? Good you doing great as well.

keepingmum:
X

What? Spill it out iya baaby

sisisioge:

Yipeee!!! You are in for a surprise.

Melsan:
Yipeee!!! You are in for a surprise.

Wowzerful...wetin dey happen? Let's take this to our bridal shower thread before the OP fries us

benabbey:


5years

You kept quiet for so long.....

Don't priotize adultery for the sake of emotional pressure. We were not lent of Christ like that.


You'll need a lot of patience to handle this case.

Be ready to talk about it everyday. don't be ashamed
or allow ego to ruin it for you.

Stop reporting her to people

Avoid threats or physical assults or verbal attacks or unnecessary anger. But always be persistent in asking.

Case study; Samson and Delilah..... Little by little you will win....

If I may ask, for how long have u been married? If it isn't long, then I will advice u to change her philosophy about sex, though it can take a while but I believe eventually she's gonna change. She sees sex as a dirty thing, evil maybe and no importance attached to it aside reprocreation but u can change that. Again, get some couple of karmasutra clip, try talk dirty to her, express ur sexual fantazy with her especially thru calls and text. Talk much about her sexual fantazy, locate her hotspot and make sure u stimulate it often and each time u are given access, change d routine and if possible sex position. Use ur kitchen, living room, bathroom, etc. Though all these won't happen in a day, na gradually process but with time, e go be. Just be patient with her. And one more thing, hope she's not circusized?

smulti:
both of you aren't sexually compatible bro,

that is the disadvantage of no sex before marriage

you have to bear it and Carry the cross alone .

Exactly! You are so on point.
"no s. e. x before marriage" my feet....

sisisioge:



Wowzerful...wetin dey happen? Let's take this to our bridal shower thread before the OP fries us

Okay

uboma:




Exactly! You are so on point.

"no s. e. x before marriage" my feet....

if no sex before marriage was God’s plan then people would have receive their joystick or vagina on their wedding day.
.

Lorbar:
Maybe you are not doing it right or she's not deriving any satisfaction from it. I don't see why married people needs to set timetable for sex. Sex is a basic, natural instinct. Being social creatures, we need closeness and intimacy to survive and thrive. If you and your wife want your marriage to survive, you will need to talk about what is going on with her. Avoiding the subject or refusing to talk about it is not an option.

We have talked and discuss severally the interest is not just there.

smulti:


if no sex before marriage was God’s plan then people would have receive their joystick or vagina on their wedding day.
.

Honestly the religious organization need to find ways of addressing sex before and during marriage. There only concern is chastity pregnancy test and not sexual ability and capability which is one of the pillar of marriage

This is what happens when a woman is overly religious and has been fed with lies. No matter how married some of these SU sisters are, they still see sex as a sin sort of. That is the kind of woman you married. Playing tricks on her won't change anything it might even make her believe the devil is trying to use you against the marriage. Reminds me of an SU coursemate that got married few months ago, even after church wedding she no gree kiss her husband, she said kissing is a sin lols, what kind of sexual life do you expect from this kind of a lady in marriage? You have entered one chance my brother

apenaola:
If I may ask, for how long have u been married? If it isn't long, then I will advice u to change her philosophy about sex, though it can take a while but I believe eventually she's gonna change. She sees sex as a dirty thing, evil maybe and no importance attached to it aside reprocreation but u can change that. Again, get some couple of karmasutra clip, try talk dirty to her, express ur sexual fantazy with her especially thru calls and text. Talk much about her sexual fantazy, locate her hotspot and make sure u stimulate it often and each time u are given access, change d routine and if possible sex position. Use ur kitchen, living room, bathroom, etc. Though all these won't happen in a day, na gradually process but with time, e go be. Just be patient with her. And one more thing, hope she's not circusized?

All that ones umba na only missionary style she they agree to do

classicB:
This is what happens when a woman is overly religious and has been fed with lies. No matter how married some of these SU sisters are, they still see sex as a sin sort of. That is the kind of woman you married. Playing tricks on her won't change anything it might even make her believe the devil is trying to use you against the marriage. Reminds me of an SU coursemate that got married few months ago, even after church wedding she no gree kiss her husband, she said kissing is a sin lols, what kind of sexual life do you expect from this kind of a lady in marriage? You have entered one chance my brother

Absolutely correct

benabbey:


I have discussed with her severally I av even reported her to her family.

then I think you need to take her for counselling

benabbey:


All that ones umba na only missionary style she they agree to do

U gotta start gradually. It's a process

benabbey:


All that ones umba na only missionary style she they agree to do

Not everything u say on social media. And not every response u should reply to. Most response here are balderdash. Nonsense. And those Satan agents blaming religious injunction of no sex before marriage for the malfunction are ignorant at best.

benabbey:


Absolutely correct

How did you even agree with this? Seems u are hiding something. Becos u said "My religious background forbid any sexual activities before marriage and I kept to it by the grace of God." in ur initial post.

Big bros. this is the price you are going to pay for the rest of your life as a Christian, carry your cross. am afraid your wife may not change after all the counseling and carrying her case to her family members. well just take it as something you will live with for the rest of your life and manage the little times she gives you access for the sake of Heaven. am in your shoes too no sex before marriage but I ensure I discuss all this in our ongoing courtship, though we have kissed and done some foreplays before and that's the limit I just pray she won't end up like yours

mukhcech:


Not everything u say on social media. And not every response u should reply to. Most response here are balderdash. Nonsense. And those Satan agents blaming religious injunction of no sex before marriage for the malfunction are ignorant at best.

They are no satan agent. Why I will not support promiscuity I think religious body should dig into sexual preference of intending couple. May be through questionnaire. Question like how often will you like have been asked before marriage and the lady says once in a while and man fill in often or as body demanded you know there is a conflict already

The only thing harp on by religious body is holiness, bed undefiled and pregnancy test.

I think intending couple should discuss their sexual preference and check compatibility

benabbey:


They are no satan agent. Why I will not support promiscuity I think religious body should dig into sexual preference of intending couple. May be through questionnaire. Question like how often will you like have been asked before marriage and the lady says once in a while and man fill in often or as body demanded you know there is a conflict already

The only thing harp on by religious body is holiness, bed undefiled and pregnancy test.

I think intending couple should discuss their sexual preference and check compatibility

Promiscuity it is when we support the campaign of those satanic elements blaming no sex before marriage as d reason for ur wife behavior. I am personally not interested in discussing the main issue here as I believe sexuality of couples should not be discussed on open forums even anonymously. I will advice u seek solutions elsewhere. I had a similar ish buh solved it.

Make her watch romantic films on Telemundo. Within a week, she will change

Serve her divorce papers she go change

Bro I understand your pains but the truth is that is not all women that has good and high sex drive, some times is not that dey hate sex but they don't have the urge for it, something that has do with some in balance of some hormones that makes her respond positively to sex.

my advice
try sliding in some sex enhancing pills in her juice, take your shower and head to bed, trust me in less than few minutes she will come and start begging you for sex, don't make this a habit though but as the time goes on her sex drive will become very active.