Let them tell you exactly what they feel is wrong with the girl. It is not enough to say that her tribe and choice of religion is the issue... let them explain. If they can't give you a satisfactory answer, go to marriage registry and start living your life... after a while they would come around.

Or you can keep complaining and running Helter-skelter as if you are a teenager than needs approval for having a girlfriend.

munas:
Hello people.

I have a very good friend of mind who wants to get married,but his dad and mum are kicking against his choice.
The guy's dad is from edo state,while hos mum is from Abia state.All well educated and they attend Catholic church.

Now the girl in question is from Anambra and attends penticostal church.

The parents of this my friend sad he should not married the girl because Amambra women are not good and she is not catholic.

This guy has convinced the girl to move to catholic and she agreed,but the parenst are still saying no.

The mum even said she will die if he goes ahead and marry the girl.

My friend really loves this girl and he wants to marry her.

Any advice on how to go about this?

Osucoward:
The mom is Igbo and the girl is Igbo too. how is his tribalism?

Intra-tribalism?

The mom is from south Eastern Biafra and babe is North West Biafra.

That is why I am keeping my innocent body for my oyibo wife. Adam and Eve didn't need anyone's consent to get married. All they need na God

munas:
Hello people.

I have a very good friend of mind who wants to get married,but his dad and mum are kicking against his choice.
The guy's dad is from edo state,while hos mum is from Abia state.All well educated and they attend Catholic church.

Now the girl in question is from Anambra and attends penticostal church.

The parents of this my friend sad he should not married the girl because Amambra women are not good and she is not catholic.

This guy has convinced the girl to move to catholic and she agreed,but the parenst are still saying no.

The mum even said she will die if he goes ahead and marry the girl.

My friend really loves this girl and he wants to marry her.

Any advice on how to go about this?

He should use style to ask his parents if they have someone in mind for him.

I don't think it is about where the girl comes from. It is certainly about where she worships. Your parents believe the change to Catholic is just to please them to get their consent.

The emotional blackmail by the mother should not be allowed to be an issue. Let him begin to pray and changes will happen with time.

Kekx:

Lies brO!, Big Lie!!
What is it they saw that they can't tell their son, what?
Did they come from the future?
I'm an Igbo man, but I must tell you this, when it comes to religion, marriage, helping and business patnering.
The igbos aren't that united, they do invite tribalism inside a tribe(within themselves)

Don't be surprise his parents reasons might be a result of a dealing they had with anambra fellows in the past.

Bleep whatever they are seeing while squating or shitting.
Africans needs cleansing.

What do u people gain in this stupidity simpky because u want to score cheap points and nairaland like..

Tell me what has igbo got to do with this.
The guy is from edo state only his mum is from abia..
BTW have u not seen any igbo person marrying outside igboland?... so why make this senseless generalization ?

Igbo women hav the highest rate or marrying outside tribe in nigeria.. so why this stupid comment of urs?
While yoruba women dont fancy marrying into igbo tribe(so what do u say about that )

I have seen where ekiti lady said he cant marry ijebu man.. (yet both ar yoruba land)
What joy do some of u derive in degeneratin ur tribe?
And Tomorrow people will use it as ur stupidity against u.
Pls pls pls use ur common sense and edit that comment.

jamariwolf:
It's always a friend. Smh.

Yea...its a friend cos i am married already

munas:


Yea...its a friend cos i am married already

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African parents can be self centered most times. They want things done their way all the time. They make you feel it's for your good but deep down its to satisfy their selfish desire.

And pls ignore that " what an elder see while sitting... bla bla bla " parents and pastors can consent to a marriage and it will still collapse.

I do not see any reason why a man at 30 won't know what's best for him. The men seldom have problems, it's the mothers that fight for their own interest. They want to brag to their friends that " my son is married to a white woman ", " my daughter is married to an oil tycoon "

If you've dated the girl for a while, you love each other, you can manage each others weakness, and you are very sure she makes you happy when no one is around (cause no one will be around) , then proceed with the marriage plans provided their reasons aren't life threatening. I.e madness running in the family, if both parties are AS or SS, if either party is impotent, if either party displays signs of domestic violence, if the man doesn't have a verifiable source of income... but if it's just tribe, religion or any other sentiments then make them see reasons with you and proceed with your plans. Whether or not they bless the union doesn't guarantee how long the marriage will last.

Marry someone that makes you happy when no one is around. After wedding ceremony the reality of the choice you made will set in. Don't marry to make daddy or mummy happy.

SILVA112:
Children obey ur parents for it is right ' and its the 1st commandment with a blessing

Parents provoke not ur children to wrought

chukwuma0000:
bro I dey suspect the parent ooooooo
I see the gal is a prayer warrior ,ask your friend and give feedback then will tell u what to do

Yes...the girl is a prayer warrior

CaptainG00D:


What do u people gain in this stupidity simpky because u want to score cheap points and nairaland like..


Igbo women hav the highest rate or marrying outside tribe in nigeria.. so why this stupid comment of urs?
While yoruba women dont fancy marrying into igbo tribe(so what do u say about that )

I have seen where ekiti lady said he cant marry ijebu man.. (yet both ar yoruba land)
What joy do some of u derive in degeneratin ur tribe?
And Tomorrow people will use it as ur stupidity against u.
Pls pls pls use ur common sense and edit that comment.

Wow wow wow! Oga camdan! You are sounding as though you have personal issues with the person you mentioned, I might be wrong though.
You should understand that the guy gave his own opinion, which isn't far from the truth, so shouldn't be insulted in such manner. Although I did not see him say ALL igbos, but maybe if he had used a quantifier to state a proportion of igbos he was referring to in his comment we wouldn't be splitting hairs now.
I quite agree with him, igbos; and before you come guns blazing for me as well, most igbos aren't united. They always have something separating them from thier fellow tribesmen. Clan, local government, town, state, religious denomination, social class etc.
Within same state, you are given a plethora of reasons why you can't associate or marry from a town different from the other.
On requirements of potential spouse posted by single ladies on a dating site, the common factor that most Anambra girls had was tribe and religious denomination. 99% of them mandated the men to be from Anambra and about 80% also wanted them to be Catholics.....I'm guessing your 'highest rate' statistics did not include Anambra state in the data collection.

Unlike you, I'm actually yet to see a Yoruba girl refuse to marry a suitor that is also Yoruba but from a different state.....but I wouldn't go as far as calling you a bigot now, would I? Or accuse you of degenerating anothers tribe. But I personally know a lot of igbo girls that have turned down suitors due tribe, even amongst thier own tribe.


Abia---->Anambra women are bad
Anambra--->Onitsha women are bad
Pentecostals--->Catholics are idol worshippers
Imo----> Anambra men are too money conscious hence cannot be trusted
Anambra---->Imo men are lazy
....................division at different levels.



At OP, your friend is probably not yet mature for marriage if his parents are still dictating who he can and cannot marry.

MicheyJ1:
A marriage without the blessings of your parents would never bode well.

I disagree with you.

thesicilian:
Some will say marriage is between you and your partner and your parents have no right to interfere. Thay be true, but what elderly person sees sitting down, a child may not see while standing up

It is the same as saying that, they are very selfish and as such desiressomeone that fits certain current or future criteria of theirs, rather than that of the person who wants to marry and live live with this individual for the rest of their lives.

Don't know why this catholic people believe there doctrine is the best. Let the boy enter seminary nw and become a Rev father!

thesicilian:
Some will say marriage is between you and your partner and your parents have no right to interfere. Thay be true, but what elderly person sees sitting down, a child may not see while standing up

Many elderly people are unrepentant bigots and myopic.
It is the man that will live with his wife for many years.
If you live your life pleasing elderly people, you are not
living an optimal life.

Don't take decision cos of love, have a rethink and ask your parents why they are refusing you cos if anything goes wrong during the course of your eloped marriage it won't smell nice.

Kekx:


Lies brO!, Big Lie!!

What is it they saw that they can't tell their son, what?
Did they come from the future?

I'm an Igbo man, but I must tell you this, when it comes to religion, marriage, helping and business patnering.

The igbos aren't that united, they do invite tribalism inside a tribe(within themselves)

Don't be surprise his parents reasons might be a result of a dealing they had with anambra fellows in the past.


Bleep whatever they are seeing while squating or shitting.

Africans needs cleansing.

True talk.They should tell him whatever they saw while squatting,or would they still say he's too young to understand?

I want to hear from the horses mouth. Ie from both parents especially the mother, maybe she's gonna burst a can of worms ie reveal some hidden reasons.
The dude likely may have not looked very well before trying to leap.

SILVA112:
Children obey ur parents for it is right ' and its the 1st commandment with a blessing

The quote is, "Children, obey your parents in the LORD; for this is right".

thesicilian:
Some will say marriage is between you and your partner and your parents have no right to interfere. Thay be true, but what elderly person sees sitting down, a child may not see while standing up

Abeg leave that thing. Stating state of origin and church as a reason, is totally unreasonable and unacceptable. This old people self.I wonder how they would have felt, if there parents kicked against there own marriage.

Marcofranz:
Anambra women some are very terrible they pretend to be good at first after marriage they start acting strange. It seems it's innate. But I know people differs, she might be different .

you most be be very stupid for that statement, if our women are terrible leave them for us. we like dem that way.

#anambrawomenarethebest

MrHistorian:

Will you stop this nonsense!?

Who mandates Parents' consent for mutual blissful conjugation of two adults?

Cases where one of the bride or groom is an orphan,Where does he/she then solicit consent from?

Bitter truth is,our parents are human as we are and as such fallible for very petty things such as tribalism or religious inclinations.Ours is to rectify it by defying their ideas or paying NO attention.

Tell your friend to go ahead and marry her. . . That's if it's not even you.

did you read the portion where he said the mother said she will die if he should marry the girl...WRONG Advice.

giles14:
you most be be very stupid for that statement, if our women are terrible leave them for us. we like dem that way.

#anambrawomenarethebest

Don't attack the messenger,but scrutinize the message, there's no smoke without fire.

giles14:
you most be be very stupid for that statement, if our women are terrible leave them for us. we like dem that way.

#anambrawomenarethebest

Something is wrong with your brain. What business do I have with your women. Silly anambra women.

blackbeau1:
If she's willing to spend the rest of her life fighting her in laws , fine. Go ahead. If not , ask him to let her go because eventually all the fighting would wear him down and one day he's gonna have to choose sides between his wife and his family .most often than not, the family wins

Chai..I want to hug you. Ya too smart.

Young man,don't swim against the tide of life.your parents saw something in that girl that you can never see because of love(love don't have eyes).and when your eyes don clear it might be too late.
You can still get thousands of girls out there to choose from,but it's only one parent you have on this mother earth and they are the only one that can tell you the bitter truth,the rest are counterfeit.Listen to your parents and live a happy live.

munas:
Hello people.

I have a very good friend of mind who wants to get married,but his dad and mum are kicking against his choice.
The guy's dad is from edo state,while hos mum is from Abia state.All well educated and they attend Catholic church.

Now the girl in question is from Anambra and attends penticostal church.

The parents of this my friend sad he should not married the girl because Amambra women are not good and she is not catholic.

This guy has convinced the girl to move to catholic and she agreed,but the parenst are still saying no.

The mum even said she will die if he goes ahead and marry the girl.

My friend really loves this girl and he wants to marry her.

Any advice on how to go about this?

I dnt think is because of Church things because no matter wot wen d marriage is done d gal will b going to her husband Church maybe because d gal is not 4rm Edo state or Abia state maybe dey hv one dat dey ve promise her family dat dia son will marry her

coputa:
Don't attack the messenger,but scrutinize the message, there's no smoke without fire.

true but wan a messenger keeps repeating a false news it begin to sound true.

munas:
Hello people.

I have a very good friend of mind who wants to get married,but his dad and mum are kicking against his choice.
The guy's dad is from edo state,while hos mum is from Abia state.All well educated and they attend Catholic church.

Now the girl in question is from Anambra and attends penticostal church.

The parents of this my friend sad he should not married the girl because Amambra women are not good and she is not catholic.

This guy has convinced the girl to move to catholic and she agreed,but the parenst are still saying no.

The mum even said she will die if he goes ahead and marry the girl.

My friend really loves this girl and he wants to marry her.

Any advice on how to go about this?

Anambra women are the best... am going to Anambra next week to carry my own , Achina precisely.

If you love the babe, don't leave her, two of you should stay but not married.
Pray hard ,
Just be looking at your parent and don't direct them, just play cool and be watching them. Be more benevolent to them now, refuse to take another woman even if it take several years, they will surely ask you to bring that woman for them to see what u see in her.

Mine, her mother never wanted us BUT we loved each other and we stayed for 10 good years, yes u heard me, 10yrs. Now na the mother be my forerunner begging for me to come

God's time is the best.
If u two are meant to be, nothing will stop it.

Marcofranz:

Something is wrong with your brain. What business do I have with your women. Silly anambra women.

silly yes but still part of the women you have in this country n abroad.

our women are the best.

munas:
Hello people.

I have a very good friend of mind who wants to get married,but his dad and mum are kicking against his choice.
The guy's dad is from edo state,while hos mum is from Abia state.All well educated and they attend Catholic church.

Now the girl in question is from Anambra and attends penticostal church.

The parents of this my friend sad he should not married the girl because Amambra women are not good and she is not catholic.

This guy has convinced the girl to move to catholic and she agreed,but the parenst are still saying no.

The mum even said she will die if he goes ahead and marry the girl.

My friend really loves this girl and he wants to marry her.

Any advice on how to go about this?

his is a grown up, let him fight for what he wants.