youngest85:
Which worst will happen?
If you wanna commit suicide go ahead and let's know how many of us remain

sisisioge:
Hmmm...so sorry to hear this. Whatever it is can be fixed. You could:

1. Invite your family to meet with your other family to plead with them to let your nuclear family run its affairs without interference. There shouldn't be any tense atmosphere there o, just family A pleading with family B to allow your own family AB be autonomous.

2. You could just wait until you notice another interference from them. Then take a few things and move out. Don't be afraid, your children won't die. Stay out until your wife is ready to listen. Then let her know your stand.

Lobatan! By God's grace, you are the head of your family...your wife the neck

ShenTeh:


It is really sad the kids we have on this platform.

Someone who's been married for over 9 years -probably longer than you knew your name - comes to seek counsel and your best joke is to lead him in to suicide.

Did your parents not advise you to desist from jumping into matters beyond your cranium?

@OP, It is not too late. You can have your home and control back!
I. Tell your in-laws you detest their interference in running your home. It is not going to be easy, because it seems to me they had enjoyed your introverted nature from forever. They will be shocked! May probably

youngest85:
Which worst will happen?
If you wanna commit suicide go ahead and let's know how many of us remain

3free2:


My family keep reminding me what I told them from the start. My uncle warned me but I didn't understand him then. When I introduced this lady to him as the person I intend to marry roughly six weeks after I met her, he was shocked, he asked me, do you really know her? do you her family? Probably due to lack of experience I insisted on marrying her since we both love each other. That love has since disappeared and my uncle is vindicated. We have three kids yet my wife place her family above our nuclear family.

3free2:
For nine years I've struggled to eliminate family interference from my home but unfortunately I've not been able to

3free2:
My father in-law and his wife call the shot

3free2:
when I resist my wife promptly takes side with them claiming that I'm being disrespectful.

3free2:
From the onset I pleaded with my own family to allow us chat our own path, learn from our mistakes and grow together in love. This has backfired on me because my wife did not do same with her family

3free2:
I can't consider breakup, I don't want my kids to grow in a broken home

3free2:
The problem is worse presently only God can show me the way out of this mess.

3free2:
Some might say I was weak from the onset, but some women can be manipulative and cunning

3free2:
I in a cage right now, I desperately need help before the worst happens.

3free2:
I know similar stories has been narrated on this forum but I want the world to hear my tale of regret and sorrow,
For nine years I've struggled to eliminate family interference from my home but unfortunately I've not been able to. My father in-law and his wife call the shot and when I resist my wife promptly takes side with them claiming that I'm being disrespectful.
From the onset I pleaded with my own family to allow us chat our own path, learn from our mistakes and grow together in love. This has backfired on me because my wife did not do same with her family.
I can't consider breakup, I don't want my kids to grow in a broken home. The problem is worse presently only God can show me the way out of this mess.
Some might say I was weak from the onset, but some women can be manipulative and cunning. I in a cage right now, I desperately need help before the worst happens.

3free2:


Looking back, I think I have been worst than an introvert. Iwas so eager to impress my stupid in-laws.
I've given up so much for the sake of the happy home of my dreams. I'm too ashamed to narrate the whole story.

3free2:


My family keep reminding me what I told them from the start. My uncle warned me but I didn't understand him then. When I introduced this lady to him as the person I intend to marry roughly six weeks after I met her, he was shocked, he asked me, do you really know her? do you her family? Probably due to lack of experience I insisted on marrying her since we both love each other. That love has since disappeared and my uncle is vindicated. We have three kids yet my wife place her family above our nuclear family.

Sanchez01:

Well, now is not the time to blame you. A friend of mine just survived a similar hell. The funniest part is that his marriage isn't up to two years yet.

You should consider relocating. It is your best bet right now, trust me. Doing so would greatly reduce the interference.

Well I quite understand that your present location is likely where your place of work is, you have to figure how to cope and how best to deal with it. In all, you need to relocate.

Pipedreams:
Bro listen good. Exact same thing happened to me. My ex wife always took instructions from her family and undermined me severally after many warnings. Maybe cos they are well off. Never be with a manipulative wife that picks her family over you. Combine that with proud in-laws then that's disaster!! I pity u bro! Yours is different cos u have 3kids with her. What were u thinking bro!! 3kids! And ur just noticing ur caged? Marriage na setup I swear. Well I sent her packing. Now her proud family is the one calling me and they ashamed of their daughter in their house. But never will I go back cos I have seen their hidden characters and I would not want to bring kids into a disaster union.

Bro this your woman will make your kids disrespect you. Way out:

Call a family meeting and warn your wife Infront of her family with a loud voice that ur done with d disrespect. If she tries it again,throw her things out and see u recover some respect cos they will beg u. It's better to be a Wicked husband than a weak husband bro. You have been too nice and decent. Act like an Agbero wey no send and ul see changes Look people punch a pillow cos they know it's soft and can't do nothing but scared to punch a Hard Rock cos it would leave them injured.

Marriage in Africa comes with a Lotta baggage and subtle slavery. I am safe to say I have tasted being single and married. I will pick SINGLE any day!!!! There are no benefits of marriage for a man but just pains, trials and tribulations . It's a scam. Societal expectations are mere lies! Misery loves company! Most married men are unhappy but they all see you and say when are you getting married? as is you are missing out! No wonder it is the woman's happiest day. Cos 80percent of her life goals has been achieved but a man's problems begins! I don't blame baby daddies I swear! Marriage to most ladies in this dispensation is like playing Russian roulette by handing a woman a pistol with loaded with two bullets outta 7 rounds and ask her to roll and shoot! Lmao

cc: lalasticlala

Ishilove:

I have noticed your comments and posts on marital affairs on this forum. You go around advising people with marital challenges to quit their marriages because yours didn't work out. Misery loves company, so you want everyone break up their homes because your own marriage failed. Pele o, Chairman, Association of Unhappily Divorced Men. Shioor.

Guy, swerve with your bitterness. Marriages are still succeeding. If you don't have any reasonable advice to give then stop polluting threads with your cynicism and negativity. We all can't be unhappy like you, so my sincere advise to you is go away, lick your wounds, heal properly before coming back to the internet.

Pipedreams:


Lol ur a woman sure ul say I sound bitter. Only a rationale male would understand that getting married to this present dispensation of ladies that social media and selfishness has wrecked is a recipe for disaster. Women of yesteryears can NEVER be compared to this present times when feminists are on the prowl. There are good women too that will bring you peace but they are as rare as Unicorns. Brothers to have a happy marriage be ready to SUMBIT to your wives drops mic

Pipedreams:


Lol ur a woman sure ul say I sound bitter. Only a rationale male would understand that getting married to this present dispensation of ladies that social media and selfishness has wrecked is a recipe for disaster. Women of yesteryears can NEVER be compared to this present times when feminists are on the prowl. There are good women too that will bring you peace but they are as rare as Unicorns. Brothers to have a happy marriage be ready to SUMBIT to your wives drops mic

victorian:

Heehehehehehehehehe


I can't believe this

Sighs na wa!

You and ishilove
But seriously not all marriages is that bad for the men..some men are happily married to their wives ,Mr Chairman.

Les:
If you know you are very single, I mean seriously very single and you don't want to be in this our brother's shoes, just come in here and let's offer some sacrifices to the God of marriage to spare us this unnecessary drama and headache, abeg o!

Pipedreams:


Marry a foreign girl with foreign mentality or have a baby mama mbok. Nigerians ladies are fast on the decline. No thanks to social media. Everybody wants to slay. I know a yahoo boy school dropout that has fxcked sweet working class godly wife materials all because he drives a white 2015 C class.