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Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 6:24am On Jun 03, 2018 |
ednut1:It's been months since I commented but ur statement has induced my submissions....... Put it in PRAYERS..... People are getting RESOURCEFUL LADIES as well. I am part of the LUCKY ONES, I must say. I met my wife in the US. May be overseas mentality affected her as well, because they really know how to show LOVE. Most times I feel ashamed of myself, that I haven't done any crazy thing for her. But she does it 4me as if her life depends on it. My family feels her presence more than any person's presence. I am being insulted and finished by my own parents when ever she complains. She penetrated us well...... Marriage can be a blessing as well as a curse. Let your instincts guide you. Meanwhile pray to be LUCKY 8 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by gaby(m): 6:24am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Tallesty1: Op, kindly adhere to this advice. Quit using the kids as a smokescreen to hide your weakness. Your weakness is exactly what they have been feeding off. I was in a "cursed" union I thought was marriage once in my life, and boy did I procrastinate to bail In hindsight, the procrastination and bidding of time is actually the reason I am here typing today because I am very sure if my intentions to bail were noticed, I sure woulda eaten my last meal, or had a knife forgotten in my bowels. It got so worse that i'd sneak into the house and locked myself in a different room to sleep,not before making sure the doors are triple locked and the bed frame moved behind it. The day I finally made the move, one of the days i'll never forget in my life. I'd picked the few clothings a simple bag could take at about 5am, sneaked up to the maiguard to please open the gates and not say a word about sighting me. That was how I made a run for it, and I thank God I did on a daily. E better say person no get wife, than say you no fit enter house because of bad woman. Rubbish... 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by 3free2: 6:34am On Jun 03, 2018 |
ndindiatu: I love a happy home with my children enjoying the presence of both parents in their lives. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by chuksbogus: 6:43am On Jun 03, 2018 |
I hope you can have the courage to see through what ever your decision is because if alone the way you succumb again that will be your end.They will so trample on uoi that u will regret trying to stand up to them. I am married for 8 yrs now and I can tell you that it was what you allowed . Be a man ,call your wife and instruct her on what you want not dialogue this thing cus I know there have been dialogues before. secondly ,whether they told you or not you have to swallow your pride for your sanity and inform your people !!!! They should go with you to your in-law and reach some sort of agreement with them .All this is for you to be justified for the next action you are going to take After that ,put your feet down in your house and call the short. keel darling darling for side this time. If the interference continue leave the marriage !! if they drag children leave them for her ,later you will settle that. Start being very carful with this event of wife killing their husband in their sleep ,cus the parents might instruct her to hurt you so as to make you loyal. Be outspoken when you get to ur in-law house don't do that respect thing .let them see you in another way with that they will be shocked that you have that courage compared to who they were seeing before. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by NdiaraIGBO: 6:45am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Ishilove: Go and sit down madam, that guy is absolutely spot on. Marriage is the biggest scam and most married men the world over are unhappy in it. And that is because of today's over selfish, over indulged women. Tell us, what exactly does a man gain from marriage? 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Caseless: 6:54am On Jun 03, 2018 |
3free2:This argument is usually flawed. This is what a judge said to my brother's friend when his case and that of his wife was brought before him. The cited his children as excuse , but he gave a point that shut the judge up for 5 minutes and was left with no option than to dissolve the marriage. Judge: don't divorce because of your children. Him: children can always be the reason to divorce your wife if you think her influence on them could destroy them in the future. Your children will grow up to know it's right to behave like their mother and their maternal grandparents. Liberate yourself. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by anyicash(m): 6:57am On Jun 03, 2018 |
If the problem is not from you or your own family, then flee. |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Fundamentalist: 7:00am On Jun 03, 2018 |
ndindiatu: Since you have a better idea, please table it There is no where power is handed over peacefully . From his explanation his inlwas are running his home , something he doesn't like but yet very shy to express himself . A man is runs the family his way not the father in-law nor mother in-law . To tell them you are in charge begging them is a big mistake as no one begs for power . You need to make a bold statement : send her packing (not divorce) and cease communication for 3 months , everyone will be looking for your attention . Power is grabbed through force even in democracy . 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by sped1oro(m): 7:03am On Jun 03, 2018 |
@ Op, I had similar experience but my wife's mother is just older than me by 10years. She was trying to influence her daughter on certain decisions, and when the issues became unbearable for me. I actually summon my mother in-law and I told her that failure for her to show up for discussion will bring her child back to her house. She couldn't come become of the fear of what I might say but she sent emissary to mediate on the matter. Can you first have the courage to summon your in-laws? If you can do that, you have conquered all fear related to their influence on your marital home. Secondly, during the crisis, my wife attempted to attend a family party and I insisted she must not go. She dared me and left our daughter at home and saying she will attend against my will, I dropped a caveat that once she attend the party, she should forget about coming back to my house and her parent's house should be sufficient for her. Though, her mother called me on phone about the party and bla bla bla but I maintained my position, after some minutes my wife came back and she cried her heart out. That is how to be a man. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by kapelvej: 7:20am On Jun 03, 2018 |
3free2:My friend, I understand where you are coming from, obviuosly, there are other things that you might have not told us, however, i urge you to stand up for what is right. Things like this never happen to men who are strong headed and stubborn. It happens to men who are very considerate and have a conscience. Read these two stories, they may help. https://www.nairaland.com/4447411/wife-finally-moved AND https://www.nairaland.com/4457718/update-wife-finally-moved |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by ashcall(m): 7:23am On Jun 03, 2018 |
3free2:I was in your shoes before.I took the bull by the horn refused visiting them again as well as telling my wife how her mother was turning me to a zombie which I will no longer take.Since then I'm expressing peace as the man of the house |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by helphelp: 7:25am On Jun 03, 2018 |
3free2: Na because say you no get money, you dey hide your face. Go get some bro and come back and thank me later |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 7:26am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Lloydfolarin: GBAMEST! No mind OP he go soon hear am hot |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Sanchez01: 7:28am On Jun 03, 2018 |
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Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by horlumightyy(m): 7:38am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Pipedreams:Wow, powerful exposition. I feel this writeup gan ni, you just wrote everything like asif you downloaded it from my head. |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by MrTour: 7:48am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Op start looking for a new wife esp a black American in their 40s, there are so manyvof them looking for husband. Thank me later |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by kapelvej: 7:48am On Jun 03, 2018 |
ShenTeh:you said it all,reading your post gave me the impression that you are a lady. The truth is that marital problems can be resolved when both parties genuinely want reasonable resolution. In this case, there is nothing much the man can do if the woman is not ready to adjust |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 7:52am On Jun 03, 2018 |
EVILFOREST: True. You found a Unicorn. You are lucky. I love ladies with a non Nigerian funny manipulative mindset 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 8:00am On Jun 03, 2018 |
You deserve more than 10 likes for this I will use my alternates to like this. Ishilove: 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by ojlifa: 8:07am On Jun 03, 2018 |
please we need a future and single parenting raises what i term defective children beside you may be more lucky than myself Ibrahim3307: |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Azumy(f): 8:12am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Pipedreams:Oga I doubt if u are actually been married before??@Op Abeg dis advice is not NYC to take run for Ya previous lyf wit did kinda...... |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 8:15am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Azumy: LMAO. Can a single guy know all these? It won't be nice for you women cos you always want to control and manipulate your man and his family. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by divinelove(m): 8:19am On Jun 03, 2018 |
3free2: DTS what you get when u r a gold digging broke ass Ur wife n her family are definitely influential n wealthy n supports ur family almost always for this to happen. U better endure n shut up bc u can't eat ur cake n have it. DTS d life of a broke jobless married man, u lost ur manhood d day u became unable to provide for ur family |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by id4sho(m): 8:21am On Jun 03, 2018 |
UBGG:Ur brother na COMMANDO. tell him, he's mentoring somebody .No dulling RESPECT TO BIG BRO |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Xisnin(m): 8:39am On Jun 03, 2018 |
UBGG: That she was accepted back shows that she was missed. Nobody accept back a bad options unless they can't get over with. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Xisnin(m): 8:43am On Jun 03, 2018 |
EVILFOREST:Overseas mentality? You are just lucky and I believe you are very tolerant. Overseas mentality promotes independent mind in women which most African men will find repulsive. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by mamawin(f): 9:04am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Pipedreams:I would have argued some of your points but, I want to believe you spoke from experience. BUT not all married men are sad. NO!!! Most men see the handwriting on the wall, at the very beginning of the relationship, but ignore the signs. I just hope the op has enough money to call the bluff of his in-law. I am a woman and I will never allow any member of my family do such to my husband. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Nobody: 9:12am On Jun 03, 2018 |
mamawin: May God increase the oil on your head. You will make a good wife. A woman should stick to her husband and not join his in-laws to bring him down. You spoke well unlike ishilove that has same destructive mentality. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by Ishilove: 9:38am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Pipedreams:How is my thinking destructive? Where in my post did I encourage 3rd party interference in marriages? I simply pointed out your tendency to denigrate the institution of marriage because of your own unpalatable experience |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by WhoBeThisMan: 9:40am On Jun 03, 2018 |
timilehin007:my brother if I tell you mine you go tire. The biggest mistake any woman can make is letting her family run her home. You will only drive the man away. And next thing they would say men are scum 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by timilehin007(m): 9:52am On Jun 03, 2018 |
WhoBeThisMan:Honestly my brother I feel so much better these days. Is she go dey faulty na me go still dey beg her mama make her mama help me beg her o..just cause she knw how much I no fit do without my daughter. Dey go seize my daughter and go her mother side...dey still dey surprise say i fit just move on..her mama now dey use scope beg me...I just let her know she no offend me but I no fit continue with her daughter again. The torture too much for me 1 Like |
Re: My Wife's Family Has Ruined My Home And My Life by 3free2: 9:56am On Jun 03, 2018 |
I won't be the one to initiate a separation. Somehow I feel history is repeating itself. My parents separated when I was in ss1 that was in 1992 my dad sent my mom packing and in less than a year he married another woman and left us to fend for ourselves. We fell from a subject of admiration and envy (for my dad was not poor) to an object of pity then mockery. I and my siblings suddenly found ourselves on the street wandering from one relative to the other begging for what will keep us alive. I'm the eldest and the youngest was just five years old then. If you've never been there you can't ever understand. It was hell as in HELL. Till this day I still wonder how the five of us survived that dark period. By God's grace my children will not suffer what I did when I lived like an orphan. Suddenly, today, I work for a firm, earn a salary, my kids attend good schools and people are like, your family is cute. My children are living in the same world I did before my parents separated. Here lies my problem, the thought of my past repeating itself in the lives of my children scares me silly. It seems my wife and her family has noticed my determination to keep my home intact for the sake of my children. They think I will continue to endure no matter what. A big surprise is coming their way. 4 Likes |
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