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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Next2Bezee(m): 12:03pm On Sep 23, 2018
Les:
traditions are not stupid, they might be abused but they are not, your concern should be those who abuse it and not the tradition itself, you're not wiser than your ancestors!

Where are the ancestors? Yeah, they're dead.

What did they know about Quantum Computing?
What did they know about Astro Physics?
What do they know about the curiosity mars rover?

Yes, I am wiser than them.

If you refuse to move forward with the world, stay in 13th century, but don't drag everyone down with you.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Les: 12:12pm On Sep 23, 2018
majekdom2:
I like this thought. Obviously there is an “abuse” which is obvious. What would you suggest a solution?
enlighten the bride's parents
What were the judgments behind the tradition?
amanda was right when she said its symbolic, a bride can't just leare her family and and jump into another, it signifies a ceremonious transition
What does it signify, what has changed?
What’s the value to the bride’s family and to the new family being joined?
let's just say I won't collect more than 1k as bride price but just do it so I can recognize the union, you just don't take my daughter away from my me, I will just come against that person! tongue
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Kingjames(m): 12:13pm On Sep 23, 2018
to HELL with tradition and bride price
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by frozen70(f): 12:17pm On Sep 23, 2018
Ms Adichie, you don't have to be against some thing that places value on you

Bride price is just to appreciate the parents for nurturing your wife to be, to womanhood

No intending suitors can ever pay the exact amount used or spent in grooming a girl child

Your father collect 10kobo as your bride price

That's his choice and it still fall into the bride price no matter how small the amount is.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Les: 12:17pm On Sep 23, 2018
Next2Bezee:


Where are the ancestors? Yeah, they're dead.

What did they know about Quantum Computing?
What did they know about Astro Physics?
What do they know about the curiosity mars rover?

Yes, I am wiser than them.

If you refuse to move forward with the world, stay in 13th century, but don't drag everyone down with you.
what do you know about the pyramid of Giza? has your knowledge helped you unravel the mysteries of that pyramid? Our ancestors were not illiterates! Well, I'm not talking about knowing things, don't confuse knowledge to wisdom.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Nobody: 12:18pm On Sep 23, 2018
Les:
let's just say I won't collect more than 1k as bride price but just do it so I can recognize the union, you just don't take my daughter away from my me, I will just come against that person! tongue
babes like you na hin men dey rush. Brilliant response, learnt something and I see the argument differently. Thumbs up.
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by uvie66: 12:19pm On Sep 23, 2018
Mrs Adichie, I think one might as well get rid of the whole marriage institution altogether according to you, what is the whole point ? because lower animals don't have to publicly declare their affection towards each other before they pro create. Chimamanda, I can even go further, do you really need to love a woman to pro create ? No. In the western world highly ambitious women sometimes only look for a sperm donor to have babies. So where do we draw the line ? Bride price is part of our culture and it is here to stay. The payment of bride price is not a claim to ownership of the other person, it is symbolic in nature. A man that is asked to pay a heavy bride price does so voluntarily.
The union between a man and a woman in holy matrimony is voluntary. If a woman or a man feels the marriage is not working out he or she is free to leave.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A FORCED UNION SO ALSO IS BRIDE PRICE PAYMENT IS NOT FORCED ON THE MAN.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by MANNABBQGRILLS: 12:20pm On Sep 23, 2018
Birdyclear:
If elders for Village see this news ehh? Them go just dey swear for this my beautiful lady
Why the private message?
What do you want to say that you can't type here?!
BECAREFUL ooo!
Make wetin u dey fine no swallow your head o!

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by mrtomola(m): 12:20pm On Sep 23, 2018
cvigo:

lol your own dey your body

grin
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Nobody: 12:22pm On Sep 23, 2018
MollyBank:


You do realise that bride price in Igbo is not more than one thousand Naira5?

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by mrtomola(m): 12:25pm On Sep 23, 2018
MollyBank:


You do realise that bride price in Igbo is not more than one thousand Naira5?

Are you kidding me !
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by mrtomola(m): 12:27pm On Sep 23, 2018
Earthquake1:


Na lie Uju costs more than Yemi

If you no like am, de go

lol...Who wan marry Yemi before. I beg make una give me Uju make i be like Ricardo Banks (Easy Jeje)
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Next2Bezee(m): 12:28pm On Sep 23, 2018
Les:
what do you know about the pyramid of Giza? has your knowledge helped you unravel the mysteries of that pyramid? Our ancestors were not illiterates! Well, I'm not talking about knowing things, don't confuse knowledge to wisdom.

Who the pyramid epp? What has it contributed to our growth as humans?

In fact, what is it contributing towards the fields of technology and medicine today?

In fact sef, did the ancestors that saw it fit to start some primitive traditions even know anything about the pyramids?

If you like, don't forego that village mentality.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by mrtomola(m): 12:29pm On Sep 23, 2018
goodnessme1:
why are our men running after ibo women leave our cheap ladies here in west.

Who wan Marry Domestic Olosho before....If you wan marry Olosho kuku marry d one wey get level
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by 9inches(m): 12:34pm On Sep 23, 2018
mrtomola:
True talk, especially from Igbo side. I beg i wan marry my Uju without stress of paying bride price in Dollar$ grin
Make I no see your leg cross Head Bridge Onitsha with your poor yansh.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by colossus91(m): 12:35pm On Sep 23, 2018
Princedapace:


No bro. This idea is wrong. What matters in marriage is the love and understanding between the two people.. Wedding shouldn't be expensive. It should be made easy. The list mist families present is outrageous.. Infact it was never like this in the past.

Ask ur parents, wedding was not this expensive back then. Something is wrong somewhere now and elders and families are taking advantage of this, especially in poor homes..

I had a lady I loved so much and she loved me too but we couldn't marry becus of the marriage rite lists.

Today, I'm getting married to some one I love less.. She her self got married to another guy who could afford the traditional marriage rite but she is not happy. She tells me that.
U see stuff like this are the reason many young people marry partners they aren't too fond of..

Just the way we spend so much money to bury the dead. Pls there are things we shouldn't be doing at this stage..

its not wedding sir iy depends on ghe individuals
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Nobody: 12:37pm On Sep 23, 2018
Who's "we" though?

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by sekem: 12:39pm On Sep 23, 2018
Kingosytex:
coming from a die-hard feminist. so because u aren't in support of bride price it should be thrown into the waste bin. na wa o!!

But guy wait may we reason am fess

Wetin dey good about bride price at all at all?

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by mrtomola(m): 12:40pm On Sep 23, 2018
9inches:

Make I no see your leg cross Head Bridge Onitsha with your poor yansh.

Lol, Naa wah for you o....Who wan cross Bridge before....Naa Davido Private Jet we dey carry come grin.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Drabrah(m): 12:43pm On Sep 23, 2018
Ayodele70:
Nigerian writer, speaker, and activist, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has weighed in on the idea of bride price in Nigerian marriages.

She had an evening with some young people in Lagos yesterday, and someone asked a question about bride price.

According to her, her dad didn't receive any bride price during her wedding, he just collected 10kobo to make it symbolic.

She also revealed she is not a fan of bride price because it ruins things.

She said'

"I am not a fan of bride price. I think we should get rid of the whole idea of money in marriage, it ruins things. We are not selling anybody".

Watch the videos here; https://www.amagitesblog.com/2018/09/i-am-not-a-fan-of-bride-price-we-should-get-rid-of-it-chimamanda-adichie.html





Ayam not understanding. Her dad didn't collect bride price, buh he collected 10kobo. Money for what na?
Same way she's bn twisting English to deceive d gullible abt her feminism hypotheses.
Truth is, what works for "A" ll not necessarily work for "B".
Only God knows how many families they've destroyed while enjoying their own family.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Martin0(m): 12:43pm On Sep 23, 2018
trustyshoess:
Who's "we" though?

fine girl with long nose and small mouthgrin
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Nobody: 12:48pm On Sep 23, 2018
Ayodele70:
Nigerian writer, speaker, and activist, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has weighed in on the idea of bride price in Nigerian marriages.

She had an evening with some young people in Lagos yesterday, and someone asked a question about bride price.

According to her, her dad didn't receive any bride price during her wedding, he just collected 10kobo to make it symbolic.

She also revealed she is not a fan of bride price because it ruins things.

She said'

"I am not a fan of bride price. I think we should get rid of the whole idea of money in marriage, it ruins things. We are not selling anybody".

Watch the videos here; https://www.amagitesblog.com/2018/09/i-am-not-a-fan-of-bride-price-we-should-get-rid-of-it-chimamanda-adichie.html

I hope dis mumu knows that indians also pay bride price and they are not cnmplaining.feminists are just plain stupid.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Martin0(m): 12:49pm On Sep 23, 2018
trustyshoess:
Who's "we" though?

Ultimate77 abeg i dash you this girl, nor fear to toast her oogrin
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Debra911(f): 12:54pm On Sep 23, 2018
Colourich:
Igbo culture has made it mandatory that the parents collect bride price, it is a symbol of selling their daughter to the man, though these days they use ceremony to cover the whole thing and make it look as if the woman wasn't sold, but deep down, they all know she was sold to her husband.
This point got me, chai! u Sabi. grin
Colourich:
Igbo culture has made it mandatory that the parents collect bride price, it is a symbol of selling their daughter to the man, though these days they use ceremony to cover the whole thing and make it look as if the woman wasn't sold, but deep down, they all know she was sold to her husband.
This point got me, chai! u Sabi.
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Aniacs(m): 12:57pm On Sep 23, 2018
Ayodele70:
Nigerian writer, speaker, and activist, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has weighed in on the idea of bride price in Nigerian marriages.

She had an evening with some young people in Lagos yesterday, and someone asked a question about bride price.

According to her, her dad didn't receive any bride price during her wedding, he just collected 10kobo to make it symbolic.

She also revealed she is not a fan of bride price because it ruins things.

She said'

"I am not a fan of bride price. I think we should get rid of the whole idea of money in marriage, it ruins things. We are not selling anybody".

Watch the videos here; https://www.amagitesblog.com/2018/09/i-am-not-a-fan-of-bride-price-we-should-get-rid-of-it-chimamanda-adichie.html

just because of you, we should get rid of it, go and die with your stupid opinion

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Joyzuaz: 1:00pm On Sep 23, 2018
donstan18:
Social media opinions cannot change tradition, we should stop deceiving ourselves with these bride price blah blah blah.

If as a man,you are charged higher than you can pay to marry, you simply back-off since you can't afford it, not ranting because of your inability to meet up the needed requirements, afterall some tribes don't charge high.

And as a woman, once a man pay your bride price to wife you, have it in mind that your submissiveness isn't negotiable.

Tradition is tradition and social media can't change it.

Even submissiveness to your parents is negotiable, so stop yarning trash.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by doubledx9ja(m): 1:04pm On Sep 23, 2018
Who Adam pay bride price give when him marry Eve? I wan know oh...grin

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by toye440: 1:07pm On Sep 23, 2018
goodnessme1:
why are our men running after ibo women leave our cheap ladies here in west.
wen una too dey form. Imagine i hv spent yrs searching for Yoruba babe up till now no show. Even u dey wait for Davido u no send me.
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by NickD(m): 1:07pm On Sep 23, 2018
bewla:
yes the one from Igbo land them they sale their pikin
Visit akwaibom igbos are learning where they are. I'm not telling you hearsay they are worse.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Birdyclear: 1:11pm On Sep 23, 2018
post=71452723:

Why the private message?
What do you want to say that you can't type here?!
BECAREFUL ooo!
Make wetin u dey fine no swallow your head o!
I want to give you an insult that can make me to be banned , so accept me at your own pierl

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by toye440: 1:11pm On Sep 23, 2018
mrtomola:


lol...Who wan marry Yemi before. I beg make una give me Uju make i be like Ricardo Banks (Easy Jeje)
Abeg if u find any yemi push am come my way am desperately in search of one.
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by mrtomola(m): 1:11pm On Sep 23, 2018
toye440:

Abeg if u find any yemi push am come my way am desperately in search of one.

i get plenty Yemi o

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