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Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by victor8269: 12:01am On Oct 19, 2018
highchief1:
bro if u have 200m in ur account will not do a small wedding
Oga, give me 2m, I go marry now now
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by flyca: 12:04am On Oct 19, 2018
victor8269:

When you are a walking well, every guy becomes Pencil preek. Go stitch ur River small, you no go hear
Another pencil preeek spotted cheesy
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by jimcaddy(m): 12:12am On Oct 19, 2018
For where? As long as you are in Nigeria, you must spend your life savings to get married...
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by sammiepraise(m): 12:13am On Oct 19, 2018
flyca:
OP, we and Russians (or any other) are different cultures, different ideologies, different religious principles. We have our own way of doing stuff.

We Africans have our heritage and we must be proud if it! We are tied into closely knitted family units. We love to celebrate together as communities. We also mourn together. Economic factors should not be the reason why we would not do what we are supposed to do, especially when we can.

My point is: We must not copy everything we see. We must not be like them!

white wedding is not our culture we copied it from them.
but in Africa we over do everything thing. we always want to show ourselves especially when it comes to anything that involves money.
everybody always want to act rich.
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by flyca: 12:21am On Oct 19, 2018
sammiepraise:


white wedding is not our culture we copied it from them.
but in Africa we over do everything thing. we always want to show ourselves especially when it comes to anything that involves money.
everybody always want to act rich.
That's not what I am talking about, sir.
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by highchief1: 12:25am On Oct 19, 2018
victor8269:

Oga, give me 2m, I go marry now now
no try am o u go gate yourself marriage is expensive to run
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by highchief1: 12:27am On Oct 19, 2018
patoski39:
no b lie, ma guy... but I serious o, roger me sontin nah, at least make boys feel ur presence
weite me directly even if na one black label make I do u
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by victor8269: 12:29am On Oct 19, 2018
highchief1:
no try am o u go gate yourself marriage is expensive to run
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by victor8269: 12:31am On Oct 19, 2018
highchief1:
no try am o u go gate yourself marriage is expensive to run
Is it ur marriage?, U go give me abi u no go give me?
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by highchief1: 12:36am On Oct 19, 2018
victor8269:

Is it ur marriage?, U go give me abi u no go give me?
lol calm down
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by victor8269: 12:37am On Oct 19, 2018
highchief1:
lol calm down
I need to marry fast
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by highchief1: 12:38am On Oct 19, 2018
victor8269:

I need to marry fast
pm me guy let’s talk
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by ucosuagwu(m): 12:54am On Oct 19, 2018
flyca:
OP, we and Russians (or any other) are different cultures, different ideologies, different religious principles. We have our own way of doing stuff.

We Africans have our heritage and we must be proud if it! We are tied into closely knitted family units. We love to celebrate together as communities. We also mourn together. Economic factors should not be the reason why we would not do what we are supposed to do, especially when we can.

My point is: We must not copy everything we see. We must not be like them!

Mourn koh, It's like you don't know Nigerians. People love to celebrate and spend your money but no one will mourn with you, just close family will mourn with you...... Don't be thinking otherwise. undecided undecided undecided
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by ddeola: 2:37am On Oct 19, 2018
Some people are still in bondage of elaborate stuff when life can be sooooo simple

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by stevio(m): 2:41am On Oct 19, 2018
Wake up,you're dreaming grin
MrPlato:
...


My Wedding Will Be Done Out This Country... Will Also Be Very Simple With Very Important Persons To Me and My Woman in Attendance Only... No Loud Music! Soft Jazz, Blues, RnB...


Most Importantly The Joining Will Be Done At 00:00 of January 1st of What Ever Year... A Beautiful Mid-night Blissful Ceremony...



Going To Be Simple But Expensive. Its The Best Start I Can Give To A Woman of Geniune Virue Who Takes Part In My Success Pursuit to The End...


The Rest Part Of Our Lives Will Be Disney's Moto "Happily Ever After"
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by Nobody: 2:49am On Oct 19, 2018
famousbowale:


https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10214263019823362&id=1051636033

Please leave our wedding for us.








Fact is that this same nigerian guy typing this will invite 725 people to his wedding.
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by Zieina(f): 3:35am On Oct 19, 2018
My kind of wedding. So pretty.
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by akdjr(m): 5:21am On Oct 19, 2018
I wonder why people keep wasting money on wedding. I did mine with less than 100k had a reception of less than 20 guest both family and friends.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by Ugosample(m): 7:57am On Oct 19, 2018
flyca:

Stop misquoting me intentionally. Do as you like. By “invite your relatives to celebrate with you”, I did not mean “spend a fortune”. And did I ever mention what or how many weedings you need to have? Osho-free 5 naira husbands everywhere! Hewh! undecided

Cc: Ugosample, Baronnaire, samisj4real, Constantiney

undecided
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by Mrjo(m): 7:58am On Oct 19, 2018
highchief1:
im worth much more than that so it’s no big deal .if u can do 5m in a club for ur bd let alone wedding
club? I dey mad?
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by flyca: 8:19am On Oct 19, 2018
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by Nobody: 8:38am On Oct 19, 2018
[quote author=ImaIma1 post=72210060]


You cannot blame the ladies and leave the man out. Both are meant to be in agreement.
I will still blame ladies. Ask an average lady if she would do just traditional wedding, her reaction alone would many guys to commit suicide. Many of them like flamboyant weddings, they say it is one in a life time experience. An average guy would want just one wedding and probably on a low key but the ladies will not reason that way. Many of them get carried way by what they see around forgetting that there is marriage after wedding.

And the couple cannot be blamed alone. Some tribes make it so difficult when parents want to take over. At least we read here where someone was complaining about his FIL being rigid about the church to use.

I still blame couples because they have say. If they choose not to have church wedding, there is nothing the bride's father can do. This believe of father's blessing is killing many persons silently. I shared a story on this forum of a guy that left his bride on her traditional wedding. Her family were too demanding hence he work out of the party,switched off his and lost contact with his would be in-laws. Even after his in-laws begged him and tried to reduce the wedding cost, he made up his mind not to marry their daughter again. He latter got married to a white lady in Poland.

friend of mine said she was planning for 200 but her MIL said that is her own crowd. That she should make it 450. Family makes things complicated sometimes
200 guest is a crowd, 450 is a community. You friend just wanted to show off. Am sure she doesn't know up to 50 persons yet she planned for 200. She can even reduce the size if she want. On the day of introduction, her groom can just pay the bride price that day and it ends there. No need for plenty ceremony.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by highchief1: 8:40am On Oct 19, 2018
Mrjo:
club? I dey mad?
what about buying one pair of trouser 150k
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by Ugosample(m): 9:01am On Oct 19, 2018
akdjr:
I wonder why people keep wasting money on wedding. I did mine with less than 100k had a reception of less than 20 guest both family and friends.

nice one


you know a lot of Nigerians are cowards who can't stand up to their parents and family in general (cultural bondage)

but then wetin concern me?

everyone should do as they like

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by ImaIma1(f): 9:27am On Oct 19, 2018
[quote author=asuustrike1 post=72219567][/quote]

The 50 people she was planning for was for her and her husband...not just her.

I know a lot of people that don't want or didn't wamt flamboyant weddings. My sister for one had only a traditional marriage and went to court. I had a white wedding of just 100 people.

Another friend did court and parlour party. It just depends on the people and if their parents can be open minded. Infact, another one did a strictly by IV wedding in a restaurant and i wasn't invited...i vexed but got over it.

People date high maintenance girls and then expect her to be cheap. They should date people with like minds.
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by princfred(m): 9:28am On Oct 19, 2018
ozoneymcm:

I don't like it when Africans complain about their culture. When your children grow up and start saying "Bleep you daddy" , you will now be seeking African way. Do your wedding the African way. The money you spend depends on what you have. I have to accept that our weddings cost too much but that's the way we are. Never use the American way as standard for your deeds
Is white marriage an African culture?
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by Nobody: 9:31am On Oct 19, 2018
ImaIma1:


The 50 people she was planning for was for her and her husband...not just her.

I know a lot of people that don't want or didn't wamt flamboyant weddings. My sister for one had only a traditional marriage and went to court. I had a white wedding of just 100 people.

Another friend did court and parlour party. It just depends on the people and if their parents can be open minded. Infact, another one did a strictly by IV wedding in a restaurant and i wasn't invited...i vexed but got over it.

People date high maintenance girls and then expect her to be cheap. They should date people with like minds.
I agree with you
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by bigl: 10:06am On Oct 19, 2018
famousbowale:
Hello guyz, sorry for been the first to comment on my own post.

I'm currently planning for my wedding towards March next year. My self and my wife to be are trying to keep it as simple as possible, if possible just for family members and friends of about 250.
Believe it before I could say jack our budget is already hitting #3.2 million.

The post above was share by a Nigerian base abroad, this made me begin to wonder if it is necessary to even wed at all?
Why spend our hard earned money on wedding of a day?
That money can get us a land or start a little business.
Just thinking lipsrsealed embarassed embarassed


Ogbeni, carry your wife go registry joor.

U won't even spend N100k.

Then do traditional just to fulfil cultural righteousness. U spend max 300k but you must learn to behave like someone wey smoke the wrong weed and adulterated cocaine or else, your inlaws will put you in to serious financial mess, which you might never recover.

3.2 Million for kini? Nonsense.

See if u have that kind of money, go and build a house and if u have already built, buy yourself a good car. And if u have that already, omo, put am for your business.

Don't spend more than N500k cos anything can happen tomorrow. What if she divorces u?

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by ImaIma1(f): 10:07am On Oct 19, 2018
asuustrike1:

I agree with you


Are you married? If no, what kind of wedding do you plan on doing?
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by Nobody: 12:01pm On Oct 19, 2018
highchief1:
weite me directly even if na one black label make I do u
I JST pm u
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by ferhyntorlah(f): 1:17pm On Oct 19, 2018
Derawiz:

Life is very simple but people just complicate things unnecessarily, well my goal in life is to live a life of simplicity and my spouse must also be someone of like mind

At the bolded, that's my view as well.

Well said sir.
Re: Why Can't I Have A Simple Wedding Like This? #3.2 Million Is Just Unnecesary by ozoneymcm: 3:04pm On Oct 19, 2018
princfred:
Is white marriage an African culture?
The op didn't have to add that traditional wedding is included hence extra expenses which wouldn't be included if an American was getting married. Even during the wedding reception, amala, pounded yam, fresh fish etc will be included. That is what we are talking abbout

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