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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by adagba001: 11:20am On Apr 18, 2019
Everyday I wake up to further realise how fvcked up this whole love thing is... Both male and female... It is just fvcked up,...

Put your self together man.... It is what it is.....

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by patani(m): 11:22am On Apr 18, 2019
comradee1248:
We got married in 2013, by 2015 I had a very terrible accident that shattered one of my leg, so I've been down since then, even though the treatment will soon be over, I did up to 6 surgeries costing quite a fotune, which my people paid.

I work with a very reputable Paramilitary organization, my salary has never been stopped.
I have never failed to provide the basic necessities in the house, even bought my own 2 bedroom flat in the process.


My wife gets angry at the slightest oppotunity..
She told me 2 times that the only reason she's still with me is our two kids...

The 1st time I didn't take it serious but the 2nd time she said it I knew I have to think twice over it.

I know I will bounce back to life and use my legs again in few weeks from now.

My plan is to pack my kids and leave her alone...

What do you Suggest I do.

Thanks

Sorry to hear about your predicament bro...God heal your marriage and give it peace!!

by the way, I think i know your wife(Sorry if I was wrong, she attended a university staring with L)...If yes, Like I said..God heal your home...Divorce is not the best option, we all get emotional sometimes and react in an irrational way to our spouses and it does nt mean we do not love them.....She may just be tired of the whole situation for now I guess

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by PeachtreeReside(f): 11:24am On Apr 18, 2019
It's not easy looking after an invalid . And doing it alone. It's very frustrating .

Get her a therapist to talk to her and know why she said it.

Don't be hasty in divorcing her.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by RTSC: 11:25am On Apr 18, 2019
munas:


Take them and leave for where?

You think if they divorce,then the man will be allowed to keep the children abi?

All these nairaland children self.

Any little thing go away,drive her,divorce her ,do DNA....bla bla bla rubbish.


Marriage is more than keeping a woman at home to Bleep as you wish.

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The woman will take his children in this Nigeria?
I agree. You are as naive as a child.

Stick to watching Hollywood movies and don't bother with issues beyond you.

You know nothing.
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Shugargal(f): 11:28am On Apr 18, 2019
15ssDRIVE:
Boss.
Abeg Abeg Abeg, cool down for Jesus. Since 2013 till now,she no leave!

Now wey e remain weeks for your to walk,you wan leave with the kids?

What if the doctor tell you again,that you need another 6 months ? Then you will need her again?

Money is different and caring is the main thing.

Think oh ...... think well-well. She might have her own Bleep ups,but you tell me .... U no get Bleep up ?

Call her home,talk to her like you daughter,ur sister,ur aunt,your Mom and finally like your loving darling wifey.
Ask here reason for those: words.
Ask where did you get it wrong?
What can be done for amendments.....

No mind people wey dey tell you say... kut her head,shootttt her. Their own case worst pass this matter wey dey ground .
Good advice here, You don't just have to keep quiet after her statement, You must talk about it, since she didn't leave since 2013,is it now that you're almost fine she wanna leave, Bros something is wrong and this is time for you to discuss, normal theory discus oh. wish you quickest recovery.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Leonel55(m): 11:33am On Apr 18, 2019
Dude, I feel your pain but you shouldn't be seeking marital advice on Nairaland cos anyone with any chance of giving you good advice on what to do would need to:
(1) have a lot more detail about recent & past events leading to this point in the marriage, in a direct, one on one conversation,
(2) be very knowledgeable in the art of marriage counseling either by training or long term experience.

You should know that your marriage is living thing and ending it is akin to a human committing suicide. Since ending a life is not taken lightly, any attempt by either party to end their marriage, which as I said, is a living thing, shouldn't either.

Nevertheless, it would be safe to say that every attempt should be made to find out the exact time or period where it turned sour (for your wife). You can achieve this either through deep thinking on the past events in your marriage or better still, working with a trained marriage counselor, or even an experienced Clergy. Finding out this detail would help you make a better decision.

Don't forget to take it to God in prayer. He can help you make the best decision for the sake of your marriage and your kids.

I pray you find the help you need at this time.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by smallatobs(m): 11:34am On Apr 18, 2019
Bi enipe O ti lo Ogun e loni. (You have not use your drug today)
comradee1248:
We got married in 2013, by 2015 I had a very terrible accident that shattered one of my leg, so I've been down since then, even though the treatment will soon be over, I did up to 6 surgeries costing quite a fotune, which my people paid.

I work with a very reputable Paramilitary organization, my salary has never been stopped.
I have never failed to provide the basic necessities in the house, even bought my own 2 bedroom flat in the process.


My wife gets angry at the slightest oppotunity..
She told me 2 times that the only reason she's still with me is our two kids...

The 1st time I didn't take it serious but the 2nd time she said it I knew I have to think twice over it.

I know I will bounce back to life and use my legs again in few weeks from now.

My plan is to pack my kids and leave her alone...

What do you Suggest I do.

Thanks
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Vyolet(f): 11:36am On Apr 18, 2019
RTSC:
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The woman will take his children in this Nigeria?
I agree. You are as naive as a child.

Stick to watching Hollywood movies and don't bother with issues beyond you.

You know nothing.
We know some things don't work in Nigeria, but cases of who takes child custody when there is separation is always well taken care of in Nigeria.
In most cases, the woman always gets custody while the man pays certain amount monthly for the child upkeep.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by trapQ: 11:41am On Apr 18, 2019
Why are you people so stupid?
dicksonadams:
1, the woman is already getting bleeped outside

2, she can kill you to be rid of you

3, run... Run... Run

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by trapQ: 11:44am On Apr 18, 2019
Seems like you think you're in the Stone age.

Just for your information, Mike Adenuga's son's babymama fought for her kid and gained custody. Guess what? He kidnapped the child while at school one day and is currently facing kidnap charges.

I pity you if you think you can take any child away from her mother when the mother is not an illiterate.
RTSC:
[right][/right]
The woman will take his children in this Nigeria?
I agree. You are as naive as a child.

Stick to watching Hollywood movies and don't bother with issues beyond you.

You know nothing.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by exlink10(m): 11:44am On Apr 18, 2019
Amakavula:
She meant it , she meant everything !! The truth is she now resent you for losing your legs, but there is an underlining context to that resentment. what did you do when you lost your legs ?

How did you react. Did you also panicked and was wishing to die while she comfort you or you took it as a man and even encouraged her about the future.

Women never like to be in charge, we may say it but actions never reaffirm that statement. Losing your legs is bringing out those fears.


Depends on the kind of woman tho, my wife likes to be in charge, in fact I hate to admit it, she is a better manager than me.

Hell, she even earns more than me. And as long as being in charge goes, if she have a way of making me or forcing me to stop work and rest so she could take care of things, she would have done that.

She has even begged me to stop work before but as a man, I don't feel relevant in a marriage where am not contributing financially, it won't work.
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by wifeesnatcher(m): 11:45am On Apr 18, 2019
munas:


I am a man...

Married for good 10yrs.

All you single people all over Nairaland will be shouting.... i cant take that rubish.....do DNA bla bla.

You have not live with a woman for 2yrs and you are giving marital advice.

Almost 90% of women has said that in their marriage.

But that does not in anyway mean they are cheating or they intend to cheat.

They are only reacting to emotional trauma that may have arise due to pressure in the marriage.

The man needs to fix the pressure pint and all will be fine.

Listen: If push comes to shoves,he will lose those children to the woman till they are 18yrs


So you're married for 10yrs is an achievement. Man you need to man up. I can tell you many single have experience than you in marriage


I have stay with many married couples during my school days and I have many friends who are married so what the fvck are you explaining ?


How does your being married for 10yrs prove you have experience more than I do. Someone feel dey bang your wife outside without you knowinf just because you don't believe ladies heart are flexible and this flexibility makes them unpredictable. They'd some things in which they regret doing most time, they don't have independent mind like us. Cease to do what you're doing to her and find out later if she won't market herself outside. I have a friend that dated a married lady, they had child together and the Lady had to gave the pregnancy to her husband without telling the guy, na when the baby was sick her husband got to know. So if your wife is telling you that he stay because of kids if u like no do necessary things dey form


Your 10yrs marriage experience is far below. You need to be school properly

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Nobody: 11:50am On Apr 18, 2019
iswallker:
What's kind of fake stories are these..

He works for paramilitary and is spending a fortune on broken leg and he bought bungalow in the process.. undecided

See this guy. Do you know how much these immigration officers (not the ones standing on the road o) make? Ive gone to do an Int'l passport, I paid 25K (standard for everyone I guess), the official receipt registered 8K, where did the remaining 17K go to?

Do you know how much customs guys make from bribes for clearing of goods? A case study is the APAPA wharf gridlock, do you know truck drivers have to pay sums reaching tens of thousands as bribes just to get a bias for thoroughfare to do whatever they have to do there if not they might be stranded for many days?
With corruption a lot is possible

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by LilMissFavvy(f): 11:56am On Apr 18, 2019
So you aren't aware that they do? The man should support as well, that's my point.
Obodo999:


Why can't a woman financially support her own kids too?
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by gentlesmithugo(m): 11:56am On Apr 18, 2019
lefulefu:
someone is probably smashing ur wife and u asking weda to leave her or not.the choice remains wit u weda to stay or leave but know 4 sure wen ur woman is showing u attitude then another man is slamming her silly in za oza room.

;;;
grow up boy.stop talking rubbish
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by gentlesmithugo(m): 11:58am On Apr 18, 2019
iRepNaija1:


Okay. So, according to you, you're financially providing for your family. But are you doing more than that? Some men seem to think that if they give the basics of what a husband is "supposed" to, they've done enough. But that's not necessarily the case. Consider the following:
Do you help with the errands around the house?
Do you help with your kids' homework, the schools runs, the chores for the children?
Do you take her out to dinner once in a while?
Do you guys have weekly date nights?
Have you bought her a small trinket just because? What about flowers?
When was the last time you told her she was beautiful/hot/sexy? Do you make her feel desired?
Do you remind her why you had to have her as your wife?
Have you taken her on a trip? Did you guys have a honeymoon?

Maybe you're doing the aforementioned. Maybe not. We only know your side of the story. But packing up and taking the children you have together should not be your first choice. Who are you to even take her kids away from her? That's a red flag right there. Go talk your wife and work it out.
absolute thrash, will he do those things in sick bed.u be confirm pussy ass nigga

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by smarttm: 12:08pm On Apr 18, 2019
[quote author=comradee1248 post=77621297]We got married in 2013, by 2015 I had a very terrible accident that shattered one of my leg, so I've been down since then, even though the treatment will soon be over, I did up to 6 surgeries costing quite a fotune, which my people paid.

I work with a very reputable Paramilitary organization, my salary has never been stopped.
I have never failed to provide the basic necessities in the house, even bought my own 2 bedroom flat in the process.


My wife gets angry at the slightest oppotunity..
She told me 2 times that the only reason she's still with me is our two kids...

The 1st time I didn't take it serious but the 2nd time she said it I knew I have to think twice over it.

I know I will bounce back to life and use my legs again in few weeks from now.

My plan is to pack my kids and leave her alone...

What do you Suggest I do.

Thanks


my man she can't just say that,you know your wife more than anyone here...no one can tell you how to handle your family issues...
running away will never stop any other lady from telling you same words...SOLVE IT AND MAKE HER HAPPY AGAIN
A good husband should know how to make her angry and happy...

i know my heart will see this...you know i know i love...
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by iTearHerToto: 12:09pm On Apr 18, 2019
Riyadhgoddess36:





I dey for front. Just opposite the altar
Shey we gonna hangout after
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Nobody: 12:13pm On Apr 18, 2019
gloria34:
You soak head for groundnut oil this morning abi? Husband and wife quarrel all the time and you think because words were exchanged then she is cheating? So he didnt say anything and the woman just said that because she is mad ni? Let him divorce her na, i Sorry for women when still they fear divorce for this century. He said he will leave with the children? I will drag you to court and fight for custordy. Have they not been quarreling since he had the accident? But na now when he is almost better that he wants to leave, why not leave since? Cause he needs the woman but now making excuses. Divorce her and let her go and live her life, obviously she is Tired of you also
person wife tell am say she's just staying coz of d kids is as well as telling him she already has a better option.any man wey wise knows discheesy. Op better start getting ready for her departure cos one mornin im go open eye and im wife go waka leave am. I know its painful wen someone's spouse dumps him or her but then it happens all d time.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Nobody: 12:16pm On Apr 18, 2019
15ssDRIVE:
Boss.
Abeg Abeg Abeg, cool down for Jesus. Since 2013 till now,she no leave!

Now wey e remain weeks for your to walk,you wan leave with the kids?

What if the doctor tell you again,that you need another 6 months ? Then you will need her again?

Money is different and caring is the main thing.

Think oh ...... think well-well. She might have her own Bleep ups,but you tell me .... U no get Bleep up ?

Call her home,talk to her like you daughter,ur sister,ur aunt,your Mom and finally like your loving darling wifey.
Ask here reason for those: words.
Ask where did you get it wrong?
What can be done for amendments.....

No mind people wey dey tell you say... kut her head,shootttt her. Their own case worst pass this matter wey dey ground .
Dont i just love you?

Your type will never break people's home.

Dont mind all this nl people that knows how to break and not to fix.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Oyindidi(f): 12:22pm On Apr 18, 2019
comradee1248:
We got married in 2013, by 2015 I had a very terrible accident that shattered one of my leg, so I've been down since then, even though the treatment will soon be over, I did up to 6 surgeries costing quite a fotune, which my people paid.

I work with a very reputable Paramilitary organization, my salary has never been stopped.
I have never failed to provide the basic necessities in the house, even bought my own 2 bedroom flat in the process.


My wife gets angry at the slightest oppotunity..
She told me 2 times that the only reason she's still with me is our two kids...

The 1st time I didn't take it serious but the 2nd time she said it I knew I have to think twice over it.

I know I will bounce back to life and use my legs again in few weeks from now.

My plan is to pack my kids and leave her alone...

What do you Suggest I do.

Thanks
Every woman make comment like this once or twice in marriage. Tell us why you want pack leave forget this plenty grammar

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Nobody: 12:22pm On Apr 18, 2019
gloria34:
. Divorce her and let her go and live her life, obviously she is Tired of you also
when her ex based in malaysia don already dey hala her why wont she be tired of her current husby cheesy. I remember a story wey one guy tell me of im uncle friend or so wey im wife dump him and d kids and run off with her ex who is based in dubai.
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by lorhema(f): 12:23pm On Apr 18, 2019
15ssDRIVE:
Boss.
Abeg Abeg Abeg, cool down for Jesus. Since 2013 till now,she no leave!

Now wey e remain weeks for your to walk,you wan leave with the kids?

What if the doctor tell you again,that you need another 6 months ? Then you will need her again?

Money is different and caring is the main thing.

Think oh ...... think well-well. She might have her own Bleep ups,but you tell me .... U no get Bleep up ?

Call her home,talk to her like you daughter,ur sister,ur aunt,your Mom and finally like your loving darling wifey.
Ask here reason for those: words.
Ask where did you get it wrong?
What can be done for amendments.....

No mind people wey dey tell you say... kut her head,shootttt her. Their own case worst pass this matter wey dey ground .
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Jamiedani: 12:33pm On Apr 18, 2019
Damn!!! Some pookie and Ray ray is definitely digging her guts out grin. Probably you were just a beta male provider when you were whole and now, pheew she's lost. THEY ALL CHEAT, MAN. That's the bitter truth. She's being too honest by telling you about the only option you have.

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Nobody: 12:35pm On Apr 18, 2019
Eau de mad abi Eau de craze?

iTearHerToto:
Was she like that when your shattered legs were still intact? If NO then answer the following ;

1. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

2. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

3. Do you still bang her well the way you used to when you were whole

If your answers are NO then you're in for it cos she might do worse

These Hoes don't joke with good sex and the moment they can't get that from you they go on a search and if unfortunately for you they find a solution then you are a loserangry

Someone is already fvckiing your wife stupidly angry.

Forget all these you're not whole or strong enough crap, forget about money, cos they don't care. The only thing they care most about is to get banged well.. What's my own with bang sef It's Fvck, I say fvck them well and they will love you forever even if you are headless sad

It's either you do the needful and stand a chance to revive your deceased Love or run like a coward angry

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Nobody: 12:38pm On Apr 18, 2019
Mace0lane:
Common sense should tell you the woman saying all this nonsense about poo is a die hard career orientated pathetic liar. No woman in this life will have the temperament to make complaint such as this n still stay with the men except you are the barefaced liar. Can you imagine such a foolish senseless lie.



And you are not making any sense at all. As in, no sense rara. See how you just sat down and conjured facts on your own.

Women endure a lot!
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by maasoap(m): 12:40pm On Apr 18, 2019
15ssDRIVE:
Boss.
Abeg Abeg Abeg, cool down for Jesus. Since 2013 till now,she no leave!

Now wey e remain weeks for your to walk,you wan leave with the kids?

What if the doctor tell you again,that you need another 6 months ? Then you will need her again?

Money is different and caring is the main thing.

Think oh ...... think well-well. She might have her own Bleep ups,but you tell me .... U no get Bleep up ?

Call her home,talk to her like you daughter,ur sister,ur aunt,your Mom and finally like your loving darling wifey.
Ask here reason for those: words.
Ask where did you get it wrong?
What can be done for amendments.....

No mind people wey dey tell you say... kut her head,shootttt her. Their own case worst pass this matter wey dey ground .

The only thing that is tying that woman down is not the kids but the guy's salary that never stopped coming. The love is dead, long dead. Telling her hubby to his face repeatedly at slightest provocation that kind of rubbish is not something one should treat with levity

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by mechanics(m): 12:41pm On Apr 18, 2019
Packing out won't be the solution, you need to fight for your wife in prayers.
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Nobody: 12:42pm On Apr 18, 2019
Nairaland is the worst place to ask for relationship advice.

Many of them here are jobless, pained kids and singl. They know nothing about relationship.

Better call her family over for a family talk. They'll be able to ask her what her problems are. No just answer anybody on this nairaland forum again.

comradee1248:
We got married in 2013, by 2015 I had a very terrible accident that shattered one of my leg, so I've been down since then, even though the treatment will soon be over, I did up to 6 surgeries costing quite a fotune, which my people paid.

I work with a very reputable Paramilitary organization, my salary has never been stopped.
I have never failed to provide the basic necessities in the house, even bought my own 2 bedroom flat in the process.


My wife gets angry at the slightest oppotunity..
She told me 2 times that the only reason she's still with me is our two kids...

The 1st time I didn't take it serious but the 2nd time she said it I knew I have to think twice over it.

I know I will bounce back to life and use my legs again in few weeks from now.

My plan is to pack my kids and leave her alone...

What do you Suggest I do.

Thanks
Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by Nobody: 12:50pm On Apr 18, 2019
I have said this before that people should not seek relationships advice on Nairaland. Too many useless kids on this forum. If you listen to them your marriage go crash. All they know is sex and Bleep and DNA test. Most of them here are virgins and the rest dont have girlfriend's not to talk of wife. Majority of them are likely under 25 years old.

munas:


I am a man...

Married for good 10yrs.

All you single people all over Nairaland will be shouting.... i cant take that rubish.....do DNA bla bla.

You have not live with a woman for 2yrs and you are giving marital advice.

Almost 90% of women has said that in their marriage.

But that does not in anyway mean they are cheating or they intend to cheat.

They are only reacting to emotional trauma that may have arise due to pressure in the marriage.

The man needs to fix the pressure pint and all will be fine.

Listen: If push comes to shoves,he will lose those children to the woman till they are 18yrs

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Re: My Wife Told Me The Only Reason She's Still With Me Is Because Of Our 2 Kids by oglalasioux(m): 12:53pm On Apr 18, 2019
For those who are yet to get married, please don't. You'll only reap pains. We can make children without getting into that circle of deceit.

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