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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by Ofemini(m): 7:47pm On Feb 22, 2020
Op, your patience is really a virtue and I must commend your maturity in dealing with the situation. Please you must ensure that he doesn't take you for granted but don't hold his sins against him. I feel strongly that the man is frustrated by circumstances in his life and he needs help and all the love he can get despite his attitude. Please pray for him. I noticed you didn't mention anything about his kids, I hope they are not childless. I must really commend your wife for her tolerance and maturity. She is truly a great woman and a peace loving fellow, try not to ignore her counsels, You both are a great match and your Union will go far.
All the best!!

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by Sirk2018: 7:52pm On Feb 22, 2020
Nice one
Re: My Hostile Neighbor by MrPaul2: 7:52pm On Feb 22, 2020
Davash222:
Op, you sef dull, walai.
Your fellow man hit you in your wife’s presence and you couldn’t do anything. Shame no gree you to say when next he hit you again, you’re going to lock him up. You’re even waiting for him to hit you again. Imagine
You’re too calm on him hence he’s taking that leverage. You fight fire with fire! You’re a young man, you need to exercise your young blood on that man, that’s the only way you’ll have peace in that compound.


Please, don’t allow your fellow man to mess you up in your wife’s presence.
God go bless you. if na me, he will loss some teeth that minute he raise his hand on my face, except I am no longer from Edo. and for that cage in my parking space, he will go look for it in our waste bin, because I MUST PARK in my usual space.
Re: My Hostile Neighbor by bendazum: 7:56pm On Feb 22, 2020
Davash222:
Op, you sef dull, walai.
Your fellow man hit you in your wife’s presence and you couldn’t do anything. Shame no gree you to say when next he hit you again, you’re going to lock him up. You’re even waiting for him to hit you again. Imagine
You’re too calm on him hence he’s taking that leverage. You fight fire with fire! You’re a young man, you need to exercise your young blood on that man, that’s the only way you’ll have peace in that compound.


Please, don’t allow your fellow man to mess you up in your wife’s presence.

Just one push can send that man to the after life. He's looking for a scape goat to kill him.

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by Sirk2018: 7:57pm On Feb 22, 2020
Interesting
Ofemini:
Op, your patience is really a virtue and I must commend your maturity in dealing with the situation. Please you must ensure that he doesn't take you for granted but don't hold his sins against him. I feel strongly that the man is frustrated by circumstances in his life and he needs help and all the love he can get despite his attitude. Please pray for him. I noticed you didn't mention anything about his kids, I hope they are not childless. I must really commend your wife for her tolerance and maturity. She is truly a great woman and a peace loving fellow, try not to ignore her counsels, You both are a great match and your Union will go far.
All the best!!
Ofemini:
Op, your patience is really a virtue and I must commend your maturity in dealing with the situation. Please you must ensure that he doesn't take you for granted but don't hold his sins against him. I feel strongly that the man is frustrated by circumstances in his life and he needs help and all the love he can get despite his attitude. Please pray for him. I noticed you didn't mention anything about his kids, I hope they are not childless. I must really commend your wife for her tolerance and maturity. She is truly a great woman and a peace loving fellow, try not to ignore her counsels, You both are a great match and your Union will go far.
All the best!!
Re: My Hostile Neighbor by bendazum: 7:57pm On Feb 22, 2020
Froshloaded:
Your Neighbor is a Madman, grin grin


Modified
But if I was you oo
The man will be getting drips and stitches in the hospital

You can't be him. That's how one guy almost made me commit murder.

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by mechanics(m): 8:00pm On Feb 22, 2020
It's well sir, that's the problem of some irresponsible tenants, if it's not light or water bill issue, it will be something else, the best thing is for one to plan and have his or her own personal house, in that way, one will have rest of mind.

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by writeprof(m): 8:02pm On Feb 22, 2020
I think you have demonstrated maturity in handling the guy so far. Like someone said let the caretaker and landlord be involved but never try to go physical with him. since, he has attempted to raise his hands to hit you once, be very wary of him, as I see him as somebody who is envious and jealous and these could make him a very dangerous person to live with.

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by Froshloaded: 8:03pm On Feb 22, 2020
grin grin
bendazum:


You can't be him. That's how one guy almost made me commit murder.
Okay Baby,
So you will stay and be looking abii

Re: My Hostile Neighbor by morgan100(m): 8:05pm On Feb 22, 2020
Ofemini:
Op, your patience is really a virtue and I must commend your maturity in dealing with the situation. Please you must ensure that he doesn't take you for granted but don't hold his sins against him. I feel strongly that the man is frustrated by circumstances in his life and he needs help and all the love he can get despite his attitude. Please pray for him. I noticed you didn't mention anything about his kids, I hope they are not childless. I must really commend your wife for her tolerance and maturity. She is truly a great woman and a peace loving fellow, try not to ignore her counsels, You both are a great match and your Union will go far.
All the best!!

Thanks Sir, I really appreciate ur advice, thank God someone can see reasons with me, he has two sons, the fact that I was quite with him was because I was only tolerating him, but he has pushed me to the wall, and this time around, I won't take that from him anymore.

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by morgan100(m): 8:08pm On Feb 22, 2020
writeprof:
I think you have demonstrated maturity in handling the guy so far. Like someone said let the caretaker and landlord be involved but never try to go physical with him. since, he has attempted to raise his hands to hit you once, be very wary of him, as I see him as somebody who is envious and jealous and these could make him a very dangerous person to live with.

Waow Exertly, that's what someone said, that he is been jealous and envious , I don't know what he is envious or jealous about...

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by armadeo(m): 9:17pm On Feb 22, 2020
Froshloaded:
Your Neighbor is a Madman, grin grin


Modified
But if I was you oo
The man will be getting drips and stitches in the hospital



That's why I love my crib..

No landlord. All man for himself.


Nobody can do this shit with me. The first time you try it will be the last. After that na good morning, good morning we go dey do.

Co tenant slap me. Dem no born am well

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by BRATISLAVA: 9:38pm On Feb 22, 2020
morgan100:

This one is not even a owner of the house, and it's not about asking me for money, I don't know what his problem is

Wizardry. That's all it is. cheesy

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by stubbornman(m): 10:04pm On Feb 22, 2020
morgan100:

That's the number one plan I have for him

Guy shey nah skirt you dey wear go work because even my 14yr old sister no go take this bullshit..... Neighbor wey I for don give confirm nodding for nose make he bleed !!!
Re: My Hostile Neighbor by Karac: 10:11pm On Feb 22, 2020
He saw u as a mumu as per d way u were always running downstairs to meet him and leveraged on that grin

But no be say I dey call you mumu sha oo just that e get as e be grin grin
Re: My Hostile Neighbor by XklusivGistBlog(m): 10:40pm On Feb 22, 2020
Davash222:
Op, you sef dull, walai.
Your fellow man hit you in your wife’s presence and you couldn’t do anything. Shame no gree you to say when next he hit you again, you’re going to lock him up. You’re even waiting for him to hit you again. Imagine
You’re too calm on him hence he’s taking that leverage. You fight fire with fire! You’re a young man, you need to exercise your young blood on that man, that’s the only way you’ll have peace in that compound.


Please, don’t allow your fellow man to mess you up in your wife’s presence.

Wrong advice
Re: My Hostile Neighbor by madgoat(m): 10:45pm On Feb 22, 2020
morgan100:

My wife was happy I didn't hit him back, not that I can't fight back, I was only respecting him initially because he was older than I do, and besides am not used to fighting unnecessarily, I only wanted to use the right means to deal with him, of which if I knew my wife won't allow me to arrest him, I would have hit mine back in a very hard way self, so not that I can't do anything.

Baba thank God you didnt hit him. What if u had hit him and he slumped? Dont you know you would be in serious trouble? Some people are just looking for who will send them to early grave, dont give him that opportunity. Look you have done well by being patient and trying to be lawful. I suggest u continue that way; dont get confrontational with him and if he ever causes trouble again or assaults u, plz dont get physical with him, just report him at the police station and if possible file charges against him so its a court case. Also inform the landlord of the assault if it happens.

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by Slimsly100(f): 1:05am On Feb 23, 2020
morgan100:

This one is not even a owner of the house, and it's not about asking me for money, I don't know what his problem is

Joblessness, frustration, envy, are his problem

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by Nobody: 1:47am On Feb 23, 2020
Don't lay your hands on him whenever he provokes you, just ignore him completely. You wouldn't know maybe he's looking for someone to take him to his grave.

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by SavageMaster: 2:16am On Feb 23, 2020
morgan100:
Sorry that this might be lengthy, but that’s just the only way I can cover what happened.

Around March last year, I needed an accommodation where I can bring in my wife because we were getting married. I use to live in one room self-contain, but due to the fact that I was getting married, I needed a flat. Just within my area, there is this apartment that I really love, the house is just 4 flats, so I decide to make inquiries about the house. On that very day, I went to the house, I met a man who claimed to be in-charge of the house and also claimed to be an occupant in the house.

I asked if there was any vacant space he said yes, how much? He told me the price, but asked if am the one that wants to secure the apartment, I said yes, He told me he cannot give the house to someone who is not married and someone who is a yahoo boy. I don’t know why he thought I was a yahoo boy, maybe because I looked young to be looking for a flat to rent, because I was 31 years old then and I really looked younger than my age. I told him though I was not married at that point in time, but it’s because I wanted to get married that was why am looking for an apartment, that if not for that reason, what will I want to do with a flat, only me? And for the issue of a yahoo boy, I told him am not and that he can make more findings about me, thank God the area is a student area, and that I use to be a part time lecturer in the campus close by, but now I own an ICT outlet that handles any ICT related job, so he can go ahead to make all the findings that he needs.

Fast forward…. I secured the apartment, paid and I moved in….

THE PROBLEM
The very first day I met the man, from the way he was talking, I knew he was going to be a very troublesome fellow, but I just felt, this is a flat and everyone should be able to mind his or own business, so I never mind. First thing I noticed was that, this man that I never knew, was beginning to tell me bad stuffs about the people living in the house, I was like is this man ok? Is it that you don’t want me to take the house because of these people or I should avoid these people once I secure the house? I actually don’t know, that was the first sign. Again i discovered that that the man and the other tenants don’t relate at all.

When I moved in, the man want to be bossing me around, like screaming my name from outside, something like “MARK !!!!!!” come down here, when I get there, he will just bring up some useless issue, he address me in a very rude way, just for me to know that no matter what i think i am or what i own, he is older than me, and he always makes it look like he did me a favor by linking me up with the caretaker of the house to give a house. But I was not bothered by that anyways, I just do ignore that.

To the other tenants in the house, I introduced myself to them, they were happy to see me, and that they can’t wait to meet my wife when am married, they seems to be nice more the guy I first met, and they mentioned something that, “WELCOME BROS, YOU WILL SOON GET TO KNOW EVERYONE IN THE HOUSE.

After the wedding, my wife moved in, the other neighbors came to say hi to my wife, but I noticed that this man and his wife never showed up, even with the fact that I told him and the wife before travelling for the wedding. Even when they saw me and my wife together, they just acted as if they didn’t see us, toooor, that's their problem, me will just greet them my own and move on, and never introduced my wife to them, because I was not even bothered self.

He begins to get more hostile for no reason, like shouting my name like he used to do, telling me didn’t I see this, didn’t I see that, talking to be like his 5 years old son, complaining about how water was dropping from kitchen, that the water is disturbing his balcony, you need to see how hostile and rude he presented the matter, as if I was the one that caused the dropping of water from the kitchen, you actually need to see the water he was complaining about, the water can’t fill up a small milk can in 3-hours, and not that we make use of the kitchen every hour. In order to avoid problems, I went to block the water that goes out from the kitchen, so that it does not drop anymore, we do go down stairs to throwaway dirty water from the kitchen outside, I told the caretaker who is also a plumber he came to fix it, it was just a leaking pipe.

There was a day, he shouted my name and I even thought something serious happened, when I got down stairs, he was like, he saw a guy now that left my apartment, I said yes that's true, hope no problem, he was like, he don't want to see him in this compound again, I was like, why? he said the guy is rude, that if the guy sees him on the street, he don't use to greet him, I was like for real? He said yes, I told him i have heard, and I just smiled and left.

One day I and my wife was coming back from an evening outing, as we were about entering the gate my car battery just went dead all of a sudden, and it’s an automatic car, I had to go and lend a battery to start the car from someone close by, when I got the battery, I used it to start the car, and I returned my battery into the car, left it working so that the battery can charge a little, I went to return the battery to the owner who was just like 2 houses from where my car broke down, not even up to a 2 minutes-walk, before I knew what was happening, this man has started shouting my name all over the house to come and put off the car, that am disturbing him, you need to see where his apartment is and where the car broke down, I almost lost my cool that evening, but I was calmed by my wife. I was like, I can’t just leave the engine running for no reason, and he should have even asked what the problem was for me to have left the car engine running, since he has never seen me do that before.

I was not around one day like that, my wife called me that there was light in other flats, but there was no light in our own apartment. My flat and his flat shares the same wire from the electric pole, funny enough, he went to disconnect my flat from the wire, claiming that the wire he just bought the wire from the pole and since the wire belongs to him, I should connect my flat from elsewhere. I told my wife to go and meet the other neighbor in the other flat to see how they can help, in-fact when my wife told the guys in other flat what happened, my wife told me that I need to see the way the guys quickly rose up and help her in connecting the wire to theirs, that she should not worry that everything is alright. (THOSE WERE THE PEOPLE THE MAN TAGGED BAD PEOPLE OO).

I drove into the compound one day, and about that time, NEPA brought light and I went down stairs to put on the pumping machine, as I was about going back to my apartment, this man called me like he used to do, and asked me to come and see something, I knew it won’t end well, because he always have this rude and hostile way of talking to people, he took me to the place I drove in with the car and told me that didn’t I see that I used my car tire to dirty the place, I was like seriously? Haba, am not the only one passing through this place, the other guys have cars too, and this place is not even dirty because the last time I checked, I was even the one that sweep this place, and not that my tires were cover with mod, He was like he is going to deal with me, that he was going to call the landlord so that they will chase me out of the compound, I was like deal with me? For what? Already the noise from him and my voice made my wife came out and the other guys in the other flat came out too, before I know what was happening, he HIT ME ON MY FACE………….

I was so mad, in fact in my life I have been mad like that before, the fact that there were people outside, I said to myself I won’t hit back, at least I have witnesses, I was going to report him to the police, but I gave him the piece of my mind in a very disrespectful way. I went upstairs to grab a shirt heading to the police station, but my wife refused me going to the police, that I should just let it go, that she don’t want police wahala, but the other tenant in the house refused, they said I most get him arrested, but on a second thought the guy (the other tenant) said, in as much as he would love to see me arrest this man, but “GUY, DO WHAT YOUR WIFE WANT”. I tried as much as I can to calm down, because I was so angry. Not even knowing that the other guys in the apartment has got him locked up before, had it been I got him arrested, I will be the third person to do that in that house.

I reported him to the caretaker, the guy told me that I should have hit him back, that nobody made him to be in charge of the house, that we are all tenants, at least he the caretaker was the one I paid the house rent to, that the guy only deceived me when I first met him, that he dare not call the landlord self, because the landlord has given him series of warnings, that the landlord has even locked him up before, it was people that begged on his behalf, that I should just ignore him. The next morning funny enough I still greeted this man, but he didn’t answer, from that day henceforth I began to ignore him, but the wife, when she is not with the husband, she greets me nicely and I do respond, even if she didn’t see me, I greet her first, but when the husband is there, she dare not, so as to avoid beating. But everyone begin to mind their own business.

Some few months later, I and my wife went to church that Sunday morning, before we came back, this man brought out one dilapidated cage that used to be beside the corner of the house fence and put it right on the spot where I do park my car, when I saw that, I was just smiling, I just jejely parked my car elsewhere in the compound, seems he want to start trouble again, he can eat the space, since he is jobless, early morning when everyone even including the wife are going out to look for one or two things to do so as to get money, you will find him under the tree at the street junction with like minds, arguing about politics that does not concern them. Had it been I know this guy to be this hostile, am not sure I would have paid for the accommodation, because I don't have the mind for trouble.

I told my wife, the day he will try that same rubbish he did by hitting me, even if my wife go ahead to call all my family members and hers to beg me, I won’t listen to them, I will definitely get him locked up, and really deal with him according to the law. I would have moved out of the house, but getting a nice accommodation like that is difficult around, so I have choose to ignore him, but the day he will cross my path again, I won’t take it likely with him.

Ignore him COMPLETELY. Even if he uses a megaphone to scream your name, just ignore him. He is a jobless control freak.

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by Juliearth(f): 4:09am On Feb 23, 2020
morgan100:
Sorry that this might be lengthy, but that’s just the only way I can cover what happened.

Around March last year, I needed an accommodation where I can bring in my wife because we were getting married. I use to live in one room self-contain, but due to the fact that I was getting married, I needed a flat. Just within my area, there is this apartment that I really love, the house is just 4 flats, so I decide to make inquiries about the house. On that very day, I went to the house, I met a man who claimed to be in-charge of the house and also claimed to be an occupant in the house.

I asked if there was any vacant space he said yes, how much? He told me the price, but asked if am the one that wants to secure the apartment, I said yes, He told me he cannot give the house to someone who is not married and someone who is a yahoo boy. I don’t know why he thought I was a yahoo boy, maybe because I looked young to be looking for a flat to rent, because I was 31 years old then and I really looked younger than my age. I told him though I was not married at that point in time, but it’s because I wanted to get married that was why am looking for an apartment, that if not for that reason, what will I want to do with a flat, only me? And for the issue of a yahoo boy, I told him am not and that he can make more findings about me, thank God the area is a student area, and that I use to be a part time lecturer in the campus close by, but now I own an ICT outlet that handles any ICT related job, so he can go ahead to make all the findings that he needs.

Fast forward…. I secured the apartment, paid and I moved in….

THE PROBLEM
The very first day I met the man, from the way he was talking, I knew he was going to be a very troublesome fellow, but I just felt, this is a flat and everyone should be able to mind his or own business, so I never mind. First thing I noticed was that, this man that I never knew, was beginning to tell me bad stuffs about the people living in the house, I was like is this man ok? Is it that you don’t want me to take the house because of these people or I should avoid these people once I secure the house? I actually don’t know, that was the first sign. Again i discovered that that the man and the other tenants don’t relate at all.

When I moved in, the man want to be bossing me around, like screaming my name from outside, something like “MARK !!!!!!” come down here, when I get there, he will just bring up some useless issue, he address me in a very rude way, just for me to know that no matter what i think i am or what i own, he is older than me, and he always makes it look like he did me a favor by linking me up with the caretaker of the house to give a house. But I was not bothered by that anyways, I just do ignore that.

To the other tenants in the house, I introduced myself to them, they were happy to see me, and that they can’t wait to meet my wife when am married, they seems to be nice more the guy I first met, and they mentioned something that, “WELCOME BROS, YOU WILL SOON GET TO KNOW EVERYONE IN THE HOUSE.

After the wedding, my wife moved in, the other neighbors came to say hi to my wife, but I noticed that this man and his wife never showed up, even with the fact that I told him and the wife before travelling for the wedding. Even when they saw me and my wife together, they just acted as if they didn’t see us, toooor, that's their problem, me will just greet them my own and move on, and never introduced my wife to them, because I was not even bothered self.

He begins to get more hostile for no reason, like shouting my name like he used to do, telling me didn’t I see this, didn’t I see that, talking to be like his 5 years old son, complaining about how water was dropping from kitchen, that the water is disturbing his balcony, you need to see how hostile and rude he presented the matter, as if I was the one that caused the dropping of water from the kitchen, you actually need to see the water he was complaining about, the water can’t fill up a small milk can in 3-hours, and not that we make use of the kitchen every hour. In order to avoid problems, I went to block the water that goes out from the kitchen, so that it does not drop anymore, we do go down stairs to throwaway dirty water from the kitchen outside, I told the caretaker who is also a plumber he came to fix it, it was just a leaking pipe.

There was a day, he shouted my name and I even thought something serious happened, when I got down stairs, he was like, he saw a guy now that left my apartment, I said yes that's true, hope no problem, he was like, he don't want to see him in this compound again, I was like, why? he said the guy is rude, that if the guy sees him on the street, he don't use to greet him, I was like for real? He said yes, I told him i have heard, and I just smiled and left.

One day I and my wife was coming back from an evening outing, as we were about entering the gate my car battery just went dead all of a sudden, and it’s an automatic car, I had to go and lend a battery to start the car from someone close by, when I got the battery, I used it to start the car, and I returned my battery into the car, left it working so that the battery can charge a little, I went to return the battery to the owner who was just like 2 houses from where my car broke down, not even up to a 2 minutes-walk, before I knew what was happening, this man has started shouting my name all over the house to come and put off the car, that am disturbing him, you need to see where his apartment is and where the car broke down, I almost lost my cool that evening, but I was calmed by my wife. I was like, I can’t just leave the engine running for no reason, and he should have even asked what the problem was for me to have left the car engine running, since he has never seen me do that before.

I was not around one day like that, my wife called me that there was light in other flats, but there was no light in our own apartment. My flat and his flat shares the same wire from the electric pole, funny enough, he went to disconnect my flat from the wire, claiming that the wire he just bought the wire from the pole and since the wire belongs to him, I should connect my flat from elsewhere. I told my wife to go and meet the other neighbor in the other flat to see how they can help, in-fact when my wife told the guys in other flat what happened, my wife told me that I need to see the way the guys quickly rose up and help her in connecting the wire to theirs, that she should not worry that everything is alright. (THOSE WERE THE PEOPLE THE MAN TAGGED BAD PEOPLE OO).

I drove into the compound one day, and about that time, NEPA brought light and I went down stairs to put on the pumping machine, as I was about going back to my apartment, this man called me like he used to do, and asked me to come and see something, I knew it won’t end well, because he always have this rude and hostile way of talking to people, he took me to the place I drove in with the car and told me that didn’t I see that I used my car tire to dirty the place, I was like seriously? Haba, am not the only one passing through this place, the other guys have cars too, and this place is not even dirty because the last time I checked, I was even the one that sweep this place, and not that my tires were cover with mod, He was like he is going to deal with me, that he was going to call the landlord so that they will chase me out of the compound, I was like deal with me? For what? Already the noise from him and my voice made my wife came out and the other guys in the other flat came out too, before I know what was happening, he HIT ME ON MY FACE………….

I was so mad, in fact in my life I have been mad like that before, the fact that there were people outside, I said to myself I won’t hit back, at least I have witnesses, I was going to report him to the police, but I gave him the piece of my mind in a very disrespectful way. I went upstairs to grab a shirt heading to the police station, but my wife refused me going to the police, that I should just let it go, that she don’t want police wahala, but the other tenant in the house refused, they said I most get him arrested, but on a second thought the guy (the other tenant) said, in as much as he would love to see me arrest this man, but “GUY, DO WHAT YOUR WIFE WANT”. I tried as much as I can to calm down, because I was so angry. Not even knowing that the other guys in the apartment has got him locked up before, had it been I got him arrested, I will be the third person to do that in that house.

I reported him to the caretaker, the guy told me that I should have hit him back, that nobody made him to be in charge of the house, that we are all tenants, at least he the caretaker was the one I paid the house rent to, that the guy only deceived me when I first met him, that he dare not call the landlord self, because the landlord has given him series of warnings, that the landlord has even locked him up before, it was people that begged on his behalf, that I should just ignore him. The next morning funny enough I still greeted this man, but he didn’t answer, from that day henceforth I began to ignore him, but the wife, when she is not with the husband, she greets me nicely and I do respond, even if she didn’t see me, I greet her first, but when the husband is there, she dare not, so as to avoid beating. But everyone begin to mind their own business.

Some few months later, I and my wife went to church that Sunday morning, before we came back, this man brought out one dilapidated cage that used to be beside the corner of the house fence and put it right on the spot where I do park my car, when I saw that, I was just smiling, I just jejely parked my car elsewhere in the compound, seems he want to start trouble again, he can eat the space, since he is jobless, early morning when everyone even including the wife are going out to look for one or two things to do so as to get money, you will find him under the tree at the street junction with like minds, arguing about politics that does not concern them. Had it been I know this guy to be this hostile, am not sure I would have paid for the accommodation, because I don't have the mind for trouble.

I told my wife, the day he will try that same rubbish he did by hitting me, even if my wife go ahead to call all my family members and hers to beg me, I won’t listen to them, I will definitely get him locked up, and really deal with him according to the law. I would have moved out of the house, but getting a nice accommodation like that is difficult around, so I have choose to ignore him, but the day he will cross my path again, I won’t take it likely with him.





First, I must commend your wife for her wisdom, you are indeed blessed to have her.



Now, to the issue, I feel you have overplayed the nice guy card and its time to roughen up. Most bullies suffer from low self esteem and their targets are usually people they feel are too soft or too weak (pardon my use of this word) to retaliate. You need to "change it for him" and put him right in his place. Do not tolerate his excesses anymore. When next he calls out your name disrespecfully, call his bluff off by telling him never to call you in that manner, if he encroaches on your space, remove the item of encroachment with immediate alacrity...lastly, pray because such men can be diabolical.

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by spiritedtete: 5:52am On Feb 23, 2020
I thought I was gentle ... until i read your story... haaaaa!!! Honestly the man would have been in the hospital by now receiving drips and stitches mi o gba dun oo.. Jesus..

Look at me boiling..... already!! Lol.


Oh lord please don't tempt me with this kind of thing o... i will fùck up. Whatttttt!!!

I won't even touch the man... i will make sure boys lie him flat and wipe him in the presence of his wife and kids... in the same compound

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by alphaNomega: 10:04am On Feb 23, 2020
morgan100:

My wife was happy I didn't hit him back, not that I can't fight back, I was only respecting him initially because he was older than I do, and besides am not used to fighting unnecessarily, I only wanted to use the right means to deal with him, of which if I knew my wife won't allow me to arrest him, I would have hit mine back in a very hard way self, so not that I can't do anything.

You're a wimp. The moment he raised his hands upon you, was the point that so-called respect expired. That should be when you change it for him IMMEDIATELY! If you did, he would be the one to wash your car for every weekday. Stop being too soft man, there are predators out there! Peace.
Re: My Hostile Neighbor by CJ310(m): 11:09am On Feb 23, 2020
Wow. Sorry bro. You’re a real gentleman sha. I would have preferred it if you changed it for him early enough though. But with all that negativity please get another place cos that guy could still pull more stunts even when you now have kids.
Re: My Hostile Neighbor by LilSmith55(m): 11:19am On Feb 23, 2020
morgan100:


I took picture of the cage, but I don't have any voice recording yet, the day the fight broke out, my mind never went there to record anything because I was very angry, for now he does not shout many name any how, but with the cage things, maybe the madness is coming back, so am at alert too. That's the picture of the cage..

Walai, if na me.... That Cage go don turn Pancake
Re: My Hostile Neighbor by TeeFriz: 11:20am On Feb 23, 2020
egbaguy2:
I am sure the guy nah ibo....lol

Definitely
Re: My Hostile Neighbor by bendazum: 11:57am On Feb 23, 2020
Froshloaded:
grin grin
Okay Baby,
So you will stay and be looking abii


Getting police to lock him up is more sensible than committing murder in the name of retaliation.

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by frozen70(f): 2:21pm On Feb 23, 2020
morgan100:
Sorry that this might be lengthy, but that’s just the only way I can cover what happened.

Around March last year, I needed an accommodation where I can bring in my wife because we were getting married. I use to live in one room self-contain, but due to the fact that I was getting married, I needed a flat. Just within my area, there is this apartment that I really love, the house is just 4 flats, so I decide to make inquiries about the house. On that very day, I went to the house, I met a man who claimed to be in-charge of the house and also claimed to be an occupant in the house.

I asked if there was any vacant space he said yes, how much? He told me the price, but asked if am the one that wants to secure the apartment, I said yes, He told me he cannot give the house to someone who is not married and someone who is a yahoo boy. I don’t know why he thought I was a yahoo boy, maybe because I looked young to be looking for a flat to rent, because I was 31 years old then and I really looked younger than my age. I told him though I was not married at that point in time, but it’s because I wanted to get married that was why am looking for an apartment, that if not for that reason, what will I want to do with a flat, only me? And for the issue of a yahoo boy, I told him am not and that he can make more findings about me, thank God the area is a student area, and that I use to be a part time lecturer in the campus close by, but now I own an ICT outlet that handles any ICT related job, so he can go ahead to make all the findings that he needs.

Fast forward…. I secured the apartment, paid and I moved in….

THE PROBLEM
The very first day I met the man, from the way he was talking, I knew he was going to be a very troublesome fellow, but I just felt, this is a flat and everyone should be able to mind his or own business, so I never mind. First thing I noticed was that, this man that I never knew, was beginning to tell me bad stuffs about the people living in the house, I was like is this man ok? Is it that you don’t want me to take the house because of these people or I should avoid these people once I secure the house? I actually don’t know, that was the first sign. Again i discovered that that the man and the other tenants don’t relate at all.

When I moved in, the man want to be bossing me around, like screaming my name from outside, something like “MARK !!!!!!” come down here, when I get there, he will just bring up some useless issue, he address me in a very rude way, just for me to know that no matter what i think i am or what i own, he is older than me, and he always makes it look like he did me a favor by linking me up with the caretaker of the house to give a house. But I was not bothered by that anyways, I just do ignore that.

To the other tenants in the house, I introduced myself to them, they were happy to see me, and that they can’t wait to meet my wife when am married, they seems to be nice more the guy I first met, and they mentioned something that, “WELCOME BROS, YOU WILL SOON GET TO KNOW EVERYONE IN THE HOUSE.

After the wedding, my wife moved in, the other neighbors came to say hi to my wife, but I noticed that this man and his wife never showed up, even with the fact that I told him and the wife before travelling for the wedding. Even when they saw me and my wife together, they just acted as if they didn’t see us, toooor, that's their problem, me will just greet them my own and move on, and never introduced my wife to them, because I was not even bothered self.

He begins to get more hostile for no reason, like shouting my name like he used to do, telling me didn’t I see this, didn’t I see that, talking to be like his 5 years old son, complaining about how water was dropping from kitchen, that the water is disturbing his balcony, you need to see how hostile and rude he presented the matter, as if I was the one that caused the dropping of water from the kitchen, you actually need to see the water he was complaining about, the water can’t fill up a small milk can in 3-hours, and not that we make use of the kitchen every hour. In order to avoid problems, I went to block the water that goes out from the kitchen, so that it does not drop anymore, we do go down stairs to throwaway dirty water from the kitchen outside, I told the caretaker who is also a plumber he came to fix it, it was just a leaking pipe.

There was a day, he shouted my name and I even thought something serious happened, when I got down stairs, he was like, he saw a guy now that left my apartment, I said yes that's true, hope no problem, he was like, he don't want to see him in this compound again, I was like, why? he said the guy is rude, that if the guy sees him on the street, he don't use to greet him, I was like for real? He said yes, I told him i have heard, and I just smiled and left.

One day I and my wife was coming back from an evening outing, as we were about entering the gate my car battery just went dead all of a sudden, and it’s an automatic car, I had to go and lend a battery to start the car from someone close by, when I got the battery, I used it to start the car, and I returned my battery into the car, left it working so that the battery can charge a little, I went to return the battery to the owner who was just like 2 houses from where my car broke down, not even up to a 2 minutes-walk, before I knew what was happening, this man has started shouting my name all over the house to come and put off the car, that am disturbing him, you need to see where his apartment is and where the car broke down, I almost lost my cool that evening, but I was calmed by my wife. I was like, I can’t just leave the engine running for no reason, and he should have even asked what the problem was for me to have left the car engine running, since he has never seen me do that before.

I was not around one day like that, my wife called me that there was light in other flats, but there was no light in our own apartment. My flat and his flat shares the same wire from the electric pole, funny enough, he went to disconnect my flat from the wire, claiming that the wire he just bought the wire from the pole and since the wire belongs to him, I should connect my flat from elsewhere. I told my wife to go and meet the other neighbor in the other flat to see how they can help, in-fact when my wife told the guys in other flat what happened, my wife told me that I need to see the way the guys quickly rose up and help her in connecting the wire to theirs, that she should not worry that everything is alright. (THOSE WERE THE PEOPLE THE MAN TAGGED BAD PEOPLE OO).

I drove into the compound one day, and about that time, NEPA brought light and I went down stairs to put on the pumping machine, as I was about going back to my apartment, this man called me like he used to do, and asked me to come and see something, I knew it won’t end well, because he always have this rude and hostile way of talking to people, he took me to the place I drove in with the car and told me that didn’t I see that I used my car tire to dirty the place, I was like seriously? Haba, am not the only one passing through this place, the other guys have cars too, and this place is not even dirty because the last time I checked, I was even the one that sweep this place, and not that my tires were cover with mod, He was like he is going to deal with me, that he was going to call the landlord so that they will chase me out of the compound, I was like deal with me? For what? Already the noise from him and my voice made my wife came out and the other guys in the other flat came out too, before I know what was happening, he HIT ME ON MY FACE………….

I was so mad, in fact in my life I have been mad like that before, the fact that there were people outside, I said to myself I won’t hit back, at least I have witnesses, I was going to report him to the police, but I gave him the piece of my mind in a very disrespectful way. I went upstairs to grab a shirt heading to the police station, but my wife refused me going to the police, that I should just let it go, that she don’t want police wahala, but the other tenant in the house refused, they said I most get him arrested, but on a second thought the guy (the other tenant) said, in as much as he would love to see me arrest this man, but “GUY, DO WHAT YOUR WIFE WANT”. I tried as much as I can to calm down, because I was so angry. Not even knowing that the other guys in the apartment has got him locked up before, had it been I got him arrested, I will be the third person to do that in that house.

I reported him to the caretaker, the guy told me that I should have hit him back, that nobody made him to be in charge of the house, that we are all tenants, at least he the caretaker was the one I paid the house rent to, that the guy only deceived me when I first met him, that he dare not call the landlord self, because the landlord has given him series of warnings, that the landlord has even locked him up before, it was people that begged on his behalf, that I should just ignore him. The next morning funny enough I still greeted this man, but he didn’t answer, from that day henceforth I began to ignore him, but the wife, when she is not with the husband, she greets me nicely and I do respond, even if she didn’t see me, I greet her first, but when the husband is there, she dare not, so as to avoid beating. But everyone begin to mind their own business.

Some few months later, I and my wife went to church that Sunday morning, before we came back, this man brought out one dilapidated cage that used to be beside the corner of the house fence and put it right on the spot where I do park my car, when I saw that, I was just smiling, I just jejely parked my car elsewhere in the compound, seems he want to start trouble again, he can eat the space, since he is jobless, early morning when everyone even including the wife are going out to look for one or two things to do so as to get money, you will find him under the tree at the street junction with like minds, arguing about politics that does not concern them. Had it been I know this guy to be this hostile, am not sure I would have paid for the accommodation, because I don't have the mind for trouble.

I told my wife, the day he will try that same rubbish he did by hitting me, even if my wife go ahead to call all my family members and hers to beg me, I won’t listen to them, I will definitely get him locked up, and really deal with him according to the law. I would have moved out of the house, but getting a nice accommodation like that is difficult around, so I have choose to ignore him, but the day he will cross my path again, I won’t take it likely with him.

If you can ignore him pls do until you get accommodation and pack out with a surprise, meanwhile stop giving him attention he has nothing to offer

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Re: My Hostile Neighbor by Walexz02(m): 3:17pm On Feb 23, 2020
Guy your matter tire me o.
So you rent an apartment like every other Tennant in the building and some one is trying to control you I the the same building? Wtf! Man up and quincch the fire wey that man carry for head .
Stop listening to his bullshit and leave immediately when ever he calls you for nonsense talk.
Re: My Hostile Neighbor by Ten06(m): 11:49pm On Feb 23, 2020
The guy took enough time to study you in and out and discover that you are not as rugged as the other neighbors so he decided to show you his furry knowing full well that your wife will tell you not to fight and you will obey. Guy try go and live in warri, Ajegule or mushin they will open your eyes. This is naija
Re: My Hostile Neighbor by writeprof(m): 8:49pm On Feb 28, 2020
morgan100:


Waow Exertly, that's what someone said, that he is been jealous and envious , I don't know what he is envious or jealous about...

Wao! Your surprise is surprising! There lots of things in your life and family that draw envy and jealousy from those around you even among your family. This may be worse if you are not a humble and discreet person.
However, I know man who some people planned to do evil to because they said HE DOES NOT GREET THEM WELL whenever he saw them. My brother even in the midst of family and friends, the foes are more but we are not to focus on them and avoid COUNTING OUR FIVE FINGERS IN THE PRESENCE OF THOSE OF THEM WHO HAVE FOUR FINGERS!
Cheers!

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