I'm almost 20 and my parents have never mentioned anything about sex to me, not even to tell me me about abstinence.

When I was in secondary school, I hear my friends discuss about the things their parents told them about sex, especially that infamous line "don't allow a boy to touch you, if not you'll get pregnant" , and I'll laugh with them but I could never relate. The only time my mum has even come close to telling me about sex was when our neighbour's daughter was raped, she told me I should be careful with boys and even if I wanted to have sex I should use a condom, I was quite surprised though.

Even my Dad who's more conservative have never even mentioned the word sex to my hearing before .

I wonder if they'll ever discuss it with me, or maybe it's too early, or are they shy or scared to approach the topic.

PS; I've asked my neighbour about it and she says the only time her parents tells her anything about sex is when they are quarrelling her and they'll be like "if you like go and get pregnant and come back to my house, I'll throw you out".

And I can't even broach the issue with them, there are some questions I would like to ask them about sex and I feel they are the only ones who can answer them.

I'm a bit worried.

Why did you bring the issue here? Many empty tales are fully available on Nairaland.

Hintona:
I'm almost 20 and my parents have never mentioned anything about sex to me, not even to tell me me about abstinence.

When I was in secondary school, I hear my friends discuss about the things their parents told them about sex, especially that infamous line "don't allow a boy to touch you, if not you'll get pregnant" , and I'll laugh with them but I could never relate. The only time my mum has even come close to telling me about sex was when our neighbour's daughter was raped, she told me I should be careful with boys and even if I wanted to have sex I should use a condom, I was quite surprised though.

Even my Dad who's more conservative have never even mentioned the word sex to my hearing before .

I wonder if they'll ever discuss it with me, or maybe it's too early, or are they shy or scared to approach the topic.

PS; I've asked my neighbour about it and she says the only time her parents tells her anything about sex is when they are quarrelling her and they'll be like "if you like go and get pregnant and come back to my house, I'll throw you out".

And I can't even broach the issue with them, there are some questions I would like to ask them about sex and I feel they are the only ones who can answer them.

Maybe they feel you have already tasted the forbidden fruit so no need educating you anymore.

So many us never got sex eduction from our parent, maybe simply because they are aware, we know so much about it.
your parent educating you about sex, may not simply be important now at your age...what you should be inquisitive about, is how they can support your dream to the peak of achieving it.

xo U nt alone

U want to ask your parents ?? About sex in this hard time African parents for that matter ok go Ahead

That’s not a problem you can learn from google

Jesslove:
That’s not a problem you can learn from google

Sometimes I wonder what I would do without Google

It is unfortunate that still many parenta refuse to teach their children properly.

However, we usually get a good education on the mechanics of sex, sexual abuse & contraception.

As for the emotional and personal thngs tbat should be taught and learned from watching our parents, you've got to learn on your own by using 'common' sense.

Many Nigerian parents do not know how to approach the topic.

Are you a male, get a copy of Every Man. Are you a female, get a copy of everywomen.

These books would answer just about any question you might have about sex and your 'sex.'

African parents don't see sex education as important. They usually just have expectations.

If you wait for them to do the right thing, you may have made mistakes or lost out on valuable information by the time they finally do.

Even if they do, it still might not be thorough. So, just get either of these books.

Hintona:
I'm almost 20 and my parents have never mentioned anything about sex to me, not even to tell me me about abstinence.

When I was in secondary school, I hear my friends discuss about the things their parents told them about sex, especially that infamous line "don't allow a boy to touch you, if not you'll get pregnant" , and I'll laugh with them but I could never relate. The only time my mum has even come close to telling me about sex was when our neighbour's daughter was raped, she told me I should be careful with boys and even if I wanted to have sex I should use a condom, I was quite surprised though.

Even my Dad who's more conservative have never even mentioned the word sex to my hearing before .

I wonder if they'll ever discuss it with me, or maybe it's too early, or are they shy or scared to approach the topic.

PS; I've asked my neighbour about it and she says the only time her parents tells her anything about sex is when they are quarrelling her and they'll be like "if you like go and get pregnant and come back to my house, I'll throw you out".

And I can't even broach the issue with them, there are some questions I would like to ask them about sex and I feel they are the only ones who can answer them.

I'm a bit worried.

its too late to talk about sex now, i mean that sex guide for girl, usually that talk should start the moment you start developing breast and that time you start your period

If your mum never talk about sex or men who then guided you through 1st period?

@ 20 your mum should guide you towards either sex before marriage or how to use contraceptives to avoid unwanted/unplanned pregnancy

Hintona, first of all, happy birthday.

You are lucky you have parents at all. Some dont have, some have half. But you have both.

They may not be perfect, but they have tried a little to send you to school. Use the resource they have given to you to make up for their inadequacies. For instance, use your education to use Google wisely, or even ask the questions here or do some research from trusted people.

That succint line from your mum is golden and is the best sex education you can get from the best mothers.

spiralwedge:
Hintona, first of all, happy birthday.

You are lucky you have parents at all. Some dont have, some have half. But you have both.

They may not be perfect, but they have tried a little to send you to school. Use the resource they have given to you to make up for their inadequacies. For instance, use your education to use Google wisely, or even ask the questions here or do some research from trusted people.

That succint line from your mum is golden and is the best sex education you can get from the best mothers.

why do I smell sacarsm from your post.
I see what you did there

There is allot about sex that a woman does not know at 20s.
Even older women and married women have questions about sex.
Why don't you ask your mother questions and see how she responds
In this age the youth are more free to ask than in my time.

Your parents are probably the old generation, conservative kinda parents.
From your previous threads and comments, you know more about sex than you are letting on.
I don't know why the sex talk is forbidden in your house...
Well, understand that sex in real life differs from sex in books and movies.
Me belives that absteinence before marriage is the way to go. When you're courting, there are Christian books about sex and its sisters that you can read; there are even christian sex therapists. Don't fret.

Happy birthday, btw. Cheers to a new age...20, I guess.

PS: That your Hulk Hogan boyfriend...una still dey?

Hintona:


Sometimes I wonder what I would do without Google

Lol, I hope Google is not assisting you with porn?
Don't start learning things from porn.

Hintona:



The only time my mum has even come close to telling me about sex was when our neighbour's daughter was raped, she told me I should be careful with boys and even if I wanted to have sex I should use a condom, I was quite surprised though.

And what else do you want her to teach you? Reverse cowgirl and missionary styles or how to properly place a vibrator?

You mom even tried.. It is very rare for a Nigerian mother to recommend condom for her daughter especially one that is less than 20. Very very strange.

Life is in stages, don't expect much at this stage. And btw, there's a lot about sex your parents don't know. You learn more about it when you're married or when you choose to be sexually active.

Chances are you'll get tired of it anyway no matter the lecture you receive from the previous generation. New studies emerge everyday so your best bet is self-learning. At this stage, learn more about your body, your sexuality, relationships, and how best to protect yourself from manipulative boys.

ZIMDRILL:


its too late to talk about sex now, i mean that sex guide for girl, usually that talk should start the moment you start developing breast and that time you start your period

If your mum never talk about sex or men who then guided you through 1st period?

@ 20 your mum should guide you towards either sex before marriage or how to use contraceptives to avoid unwanted/unplanned pregnancy

My first three periods was in a boarding school, my mum only sent pads.

WhisperedNoise:
Your parents are probably the old generation, conservative kinda parents.
From your previous threads and comments, you know more about sex than you are letting on.
I don't know why the sex talk is forbidden in your house...
Well, understand that sex in real life differs from sex in books and movies.
Me belives that absteinence before marriage is the way to go. When you're courting, there are Christian books about sex and its sisters that you can read; there are even christian sex therapists. Don't fret.

Happy birthday, btw. Cheers to a new age...20, I guess.

PS: That your Hulk Hogan boyfriend...una still dey?

Thanks for the advice
Nope we broke up

Not yet 20 tho.

spiralwedge:
Hintona, first of all, happy birthday.

You are lucky you have parents at all. Some dont have, some have half. But you have both.

They may not be perfect, but they have tried a little to send you to school. Use the resource they have given to you to make up for their inadequacies. For instance, use your education to use Google wisely, or even ask the questions here or do some research from trusted people.

That succint line from your mum is golden and is the best sex education you can get from the best mothers.

Thanks.

Hintona:


Thanks for the advice
Nope we broke up

Not yet 20 tho.

I knew you'd break up; twas only a matter of time. Glad you did though .

Oh, your profile indicated that today was your birthday, hence my wish.

Have a good say.
Kind regards.

Hintona:
I'm almost 20 and my parents have never mentioned anything about sex to me, not even to tell me me about abstinence.

When I was in secondary school, I hear my friends discuss about the things their parents told them about sex, especially that infamous line "don't allow a boy to touch you, if not you'll get pregnant" , and I'll laugh with them but I could never relate. The only time my mum has even come close to telling me about sex was when our neighbour's daughter was raped, she told me I should be careful with boys and even if I wanted to have sex I should use a condom, I was quite surprised though.

Even my Dad who's more conservative have never even mentioned the word sex to my hearing before .

I wonder if they'll ever discuss it with me, or maybe it's too early, or are they shy or scared to approach the topic.

PS; I've asked my neighbour about it and she says the only time her parents tells her anything about sex is when they are quarrelling her and they'll be like "if you like go and get pregnant and come back to my house, I'll throw you out".

And I can't even broach the issue with them, there are some questions I would like to ask them about sex and I feel they are the only ones who can answer them.

I'm a bit worried.

Most people never got told by parents.

I had to read up on a lot of stuffs and learn by along the way.

So, stop fretting

Hintona:
I'm almost 20 and my parents have never mentioned anything about sex to me, not even to tell me me about abstinence.

The only time my mum has even come close to telling me about sex was when our neighbour's daughter was raped, she told me I should be careful with boys and even if I wanted to have sex I should use a condom, I was quite surprised though.


I wonder if they'll ever discuss it with me, or maybe it's too early, or are they shy or scared to approach the topic.


I'm a bit worried.

Wow, what else do you want to hear.

What she told you is everything; especially the last line.

Thumbs up to her.

I think occupying your spare time with Christian programs will help limit your exposure to premarital sex. However, ensure you always keep condoms as a preventive measure. Congratulations on your birthday

Most Nigeria parents don't. It's only when there's a mistake. Maybe their girl child get pregnant, that they start shouting and complaining.

You u already know.educate them

Keep waiting. Since you know keep it to yourse lf because the day you will start, they will start looking at you with a different eye.
It's like waiting for them to say sorry. But the narrative is changing.

Ok

Your mum advised you to have sex?? HM.. I've been right all along. Parents are a contributing factor to the high level of moral decadence in our society today. Like seriously, why would your mum encourage you to engage in premarital sex? I don't get.

SMH for this generation.

Funny though. You are not alone on this. Most African parents never educate their children on sex because they will learn it in school or on the internet

You're not alone girl! Most parent are ashamed of talking about sex with their kids. Some can't even tell you the name of that thing between your legs down below, you know what mean?

Most just assumed that as you grow older, you'll become knowledgeable somehow and all will be well.