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A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Ajengogo(m): 10:28pm On Aug 15, 2020 |
Salaam alaikum brothers and sisters. I have a wife of around 11 years of marriage with children who has suddenly lost interest in sexual intercourse. She is submissive in several other aspects but when it comes to issue of sex, she loathes it like hell. She developed this feeling all of a sudden. I have tried to engage her on this, but she wouldn't talk straight about this issue. She gives flimsy excuses always. We have even separated from our bed for several weeks now on this account, to see whether she will start developing the feeling all to no avail. I have told her that it could be jinn, she debunked it and refused to embark on the prayers. I am praying seriously about this. But she doesn't look concerned At this stage, what exactly am I supposed to do. I don't want to marry another wife, and I don't want to be involved in extramarital affairs 26 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by saheedbadmus(m): 10:47pm On Aug 15, 2020 |
My brother I don't even know what to say but I feel you need to keep talking to her or are u doing something she doesn't like lately, are you not that active like u use to be ..also I know child birth makes some women loose interest in sex .. if u can't hold ur body it's better you marry a second wife o ...Wa-in khiftum alla tuqsitoo fee alyatama fainkihoo ma taba lakum mina alnnisa-i mathna wathulatha warubaAAa fa-in khiftum alla taAAdiloo fawahidatan aw ma malakat aymanukum thalika adna alla taAAooloo 47 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Danwakae(m): 11:15pm On Aug 15, 2020 |
Tell her to open up , she seems to be keeping things from you... Talk to her ...it's not child birth , and also try to know if she did female circumcision 29 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Ajengogo(m): 11:21pm On Aug 15, 2020 |
Danwakae:Thanks for the response But what's the role of female circumcision in all of these? |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Nobody: 11:29pm On Aug 15, 2020 |
W/salam...I just have few questions to ask, u said u'v been married for the past11 yrs. Does she work? Are ur kids old enough to help her out with chores? Or is she the only one doing all chores before and after she comes back from work? I'm asking because this plays a very crucial role in a woman's life, before u know, she gets stressed n extremely tired, hence she wudnt av interest in intercourse because that wud become another hardwork. The point is, u have to be more caring. If that's not the case, then are u fulfilling ur responsibilities as a husband? If not, u av to change to make her happy. If none of d first two, then gently ask her what u'v done wrong, or ask if there's something u are now doing that keeps chasing her away from u. But it's more likely to be no 1, help her out with chores, reduce the burden or get someone to help. Getting another wife won't solve anything in the long run, this is something u can resolve 57 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Ajengogo(m): 8:29am On Aug 16, 2020 |
sherylbakky:It has nothing to do with house chores. I have always made arrangement for house help, besides the elderly kids are really helping out a lot. I have taken time to find out from her, her excuses are always flimsy, like she is in her period (very irregular). I wouldn't know if it is true or not. She can come up with unnecessary excuses. She says, at our age now, we should learn to keep off sex for months or a year. Is this normal 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Nobody: 9:06am On Aug 16, 2020 |
Ajengogo:I don't think it's normal, get ur family physician or a therapist or a marriage counselor to talk to her. 18 Likes |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Danwakae(m): 9:12pm On Aug 16, 2020 |
Ajengogo: Female circumcision doesn't make them have interest in it... Because it has be removed, as such, they don't have any feelings or interest. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Xmuslim: 12:13pm On Aug 18, 2020 |
Ajengogo: She's obviously smarter than you. How could you be so superstitious to even think that lack of sexual appetite is spiritual . Ajengogo: I would have suggested that you should introduce her to adult movies and magazines, but you Muslim consider it haram. So, best thing is to force her to speak her mind. Maybe she is not enjoying it, which could be due to your lack of bedroom skills or her sexual health. 50 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by IMAliyu(m): 1:12pm On Aug 18, 2020 |
Ajengogo:The thing called female circumcision is the basically cutting the sensitive parts of the female body. The clitoris and labia or just parts of it. Those that undergo it can't enjoy intercourse, imagine you as a man, you get the head of your joystick removed. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by nahzyla: 11:54pm On Aug 19, 2020 |
Your wife does not enjoy sex with you. She doesn't come or does not enjoy it at all. I am sure you knew this already but you did nothing to improve as long as you got your orgasm at the end. After a while she will start feeling used and irritated at your selfishness and insensitivity and start avoiding you altogether. You and many married men are guilty of selfish sex. 102 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by nahzyla: 11:56pm On Aug 19, 2020 |
Just look at that egbon up there advising you to marry another wife because Islam allows polygamy. So that you will end up sexually frustrating her as well 34 Likes |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Princeofasia: 10:16am On Aug 21, 2020 |
let me Bleep her and confirm 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Sterope(f): 10:17am On Aug 21, 2020 |
She could see a doctor Ajengogo: |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Legalcriminal: 10:22am On Aug 21, 2020 |
You must be a rape victim 1Sharon: 16 Likes |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Abbeyrazaq20(m): 10:22am On Aug 21, 2020 |
Try to let her know the consequences of what she's doing to you. She might change. Or probably tell her parent about the issue 4 Likes |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by fraymite: 10:23am On Aug 21, 2020 |
To your last paragraph.... Do not make haram for yourself what is halal. You can marry another wife. However, try to sit your wife down and discuss what the problem could be. You can also ask one of her trusted friends to discuss sexual relationship with her and gather feedback. 9 Likes |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by MsAllison(f): 10:25am On Aug 21, 2020 |
walaka salaka sadaka amin 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by NeoWanZaeed(m): 10:26am On Aug 21, 2020 |
Ajengogo: Jinn boo wa ni.. haba.. it's clear you have offended her some ways.. discuss the issue with her.. if not solved.. go to her family and explain... don't make life difficult for yourself 4 Likes |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Amspecial: 10:28am On Aug 21, 2020 |
if u were not a muslim this would have been a problem but u are so it is not marry another wife case closed. 1 Like |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Fmghewzy(m): 10:28am On Aug 21, 2020 |
[quote author=1Sharon post=93056864]Show her who is boss and behead her Are you maaddd,behead her for what.chaii many are mad but few are roaming. If you don't have any advice pls shut up 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Severepains: 10:29am On Aug 21, 2020 |
Better go and marry a young fresh wife that is active. This one is evening newspaper. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by semyman: 10:32am On Aug 21, 2020 |
1Sharon:Product of wayward woman 2 Likes |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by base83: 10:32am On Aug 21, 2020 |
I think you should ask her about the birth control method she is on, if she is on any. That is an angle you can examine, some hormonal control reduces libido in women to near zero. If that is the case, advise is to switch to non hormone base methods and take it easy with her. With time she'd get back to her old self. 24 Likes |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by tolguy(m): 10:35am On Aug 21, 2020 |
many infections causes this, see a medical doctor for advise or Islamic medicine expert |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by perdollar(m): 10:35am On Aug 21, 2020 |
talking about this is Haram. u just av to pretend that all is well. I suspect another mallam wt 14inches is reaching places that ur 3inches can't reach. assalam alekun 36 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by hahn(m): 10:35am On Aug 21, 2020 |
nahzyla: Most likely. Op, have you ever sucked your wife's vagina before? I'm curious as to how bad sex with you is for her to hate sex altogether 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by DuBLINGreenb(m): 10:36am On Aug 21, 2020 |
Na lie, you just dey find excuse to marry extra wife add to your existing fleets without chasing the already existing one Hence the clause "She is still submissive" "with kids" etc 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by Nobody: 10:40am On Aug 21, 2020 |
Marry another wife stop giving ursef unnecessary headache. Islam permit polygamy for issues like this 4 Likes |
Re: A Submissive Muslim Wife Suddenly Lost Interest In Sexual Intercourse by aksule(m): 10:51am On Aug 21, 2020 |
Some women prematurely go into menupause. Could it be the case with your better half. Menupause causes a lot of problems to a woman including sudden loss of interest in sex. The family doctor might be of help. 9 Likes |
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