chaircover: Dont mind dayo oooo! emi ni oomo buruku yen ba wi. Yes Mr CC is buying that X5 whether he/you or anyone else likes it or not

Besides with all those qualities that he has mentioned that he is looking for in a wife, isnt it clear that he will be the one enjoying the marriage. No one has thought to ask him what he (dayo) is bringing to the marriage All I can see him and sagalulu bringing to any marriage is big big grammer and arguing skills to drive the poor woman mad. Never seen 2 men that can argue like this before in my life

Back to the question - the person; be it husband or wife that enjoys the marriage most is the one that married the right partner for the right reasons end of.

chaircover: Dont mind dayo oooo! emi ni oomo buruku yen ba wi. Yes Mr CC is buying that X5 whether he/you or anyone else likes it or not

Besides with all those qualities that he has mentioned that he is looking for in a wife, isnt it clear that he will be the one enjoying the marriage. No one has thought to ask him what he (dayo) is bringing to the marriage All I can see him and sagalulu bringing to any marriage is big big grammer and arguing skills to drive the poor woman mad. Never seen 2 men that can argue like this before in my life

Back to the question - the person; be it husband or wife that enjoys the marriage most is the one that married the right partner for the right reasons end of.

Fhemmmy:

From what i have read so far from your contribution, you are probably residing in Western world and married, but never worked out and the woman left with half of the household value or you are not married yet, and probably not into business at all, cos if you are married and in business, you would agree with me that no matter how smart as a man you are, when the home front is not well, your business will suffer and no amount of money could reward the value of a "good" woman in the house.

dayokanu:

What doesnt make sense simply doesnt make sense.

Ok let me flip it and ask you

If fhemmy marry a Girl say Tosin

Tosin is a graduate and she rose at her job to become the Chief medical Director at LUTH, The executive Director at Zenith bank, or the Choef Judge in Abuja

In case of a breakup, Does Fhemmy have a right to what she has accumulated from her career and If Fhemmy does what is the reason?

Or if Dayo marries Chimamanda Adichie, Are you saying I have a right to the royalties she gets from her publications?

Women would defend anything as long as it favours them since human being are naturally selfish. The second scenario was played out in a tyler Perry movie "Why did I get married too" when Janet jacksons husband who was an Architect demanded Payment from the proceeds of the book she wrote, She was livid and called him Greedy and selfish which I agree with, But If it was the woman taking like it happens in most cases, Janet jackson would have lauded the Woman for taking what was her right.

And you have not answered me, Was it the Home front that turned Zukerberg into a billionaire?, Was it the home front that turned Bill Gates into a billionaire? Was it the home front that turned Bankole into a Speaker, or was it the Home front that made Gowon president?

dayokanu:
In case of a breakup, Does Fhemmy have a right to what she has accumulated from her career and If Fhemmy does what is the reason?

In a normal setting, if Tosin was making more money than Fhemmmy and made Fhemmmy to get used to some kinda lifestyle, when they break up, Fhemmmy will ask for spousal support and he will be awardrd . . . However, let us bring this home, as my own Fhemmmy, since i am not lazy, i will be aiight without her money, but if na Halle berry

dayokanu:
Or if Dayo marries Chimamanda Adichie, Are you saying I have a right to the royalties she gets from her publications?

greatgod2012:
@ dayokanu, thanks 4 d qualities u stated, but its like u're not being sincere with ur previous responses, because, with d qualities u stated, who told u dt its not their hubby dt benefit more in their marriages?
1st, in whose name do u just address them?is it not in their hubby name, dont they have their maiden name,or have u seen man changing his surname to his wife's name?
2ndly, who is acclaimed d head in d marriage, even when its d woman that is d sole provider in d house can she be reffered to as d head?
3rdly, who bring forth d children and create time 4 them most, and in whose name do the children addressed?
D list can go on and on, but let me stop here, i just want u to do something, be sincere wth dis question. Thanks.

chaircover: Dont mind dayo oooo! emi ni oomo buruku yen ba wi. Yes Mr CC is buying that X5 whether he/you or anyone else likes it or not
Besides with all those qualities that he has mentioned that he is looking for in a wife, isnt it clear that he will be the one enjoying the marriage. No one has thought to ask him what he (dayo) is bringing to the marriage All I can see him and sagalulu bringing to any marriage is big big grammer and arguing skills to drive the poor woman mad. Never seen 2 men that can argue like this before in my life

Back to the question - the person; be it husband or wife that enjoys the marriage most is the one that married the right partner for the right reasons end of.

Barack Obama had some advice for the single men of America today - seek out a woman with good genes, and then marry her.

'For the gentlemen out there who are not yet married, let me just explain to you: Your goal is to improve your gene pool by marrying somebody who is superior to you.' The crowd laughed.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2136470/Obamas-advice-single-men-You-goal-improve-gene-pool-marrying-somebody-superior-you.html#ixzz21pzN9Yxi

dayokanu:

The question has nothing to do with the topic of this thread.

The qualities I want in a woman is different from who benefits more from a marriage. Its like saying who benefits more from a business and Why do you want to work in XYZ company? they are two different questions.

We can also ask who desires marriage more? Obviously women.

In the world Men are measured by their success business and financially, Women care largely more about their looks.

Knowing that women depreciate in the looks department after age 40, Women desire to get hitched before they start declining

A 70yr old Fatai rolling Dollar, Larry King, Obasanjo is still seen as attractive and gets women because he achieved succes in his "business". Lets see how a 60-70yr old woman would fare in Nigeria

Fhemmmy:
In a normal setting, if Tosin was making more money than Fhemmmy and made Fhemmmy to get used to some kinda lifestyle, when they break up, Fhemmmy will ask for spousal support and he will be awardrd
. . . However, let us bring this home, as my own Fhemmmy, since i am not lazy, i will be aiight without her money,X

Fhemmmy:

I will advice that someone like you make sure you sign a Prenuptial before you marry oh, or should i just pray you dont divorce, cos all these you saying might come back to bite you in the rear

dayokanu:

So basically you are saying its the lazy spouse that goes after the partners money? Now we are making progress

dayokanu:

Pre-nup is one way, Another way is to marry a top career earner too who is doing well in her profession. That was why I used beyonce, Hilary, Michelle Obama types not the Sikiratu Sindodo and the I never chop that are looking for a man to leech on

I bet Obama didnt need to sign a pre-nup

Fhemmmy:

In a normal setting, if Tosin was making more money than Fhemmmy and made Fhemmmy to get used to some kinda lifestyle, when they break up, Fhemmmy will ask for spousal support and he will be awardrd . . . However, let us bring this home, as my own Fhemmmy, since i am not lazy, i will be aiight without her money, but if na Halle berry

dayokanu:

Definitely Spousal Support is granted by Law but that doesnt make the law right.

Fhemmmy:

No matter who you marry, once there is a break up, all that was made and achieved while married will be divided without Prenup

Fhemmmy:

This one aint going nowhere anytime soon . . . Cos it does make sense to me and i think it is fair.
I guess you support how the man in Nigeria will just chase the woman out with the kids and "Marry" another woman, the woman now become the responsibility of who? her parents/Another man.

dayokanu:

Even without pre-nups, There are some people who would forgo the other partners money like you said you would.

I hve enough intellect to make enough money to take care of myself for life and anything I cant afford on my own sweat, I dont deserve it. I would only marry a woman with the same mentality and not a G-Digger who wants to live a lifestyle they didnt work for

dayokanu:

I am sure during those times too, Many people would have said it makes sense for blacks to stand up for whites or for women to be disenfranchised.

If a man chases a woman out of the house, Did he chase her out of her bank account too? Why cant she live on her own income. Are you telling me the woman is paralysed and brain dead that she cant work for herself to earn what she would eat?

I am in support of child support since they are minors, But not spousal support

chaircover:

Besides with all those qualities that he has mentioned that he is looking for in a wife, isnt it clear that he will be the one enjoying the marriage. No one has thought to ask him what he (dayo) is bringing to the marriage All I can see him and sagalulu bringing to any marriage is big big grammer and arguing skills to drive the poor woman mad. Never seen 2 men that can argue like this before in my life