pDude:

Medicine.

pDude:

Medicine.

pDude:

Medicine.

aribisala0:

You sound quite mad at your uncle but maybe he did you a favour and you should thank him. Reappraise you relationship with your uncle from the perspective that he did you a big favour and be grateful to him.Hopefully you were forced to dig into yourself to sort our YOUR life.

One problem I believe with our thinking as Nigerians is that we tend to go through life with an "entitlement" mindset that our family OWE us "assistance" of a financial kind and when they don't pay they are "WICKED". In life we must take responsibility for ourselves and every experience is useful. I think some things become clear only with time and maturity.

No one knows your financial situation but Nigerians looking at you will always think "aah this my brother has a fine house and a fine car so he should be in a position to help me" and if you don't they start being resentful without knowing whether the guy is in debt or what his situation really is..Is this right ?Is it even godly? for those claiming as Nigerians always do to be muslims or christians when both their books exhort them to trust only in their Allah or Jehovah.
Even if the guy is Bill Gates if he does not give relatives money it does not make him wicked
If his uncles give him money good if not good let him help himself.I know a 40 year old man in Nigeria with no job or family and all but one of his brothers are abroad doing well.He continues to blame them for not helping him even though their father a civil servant educated all of them to university level.In his time he was a cult pioneer and now he blames everyone but HIMSELF for his predicament ignoring the fact that their last born now works in a bank doing fine.
In summary those Nigerians with the drive and energy usually succeed with time

steve_101:

I actually was driving 2 cars when I asked him about the US in 2007, he is an American Citizen and he doesn't know how I could improve in my Electrical field,and I didn't ask him for any sort of help financialy

Donxavier:

I never said a large majority of people are suffering abroad. I said my uncle's feel that if you can make it in Nigeria it's better you remain here. I also have uncles that permanently reside abroad and they are comfortable too. I said they feel that any Nigerian earning a decent wage shouldn't relocate abroad. I don't mean shouldn't travel at all, I mean shouldnt move permanently outside the country and live elsewhere.

staffingx:

what in your calculation represents a 'decent wage'. Remember, 'decent' is a relative term.

staffingx:

what in your calculation represents a 'decent wage'. Remember, 'decent' is a relative term.

Donxavier:

Anybody earning 150k or more monthly is earning a decent wage to live a meaningful life in Nigeria.

occam:

Very vague! and this figure is based on what?

Anyway few NIgerians earn close to this amount therefore a lot are living in poverty. Now you can understand why people the country in droves

Donxavier:

I know few are earning that much, and that's the problem with the country. Not sure what you mean by vague.
Maybe I should make it clearer, Like N150,000 after tax monthly.

AjanleKoko:

I don't agree that is the problem with the country. How is that the problem with the country?

afam4eva:
He was unlucky to be at the wrong place possibly at the wrong time. I know America has more security but it's sad when a 5 year old boy just kills his mother, father and siblings. Who does that? It's that kind of psychotic crimes that scares me about America.

Donxavier:

It's the problem of the country in the sense that if more people are earning that amount, the Poverty level would reduce and the populace becomes more productive. Things would be better for the nation as a whole if more people earned those wages. No child that has a future will think of doing Boko haram or joining all these armed militias or even kidnapping.

Donxavier:

I know few are earning that much, and that's the problem with the country. Not sure what you mean by vague.
Maybe I should make it clearer, Like N150,000 after tax monthly.

occam:


Too many problems; poverty is just one. Even the high income earners do do not have confidence in Naija. A lot of Bankers, oil sector workers, politicians and other high rollers send their wives to U.S, Canada, U.K to give birth. why? To ensure their kids enjoy a better future. And the irony is that these same people castigating Nigerians living abroad the ones that over to give birth. Talk of nauseating hypocrisy!

Life may not be not rosy all the time but far better than living in Nigeria. FACT. Besides we're not North Koreans that are restricted from traveling abroad. If people make that choice let them live with the consequences.

Nigerians bashing Nigerians living abroad are insecure, envious and very wicked. They are not advising you to ensure you progress in life they only want you to remain perpetually destitute and continue to prostate and worship them (just they "rankadede" them". Stay away from people with this kind of mindset.

I had an uncle that advised my father that traveling abroad is not a great option. Why? He believes that I may end up with bad gangs and also Nigerians over there are suffering. This same guy studied in London and all his 3 kids are presently studying in the U.S. The sheer wickedness of our people is truly mind boggling.

Donxavier:

Yeah I feel you. I have no problems about Nigerians going to study abroad, or for vacations or to attend conferences or even to work for a couple of years. But why settle permanently abroad? That place can never be home for those born in Nigeria and there is just some honour you can't get abraod as an immigrant. I dunno, but folks should go abroad to make themselves better and come back and improve the country.

Donxavier:

Yeah I feel you. I have no problems about Nigerians going to study abroad, or for vacations or to attend conferences or even to work for a couple of years. But why settle permanently abroad? That place can never be home for those born in Nigeria and there is just some honour you can't get abraod as an immigrant. I dunno, but folks should go abroad to make themselves better and come back and improve the country.

guddylover: Home is wherever I lay my HAT, (thats my home)

Donxavier: I have never heard of anybody hated in Nigeria because he looks 'Nigerian'. God help us all.

dare2think:

How about Hausa's hating ibo's in the north? or islamists hating Cristians and killing them too.

How about the beroms hating fulanis and vice versa?

^ all these groups are Nigerians hated by their fellow Nigerians.

Is that not more pathetic ?

Donxavier:

It's pathetic, but that's life. People hate people for varied reasons, even blood brothers may hate themselves after some kind of betrayal or something else. But nobody hates you because you look like a Nigerian or because your skin color is black in Nigeria.

dare2think:

So, whats the difference btw that 'hate' and the one that immigrants may experience in foreign lands?

You are not hated for being black in Nigeria BUT you are hated for being an ibo man or being a Christian by your fellow black man!

Which is worse?

Donxavier:

Why I am more particular about Skin color is because that's something we can't change except you want to go the way of Micheal Jackson lol and we are not responsible for our skin color. It's the way we are born. Why should anyone hate you because of that. People may hate you for your attitude or behavior or just plain envy. But there's nothing more demeaning than hatred just because of your race

dare2think:

Yes, hatred based on skin color is demeaning and cruel.

So is hatred based on ethnicity, religion and ideologies. HATE IS HATE. Regardless of which form it is being perpetrated.

To defuse the hatred our Nigerian brothers have for each other in form of the ethnical background or religion as less deplorable than the hatred of foreigners in European countries is hypocritical!

A look into the Jos crisis and the amount of women and children killed is a testament to the degree of hate we Nigerians have for each other. And that is way more than just mere Envy!

Donxavier:

Well Hate is a universal phenomenon and I agree it should be eschewed in all it's forms. But the hatred of races is more biting for the simple fact that it goes down to our very existence. Nothing beats Racism. People like Martin Luther King and the rest would understand.

dare2think:

Dear Don,

You are still trying to euphemise a form of discrimination in favour of another! That in itself is fundamentally wrong and very subjective.

Hatred of races is no more biting than hatred of ethnicity if your on the receiving end! What's the difference btw a White man hating me for being black and a Fulani man hating and wanting to kill me for being Yoruba or Christian?

Ask the Tutsis of Rwanda if they feel that hatred of the White man is more biting than that of their fellow Hutu brothers when they were under the machete. Am sure it made no different to them.